The children is the one's who suffer because of parents.
@kiev4206 сағат бұрын
The OP is evil. She sacrifices a child in a hissy fit because something bad happened to her? “I don’t want to be a single mom or have a child with him!” Well instead of thinking narcissistically, why doesn’t OP think about the child inside her first before murdering it?
@kym.p.bb.m.16 сағат бұрын
Not the AH. some say its selfish to have an abortion. But its equally if not lore so to bring life into this world knowing the child would suffer emotionally and maybe even mentally. Now sure. No one can see the future. But then again. No one can pass judgement other than the creator himself. So honestly what im saying is irrelevant. What others comment is irrelevant. Op has free will. And can do with her body what she deems. No one is going to convince her otheriwse. Not even the father of the child. Because he cheated. And still wanted her to suffer for 9 months and hours of unbareable pain to just be stuck looking at his face for the rest of the childs life. No thank you.
@rmzzako732016 сағат бұрын
Yes
@Red--Moon11 сағат бұрын
ERRRRR WRONG‼️‼️
@user-sg7rc4kv6n18 сағат бұрын
They should change the law so that women cant get an abortion without the fathers concent
@kaname982014 сағат бұрын
I'm sorry, is the man going to carry a whole being in his belly for 9 months then go through the pain squeezing the 6 to 9 lb being out of a tiny freaking hole? No, so no, the father shouldn't get a say.
@kitzoneee12 сағат бұрын
Nope, no they shouldn’t. What if the woman will die if she gives birth, and yet the father still want the baby? What if the woman was trapped in an abusive relationship? Having the child would only make her MORE trapped, is that the better option in your eyes? Or in this case, where the kid wont even be loved by the mother (and possibly the mistress). Would you rather them be raised knowing how unwanted they were? Knowing their mother was forced into keeping them? Thats not a burden a child should be forced to live with
@Red--Moon11 сағат бұрын
No, they shouldn’t. That would mean that rapists could choose who is going to have their kid. Istg you “pro - life” people have rocks for a brain.
@Red--Moon11 сағат бұрын
No. Because that would mean that people who force themselves onto others who say no to their advances, would have the ability to choose who they’re going to have kids with. Would want to have kids with someone who forced themselves onto you? No. Anyways, regardless, it’s the women’s body, not the man’s. It will always be up to the woman because it’s regarding her health, and her wellbeing. If she decides that she’s going to have an abortion, she will. Whether you like it or not.
@ilovecaesarclown7 сағат бұрын
so if a child gets raped they get to ask the pedophile who forced themselves onto the child wether the baby should be born which will ultimately kill or severely internally damage the child who was raped? thats ok to you?
@gracesedan475918 сағат бұрын
YTA. That kid is gonna grow up to have no father because you abandoned him. he’s gonna always wonder where you are, and something will always be missing. She should’ve been honest, but you need to stay for the kid.
@pachecodecastro259320 сағат бұрын
You put up with the cheater and want to blame the child? Total AH.
@user-lv8sp9zj1c23 сағат бұрын
She was warned. Now she gets to pay for herstupidity.
@kristinahall8467Күн бұрын
poor kid my stepdad hated me becuase i wasnt his i feel for him
@CreationsSpooksAndChillsКүн бұрын
husband just wanted to frick around, OP wanted an actual partnership with others, but husband said open relationship, not closed relationship but allowed to frick around. he's the one trying to control your life, which is not a part of non-monogamy. he ruined the marriage because he wants a herem, not an open relationship where you're also allowed to do what you want. it's time to divorce him and stick with the bf.
@dawnbaker9274Күн бұрын
Disrespect. It's disrespect and overstepping boundaries. Major red flags..
@g0reykitty_Күн бұрын
i personally don’t appreciate when people have abortions, but this seems reasonable. you didn’t really want kids in the first place, and the guy who did want a kid cheated on you. seems unfair to me to keep a child you didn’t really want and to co-parent with the guy who was unfaithful to you, you’d never be happy.
@blogger-mk7xhКүн бұрын
She is in thewrong because abortion is equivalent to murder, and instead, you should have given birth to the child, and the filed a divorce and given him full custody, that way you wouldnt have to care for a baby, and he would have the baby that he wants without any life being taken
@blogger-mk7xhКүн бұрын
Youre in the wrong, abortion is equivalent to killing a child, u married him even after know he didnt want a child, you should have just given birth to the baby, and divorce him and give him full custody of the child. I wont blame him for blaming u, cause even for me abortion is something i dont like, and he might have some personal trauma
@katarzvnaКүн бұрын
Good for you, having a kid with that thing would only hurt you. Imagine having to see your cheater ex for the next 20+ years because of the kid/visitation or having to receive his dirty money to raise that child... Besides, it was very early on when you found out so it's not like it was a murder, more similar to discharging out a small period blood clot... Have kids only when you're steady mentally, physically and financially. Don't force yourself to have kids for men who don't deserve anything.
@itsthatonechickagaincallth7843Күн бұрын
Degeneracy ruins everything. Y'all are nasty...
@MarieLandry-xd2hrКүн бұрын
I truly just don't understand, this child is 4yrs old,l am assuming that you held him.was there for many of his firsts. Love him, watched over him, worrid about him, and l am absolutely sher this child love's you. I understand that his mother cheated on you.but dous that take away how you feel about him. Devorice her, leave her, removed your self from what ever you need to do, but to take your love away from a child that is not at fault, will always wonder what he did roung, please don't punish him for her lack of self control. He will never understand, and if you ever decide to explain to him exactly what she did, his only thought will be , but l did nothing roung.The True love of a child, can never truly just end. That is, if you ever loved him to begin with.
@l.dougherty46472 күн бұрын
"MOM": Actions Have Consequences. Mom made a choice that she KNEW could backfire; OP has to make choices that will be right for him. If he doesn't want to stay, then he should go. It will only foster resentment in the relationship with the child; it's already caused a rift between the mother AND in the extended chain.
@lovepeace43902 күн бұрын
If theyre asking if its okay i would tell them no. You can give to lexi what you gave to kelly. Favoritism hurts. My mom plays favorite with ky brother and sister and im left out of EVERYTHING. And it seriously hurts. I could only imagine everything good going to one and the other has to sit and feel so unloved or uncared for. Or at least not as much as the other child.
@rebbyp42462 күн бұрын
It's hilarious the amount of men that are willing to open and ruin their marriage when they find out they're not the catch they think they are. You fucked around and found out 😂
@justarandomgirlvx35782 күн бұрын
OP is an asshole for allowing the extended family to do the favouritism. They asked her whether the gifts are okay and she approves of them all. A skateboard and T-Shirt vs. a PS5 and a necklace is such a huge difference.
@zer0union2 күн бұрын
Yes
@azurehua2 күн бұрын
Okay boomer
@kitzoneee12 сағат бұрын
So close! Its actually spelled NTA
@Red--Moon11 сағат бұрын
EXTREMELY LOUD WRONG BUZZER‼️🚨🚨
@Brianmayslover-_-2 күн бұрын
Abortion is a Unforgivable sin.
@azurehua2 күн бұрын
Would you rather the baby suffer unloved?
@specialsuperstars33662 күн бұрын
@@azurehua fr
@carmelpopcorn7665Күн бұрын
Whomp whomp
@lalamarmotte0735Күн бұрын
Hope you find god one day . Cuz what you're saying is terrible.
@user-et3jk6kt8m15 сағат бұрын
@@azurehua they wouldn't their mom would have loved them either way its very diffrent once you actually have the child and also the parent at least could have put the child up for adoption
@codyjones81532 күн бұрын
*Where's The Video With The Rest Of The Updates!*
@rebeccamiller32483 күн бұрын
Catch 22. EBS but the 4 yo. OP you suck but you dont suck because ultimately its not your kid and you and the kid are hurt because she lied. No win situation OP needs to do some serious soul searching. But understandable his pain. The Mother is ultimately the blame. OP walks its actually and sadly OK. Sad for that Baby but the Mother caused this. Yeah OP is that boys Dad but he is only the Dad because she lied. Hopefully OP cares more for the kid eventually and loving the kid is more than hating the mother.k
@avalasialove3 күн бұрын
Man, Reddit can be so unfairly judgmental at times. Yes, OP’s wife shouldn’t be so passive. But given how nasty the aunt was to OP, I can see why. Besides, she has plenty of time to learn how to face her fear of confrontation. All first time parents have shortcomings they need to work on. That doesn’t make them bad parents. I’m sure OP’s wife is a wonderful mother.
@crimson32743 күн бұрын
Op has all the right to be upset. The kid is suffering because his mothers lies and using him against op is emotional manipulation.
@YuniS7723 күн бұрын
Should have called the police and get the custody. No normal woman would try to kill somebody just because of hormones
@KoishiChan923 күн бұрын
This person knows they aren't TA.
@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa7903 күн бұрын
Divorce husband, she doesn't love him anymore. Polyamory isn't the problem, her lack of love for him and their lack of intimate life is. Just break up. Stay with boyfriend.
@oo-xb6gv3 күн бұрын
The other comments don't agree but I think it's a pretty reasonable concern if you actually are neglecting the relationship while he does not- as you don't deny. The other comments are really only assuming and guessing his intentions based on preconceived notions. If you aren't comfortable with it you absolutely should talk to him about it and if you want you should break it off with him.
@kawaiidevil153 күн бұрын
Wanting an "open relationship" is essentially saying "I want to be allowed to sleep with anyone while having you as a stable backup incase something goes wrong." The funny thing is that it seems extremely common for the person who wanted the open relationship to close it again once their partner finds someone else too.
@Jgaldragon3 күн бұрын
The simplest solution is to get rid of the troublesome partner (ie the husband) and go for the newer, more comparable partner. This marriage was doomed anyway.
@itwasagoodideaatthetime79803 күн бұрын
What I'm hearing from all this is that he want her to be monogamous. & to staty at home waiting for him, but he can go about & have multiple partners
@NoIDontActuallyLiveInSeattle3 күн бұрын
I think that it needs to be a generally established rule that if you open the relationship, it is the other persons decision if it becomes closed again. So you better think long and hard about if you can bare to share your partner. 😅
@arnaumartorell65433 күн бұрын
I'm not one to say this normally, but he's an asshole that got scared because he saw you getting away from him when he couldn't be what you wanted but your boyfriend is, if you see it right. Dump his ass. The marriage is dead already from both your part and his part, it ended the moment you agreed to an open relationship, even before, it was going down when he got the idea he could fool around and you would still be OK with it.
@strawberrysangria14743 күн бұрын
Keeping him is 100% worth ruining your relationship. Husband can go be kinky, and OP can have someone respectful that she enjoys.
@GirlWthGlasses3 күн бұрын
To me it sounds like she's already existed their marriage and found a partner who is more compatible with her and her husband has noticed she's likely happier with her boyfriend then she is with him. To me it just sounds like husbands choice has ruined their marriage and she's just letting him do as he pleases and he's pissed she's happy when he's not there even though it was his wish to open their relationship.
@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa7903 күн бұрын
Yes, this^
@user-bb2pu3kz5o3 күн бұрын
I think the big DH is the AH thing is that he just wants her to break up with her boyfriend. He doesnt want to stop sleeping with other people because for him its about kink, but he is upset that her getting a boyfriend involved emotions.
@rebeccamcguire27983 күн бұрын
they need a deviorce clearly that marrage isn’t working and once u date or screw someone else it’s over open crap hardly ever works
@TwiggyHetfield273 күн бұрын
It's funny how the "rules" only seem to apply when the one who didn't want the open relationships find a partner. 🙄
@oo-xb6gv3 күн бұрын
It's not that he found a partner but that she's neglecting his part of the relationship - as she doesn't deny. If it's bad they should just break up but this definitely isn't unfair as they have both agreed to it prior
@rebbyp42462 күн бұрын
@@oo-xb6gvit is unfair. He opened it up because he wasn't happy. He didn't get his happiness and is only wanting to shut it down because she is.
@oo-xb6gv2 күн бұрын
@@rebbyp4246 Because she was neglecting her part of the relationship while he wasn't (going by the post) - you cant just spend most of your time with someone else, cuz at that point are you even in a relationship lmao. The issue is he isn't getting enough happiness from her specifically, as is the point of a relationship - you can get the happiness anywhere but you stay in one because your partner can provide it.
@lornaharris88313 күн бұрын
If you are happy he's not!!!😮never offer a open marrige!Im traditional...and if i find love...watch out!
@heyysimone3 күн бұрын
I have a feeling he liked that it was hard for her to find a partner, because it meant he got to go out and have other relationahips and know she was at home with no one except for him. This happens in many of these non-monogomous relationship questions. Men want an open relationship (usually because theres already a woman they want to fuck but dont want to be called a 'cheater' and then think its awesome cause theyre getting some on the side but still have their main partner/spouse, but then the woman goes out and sleeps with men, and more men than he sleeps with women, because it turns out he fully overestimated his abilities to pull, and now hes home alone because his original reasons for opening up the relationship is over now and shes still out there finding men who want her and now he wants to close the relationship up again.
@scutoid-backrooms3 күн бұрын
you need to sort out why she's feeling this way and get at it at the root.
@yowatt32793 күн бұрын
Well, it's pretty obvious why she's feeling that way. Her entire family favours the one who gives more, which is a horrible thing to do.
@MilesMorales-vr6jp2 күн бұрын
@@yowatt3279Not necessarily
@scutoid-backrooms2 күн бұрын
@@yowatt3279 yes. but there are other potential issues. one i'd suspect is that lexi gets all the independence required to do these things for the rest of the family, but does kelly have the same privilege?
@yowatt32792 күн бұрын
@@scutoid-backrooms Oo good point. It does seem that Lexi is the older one.
@scutoid-backrooms2 күн бұрын
@@yowatt3279 they're one year apart, 15 and 16, says so in the post
@marshallthorne13573 күн бұрын
i dont think one check in with some bad notes warrants closing the relationship, theyre not going to get any better at balancing it by not doing it. they could instead work out some specific ways to rebalance things, move forward with that in mind, and see if it helps
@brianbarber54013 күн бұрын
She broke up with him, not to his face, and HE’S the inconsiderate one? He doesn’t owe her closure or anything. He doesn’t owe her an opportunity to not feel guilty about it, because clearly she does. She’s done, he said ok. If the sexes were reversed and and he kept demanding to talk to her, he’d be a creepy stalker who doesn’t know when to let go.
@michealcline73543 күн бұрын
Nta
@damagedvixen17793 күн бұрын
That’s fucked up. My current partner is afraid of birds. Do you know what animal I love the most is? Birds. But that doesn’t mean I force birds on him, it means I put myself between him and the birds every single time and gently shoo them away from him out of respect for his fear of them. I have a flock of chickens, we do NOT live together. And even if we did I would NEVER have him do any chores involving the chickens. And despite his fear he knows I love my chickens and even though I’d give up getting more chickens for him he knows it would cause me great sadness so he fights against it. I offer to allow him to hold smaller or docile chickens but ONLY when he’s ready. I tell him if he is ever ready to try and hold a chicken, I will be there every step to protect him and he has held exactly one chicken. A very very small breed of chicken when they were a baby. And sleepy. And already sitting on my shoulder like a parakeet when he came over and I forgot he was coming. Wouldn’t let him hold that same chicken again cuz they’re an asshole now but the point remains it’s always HIS choice to face that fear not mine. And it’s MY choice and feeling of responsibility and respect towards him that has me put myself between him and his fear that causes me no issues. That’s how it’s meant to be.
@victorialynnstruble3 күн бұрын
Qhat she did was a dick move, but im so distrusting of people who dont like dogs that I can't even be mad about it. You have failed the vibe check. Especially a golem retriever, the gentlest dog possible and u wpuldnt even try?
@livingwikipedia1952Күн бұрын
People sometimes have fears for a reason, sometimes not. Some want to overcome them, some not. What is wrong with that? I know people with fears of escalators, chicken, clowns, thinking about afterlife, clowns, spiders, depth. Do they make sense to you? Not really, but the least one can do is respect that. Does any of the options make more sense to you than a dog? My sister has fear of dogs, and because they sense it, some have tendency to attack her (bite her clothes and run at her). Good luck overcoming that. And there are multiple reasons for disliking an animal that dont make you a cruel person.
@29elines213 күн бұрын
My fam adopted a dog for my sister. I had talked months earlier about dogs because i watched some tv programs that made fear them less. But i still wasnt a dog person. (They used this against me. But they knew what they were doing when they left me uninformed about seeing rhe dog and the adoption) They went to the shelter my sister volunteered at and decided on the dog. She was already in love with the dog. A lot of work was done, a lot was said. In the end i still dislike dogs, but i dont hate them. I'm okay with looking after my sister's dogs (she got a second one recently with her bf), but i will never own my own dog. If my partner did this, i would kick him out. (If the place is his, I would leave) Because my partner would know I don't want one. And because pets must never be an impulse purchase. It's also one of the reasons I heavily dislike it when people gift a pet.