I so appreciate these videos and i keep them in my watch list to study and evolve. My oarents could not provide these insites to me as a child and its wild how we unconsciously carry certain attitudes throughout our adult lives.

Your videos are the best. Facial expressions priceless! I've been watching your videos for years. Please tell us the secret to not having wrinkles! Your face never changes! Good diet? No sun?

I really enjoy your videos. They are always so helpful!

How about I know something, 😂but im not telling you nah naha na na nah look it up in a book im out of here. Not my work they charge you will sexual abuse it happened to me, another person who tapped them with an empty 🍼 so much drama i tapped someone on the shoulder.

Love your attitude! A +1 Amazing!❤

I prefer to look at them all like zombies

You are so right why would people hang on and teach you how to fight learning to walk away with grace is better for you. GOD CAN FIGHT THAT FIGHT All of this is exhausting..

Imagine a lady who lives in my area who wants my condo for a friend come up to me and touched me I looked at her and said do not ever touch me again. I do not want to ever talk to you. Sad you have to become hard.

I decided to go to the Doctor and ask for a letter saying exactly what their saying about me I'm delusional insane can't dress myself have problems daily time to switch the tables..

Thank you for this wise, timely post. I wrote this reminder in a place i can see it by my desk to help me as i allow a challenging coworker to make their own choices.... I choose to behave differently because I have a personal compass. How liberating! But it takes reminders because i do appreciate rules... ☺️

I just love you, Dan!! I struggle a lot with being overwhelmed by PTSD and it affects my ability to communicate well, especially when I am having symptoms. This video is really freeing. And sometimes, being granted permission to just be myself is the loveliest gift of all. (It also REALLY takes the pressure off, which then helps alleviate my symptoms, so that better communication just naturally follows). Bless you, Dan! Seriously!!🙏

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Very beneficial advice.

It's amazing - how deeply spiritualized your daily life is - You are a Christian in the sense of a follower of Christ's path of compassion - thank you for your journey boss

So true, so wise lol my cousin used to always use that line too: ‘gasp! How could you say that?’ ‘Very easily, see?’ With a big ‘Ta Da!’ smile at the end 😁 lmao Indeed it’s very liberating when you stop worrying about stuff you can’t control anyway! However, I definitely can work on myself 🤷‍♀️ with varying results lol😅 You’re inspiring as always, thank you for making life more fruitful!!! 🎊✨✨✨✨💛💛💛

My colleagues go so far to talk about me snd make fun pf me. In my presence. I laugh along w them, ignore them, and continue to focus on my job . If thats how they want to spend their time, so be it. I have no control over them.

Someone who believes in truth! Publicly! So rare these days ❤

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Cost Benefit Analysis is always important. Then after that, just say it! 😃💖 If it's something that you think that the other person might not want to hear, then you can craft your message in a way that will be sensitive to the feelings of the other person. That is because there is NOTHING that can't be said, that you can't say in a loving way. UNLESS, Dan, you are delivering someone "divorce papers" on Valentine's Day. 🤣😂😆 Then there is just no way to soften that blow. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

Such a wonderful video as always. Very liberating. Thank you for empowering us with learning confidence and acceptance

How is it that this is exactly what I needed to hear right now? I constantly feel like I’m being disingenuous because I have to walk on eggshells to avoid saying things the wrong way because I speak very literally and logically, I’m told “it’s not what you say it’s how you say it”, I’m autistic and it’s okay if I communicate like an autistic person.

Wizards are evil

Great video

Thank you. 🚀

hi I just want to tell u that I found your channel years ago as a socially anxious teenager and it changed my life and the way I communicate! thank you forever!

This is how I see it: We are done here and walking 🚶‍♀️ away works too. People are not allowed to behave or communicate how they like with me or there is consequences……You can’t say what you want without consequences what you have to think 🤔 about is if the person on the other end is more mentally unhinged than you…😂🤣I’d still like to see them try to make my day. I will shut that down any day of the week within my own policies in my personal time or within work policies when it’s not my personal time. My two cents although I do respect your take on things too. I’ve just been given a lot of crap 💩 in my life and I’m done ✔️ with that real talk. ❤Also not willingly complying and taking others shit releases the chains ⛓️ off of you too as then there is no passive aggressive energy and you just expressed yourself and that’s winning 🏆 my friend in my humble opinion….I generally enjoy your channel I wanted to provide you with an alternative viewpoint.

Ill try this on my wife that feels she needs space.

This is good advise.

8:02 so you like to use guilt and shame to manipulate situations for your desired outcome ? .... what if your proposal is against every moral value that I have learned through experience thus far in MY life .... why are my observations not valid and yours are ? .... cuz u da boss ? reconsider my friend.

How do you deal with someone who rambles on and overly describes something and keeps on talking into another conversation? Like I just did.

Right on

Ha ha gorillas

What do we say???To not answer them😊

I have chronic fatigue system, which of course worsens over the holidays, when we prepare everything. I have gotten used to handling things differently according to my energy level and it works. However, then my brother comes along and follows me around, asking again and again "Why are you overdoing it? You know I suffer with you!" I keep saying "Please just leave me to it, and to mywell earned pause." "But you overdo it, why..." Until I explode and yell "LEAVE ME ALONE!" He then is all indignation, says he only has my best interest at heart, and that I really have to work on my temper. BOY it is i furiating, hope I will now do beter with your tips - however he Doesnt believe me, this is all in myhead he says. I feel so helpless.

I know a lovely lady, who has left her extremely abusive husband, and had to move into a shelter for women who have been victims of domestic violence. She's struggling right now, because he had all of their assets in his name, and she's got some work to do before things are sorted through in her life, and she can get a place of her own. (They married as high school sweethearts, and thought that they'd be together for the rest of their lives.) In the meantime, she's living in a place that is now rife with people who have serious mental health issues; drug, and/ or alcohol addictions. My heart breaks when I talk to her because she's struggling in that environment. She can't get away from some of the more toxic women there, because they have to be in the house at certain times for meals, chores, and the evening curfew. What suggestions do you have for someone like my friend, who is only there because of a financial reason, and somewhat "trapped" around a lor of toxic, unhealthy women that are just trying to annoy her, and pick on her? The logical responses that I have suggested aren't working because she's not dealing with mentally sound people there. It almost sounds like a prison environment to me. Does anyone have any good suggestions? She can't get away right now. She doesn't have any friends, or family members, that can take her in. Even if she found a job tomorrow, it takes time to build up the assets needed to move into a new place. Nobody suggest buying a lottery ticket, please. She needs realistic solutions. Thank you in advance. 🙏

Straight ahead then for authorative & tilt to disarm! I love that

I love this!

Been dealing with a somewhat sociopath as a line manager and as someone who’s not quick to defend herself (embarrassing to admit but,out of literally not really knowing how, I always get super flustered and embarrassed by confrontation) I really appreciate you taking your time to make these videos. I’m going to take so much of what you’ve said to work with me today. Thank you!

You are just the❤ awesomest.

oh that last bit is just for me, i am going to tilt my head. love love love the vibe shift of "I need your help"

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I have a feeling that, now that I'm promoted to Director of Security, I'm going to be utilizing all of your tactics.

Hai Any links to material you sale on this topic ?

Gee i like your style sir, thanks for your advice! You and Neridith Miller are absolute life savers!

I just want you to know, you have massively changed the way I communicate with others. Thank you

This is great information, thank you. I am in a customer service role at a large healthcare organization. Specifically, I manage complaints and grievances that are care and demeanor related, and this work is regulated by the Federal Government and CMS. I frequently get my work interrupted from administrative assistants (secretaries) from our administrative office. Frequent requests they have are dilemmas that are presented to them that do not directly involve their work. Essentially they are the "face" of administration, and often they do not want to serve in that role. I say this because they often reach out to myself and my colleague to solve something so they do not have to. Recently we had an individual present to the administrative offices needing assistance to get a medical visa for a family member who was over in one of the Middle Eastern countries. This administrative assistant presented to my office in order to hand off this problem or puzzle. This is sort of thing is not within the scope of my role. That is what I informed her of, and that this is not within the scope of the hospital. I did tell her that this individual needed to reach out to either or both of the embassy of the country of origin or the US embassy for guidance. I wanted to tell her essentially that she had the same internet that I had, but my internal filter kept that in. What is a kind way to say just that? I frequently find others using my work role as a doormat or dumbing ground for their issues that they do not want to deal with. I like to believe that I am a kind and empathetic person, however I am also not a pushover. I also believe that in order to get selected to be an administrative assistant in a busy hospital, that they must possess problem-solving skills. Do you have some helpful verbiage to redirect other people to look wilhin themselves for answers?

Being present is the first step ❤

So you say anything at all?

It’s 24/8/24 and I would like to get information on your classes . How do I do that? Great video ! But , do speak a bit more slowly! Thanks Dan

Sometimes, silence is the answer.