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9. 🪟⚙️🍊 That’s what choice architecture is all about, jesselyn. The way you present options or information you give, influences what gets selected and what doesn’t and even how people feel about their choice. “Good” choice architecture takes into account how our minds work. We’re fallible, lazy, busy, energy-conserving creatures. We prefer simplicity over complexity, like to avoid big hassles and we filter out everything we don’t need to keep in mind. Every day jesselyn, we’re asked to make thousands of calculations, but if we were to weigh every single option carefully, it would take a lot of energy - which, let’s be honest, we don’t feel we have most days. So we oftentimes don’t bother with that and let our subconscious mind take over. As a result, we make biased, rushed, and flawed or imperfect decisions. There are two factors of human behavior that make choice architecture make sense: • Default choice: Consumers buy the "easiest" option. Often this is the option that they have been used to buying. • Short-term benefit: Consumers are more likely to be myopic - and choose based on short-term influences. THE EXAMPLES OF CHOICE ARCHITECTING For instance jesselyn, people will opt in for less features than they’ll opt out from. But how does this influence a choice we think we feel pretty strongly about? Like pizza toppings? Researchers at University of Iowa wondered about that too and asked 150 students to “build” their own pizza. One group, jesselyn, was asked to build a “basic” $5.00 cheese pizza and add on toppings to create their perfect pizza pie. Students could choose from 12 toppings and were told to check off the toppings they wanted to include. Adding one ingredient cost 50 cents. In the other group, the situation was reversed. Students were presented with a “deluxe ” pizza that cost $11.00 and contained all 12 ingredients. This group was asked to check off the items they wanted to exclude, and they were told that removing an ingredient would reduce the price by 50 cents. Both groups were encouraged to add or subtract any amount of ingredients they liked until they achieved the perfect pizza. Guess what, jesselyn? The second group, which was defaulted to a pizza with 12 toppings, wound up with a pizza with more stuff on it (5.29 items on average) than students who were asked to add each topping individually (2.71 on average). If the second group run a restaurant, they'd get higher sales revenue. Choice architecture, jesselyn, can also have something to do with "demerit goods". Demerit goods are products considered damaging to the consumer and therefore governments seek to reduce demand. In the UK, similar to Indonesia, packaging of cigarettes has been changed to display consequences of throat cancer on the package. In the UK too, many firms now highlight how much sugar or fat is in a product, with the percent of daily recommended amounts. If consumers see a packet of doughnuts contains 40% of the daily recommended intake of sugar, this may discourage them from consuming. Merit goods are considered beneficial and consumers often under-estimate these benefits. With regard to the purchase of cars, jesselyn, the government and insurance companies can encourage consumers to buy safer, more fuel-efficient cars. If you buy a powerful, high petrol consumption car - you are likely to pay higher tax and insurance rates. Nevertheless jesselyn, there's a caveat that consumers may react differently to the presentation of choices and options. Some consumers may resent the government influence and stick to their preferred choice, and choice architecture may be insufficient. Thereby other policies, such as sugar tax, or other forms of reward and punishment, might be required to reduce demand. Richard Thaler highlights that nudging is not about forcing or restricting choices. “People say we’re bossing people around, which we’re not,” he argues. “The analogy we like is GPS. Imagine that we can have GPS for life that just made getting where you want to go easier, without ever commanding you must do something.” Jesselyn, Thaler uses the cafeteria at the Chicago Booth School of Business, where he teaches, as another example. When you enter the cafeteria, the first thing you see is the salad bar. To get to the unhealthy food - fries, burgers, pizza - you need to pass the salad bar first. “This is an example of how something that seemingly isn’t very important may nudge people to eat something healthy,” Thaler explains. “There has to be a design of that cafeteria. Why don't we make it a good one?” So jesselyn, people can also nudge by using special offers and encouragement for choosing particular options, or changing how the good is packaged. School hawkers could nudge students toward a product with biggest profit margin yet healthiest. Or toward the most complete product. Or possibly give the choice of how much sugar the children choose to eat or drink. Behavioral economists know that even if beliefs change, breaking habits and changing behavior is difficult to do. The United Nations Environment Program even states that there's a big difference between good intentions and actual action. While it’s true that a growing number of people are concerned about the human impact on the environment, jesselyn, changing one’s own behavior is difficult for many, even when it comes to the smallest changes. Maybe this is the very rationale why lots of citizens in Jakarta still dumped everything from empty chips bags to damaged sofas into our rivers. Thaler knows there's power in numbers. “These are all little things,” he says. “But the only way we’re going to deal with health issues, climate change, and other world problems is a lot of little things.” That's in harmony with our beloved Indonesian proverb: "Bit by bit becomes hill." Finally jesselyn, good days, bad days, in-between days, yaah, all are meant to be. At the same time, jesselyn seems to emerge victoriously from 'em all, rendering previously hard things easy and even gainful. 😉🏆💎 With an array of challenges you've undertaken, jesselyn, you daily more and more appear like an unstoppable heroine. 👸🏻🔥💫 Hence, relish jesselyn's vibrant weekend and Indonesian's glorious shape of Independence Day! 😃🛡️🇮🇩

8. 🪄🖌️ Heyy jesselyn, the babe and primadonat of our F&B industry ☺️🙌🌟 Did anything ever happen to your vocal cords, jesselyn? 😗 If not why when cooking the tomato egg plus sausages, your voice was low and the accent ada jowo2ne? 😛 Which wacko wizard cast mischievous sorceries on jesselyn's tongue? 😁 Tomato scrambled egg has been one of fave dishes of mine since I was a teen jesselyn, I first ate it at Yung Ho, located inside Megamall (now Pluit Village) 😋🥚🍅 But jesselyn's eerie accent wrecked my culinary muse! 😫 Aahh jesselyn, surely I'm kidding 😆 Jesselyn by all means still always deserves praise due to all jesselyn's amazing cooking creations, such as honey chicken tenders that use fresh breast fillets jam-packed with protein and are fried with a healthier method 💙✨, as well as roasted milk tea whose making process outstandingly looks both modern and traditional, which certainly diffuses pleasantly savory effect. 😌 Jesselyn moreover serves the most awe-inspiring abang-abang egg drizzled with chili sauce 🤩, that jesselyn won't believe that I've never tasted even until now (because my parents prohibited me from eating school snacks during schooltimes and I never tried it as an adult 😅) Yet jesselyn's followers who were all ever a kid were downright captivated by the cutely reminiscent meal. 😚🍳💖 GASTRONOMIC LOVE STORY AT SCHOOL Speaking of elementary school era and still related to my last comment jesselyn, a few days ago I watched a news on Metro TV discussing about our government's concern about the increasing rate of kidney failure among Indonesian children. 😔 The Ministry of Health claimed that the main cause is school students often eating snacks sold by hawkers just nearby, which are excessive in salt, sugar, and or fat. 🧂 We probably know, jesselyn, those hawkers really don't have bad intentions. They only mean to make as much money as possible for their family, having no clear idea about the health impact of their goods. Meanwhile, students might only choose to eat their fill and buy tastiest snacks to boost their energy and ease their stress. The problem might not be about the unhealthy snacks per se; folks like us also love to eat out and pick deep fried salty food or super sweet desserts. But little school students eat those snacks perhaps almost every day, whereas we typically eat at restaurants or cafes once or twice a week. If we are to create healthier arrangement of snacks and drinks choices at school, jesselyn, we can no longer emphasize profits and focus solely on yummy taste. Imagine jesselyn, if the hawkers keep the way they do business, can they empathize with children who eventually develop kidney failure and have to be taken care of for the rest of their lives? How much money, time, and suffering do the children's families have to shoulder? And after the children get sick, the hawkers will start losing customers too. As the saying goes, "No one wins. One side just loses more slowly." However jesselyn, if we're to unite as one Indonesian team, we can't hold on to our egotism; as one maxim from antiquity asserts, "One for all and all for one." Jesselyn, I believe that it will be less effective if there's a beneficial targeted public policy devoid of awareness of healthy lifestyle. For that reason, our government can educate small and medium enterprises and also school students about health and nutrition, so that both sides will be less likely to rebel. In other words, there must be "double literacy". The govt can cooperate with private companies to design and distribute straightforwardly understandable and persuasive videos about healthy lifestyle, primarily about healthy diet and cooking for business purposes. Thus jesselyn, I personally think that, if near-school snacks hawkers wish not to make substantial change to their income, they can go on with two choices: Using healthier ingredients and getting bought from by educated students more frequently, or using the same unhealthy ingredients as before but getting bought from by those students more seldom. After all, the way to make profit isn't only about adding as much sugar and salt as possible, true jesselyn? They can use aromatics and spices that aren't expensive. They can discover sauces varieties. They can sell creatively by giving promotions such as discounts, bundling, or buy one get one free. FEELING NUDGED Else, businesses and governments can deploy "nudge" strategy first coined by prominent behavioral economists Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein, which benevolently practices the concept of "choice architecture". To comprehend what it is actually, jesselyn, let's explore about choice architects and nudge first. A choice architect is someone who uses tools of choice architecture to indirectly influence the choices of others to make a desired behavior more likely to occur. “Nudge” is another term linked to choice architecture, jesselyn. A nudge is an aspect of choice architecture that alters people’s behavior in predictable ways, without forbidding them to do certain things or heavily incentivizing them. The truth is, jesselyn, you’re a choice architect. And so is everyone else. Every day, even numerous times a day. Every time you choose to serve dinner from a dessert plate instead of a dinner plate. Every time you place sweets on an upper shelf and fruit on a coffee table. Every time a wife tucks away her partner’s horrendously worn-out hoodie that he loves for reasons unbeknownst to her at the back of the drawer, and move the clothes she likes on him to the front. In each of these situations, jesselyn, people will make choices - your chubby, prepubescent kid about how much and what they will eat, your partner about what clothes to wear. And you - the choice architect - have shaped the environment in which their choices are made. You’ve presented the options in a way that influences what gets picked and what doesn’t. But by doing so, you haven’t mandated anything; your family is free to make any choice they like. Your kid can still get some candy from the top shelf, except they’d probably need a stool or stepladder to reach for it, which requires a bit more effort, so they might end up grabbing an apple from the coffee table instead - yupp, it’s less "friction". The same goes for your husband and his more presentable clothes. 🪞🕺

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7. 👫🏻🛤️ Once our collapsed principles give way to demoralization, jesselyn, the problem becomes how to rebuild the unconscious foundations of our lives. In their current forms, the psychology and psychiatry professions are of little use in treating disorders that are rooted in culture and normality. While individual therapy will not begin to heal a demoralized society, to be effective such approaches must be insight-oriented and focused on the cultural sources of the person’s assumptions, identity, values, and centres of meaning, all aimed at constructing a worldview that better connects the person to self, others, and the natural world. The real task, jesselyn, is somehow to treat a sick culture rather than its sick individuals. Erich Fromm sums up this challenge: "We can’t make people sane by making them adjust to this society. We need a society that is adjusted to the needs of people." Fromm’s solution included a Supreme Cultural Council that would serve as a cultural overseer and advise governments on corrective and preventive actions. Perhaps the only way to be “well” in such a world is to be continually vigilant and critical about what’s happening around us, and actively “go against the grain” of what people consider to be normal. And once again jesselyn, why is this so? Why is this happening? Why is it so hard to be emotionally and mentally well today? Most people who write about this topic right now are focusing on two things: • The stress, loss, and conflict around the pandemic have made things harder for everyone. • Our media landscape and hyperconnectivity stress us out and distort our inner worlds. Those are true, but the spiritual crisis that causes the mental health problems we’re talking about was brewing before the internet, social media, and the pandemic. This is what Schumaker is pointing out and he brings up thinkers from years ago to bolster his argument: “In his groundbreaking book The Moral Order, anthropologist Raoul Naroll used the term ‘moral net’ to indicate the cultural infrastructure that is required for the mental well-being of its members. He used numerous examples to show that entire societies can become predisposed to an array of mental ills if their ‘moral net’ deteriorates beyond a certain point. "To avoid this, a society’s moral net must be able to meet the key psycho-social-spiritual needs of its members, including a sense of identity and belonging, co-operative activities that weave people into a community, and shared rituals and beliefs that offer a compelling existential orientation. We are long overdue a cultural revolution that would force a radical revamp of the economics, work, family, and environmental policy." And while happiness self-help insights and strategies can considerably support our well-being and prosperity, they're not sufficient to correct our culture starting from ordinary people like us. Had our founding fathers only studied and done positive thinking when our country was being colonized, jesselyn, Indonesia would never have won our independence in August 1945. I worry that writing like this will feel depressing, or seem alarmist, jesselyn. But I really think there’s an important note of hope here. If we finally understand the depth of this real in-your-face enigma, then we will be able to do something about it. LOVE THEN RESOLVE After all this, then, where's the position of delicious food and drink, including all pleasure and entertainment industries, jesselyn? For my part, I considerately don't blame them for making some of our people feel unwell. Striving to earn income and profit to raise our and our beloved ones' standard of living and health is a noble eudaimonic goal, and on the way we can spend our hard-earned money to celebrate our achievements with yummy dishes with families and friends. Nonetheless, we'd be better off not numbing ourselves with hedonic pleasure and indulgence until we feel bored and void, and thus forsake our deepest heart's life purpose of giving back to the society in line with our unique inner callings, turning others' pain and suffering into grace and delight. Higher levels of prosperity, anyhow, is proven to up well-being, at least in some dimensions. Plus jesselyn, based on worldwide data, acquiring the capabilities - such as education, skills, and stable employment - necessary for upward mobility can bring higher levels of stress too, which can impact happiness. Yet simultaneously, it gives people a greater sense of purpose and pride as well. Likewise jesselyn, if we try to uphold the principle of becoming entirely anti-consumerism, we must empathize with our government and corporations as well. Our leaders have been working relentlessly to heighten our nation's growth and prosperity, and if we don't shop, demands may drop and this leads to decreased production, export, employment rate, and tax. As a citizen, we can't reach everything at the same time, yet we indeed can be as useful a person as possible. Surely, if the govt and businesses are to ask us to play a role as a helpful and considerate consumers who participates in advancing the country, they must effortfully ensure that to reach that grand goal, the most educated and accomplished of us don't have to espouse a new identity as “healthy deviants”: People who live deliberately different from the norm, who willingly defy unhealthy norms and conventions in order to achieve a high level of vitality, resilience, and autonomy. What do healthy deviants look like, jesselyn? It means that we have to be prepared to successfully resist our society’s standard way of doing business. We have to oppose its rules and conventions. We have to make all kinds of inconvenient and unpopular choices. We have to become a sort of renegade freak - or at least be willing to think and act like one some of the time. This starts with understanding one basic, disturbing matter of fact: "If you aren’t breaking the rules, you’re probably breaking yourself.” Namely jesselyn, our leaders and we as followers are likely to have not attained finest cultural alignment together. Indonesia still doesn't bear semblance to "Keluarga Cemara". I think, apart from producing quality and as-promised products and services, including more holistic education to people from all ages, the state and industries can also establish people in communities that are healthy and worthwhile. We’ve got to strengthen the wisdom and bonds in our families. Whether one identifies as an introvert or not, we all need purposeful and meaningful connections with people. This is built into our humanity. Hence, Dilan (government and businesses) and Milea (people) can strive to understand and communicate each other, and be ready to continually correct both side's imperfections. Else it might result in trauma bonding, breakup, and finally heartache. But we all eagerly prefer a happy ending instead don't we, jesselyn? THREE PLATES OF EVERYDAY HAPPINESS MAIN COURSE First off jesselyn, tackle nagging tasks. Thinking will not overcome fear and psychological burden of still having tasks to finish, but action will. Jesselyn's strategy of writing a daily to-do list and scheduling a whole H+7 is an excellent practice, as it can erase looping workload in our mind, and ignite us to act in line with a systematic plan. Secondly, learn about the trichotomy of control. This is a simple knowledge from stoicism to calm our anxious overthinking mind, jesselyn. Imagine a concentric circle where there are three parts from the innermost to the outermost: A) what we can control fully, B) what we can control to some extent, and C) what we can't control at all. A is our own thoughts, words, and actions; B is the thoughts, words, and actions of people whom we can meet, our health, wealth, fame, status, power, and pleasure; and C is the weather, the governmental policies, and the geopolitic state of the world. The point is: focus on A, don't take B personally, don't focus or overthink about the C, don't complain about B if we don't put attention and effort on A, and expand our B. Thirdly jesselyn, always remember that thoughts are merely thoughts, and they're not the truth more often than not. We're not our thoughts; we're the seer of our thoughts - observe them, reframe them, but don't fuse with them. Which all comes down to most probably the sole entity that decidedly causes our unhappiness: Imagined and real situations where people and things don't go our way. Be alert, jesselyn, whenever we imagine and run into situations where people and things aren't the same with what we want. 🥔🍋 On the whole, jesselyn, the foremost lesson in all this is that living a good life isn’t just about being happy. It’s about being authentically who we are, including pleasure and pain, happiness and sadness, love and conflict. If we felt happy all the time, we might end up missing opportunities to improve ourselves, fight for what we believe in, or engage in some of the most fascinating ventures of our lives. So that someday, jesselyn, you and I can confess: “Sometimes the hardest experiences are also the most critical moments. I’ll be happy when it’s over, but I wouldn’t want to be doing anything else.” We can't always be happy, but every day make ourselves feel happiest wisely - be it at peak or trough. À la prochaine, happy and cheery beautiful jesselyn! 😃🙌🍕 #amoreliora 🤍🍀✨

6. 🩹🛍️ According to English author William Davies, the science of happiness “has now penetrated the citadel of global economic management… the future of successful economy depends on our ability to combat stress, misery, and illness, and put relaxation, happiness, and wellness in their place”. His main criticism of “the science of well-being” is that it pushes us to blame ourselves while ignoring political and economic contexts. As Davies utters, jesselyn, “Unhappiness and depression are concentrated in highly unequal societies with strongly materialist, competitive values." Davies concludes that only through “understanding the strains and pains that work, financial pressures, and inequality place upon human well-being” can we challenge them. We must stop focusing on our inner lives and look “outwards upon the world”. In my opinion, jesselyn, the happiness self-help industry does truly help us cope with our demanding world, as I personally has learned and felt its benefits too, gratefully. At the same time, we also can't deny that socioeconomic situation or context plays a huge role in impacting our stress level and how we generally feel. The New But Old Phenomenon Retired psychology researcher and professor John F. Schumaker makes the case that we need to think about depression more precisely, and that what is often labeled “depression” - and then treated with medication and talk therapy - is better understood as “demoralization”, which is the natural consequence of losing a sense of meaning, purpose, and community. What is depression really, jesselyn? It’s not always so obvious. The issue of low energy and dysthymic mood is so prevalent, we don’t know what to do with it all. Depression is so much a part of our vocabulary that the word itself has come to describe mental states that should be understood differently. In fact, when people with a diagnosis of depression are examined more closely, the majority do not actually fit that diagnosis. In the largest study of its kind, Ramin Mojtabai of Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health sampled over 5,600 cases and found that only 38 percent of them met the criteria for depression. Jesselyn, this is where Schumaker brings in the term demoralization. He suggests that this is what many people are struggling with: “Contributing to the confusion is the equally insidious epidemic of demoralization that also afflicts modern culture. Since it shares some symptoms with depression, demoralization tends to be mislabeled and treated as if it were depression. A major reason for the poor 28-percent success rate of anti-depressant drugs is that a high percentage of ‘depression’ cases are actually demoralization, a condition unresponsive to drugs." One of the founders of modern psychology, Carl Jung, noticed and commented on this, jesselyn. He estimated: “About a third of my therapy cases are suffering from no clinically definable neurosis, but from the senselessness and emptiness of their lives. This can be defined as the general neurosis of our times.” In the past, our understanding of demoralization was limited to specific extreme situations, such as debilitating physical injury, terminal illness, prisoner-of-war camps, or anti-morale military tactics. But there is also a cultural variety that can express itself more subtly and develop behind the scenes of normal everyday life, under cultural conditions such as we have today. This culturally generated demoralization is nearly impossible to avoid for the modern "consumer". Rather than a depressive disorder, jesselyn, demoralization is a type of existential disorder associated with the breakdown of a person’s "cognitive map". It's an overarching psycho-spiritual crisis in which victims feel typically disoriented and unable to locate meaning, purpose, or sources of need fulfillment. The Unintentional Invisible Hand What Schumaker sees as the culprit is our modern consumer culture itself. It brings along with it a loss of relationship - people moving around a lot to get better jobs, and disconnection from others and community. This comes about in large part because the focus of consumer society - finding happiness by accumulating things and experiences that supposedly bring enjoyment - partially fails. As time goes on, its benefits can't always satiate us. As it is absorbed, jesselyn, consumer culture imposes numerous influences that weaken personality, undermine coping and lay the groundwork for eventual demoralization. Its driving features - individualism, materialism, hyper-competition, greed, over-complication, overwork, hurriedness, and debt - all correlate negatively with psychological health and or social well-being. The level of intimacy, trust, and true friendship in people’s lives has plummeted. Sources of wisdom, social and community support, spiritual comfort, intellectual growth, and life education have more or less dried up. Passivity and the broadening of choices have somewhat displaced creativity and mastery, jesselyn. Resilience traits such as patience, restraint, and fortitude have quite given way to short attention spans and over-indulgent approach to life. Research divulges that, contrary to earlier times, jesselyn, most people today are unable to identify any sort of philosophy of life or set of guiding principles. Without an existential compass, the commercialized mind gravitates toward a "philosophy of futility", as Noam Chomsky calls it, in which people feel stripped of meaning beyond their conditioned role as malleable consumers. As Schumaker puts it: “Individualistic models of mind have stymied our understanding of many disorders that are primarily of cultural origin. But recent years have seen a growing interest in the topic of cultural health and ill-health as they impact upon general well-being. At the same time, we are moving away from naive behavioral models and returning to the obvious fact that the human being has a fundamental nature, as well as a distinct set of human needs, that must be addressed by a cultural blueprint.” Meanwhile jesselyn, this is a quote from physician, author, and expert in addiction and trauma Gabor Mate: "We are groomed by advertising in the global media to reject our deeper natures; seduced into believing that we can soothe our feeling of emptiness through shopping, social media likes, and status symbols. It’s a vicious cycle that can only lead to further competition and separation. "This is not who we are. Countless initiatives around the world demonstrate our fundamental desire to reconnect. This is at the heart of the rapidly growing worldwide movement for localization: The recognition that our well-being requires connection - both to others and to the living world." Kabir Helminski has an interesting and helpful perspective to add to this, jesselyn. Helminski is close enough to Western culture to understand it deeply, yet is also distant enough from it that he’s able to see it more accurately than most of us. Here’s what he says in his book The Knowing Heart: “Our cultural value systems today are among the least spiritual ever offered to a human community. Basically, the meaning of life has been reduced to an unconscious operating mode: Get a job that will enable us to buy what we want, pass through life with a minimum of pain and discomfort. The fulfillment offered to us is the fulfillment of being good and intelligent consumers, effective seekers of pleasure. We will have to repress many of our desires so as to in the end satisfy a few of them.“ By their design, jesselyn, the central organizing principles and practices of consumer culture perpetuate an "existential vacuum" that is a precursor to demoralization. Despite surface appearances to the opposite, the consumer age is implicitly boring. As we've discussed, boredom is caused not because an activity is inherently boring, but because it is not meaningful to the person. Consumption itself is a flawed motivational platform for a society. Repeated consummation of desire, without moderating constraints, only serves to habituate people and diminish the future satisfaction potential of what is consumed. This, jesselyn, develops gradually into "consumer anhedonia", where consumption loses reward capacity and offers no more than distraction and ritualistic value. Consumerism and psychic lethargy are inexorable bedfellows. The more lost, disoriented, and spiritually defeated people become, the more susceptible they become to any persuasion, and the more they end up buying into the oversold expectations of consumption. But hyper-inflated expectations continually collide with the reality of experience. Deeper human needs get neglected. Continued starvation of these needs fuels disillusion about one’s whole attitude to life. Over time, people’s virtues philosophy can become unstable. At its heart, jesselyn, demoralization is a generalized loss of credibility in the principles that ground our existence and guide our actions. The assumptions underpinning our allegiance to consumerism are especially vulnerable. As they unravel, it becomes increasingly difficult to identify with the values, goals, and aspirations that were once a good part of our consumer reality. The consequent feeling of being left alone and on the wrong life track is easily mistaken for depression, or even unhappiness, but in fact it's the type of demoralization that most consumer beings will experience to some degree. 💁🏻‍♀️🎩

5. 🧄🧅 The examples of good values are responsibility, compassion, forgiveness, courage, persistence, creativity, innovation, humility, and so forth. The examples of faulty, unhealthy values are money, status, fame, power, and pleasure. We will notice, jesselyn, that good values are gained internally. Creativity and humility can be experienced and practiced right here and now, by directing our mind. These values are immediate and controllable and connect us with others. Faulty values usually lean on external events: Always being considered right, having a plush mansion, eating the most expensive chocolate in town. Faulty values, though give us contentment, aren't under our control and are often obtained through destructive means. Thereby jesselyn, values are about setting priorities. Everyone of us want a mansion and delish chocolate cakes. The question is about our priority. Which values do we prioritize above other values, and therefore influence our decision-making? Perhaps, this is the core of self-improvement: Prioritizing better values, choosing better things to care about. Because when we care about better things, jesselyn, we will get better problems. And when we get better problems, we live better lives as well. MENTAL HEALTH CONDITION Beyond our musing about happiness, jesselyn, some people may be predisposed to certain mental health conditions that can make it difficult to be content. Those who have a disposition toward mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety may find it harder to find happiness, even when bad things aren’t happening to them. They may believe that they can’t control all things like thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and thus, may think they cannot be happy. If we are experiencing emotions like sadness, hopelessness or anxiety persistently on a regular basis, it is recommended we reach out and seek appropriate help to better understand the root cause of our emotions. People spend their entire lives pursuing happiness, but relatively rarely did they discuss how mental stability affects happiness and how big of a role it actively plays. They’ll focus on getting rich, getting better relationships, moving to new places, and doing everything that society tells them they need to do to become happier. Which begs the question, jesselyn, how mental stability affects happiness. The fact is mental health is woefully misunderstood. If we had to explain what heart disease or cancer is, jesselyn, chances are we’d be able to do it. But if we had to explain neurosis and how it could affect one’s day-to-day life, it’s likely we’d be stumped. Mental health is our psychological well-being. It’s how we feel about ourselves, and how we feel about the environment around us and relationships in our lives. When people talk about “mental health” they mostly talk about anxiety and depression. And while those are real conditions, mental health comprises more than that. The absence of depression and anxiety does not mean someone is in good mental health, jesselyn. Experts are convinced it’s more about the presence of certain things rather than the absence. For example, people who are in good mental health tend to have: ✓ A passion and enthusiasm for life ✓ Contentment for the things they have ✓ An acceptance of the bad circumstances ✓ Self-confidence and self-esteem ✓ The ability to have fun Jesselyn, throughout our lives, multiple individual, social, and structural determinants may combine to protect or undermine our mental health and shift our position on the mental health continuum. Individual psychological and biological factors such as emotional skills, substance use, and genetics can make people more vulnerable to mental health problems. Primarily, exposure to detrimental social, economic, geopolitical and environmental circumstances - including poverty, abuse, violence, inequality, and environmental deprivation - also increases people’s risk of experiencing mental health conditions. Risks can manifest themselves at all stages of life, jesselyn. But those that occur during developmentally sensitive periods, especially early childhood, are particularly harmful. For example, harsh parenting and physical punishment is known to undermine child health, and bullying is a leading risk factor for mental health conditions. Protective factors similarly occur throughout our lives and serve to strengthen resilience. They include our individual social and emotional skills and attributes as well as positive social interactions, quality education, decent work, safe neighbourhoods, and community cohesion, among others. Mental health risks and protective factors can be found in society at different scales, jesselyn. Local threats heighten risk for individuals, families, and communities. Global threats amplify risk for whole populations and include economic downturns, disease outbreaks, humanitarian emergencies, forced displacement, and the still growing climate crisis. THE QUEST FOR A HAPPY SOCIETY One of the most thought-provoking sayings that could be told about society, jesselyn, is by Jiddu Krishnamurti: “It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” We can enjoy today’s modern medical advances, amazing technologies, and the freedom. In the midst of all this, jesselyn, we have surging rates of mental illnesses. A punchline describing that fact could stick with us: “Everything is amazing… and no one is happy.” What kind of society makes being healthy and happy so difficult that only a single digit percentage of its population can hope to pull it off? The answer is self-evident: A sick society, which is one where chronic illness, obesity, drug dependence, anxiety, and depression are rapidly becoming the prevailing norms. Jesselyn, I have probably struggled with writing extensively about these problems in our world, because I don’t want to be negative. Notwithstanding, this is significantly salient. The antidote to what ails us - in terms of physical, spiritual, or mental health - is not complicated, but it is difficult, and we are easily discouraged or distracted away from it. Therefore, we need crystal clarity about the riddle we’re dealing with, and we need regular reminders about the seriousness of our situation. Otherwise, we won’t do what needs to be done. Social media offer a platform for us to admit about our changing moods and encourage an unnatural obsession with how our well-being and happiness influence our working lives. Nowadays jesselyn, we can buy gadgets and apps that measure our sleep or assess the benefits of our physical activities. Self-help books about how to be happy proliferate and ensure that we remain fixated on the subject. 😌🌦️

4. 🚈🛫 Can We Become More Optimistic? Optimism is a personality element; that is, an individual difference that is affected by genetic factors to a certain extent. As a result, jesselyn, it is relatively stable. However, environmental factors do make a difference as well. For instance, while life events such as loss of a loved one, physical or sexual abuse, and too much parental control or coercion do affect optimism in a negative way, then a family environment based on support, trust, love, and good communication has a positive impact on the development of optimism. Some studies also depict that some interventions can help us capitalize on optimism, jesselyn. Gratitude exercises such as writing down three good things that happen each day can increase optimism. When bad things happen, pessimistic people also tend to blame themselves and believe that they are weak, unsuccessful, or a bad person. This can be replaced by accepting our small and big mistakes or flaws, and figuring out what could be done better next time, as optimistic people tend to do. Changing our internal dialogue is another way of working on optimism. We all have an inner critic, jesselyn. Sometimes it’s very loud and it might negatively affect how we perceive and feel about ourselves. Granting ourselves some self-compassion like the fondness we would show a loved one when they need it, can help us work on our narratives - our stories. When we’re anxious or sad, we tend to call a loved one, because their warmth and tenderness make us feel safe and valued. We actually can be that kind of loving friend to ourselves and turn that compassion inwards. Hence jesselyn, we can have positive expectations about the future, yet don't get into the habit of sweeping reality under the rug or distorting it. Otherwise, we might be caught off guard when unexpected unfavorable things happen. PLEASURE AND MEANING Many philosophers, jesselyn, believe that there are two paths to happiness: Hedonistic and eudaimonic. The hedonistic view says that in order to live a happy life, we have to increase our pleasure and avoid pain. It focuses on satisfying human desires. However, the thing is, it's often short-lived. The eudaimonic approach takes the long view. It says that we should live an authentic life and for the greater good. Humans should pursue their goals through justice, truth, kindness, and courage. If we follow happiness in a hedonistic way, jesselyn, we have to keep chasing new experiences and pleasures to be happy. Moreover, we have to minimize unpleasant feelings to stay in a happy mood. When we follow the eudaimonic approach, we face stress and work hard to contribute to something greater than ourselves by using our strengths. For doing that, jesselyn, we have to encounter unpleasant experiences sometimes, but at a deeper level, it will stir up joy and contentment. For that reason, to lead a happy life, we need not avoid difficulties and hard times but embrace them. Hedonic experiences are all about pleasure: Gazing at a beautiful sunrise, eating a delectable slice of cake, or having great sex. Eudaimonic experiences, on the other hand, are about personal meaning and purpose: Living according to our values, completing an important life project, or making a difference in the world in some ways. This distinction is important, jesselyn, since sometimes the things that are most meaningful to us aren’t pleasurable, whether we’re talking about working hard, keeping our promises even when inconvenient, being honest when we’ve made an error, or forgiving someone we love. On the flip side, many pleasurable experiences are not actually meaningful. Although binge-watching every episode of Netflix movies or eating an entire tub of frozen yogurt may make us happy, it’s hard to argue that these activities contribute to our life being truly “good”. Which brings us to... PAIN AND BOREDOM "Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom," claimed the philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer. Jesselyn, he encapsulated a profound observation about the affairs of human being. Firstly, the comparison to a pendulum is apt. A pendulum swings back and forth in a predictable rhythm, much like the cyclical nature of life. There are highs and lows, moments of joy and sorrow, satisfaction and disappointment, success and failure. Just as a pendulum oscillates between two extremes, life peculiarly oscillates between pain and boredom. Pain represents the stress of ordeals and challenges that we encounter throughout our lives. It could be physical pain, emotional turmoil, or existential angst. Pain is an intrinsic part of the human condition, something we all feel in varying degrees. It can come in the form of loss, rejection, or even the simple struggles of daily existence. Pain reminds us of our vulnerability and mortality, forcing us to confront the harsh realities of life. On the other hand, boredom symbolizes the mundane, the routine, the monotony of everyday life. It's the feeling of being stuck in a rut, of going through the motions without purpose or passion. Jesselyn, boredom can be just as agonizing as pain, albeit in a different way. It's a sort of ennui, a sense of emptiness, or discontent with the status quo. Boredom challenges us to seek meaning and fulfillment, to break free from the dull routine and explore new possibilities. Just as a pendulum's motion is governed by the laws of physics, our lives are governed by a complex interplay of circumstances, choices, and emotions. We cannot escape pain and boredom, but we can learn to navigate them with resilience and wisdom. Furthermore jesselyn, the quote suggests a dynamic tension between those two states. When we are in pain, we long for relief, for the dull ache to subside. Yet when boredom sets in, we crave excitement, novelty, anything to break the monotony. This oscillation creates a perpetual cycle of seeking and striving, of ups and downs, that shapes our journey through life. However, amidst this oscillation, there is also opportunity for growth. Pain can be a catalyst for change, a crucible in which we are forged into tougher, more intelligent beings. Boredom, likewise, can prompt us to explore new interests, cultivate creativity, and deepen our relationships. In embracing both pain and boredom, jesselyn, we open ourselves to the full spectrum of human feelings, going through its uncertainties, paradoxes, and contradictions. This reminds us that, analogous to a pendulum, life is in constant motion and dance, swinging between polarities yet always searching for balance. THE INTERPLAY OF VALUES Jesselyn, a common and very achievable objective that comes up in a mental therapy is: How to create a life worth living. One of the ways we approach that is by learning how to live life through values instead of goals. And even though goals are necessary and a big part of our life satisfaction, a shift to a value-driven life can create long-lasting meaning, a sustained sense of fulfillment. But jesselyn, to taste the temporary surge of happiness longer, we should seize the good values, whose characteristics are: Based on reality, socially constructive, and immediate as well as totally controllable. Integrity is a good value because it is something we can totally control, reflects reality, and is beneficial to others - even if it's sometimes unpleasant. Popularity or fame, in contrast, is a faulty value. If we wanna be the most popular boy or girl in a dance party, jesselyn, some circumstances will be outside of our control. We don't know about who will be there, and maybe we don't know the half of them all. It also isn't based on reality; we might feel famous or not, yet in reality we really don't have any clue about what others think of us. 🤔🔭

3. 📈🍵 HAPPINESS FACTORS Stress Everybody gets stressed, jesselyn. In truth we all need a certain, minimum dose of stress to feel alive and a little more stress than that can contribute to improving our motivation and performance. But indeed, if we are experiencing increased stress levels for too long or at too high an intensity, then stress becomes the opposite of helpful and can hurt our health. Stress is linked to the fight-or-flight part of our nervous system and as such is related to fear. Thus it makes sense that if we can develop a healthier relationship with stress, then what we are actually doing is becoming more comfortable with fear, and as such we will be able to deal with it and move on to happier times. Moderate amounts of stress are usually considered normal in the short term and may support our happiness by providing us with a reasonable challenge that results in a sense of accomplishment. That being said, jesselyn, excess stress can have severe negative effects on our mental, emotional, and even physical health. If people are living in a stressful situation - such as having an unstable home life, working in a taxing job, struggling to focus in a difficult subject, dwelling in a warzone - for which they don't have appropriate coping strategies or outlets, they may find themselves at risk for higher levels of dissatisfaction and unhappiness, or even at higher peril for a mental health condition or ailment of the body. Our stress may not be coming from an external source, however. Feeling as if we aren't in control of our lives or as if we aren't living up to the expectations of those around us, can cause us to feel sorrowful and undergo emotional strain. Jesselyn, we may feel tense and unfulfilled if we don't have or are unsure of our personal goals to follow, as this can leave us stressed about finding our purpose or direction in life. We shall talk about stress again in unalike nuances later on. The Past We all have a past. Some of us have had a harder, tougher past and a few of us, too many, have had traumatic incidents on our yesterday. Those will be linked to sadness, hurt, shame, and fear and will often be vented as anger. If we have had issues in the past and have not had support in healthily processing them, jesselyn, then the likelihood is that we won't be as happy as we could be. Physical We've been getting public health messages for years about looking after our physical health. The connection between this and our emotional health is only really being realized now. Not all of us, jesselyn, irrespective of how we take care of ourselves, have perfect physical health and this can impact how we feel. What we do know, is that to give ourselves the best opportunity to enjoy life as well as we can, looking after both our physical and our emotional health is crucial. Self-esteem How highly we value ourselves has a huge impact upon our emotional health, jesselyn. Being able to self-validate rather than rely upon others to feel good about ourselves is a paramount skill in this modern, information-crammed world. To rely on others for affirmation is to be at the mercy of improper marketing and social media. When our self-esteem is not at the top then we are easily hurt and scared, and can end up in unnecessary conflict. None of those root for us to feel as happy as we can. So jesselyn, can we be happy all the time? No. Can we, through paying continuous attention, maximize our opportunities to experience happiness? Yes. Focused attention to our emotional health will help us feel happier and that's a pretty good result to aim for. PESSIMISTS AND OPTIMISTS Jesselyn, there are some misconceptions around optimism and whether it’s good or risky. Optimism, jesselyn, is the expectation that good things will happen in the future despite problems, challenges, or adverse life events. However, this doesn’t mean always seeing the bright side of life. Optimistic people do notice problems and challenges, but compared to pessimistic people, they are more proactive about making things better as they believe that things can change. In other words, they take action and contribute to solving problems, while pessimistic people choose to stay more passive and avoid taking responsibility due to their negative expectations. However jesselyn, optimism and pessimism are not polar opposites. It’s not that easy peasy. Optimism and pessimism generally interact, and they can co-exist. They are two sides of the same coin. We might have optimistic tendencies in certain situations but a more pessimistic attitude in others. Therefore, rather than focusing on classifying ourselves as an "optimist" or "pessimist", it’s more effective to understand the advantages and disadvantages of each. Some people are more optimistic than others, but more is not necessarily better. Being too optimistic doesn’t mean that we will achieve the best outcomes in life. Balancing optimism and pessimism and being able to shift between the two might be a better approach. Is Optimism Always Good? The brief answer is no, jesselyn, but there's also a clearer answer. There's a fine line between "realistic optimism" and constant positive thinking or "blind optimism". Realistic optimists do not think that everything is and will always be amazing. They notice the negative as well, but they actively search for ways to tackle their problems. A blind optimist is likely to say “There is nothing to worry about, things will be great”, while a realistic optimist would say “This problem can harm us, but if we take the right steps we might find the right solutions. It’s worth trying.” Blind optimism might expose us to threats and dangers. For instance jesselyn, when our loved ones are in pain, unrealistic optimism might keep us from letting them express their emotions. If we always think positively and avoid noticing problems, others might not feel comfortable expressing their true feelings to us. Seeing only the positive might also leave us unprepared for negative events and situations. When small problems are avoided, ignored, or not accepted, they can get bigger over time. If our optimism is blind, we might believe that we will always be healthy and nothing bad can happen to us. This might lead to adverse habits that have the potential to harm us. And jesselyn, research indicates that unrealistic optimism increases the risk of heart attack, because when people fail to consider the possible negative consequences of their behaviours and ignore threats to their health, they avoid adaptive behaviours such as healthy eating or exercising. Comparably, too much optimism might lead a person to underestimate the probability of losing when gambling. This kind of optimism can indeed be comforting in the short term, but might increase the risk of negative consequences in the future. Given those potential pitfalls, jesselyn, a more advantageous approach might be to develop a willingness to shift between optimism and pessimism depending on the situation. For example, in risky situations - if the cost is high - we might practice more pessimism than optimism. If we want to inspire others, a more optimistic outlook might be more helpful. As the founder of Positive Psychology, Martin Seligman said, “What we want is not blind optimism but flexible optimism - optimism with its eyes open." We are able to use pessimism with keen sense of reality when we need it, but without having to be subdued by its dark shadows. And notably jesselyn, optimism has numerous positive effects on our physical and emotional health. For example, optimistic patients suffer less, heal faster and go back to their normal daily activities sooner compared to pessimists. Optimists are also known to have a stronger immune system. Pessimism, on the other hand, is correlated with depressive symptoms, loneliness, and anxiety. Additionally, optimistic people are perceived as more attractive, are happier in their interpersonal relationships, and manage conflict better. In working life, optimism can increase job performance and productivity. Research also demonstrates, jesselyn, that since optimists expect good things to happen, and tend to think about the distant tomorrow in a more positive way, they come up with creative ideas and how they can achieve them. This has important implications for our personal and professional lives, as this type of thought process can facilitate new business ideas and setting new goals. 💡🎯

2. 🌳🦦 THE NATURAL TRAITS OF US Humans are not designed to be happy, or even content. Instead jesselyn, we are designed primarily to survive and reproduce, like every other creature in the natural world. Nature discourages contentment because it would lower our guard against threats to survival. Positive and negative affects do reside in the brain, but sustained happiness has no biological basis. Different geographical locations and circuits in the brain are each associated with certain neurological and intellectual functions. But happiness, being a mere construct with no neurological basis, cannot be found in the brain tissue. Jesselyn, the fact that evolution has prioritized the development of a big frontal lobe in our brain - which gives us excellent executive and analytical abilities - over a natural ability to be happy, reveals to us a lot about nature’s priorities. Experts in this field argue that nature’s failure to weed out depression in the evolutionary process - despite its obvious disadvantages in terms of survival and reproduction - is due precisely to the fact that depression as an adaptation plays a useful role in times of adversity, by helping the depressed individual disengage from risky and hopeless situations in which he or she cannot win. Depressive ruminations can also have a problem-solving function during difficult times. It's not our innate inability to enjoy life consistently, jesselyn. So we should take comfort in the knowledge that unhappiness is not really our wrongdoing. It's the fault of our natural design. It's in our blueprint. Thus the problem isn’t that accessing reliable and consistent satisfaction by chemical means is illegal; rather that it’s impossible. Chemicals alter the mind, which can be a good thing sometimes, but since happiness is not related to a particular functional brain pattern, we cannot replicate it chemically. Our emotions are mixed and impure, messy, tangled, and at times contradictory, resembling everything else in our lives, jesselyn. Research has even shown that positive and negative emotions can coexist in the brain relatively independently of each other. Thereby biologically we are meant to struggle and strive, seek gratification and safety, fight off threats and avoid pain. The model of competing emotions offered by coexisting pleasure and pain fits our reality much better. In fact, pretending that any degree of our anguish is abnormal or pathological will only foster feelings of inadequacy and frustration. That there is no such thing as happiness may appear to be a purely negative message, jesselyn. Yet the silver lining, the consolation, is the knowledge that dissatisfaction is not a personal failure. If we are unhappy at times, this is not a shortcoming that demands urgent repair, as some happiness gurus would have it. This flux is, for real, what makes us human. THE ASSORTMENT OF FEELINGS Is it definitely possible to be happy all the time, jesselyn? This question arises, partly because there are people on various forms of social media and websites that, in order to sell whatever product they are pushing, will lead you to believe that it's possible to be continuously happy. It also arises because, we appear to be directed towards happiness as a goal and also as an expectation and a right. To start with, jesselyn, happiness is one of the core feelings that we are born with. In light of one research on human emotions, we have six essential feelings that have evolved in our system to help us feel, express, and survive. They are: Happy, sad, angry, shame, hurt, and fear. Read those back jesselyn, and you will notice that out of those six core feelings only one of those is perceived as positive. This is because most of our evolution has been about protecting ourselves, and we needed feelings that helped us interpret the emotional landscape and act accordingly. They all exist and statistically, at least, there is only a one in six chances that we are going to feel happy at any time. Interestingly, if we want to reduce the odds of feeling happy, then we gotta battle, ignore, and continually avoid engaging with our feelings at all. Which may be an instinctive reaction for many of us that helps us deal with emotional pain and suffering, but in the long run it's a recipe for overwhelm and mental health challenges. Jesselyn, a quote says, "The word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” We all want to feel joy and avoid pain, this is normal. What’s not normal and rather unhealthy is insistently avoiding or suppressing difficult or negative emotions. The reality of life is that we all experience difficult emotions and circumstances. People get ill, folks lose their jobs, relationships fall apart, and things break. Similarly jesselyn, in Buddhism it is believed that “life is full of suffering” and that our suffering is caused by our “attachments” - ideals we hold in our minds about how life ought to be. And one of the biggest attachments we have is the desire to feel happy all the time. This desire ironically leads to sorrow and agony in the face of inevitable adversity. We feel unhappy because we feel we shouldn’t feel unhappy. But not allowing ourselves to feel sad will only make us sadder. In other words, we possess the permission to “not be okay” without the self-imposed expectation of having to justify or disregard our struggles. We recognize that uncomfortable feelings will not last forever. And the more we start to accept neglected negative emotions, jesselyn, the more at peace we feel with ourselves and the less pressure we experience to feel happy, which paradoxically makes feeling happy easier. Whilst none of us want to experience sadness, it is a fact of life that we will. Accepting sadness or difficult emotions is not the same as wallowing and drowning in them. Rather it’s learning to acknowledge that it’s healthy to experience the full range of emotions as a human being. Clinging on to positive or negative emotions is a fool’s game. In due time, jesselyn, every emotion will come and go. As humans, we learn and grow through contrast. I know joy because I’ve known sorrow. I know love because I’ve known heartache. I know confidence because I’ve known insecurity. I know faith because I’ve known fear. I know success because I've known failure. Our notorious Lord Adi also ever reassured you guys by saying that standing fast with white apron doesn't mean we're strong, and being tossed out to the pressure test doesn't mean we're weak. Transformation occurs in the experience of polarity - when we move from fear to love, from dark to light, from judgment to forgiveness. But jesselyn, if we suppress what we perceive as negative feelings, we're not opening the gate for the authenticity of our human expressions. And although most of us might prefer to feel happy all the time, studies show that negative feelings, while unpleasant, can sometimes be good for us. Anxiety and fear can protect us against potential threats. Guilt can motivate us to make amends when we’ve made mistakes, in order to preserve our most meaningful relationships. Even anger can be useful to assert what we want. Of course jesselyn, there’s a difference between feeling an emotion like anger and acting violently. There’s also a big difference between experiencing negative emotions in healthy, manageable amounts and being completely overtaken by them. Like most things in life, virtually any emotion is best in moderation. Jesselyn, as other studies show, just the right amount of certain negative emotions, acted on in effective ways, can be a game changer. Political movements that change the world can be fueled by anger, while urges to change our life for the better can be fueled by sadness or regret. 😤💪

1. 🍚🍳 Howdy jesselyn, how have you been? 😄🙏 Maybe I could answer it myself, yassh you've been going the exceptional distance to grow your investments trees, and they've begun to bear delightfully delicious fruits. 🌻🥭 And jesselyn's jubilance has looked complete as Angelyn has at last arrived at home savory home, uniting again with jesselyn's fun and playful sisterhood. 😁💃🏻 Angelyn even joyously accompanied jesselyn being the chosen chef again at cooking demos conducted by the K-food representatives and Kirin, plus smilingly massage your forehead. 😆 Surely Angelyn is hoping you'll treat her frequently with Visa, since you were extraordinarily selected to endorse this multinational corporation's card. 👏🌟 Kudos and chukahamnida to jesselyn the girlboss. 🥳🎉🙌 And still, jesselyn keeps energetically serving well-thought-out reels, including making gourmet back with surprising budget ingredients. 😃🛒 Yet it doesn't signify that jesselyn doesn't proceed with simpler dishes, such as vermicelli risoles whose best part is at its two edges, the innovative tofu katsu curry rice, basque burnt cheesecake in its straightforward version, and rujak spicy chicken that jesselyn regards as one of the tastiest fave recipes, which happens to be yummy to me too. 😋🧀🧄🌶️ But, jesselyn is apparently trying to mostly share food easily gobbled down with hot rice, sprinkled with astonishing menus such as green goddess salad and Vietnamese egg coffee. 🥬🥚 More enthusiastic followers have also recooked lots of your recipes reels, a dear approach to find the way to you from distance. 😊👋 In the meantime, jesselyn even caringly spilled jesselyn's acne buster product of choice from Japan - and I've bought your recommendation on marketplace. 😉 So far it's been quickly effective to cure and prevent the swelling red stuff! ✨ Thank you very cordially for having told us your part of beauty secrets, jesselyn. 💙💫 Nevertheless, the most captivatingly startling steps jesselyn has taken are building the second branch of Sanuk whose location is still confidential. Besides jesselyn, the new masterpiece I thought would be named Juliette as a tribute to jesselyn's grandma and her Miramar, has been officially branded as Amoré Liora. 😲😲 Why the considerable modification, jesselyn? I guess jesselyn is now up to creating blissful ambience and unprecedented dining experience 🍽️🎀🏅, and as I personally feel indebted for jesselyn's inspiring kindness and greatness, let me by this writing confirm jesselyn's catchphrase about waves as all-encompassing throughout everybody's lifetime. ✒️💖 THE LONG-STANDING NOTION OF HAPPINESS What is happiness? For most people, jesselyn, this can often feel like the elusive goal of life. Just be “happy”. But what exactly does that mean? 😗 Happiness, as the Brazilian poet Vinicius de Moraes put it, is “like a feather flying in the air. It flies light, but not for very long”. Happiness is a human construct, an abstract idea invented by humans - the likes of human rights, justice, freedom, and our Bhinneka Tunggal Ika - with no equivalent in actual human experience. Happiness, jesselyn, is commonly perceived as a fixed state of being, a recurrent form of joy or at the very least, the absence of negative affect. It can sometimes seem like the end goal of one’s existence, or even a way to escape the pain of the moment, such as “if I can just be happy then all the sadness will go away”. Yet in reality, happiness is but a transient emotion and by its nature can only exist one moment at a time. It is characterized by an overall sense of contentment, or even bursts of glee and excitement. The frequency and intensity can vary, but ultimately as an emotion it succumbs to the same biological laws as our anger, sadness, and shame; it will always lack objective permanence. When the belief that happiness can and should be consistently sustained clashes with a reality in which it cannot, jesselyn, it creates a particular sort of suffering: A disillusionment that can stem from the self-judgement of not being able to hold on to that ephemeral feeling. It is often interpreted as evidence of personal failure, as opposed to a normal facet of the human condition. “Why am I not happier?” Let’s put this in concrete terms, jesselyn. Popular narrative sells the idea that happiness is mainly achieved through a sequence of marked milestones: Getting that college degree, thriving in career, finding a life partner, buying that luxury item or vacation. Or, on the flip side, the belief that if certain negative events occur, we will never be able to experience joy in the same way. For example, we might have ruminated any of these sentences around happiness: "My life will be perfect once I land my dream job.” “I’ll never truly be happy if I can’t find a romantic partner.” “I don’t think I’ll recover from this breakup, only he can make me happy.” “Once I can buy ____ I’ll be happy.” “The best part of my life is over.” "I will never recover from this loss.” “Now that I’ve achieved ____ my life will be good.” “As long as they’re in my life, I will be happy.” “Why am I sad when I have everything?” “Other people have it worse, I should just be more grateful.” “I just need to graduate, and everything will be okay.” While it's true that temporary happiness can be in fact gained or lost through those events, jesselyn, eventually the level of emotion created by such circumstances will return to baseline and fluctuate throughout time. The main misconception residing within the myth of happiness is the belief that this state exists in absolutes, and negates the inevitable duality and ever-changing essence of life. STORY IN OUR CROWN Jesselyn, people often tell themselves tales about the future, like "Oh, I’m an awkward misfit who looks terrible and always will." Or, "I’ll never have a fulfilling relationship." Other stories are about the past: "I’m like this because my parents treated me in a particular way." Or, "I’m an unlucky person, and always have been." But our entire past, which we feel - in many ways correctly - is responsible for how we behave today, is itself just a story we are telling ourselves in the here and now. We connect the dots to tell one tale, for example, when we consider how we came to this point in our career, and another tale when we look into how we developed our psychological foibles or strengths. It's hard to think about our past without tidying it up into a kind of story, one in which we are cast as the hero or victim. Jesselyn, we tell the story we want to tell, and we live out those stories every day. Some of these stories are consciously made up, but others operate without our knowledge, dictated by scripts handed to us by others when we were young. We can carry around the psychological legacy of our parents for our whole lives, whether bad or good. Where they have unfulfilled wishes and regrets, these are commonly passed to us as a template for storytelling. Many of these templates make it hard for us to feel happy: "You must achieve impressive things to be happy or loved." Or, "You must sacrifice your own happiness to make others feel better; that is the measure of your worth." Similar insidious directives can also come from our religion, our peers, classmates and teachers, the cumulative effect of the news media we encounter daily, or any number of ideologies in which we find ourselves enmeshed. With these overarching stories or templates in mind, jesselyn, we repeatedly arrange our lives in such a manner as to allow events and others reinforce the same familiar message, akin to a child’s fable. Many people keep playing out the same story: That they surely cannot be easy to love; that love and admiration are dependent on career success; that others will always disappoint us. "The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents," wrote the legendary psychoanalyst Carl Jung. Jesselyn, whatever we have taken from them, the founding story of our lives, imposed on us by a mother and a father who in turn inherited a flawed script from their own parents too, isn’t even ours. Therefore, we must recognize this telltale brain and take control of those stories, so as to live more happily and thankfully. When a movie begins with the words "Based on a True Story," what crosses jesselyn's mind? Does jesselyn assume every line of dialogue, every bit of clothing and song in the background is the same as it was in the true event on which the film was based? Of course jesselyn doesn’t. We know movies like Pearl Harbor or Oppenheimer take artistic license with facts, shaping them so a coherent story will unfold with a beginning, middle, and end. Even biographies about the lives of businesspeople, musicians, or politicians who are still alive are rarely the absolute truth. Some things are left out, or some people are fused into single characters. The details, you think when watching, are less important than the big picture, the general idea. If only, jesselyn, we were so savvy when it came to looking back on the biography in our head. That is, what upsets people is not things themselves, but their judgements about these things. In other words, jesselyn, it is not events out there that cause our problems, but rather our reactions to them: The stories we tell ourselves. What kind of stories do we conceive and rethink when we wake up in the morning, work during the day, and rest at night? 😪🌠

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Hai clever and hardworking jesselyn, I never realized before that you actually like the idea of romanticizing your life with Korean culture, which in your case is cooking their dishes like that Maechurial. I used to see you as a spice girl of everything Thai. 😁🦐 Hahahah yet yes jesselyn, I've spotted some male and female leads of K-Dramas gobble those quail eggs in a simple, homy way. I wonder if jesselyn swallowed or shared the comforting meal all with jesselyn's family too. 🏡🍚 Speaking of a full-team family eating together, jesselyn, I think it's really a warm and rather rare occasion for lots of young adults. Folks have their own busyness, and more poignantly, inner wounds. 😌🩹 Whenever, jesselyn, I listen to the songs like Wake Up by Elaine, the OST of It's Okay Not To Be Okay; and Blue by the celebrated Billie Eilish, they can somehow ignite the idea on my mind that I wanna send the present me to my younger me and especially my parents back then, by Doraemon's time machine. 😆🌌 Still however jesselyn, I don't ever think for long of that toxic tendency of wanting to correct the past anymore. ☺️ Anytime I'm triggered to regret my past and blame those who might have contributed to it, jesselyn, I remind myself: 1. Your life is shaped by both humans' freewill and destiny's hand, but you never know which is which. Blaming others or yourself is an endless overthinking that's futile. 2. You may think that had you pursued material things and had your parents not overprotected you, then you would've been richer and already enjoyed the pleasure of relationship or marriage. But how do you know for sure? Your logic? What if had you pursued more money and become established sooner, you would've done big mistakes? Married with the wrong woman? Died? Not learned more virtues? Not supported your country? Thus, you can't guess or alter your future, since you're neither omnipotent nor omniscient; bear that in mind. Besides, the journey has eventually created deeper understanding and more solid bond between you and your father. 3. You might have been used by God or the Universe to accomplish his will by unpleasant experiences. You merely have experienced financial and romantic adversities and been less independent than your peers, and you decidedly have the power and courage to change that. But what if by God's will you got physically crippled? Had enormous debt? Had no proper house? Found your loved ones dying? 😢💔 As Robert Kiyosaki ever propounded, jesselyn, "In real life, the smartest people are those who make mistakes and learn. In school, the smartest people don't make any mistakes." I was indeed academically successful in school and university times, then I started feeling challenged in terms of work soon after graduation, and perhaps until today. 😄 Hopefully jesselyn, the vast collection of trial and errors has become the building blocks that pave my path, as I already discovered better my strengths and weaknesses, what I like and what I shun in both career and relationship. And meeting you and following you, jesselyn, is what's rendered and retouched them to be crystal clear to a greater degree. 💎✨ Though jesselyn's roads completely differ from mine, I optimistically wish that they will place jesselyn in far more auspicious and advantageous positions always - all along and all the way in the future. 😉💫 Finally for now jesselyn, if your period frenziedly makes you feel pain, pain, and pain, and with the somewhat funny and playful way you explained the phase of menstruating women 😅🤣, I suggest that you check and explore the merits of magnesium supplement. 😃💊🤍 It's scientifically able to relieve one's stress, menstrual hurt, and ease anxiety as well as insomnia. Factually, I've met two women, my acquaintances, who strongly recommended such a supplement due to its excellent multifunctional impact on everyday general well-being. If jesselyn hasn't habitually consumed it, find out about the right dose and make sure jesselyn doesn't choose the oxide and sulfate ones, as they're less effective. Search for them on jesselyn's fave marketplaces. 🪟🛒 Jesselyn, you're magically and elegantly graceful and charismatic with your top outfit from Florenco. 🖤💙 The dominantly black color and some dashes of light blue, beautified by your wavy and curly long fascinating hair, transform you into a Maechurial, ehh I mean, a mesmerizing, hypnotic, and magnetic female entrepreneur cum leader. 🧚🪙👑 Thereby cherish and relish your life, dear smiley jesselyn. 😊🥧 I'm fairly sure you'll audaciously build stunning stuff ranging from genius delicacies to eternal legacies. May the horizon of plentiful fortune and joy fervently and felicitously fall in love with jesselyn. Désolé, et merci beaucoup. 🙌🌼

5. 🏡🌆 Additionally, jesselyn, leaders must consider the environment in which they operate - political, economic, cultural, etc.- when setting these objectives to ensure their feasibility. Doing so will help create an achievable plan for success that is both meaningful and tangible. Lastly, pursuing a dream without taking into account practical considerations can lead to unrealistic expectations or overspending of limited resources. Realism in leadership decision-making allows for more accurate assessments of what can realistically be accomplished in a given time frame or with a certain amount of resources. Setting SMART goals is important in order to ensure success. For instance jesselyn, one CEO of a prominent smartphone company is known for his combination of visionary ambition and pragmatic decision-making skills. He has managed to balance the needs of his customers with its shareholders by investing in innovative projects while also streamlining operations to keep costs down. Similarly, the CEO of a supreme worldwide online shop balances his company's goals with reality by setting measurable objectives that can be achieved through hard work and dedication. He has also focused on experimentation as a way of driving innovation while staying within budget parameters. And I believe jesselyn's definitely done them all extraordinarily with Sanuk. Jesselyn has balanced idealism and realism, possibilities and pragmatism, the practical and the hope, what people think they want and what they need, the majority and the minority, and what is good for one and good for all. 😌👏🚀 What I've learned from jesselyn recently when I pondered, is the ability to set goals with priorities and make an action plan. Along with analyzing the context, I guess these three things are the key to balancing idealism and realism in leadership. Jesselyn, I remember being told "too honest" by my past students, because I told the truth when it was better to do otherwise in that situation. Idealists like jesselyn also have a lot of passion and can picture something bigger than themselves and the current marketplace or cultural reality they're living in. They dream big and have high level, sometimes lofty goals that they're always working toward. While a realist usually focuses on the more immediately achievable and has a bias for results, I don't believe the two have to be mutually exclusive, as it comes to entrepreneurship. Visionaries and idealists can also be realists, and are wise to test, improve, and gain other followers versus trying to go after the whole sky without the right support network and loyal following. By remaining patient but ardently passionate, and by continuing to always take forward steps - no matter how small - to achieving a greater vision and goal, we can continue to be an idealist without abandoning reality and ration. Again jesselyn, idealism and realism don't have to be mutually exclusive. In fact, they cannot be so for an ideal to become reality! Taken to a high level, it can make a visionary builds a fashion business employing mentally impaired people to make exquisite quality handbags, or a popular restaurant employing the elderly with dementia as all its servers. Let's talk more about those two sides in factual business world. POUR THE MIXTURE OF IDEAL AND REAL INTO A BOWL Jesselyn, in my opinion idealism and realism are related to the sphere of business and its product quality. There are these five elements of impact: physical and mental pleasure, health, wealth, education, and environment. Realism tends towards elements positive to the seller and elements less positive to the buyer and the environment; egoism. Idealism tends towards elements positive to the buyer and the environment and elements less positive to the seller; altruism. The combination of the two is more positive elements to the seller, buyer, as well as the environment; altruistic egoism. For example jesselyn, Chef Renatta might be an idealist in terms of her restaurant's menu, while jesselyn isn't as idealist as her with Sanuk's noodles. Desmond Lim, an eminent restaurateur from Singapore, tempers his idealism with some hard-nosed pragmatism. He ever said: "Twenty-five years is an eternity in the F&B business, and it's always been a struggle, up to today. You have to find a balance between quality and profitability. You can't have both. But we are lucky in that we have the luxury of building something for the long term, without the short term pressure of financial performance." "Fine dining doesn't make money," Mr Lim readily uttered, simply due to the high food and operating costs required to maintain that level of service and cuisine. "It's tough. It's a small market. Going forward, the concepts I would look at developing would be mid-market Asian concepts that are replicable and scalable, with menus that can stretch over longer hours of service from breakfast to supper - even 24 hours if need be. And they would involve labour-saving technology and processes to overcome tight manpower issues." he added. I have no idea if jesselyn dislikes decreasing quality while also increasing price, but it's a surefire mark of a full-blown realist. On the contrary, in content creating there's a male chef who's very strict in his healthy diet philosophy, but doesn't have as many followers as another male chef - a very famous one - who smartly mixes idealism and realism in his menu choices. Then jesselyn, in terms of the sphere of business, FMCG industry is considered realistic, but their product variants can be made finely idealistic in terms of pleasure. Meanwhile, education and healthcare industries are commonly regarded as idealistic. As society, we generally view jobs that have health and education impact as more noble than those that only give pleasure. Maybe for that reason, pleasure-inducing businesses at times conduct events or CSR initiatives that promote health and education, which occasionally bestow money to the crowd too. However jesselyn, both types of industries have their own grey and even black players. For instance, sellers of fake rice, teachers who sold test papers, or doctors who knowingly devise false diagnosis to make patients keep coming back and even undergo unnecessary surgery. That's why industries players who are comparatively white must be granted significant incentives by the authority, so that the grey and the black are encouraged to follow their role models. *** Hence jesselyn, in short, money, status, power, and pleasure or comfort or safety, are evolutionary and can be called as primal, which are what realist part of us chases after in life. Whereas, spiritual values and universal principles are what idealist part of us desires to practice daily. Thank you cordially much jesselyn, for having explained about Sanuk's origin with words "idealism and consumerism". That's all that you took to make me more thoroughly think about all this. 😊🙏✨ Humans may not always get it right and we may not always get done whatever is needed to get done to alleviate problems that exist in the here and now. Realistically, we can never alleviate all problems and problems exist, contextually, no matter if we are idealist or realist. The only constant, jesselyn, is that problems existed, exist, and will exist to be addressed and can eventually be solved only if both idealism and realism are embraced by the mankind. Jesselyn, I personally conclude that the number of idealists in a country determines its practice of spiritual values; the number of realists determines its improvement of prosperity and security; and the number of people who can align both philosophies will make a greater deal of us seek wealth and safety in harmony with virtues. Allow me to express my gratitude for you having set aside precious time and energy to read these lengthy comments. 🌺 And last but assuredly not least, happy riding your lifelong exhilarating wave, cute jesselyn! 🙋🏻‍♂️👸🏻🌊

4. 📝🎯 Hypogamy is mostly practiced by men for the purpose of maintaining control. For these types of relationships to be successful, communication, boundaries, and clear expectations are more vital than ever to keep things healthy and respectful between the partners. Coz, hypergamy actually plays a major role in the structure of society - not only in the past, but for the future as well. While some people view hypergamy as a smart and or necessary move, jesselyn, others think it could be hurtful to female empowerment. Mainly because it could convince some people their worth is only defined by who they marry. Hypergamy is something that will always be practiced in a culture where money and power are glorified. Marriage is also still somewhat of an exchange of values. A hypergamous person may value youth or beauty and social status, while also overlooking other factors of relationship compatibility if someone could help them elevate their financial or social situation. So jesselyn, this could be the idealist plus realist way: It's significant to reflect on our priorities. Hypergamy isn’t wrong, but I think it’s important for all daters to figure out what is truly important to them in a partnership, and figure out if money or power has value for them over other key qualities like romantic love in their ideal mate. As with most relationships, jesselyn, there are going to be tradeoffs with a hypergamous relationship, and only you can decide what's right for you. In order to make these types of relationships work, it's best to be honest about what you're looking for. The act of marrying someone for financial stability often works best when each person is aware and agrees on their involvement. Whether we're after a royal or simply true love, the experts agree: The key to a solid coupling is communication. And the best of combinations is choosing one who prospers and whom you love too. But you prefer money to love don't you, jesselyn? As winners are usually more idealistic than those who've lost and become more realistic, jesselyn has a quite tough endeavor to embark on. DILEMMA IN POLITICS Imagine for a moment that you’re the president of Indonesia, jesselyn. One morning, you receive troubling news of government oppression in a foreign country. This country happens to be a close Indonesia's economic and security partner. How does jesselyn respond? Two advisors present jesselyn with options. One of them recommends that you punish the foreign government. This advisor argues that we should prioritize supporting those who are fighting for human rights and freedom around the world. The other encourages jesselyn not to intervene. This advisor argues that preserving your relationship with the foreign government, which encompasses billions of dollars in trade and a security partnership that has yielded regional stability for years, is more important. Jesselyn, those options reflect two schools of thought practiced in foreign policy as well: idealism and realism. Idealism contends that a country’s foreign policy should reflect its internal values. If a government attempts to reduce poverty, defend human rights, or promote religious freedom at home because it believes those positions to be just or moral, then it should strive to do the same abroad. To idealists, that would lead to a more peaceful world in the long term. Idealists believe in actively participating in global affairs to share the values they hold dear and shaping countries to reflect those values. That approach can entail cooperating with others or acting solo to address what idealists see as the world’s greatest problems. Idealists can spread their beliefs around the world forcefully, pressuring or even invading other countries. Realism, on the other hand, jesselyn, approaches foreign policy from the perspective of interests as opposed to values. This means realists focus less on another country’s domestic policy and more on its foreign policy. In practice, realists prioritize their core interests like security and prosperity in their relationships with foreign countries. Realists tend to focus less on what those governments do within their borders. Realists don’t necessarily deny the importance of human rights or democratic governance. Rather, they just believe that the way to achieve peace and prosperity is by influencing how other countries interact with the world, instead of trying to change those countries’ internal affairs. Rather than focusing on every humanitarian crisis, jesselyn, realists build power and influence to mold the world in their vision. Realist ends are achieved by forming strong alliances, developing military capabilities, or weakening rivals. Realists believe sharing one’s values abroad often has unintended consequences that can destabilize countries and regions. They think country that demands moral perfection in its foreign policy will achieve neither perfection nor security. Doesn't jesselyn see that it's like whether or not we gotta confront a person we think is a troublemaker? Neither approach is inherently right or wrong. Some administrations trend more toward idealism. Meanwhile, others lean more toward realism. All foreign policy combines elements of both realism and idealism; the real debate, jesselyn, is over the degree to which a country emphasizes each approach. A LEADER WITHIN Jesselyn, there was a conversation about the pros and cons of a leader who is idealistic. A lot of people were advocates of the idealistic approach. “You want a leader who can lead you into challenging situations,” someone said. “I would love to follow a leader who is an idealist because I would know they are feeling optimistic about the future,” another person said. These people had a point, but sometimes idealists can let their feet float off of the ground. They can lose their heads a little bit and can lose touch with what is actually going on in the present. Much like the commander who orders thousands of men to charge a line of cannons, these leaders can evolve in one’s vision from an idealist to an inept leader, a leader who is out of touch with what needs to be done and what can be done. A spoonful of realism can be a good thing, jesselyn, for real. An idealistic leader believes the sky is the limit in terms of goals. If we ever reach that goal, we can most certainly experience a state of euphoria. However, the chances of reaching that goal are slim, just because the goals may not be entirely realistic. How does this weigh on the people we are leading if we are that idealistic leader, jesselyn? Their morale sank, rite? They had not done what they had set out to do and in fact, had suffered great losses in their attempt to make the impossible possible. Satisfying the dreams of an idealistic leader can be perpetually disappointing, and satisfying the dreams of a realist may be more regularly fulfilling. Is this tenet absolutely true, jesselyn? Developing Balance On A Tightrope Jesselyn may have heard of the concept of "idealistic dream vs realistic possibility", which is when leaders strive to find a balance between ambitious, visionary goals and attainable objectives based on practical considerations and constraints. Achieving ambitious, visionary goals is a key part of any leader's journey toward success, and striking the right balance between what is achievable and what is ideal can be seriously difficult. Idealistic dreams are often rooted in ambition and vision - they usually involve taking risks, reaching for the stars, and creating something that doesn't yet exist. Jesselyn, they may include things like launching a new product or service, expanding into new markets, or designing innovative solutions to challenging problems. Striking a balance between these ambitious long-term goals and realistic short-term ones requires skillful leadership. Jesselyn, I read that leaders must build trust with their team so they can have honest conversations about expectations and limits. They need to identify resources needed to accomplish their goals without overextending themselves or their teams. And it's important to set milestones along the way to gauge progress and make sure everyone remains focused on the end goal in sight. ✅

3. 🎎🎊 Now jesselyn, when you come into their lives and they see you taking an idealistic stance, they have two choices. Either they eliminate your idealism and drag you down to their own state, then they will be able to live comfortably with themselves for a few days longer. Or, they must face what they did to themselves and undo it. The second choice is very difficult and painful, and most won’t pick that, at least initially. But if you remain idealistic, if you don’t allow your flame to be dampened, then you will find that you will start to light their flames again. And gradually you will find people standing with you, following you, and if you are lucky, going ahead of you. The only condition is that you don’t give up. Else jesselyn, we give up one method and find another approach, over and over again, until we succeed. Our ideal ways aren't necessarily the best ways, primarily if they involve a multitude of other people. There are always lots of routes to Rome - and Paris, conceivably, too. IDEALISTIC AND REALISTIC LOVERS When one mentions that "You can't eat love and we'd have to buy milk!" he or she is a realist. But jesselyn, if one declares that "Love conquers all!" he or she is undoubtedly an idealist. Is it a true notion that men are idealistic in their love pretending to be realists, and women are the realists pretending to be idealists? Women are more picky, rite jesselyn? This is evident, and biologically sound - female mammals invest more in the creation and carrying of offspring, and it obviously pays for them to be picky (“realistic”) about what is a good mate before signing up for that. The myth is that women are hopelessly romantic and carried away to the extent they aren’t realistic or selective about potential male partners. We can challenge anyone to see if that’s the case with any woman planning to settle down with a man properly. I guarantee she's watching every move and evaluating his suitability to provide the needful, and not just once, but continuously. Men on the other hand, jesselyn, are often far more idealistic about women and far less picky as well, at least in modern times. In fact there may be more men fall into traps than women, simply because they did not evaluate the qualities of their potential mate the same way women do, or possibly because they believed certain societal ideas about women that aren’t necessarily based in fact. Both sexes do evaluate each other, but what a man is typically after is visually evident to start with, while what a woman is typically after has to be visually/physically evident as well as continually provided. Nowadays couples tend to have highly idealistic expectations about marriage. Does that sound contradictory, jesselyn? After all, idealism is romantic, and you need romance for a superb marriage. If marriage isn’t just a partnership, but a meeting of souls, then something must be deeply wrong when you have petty disagreements in everyday reality. Researchers observed that while there are myriad ways people talk about love, two familiar ways of framing relationships - the “other half/soul mate” approach and the “our love is a journey, look how far we’ve come” approach - both contribute hugely to the manner people view conflict in their relationships, but in nearly opposite ways. For people with we’re-on-a-journey view of their partners, jesselyn, everyday relationship struggles are just hurdles along the way. But for “soul mates,” conflicts are more difficult to deal with - after all, if two people are truly “made for each other,” why would they face any conflict in the first place? The relationship between building owners and their contractor often resembles an overly idealistic marriage that starts off well and flounders in the face of reality. The inevitable construction delays cause frustration. Unanticipated problems always crop up. And most important, jesselyn, the real product usually falls short of that idealized, perfect vision with which the building owners began. In a different case, a conflict escalated over several years when the "honeymoon" stage settled into a more realistic partnership. For an illustration, a woman named, say, Jenny, a self-proclaimed romantic, felt her husband didn’t love her anymore and wanted counseling to end the marriage. Jenny’s romantic ideals meant that love always had to be expressed in elaborate ways. Homemade cards with hand-written poems, special baked treats, candles, flowers, music - this was how she believed soul mates express their love. Because her husband Dave could barely remember to buy a Hallmark card, she felt unloved. In truth jesselyn, Dave did plenty of other things to show Jenny that he loved her. He performed a plethora of unpleasant household chores that he knew Jenny hated, like taking out the compost. He cut back on gaming to spend more time with her. He left her the last cookie. Jenny came to see this, and was also able to admit that she idealized big romantic gestures so that she could brag to her girlfriends about him. When Jenny stopped demanding Dave fit her ideals and make her look good, and started appreciating Dave on his own terms, the marriage got better - and, since Dave felt more loved and appreciated, he was able to start correcting some flaws he did have. “He’s my teammate, not my soul mate,” said Jenny, finally. If relationships were small kitchen appliances, jesselyn, then we are idealistically being told that we need the Instant Pot, something that does it all for our cooking needs. But our instant pot can’t blend a morning smoothie, so can we have that too? What if we don’t want the Instant Pot at all or what if we just want a plain 1-function pot instead? Another way to realistically express that, is: Am I able to by myself proactively fulfill my own needs outside of my romantic relationship? The Hideaway of Numerous Women Hypergamy is a social science term that describes when a woman dates or marries someone of a higher social status than herself. It can also refer to marrying into a higher caste or social group, or someone with more money or education, also known as "marrying up" or "dating up". Hypergamy is basically a patriarchal constructed form of partnership from a time when women had very little education, weren't able to work, and needed their partner for survival. Marriage was mostly about survival and protection. Marriage for love is a new concept in history, jesselyn. Back in the days of women not being allowed to vote, own property, or secure assets without a husband, hypergamy was one of the only ways to get ahead. Fictionally, characters such as Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty practiced hypergamy as well. K-Dramas also often exhibit such storylines, though QoT opts for the opposite. As the cost of living continues to go up and the view of lavish lifestyles permeates social media, TV, and magazines, people will continue to strive to be upwardly-mobile. And jesselyn, one of the easiest ways to do this is by marrying into money and status. That's why we can also observe that hypergamous people, including those who are attached to a sugar daddy or mommy, are obviously realists, whereas others who can accept a relationship "from zero" together by the name of love are clearly idealists. While blatantly hypergamous people are sometimes referred to as "gold diggers", the truth is, the concept of actively seeking a powerful and secure partner is kind of ingrained in our genetic makeup. Many people state that hypergamy is not a choice, but evolutionary - consciously or unconsciously. But jesselyn, before you feel like hypergamy is a given, know that it isn't something you have to buy into, even if it's somewhat predisposition for us. So while it's not wrong, that doesn't necessarily mean it's right for everyone. It all comes down to doing what's right for you, ethically and emotionally. Seeking a partner for the sole purpose of financial and or social gain can become an adverse process that involves manipulation and deceit. In addition to there potentially being an uneven power dynamic in a hypergamous relationship, things like a lack of intimacy or understanding could also come into play. Since the person practicing hypogamy (the one in the partnership who's "marrying down") might feel like they have the ultimate control in the relationship, jesselyn, it can lead to an unhealthy and unequal distribution of weight in the partnership. 🙅🏻‍♀️⚖️

2. 📈📱 So what can we do right now? Well, knowing is half the battle and taking action is the other half. Where are we in the Idealist-Realist Paradox? And how can we make a change to embrace our ideals? • Looking at our life as it is today, take stock of how we are already living and working towards our ideals. • Wherever we are right now, and beginning with small steps, make adjustments that will bring us closer to our ideals. • Commit to supporting others - friends, family, colleagues - on their path toward building a life around their ideals. Be open, be honest, be respectful, and be encouraging. They said ideals are useless when it’s time to "be real". But jesselyn, I personally believe quite the opposite. Ideals are crucial when it’s time to be real. For it's our ideals, our aspirations, and our dreams that shape our reality. They animate and breathe life into the reality that we build for ourselves and others. I don’t choose between idealist and realist. I am now both. Which does jesselyn choose? In the following moment, we're gonna perceive these double sides of the life coin in several spheres. WHOM DO WE WANT OUR CHILDREN TO BE? Jesselyn, I remember how my parents used to tell me that I could be whatever I put my mind into when I was young. They were very supportive of all of my activities. But, as time passed by and I got closer to choosing a college and career, I noticed a change in how my parents reacted to my achievements. They wanted me to plan out my future and think it through, to be more realistic and stop pursuing my deepest dreams. Now that I look back on my childhood, I am grateful to my parents for bringing me up with both idealistic and realistic career goals. Therefore the question arises. Should we be realistic with children to help them grow and become successful? Ideals can be used as a motivating power to help children learn and take action. We can agree that idealism is important during the growth of a child to help them become innovative. It is needed during education to help children stand out from the rest and become unique. At the same time, jesselyn, if a person is too idealistic, he or she becomes unrealistic and tries to accomplish impossible standards. As long as we can maintain a balance between idealism and realism, we can help children to become successful in their career. Considering that children need to start making important decisions about their career by the end of high school and the beginning of college, schools and parents ought to start encouraging children to become more realistic around this phase to help them put realistic standards on their ambitions. Without ideals, we won't have ambition or growth but without being realistic, we won't be able to bring our ideas to reality. In a nutshell, jesselyn, schools and parents would better encourage youth to be more realistic about their career goals but only after a certain age to make students most probably successful. OUR ERA'S CAREER OUTLOOK The First Choice: Meaning first and Money Later My own path jesselyn, is I followed the conventional route after school, university, corporate job - and then I quit to try to find my way back towards some larger meaning. But what if I had started off with that meaning, or passion since schooltimes, instead? What if I had gone into education first? Or what if I had got a job in the UN or an NGO? Would everything have been going alright? A common assumption when it comes to following our heart or our passion is that we will earn less money and on top of that there will be a higher risk associated with that path. The truth is, though, that you can fail at something you don’t enjoy as well - so surely it’s better to risk failure at something that is really meaningful to you? Those who tell themselves that they will pursue more meaningful work “later”, jesselyn, may also be swaying themselves. They could be working late into the night to earn those high salaries and may find that they burn out so that they're forced to make a change. At worst, they’ll never get round to that passion project at all, as the doors to those childhood dreams have been closed simply by the passage of time. I sometimes refer to the top regrets of the dying, and one of them is: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” The Second Choice: Money First and Meaning later The old me jesselyn, would have tended to believe all the statements in this area, that we should pursue a sensible career that will give us skills and experience that we can later use to do what we really love. In the last few years, I’ve been rejecting that idea and questioning all the assumptions on which it’s based. Currently, I may well begin to see some wisdom in the argument again! The key benefit I see in following the more traditional career path is that it builds your career capital, which will then pay dividend later in your career. This includes skills, training, experience, as well as your network and even savings in your bank account. Continuing your studies at prestigious universities and going for jobs with a formidable reputation such as management consulting - all these choices do certainly give you an accelerated launch onto the career stage. The corporate sector will give you faster advancement, they have more money to invest in capability building, and they are likely to be a great selling point on the CV. Jesselyn, there's a book by Cal Newport titled So Good They Can’t Ignore You, in which the author argues in favour of this idea of first building your career capital - in whatever area - as “Skills trump passion in the quest for work you love”. I think this route can in any case be a good way forward if we really don’t know what our passion is or our calling or whatever we want to call it, or if we are 100% sure that it won’t make us any money. If we can’t afford to follow our passion as we have debts to pay off, a young family to look after, etc then postponing such a move to a better timing may be wise. Economy and security first. Consider the bottom of Maslow’s pyramid, jesselyn: You need food and shelter before you can get on with self-actualization. Just make sure we don’t put it off indefinitely as there will never be a perfect time. The Detriment of Idealism in Career Many of us have heard of employee burnout, which is when an aspiring employee brimming with energy and enthusiasm seems to lose all of his or her vigor after a few months of working. The employee becomes mentally exhausted and loses the passion to work as effectively as before. This could be caused by many reasons, jesselyn, but personal characteristics that quicken an employee to burnout include idealistic expectations and idealistic career goals. Simply having an unrealistic or unattainable expectation for the organization and for oneself can cause a reality shock when the employee comes face to face with his or her capabilities. The fact that they couldn't achieve their ideal can sometimes jolt employees to evaluate themselves and leave a feeling of low personal accomplishment. If all employees were more realistic in their approach, jesselyn, even if they don't start out with the same amount of motivation as another idealistic employee, they would end up working much longer. As ever, I’d argue there's no single right answer for choosing between being an idealist or a realist. For me jesselyn, the crucial point is that whatever decision we make we must effortfully make it ourselves - without being heavily influenced by the expectations, fears, and preferences of other people - and make it with intention. Whatever we do, do it with intent! It’s also not as black and white as we tend to make it in our decision making; even if we choose not to go for our big passion as a career straight out of university, at least for the time being, we can still consider how we might find an outlet for that passion as a side hustle. Yet jesselyn seems to have been being guided by a career cupid; jesselyn went straight to jesselyn's both idealistic and realistic jobs that are lucrative from the beginning - and for this, I feel delighted as well. People Who Follow Realism Without True Intent So jesselyn, why do people fight you when you are idealistic? Why do they try to tell you that you are wrong and try to take you off your idealistic stand? It's because when they look into your eyes, they see themselves as they were, one day, yesterday. That might frighten them, because in the reflection they see what they did to themselves along the way. 💖🔥

1. 🍎🍏 Hey hello cheery jesselyn, you appear to have been focusing on recipe reels and overseeing your novel and grand "big baby" in the past two weeks. 😃💫 After some yummy-looking savory dishes using eggs as the versatile ingredient, jesselyn also experimented with a new fresh pov of recording from the top while preparing the signature tamago sandwich 🥪🍳, then astoundingly engaging in baking again with that candidly mouthwatering brazilian cheese bread. 🧁🧀 Considerably, Sanuk still preserves and endlessly attracts countless foodies up till the present. 😉🍜 I guess Bless became a temporary mouse coz her fluffy tummy has begun to feel hungry due to jesselyn's ever-increasing and automatic chef's radiant aura! 😅🌟 Keep on going forward and up, our diligent jesselyn whom many people and I heartfeltly admire. 😄🏅 You never entirely know if your diverse artworks have contributed to people's multiple life aspects positively. 🤍 And you definitely did. That being so, let me share the insights that I partially got from jesselyn's palatable wisdom. 🤗🧅 IDEALISTS AND REALISTS To begin with, jesselyn, let's define what we mean by being idealistic and realistic. Realistic stands for having or showing a practical awareness of things as they are, i.e. to look at the facts. Meanwhile, idealistic stands for valuing principles above practical behavior. Ideals are imagined excellences that are so desirable that people will try to actualize them. Namely, ideals are qualities that are so desired that people who imagine these ideals want to make it realistic. While realism looks at facts as it is, idealistic people strives to change these facts and make them better. Yet jesselyn, there's a saying that "Ideals are so useless when it’s time to be real." This Idealist-Realist Paradox lives at the core of who we are, how we define ourselves, and is one reason why we feel so unsatisfied. Realists are typically considered having bigger chances in achieving their life purposes, as they're flexible and under no excessive burdens on the way to their dreams. They realize that if they fail in using one strategy, then they can easily adapt to another strategy as long as it helps them be one step closer to their goals. Meanwhile jesselyn, idealists find it hard to compromise with another method that's not aligned with their principles, since perhaps the method is incongruent with their ideal concept. Next, the proponents of realism assert that realists won't shoulder something above their capacity. It's unlike the idealists who have many desires that trap them into conditions they create by themselves for the sake of living their dreams, which are actually beyond their capability. Thus by behaving realistically, realists claim that we will know our limits so that we won't force ourselves to do things we can't do. Realists, jesselyn, will prefer a few things that can be worked on maximally to taking everything yet being unable to run them well. Since a long time ago, inconsistency between idealism and realism pervades and persists. We need to be realistic and exist in the real world, to feed, shelter, and clothe ourselves, to be independent enough to sustain ourselves and not rely on others to do these things for us. Coz ultimately, jesselyn, only you are responsible to obtain the necessities that help you survive a human life in the 21st century. Playing the game of life has been the bane of every human’s existence through the millennia. Each individual struggles to find a balance between the banality of life and the quest for greater meaning. Whether you try to deny, numb, or distract your way through your own life insisting that everything is okay, the truth is that this life can be ugly, treacherous, and messy - leaving no person unscathed. But, and that’s a firmly stated BUT, jesselyn, the survival requirement is not mutually exclusive of our dreams. Is our purpose in life to merely survive, and then die? That's why jesselyn, the nature of idealism and realism are truthfully akin to Yin and Yang. ☯️ We internalized the message that our ideals and dreams were fantasies that should remain exactly where they were created - in our minds. The cruel reality of this present world is that it often doesn’t want us to explore our dreams or try to create our own reality. The way to function successfully was made largely clear to us - set your ideals aside, and just be real. What is "being real", jesselyn may think? Being real means doing what everyone else does. Taking your seat on the car and going along for the "real, normal, and expected" ride. Get a job, work hard, then get a job with more pay, buy a house, have kids, save your money, mow your lawn, go on vacations, get a dog, and so forth. Don’t ask questions, just do it. It’s all you can do. It’s the only way it will work. In other words, “Be like everybody else, and if those pesky ideals pop up, dismiss them. Or maybe make them a hobby - collect figures of sea animals instead of being a marine biologist, or donate money to a charity that does the work to save your ideal landscape instead of doing the work yourself. The Idealist-Realalist Paradox is not lost on me, jesselyn. Notice: Aren’t these instructions for "being real" just a roadmap for chasing someone else’s ideals? Isn’t this concept of normal just someone else’s dream? The dream of your family, community, teachers, faith system, and culture - imposed upon us from birth? In this collision between idealism and realism, ideals are actually essential to our progress towards self-realization. Ideals inform our core values, shape our world and our worldview. It is from this imagined, idealistic image, jesselyn, that we build a world around us that we want to live and thrive in. Abandon your ideals and you let others shape your reality: • If we all just accepted the status quo there would never be change in the world. • If we never sought out our ideals we would just keep living in the construct of a world that once worked for some group of people before us, but that no longer serves us. • If we don’t value our ideals we give up our connection to our dreams, our visions for the future, and our goals. • If we don’t fight to bring our ideals to life we forsake our truest Selves, our Essence, and the love and life that we have envisaged for ourselves. Yes jesselyn, our major religions exist for exactly that reason - to realistically inspire us towards high ideals and altruistic goals. They're the successful creations of idealistic prophets. However, still not everyone of us regard them as relevant to the reality in modern society. I don’t mean to imply that this is about who is correct, who is wrong, and the inconsistent messages we receive as young people, jesselyn. It’s about us and what we think, what we believe, and what we know to be true in our own hearts for our lives' trajectory. ✈️🗻

musiknya.....

Selain makanan berkuah,ad tidak makanan rice bowl citarasa Thailand disanuk

Ngomong2 disanuk menu Thailand foodny semuanya berkuah ya,, ngomong2 ad tidak menu rice bowl citarasa ala Thai disana,,?

Valerie paling jago masak di MCI9, kalo anak dia gak sakit, semestinya dia juara.

Kurang kscang goreng yg diremeuk..

Trs ngapa lu beli yg berbumbu kalo akhirnya lu cuci? Heran.

Sehat2 a nyonya . Semoga di lancar kan segala lalangkah a. Dan d mudahkan rejeki a . Saya teringat . Dulu saya 2 tahun kerja d Miramar saya dulu d bagian gorengan.

Hi jesselyn, as always, you've been looking so bubbly & energetically productive lately. 😊✨ As Sanuk is running very well & your seemingly upcoming next restaurateur badge on your chest is in progress, jesselyn, you also keep exerting effort to make sure that your recipe reels stay wonderfully creative 🎨 - from the Disney-movie-inspired pillow cake, healthy steamed pear you devotedly served to your then unwell dad, to pepper-lunch-style rice that I personally think amazingly appears ez pz to cook on our own. 😄 Jesselyn also confidently made two KZfaq vlogs about Sanuk that enlightens us folks about its origin & how to enjoy its famous noodle dishes, plus joyfully tried unexpected entertainment & hospitality in the form of surprisingly cheap fine dining by Sasa at PRJ. 😁 Also, there was a festive event dubbed Midnight in Bangkok at Aroy'a that featured Sanuk & its more exquisite Thai sibling at Alsut, where you tested your flair as a first time cocktail-mixing bartender, funly & playfully. 😃 Therefore jesselyn, in essence, I'm truly happy to see all that. Because now I can be assured, that even if from now on I seldom fetch you a message, jesselyn is still our good 'ol jesselyn. ☺️🤍 Let this be. & jesselyn, I'd like to express, that you must never entertain any thoughts that I don't like you, or I don't respect you, let alone I feel contempt for you. Since jesselyn, you did no mistakes to me, & actually I'm the one who seriously did to you. I guess I already said more than two sorries to jesselyn, yet allow me to heartily apologize once more. 🙏🙏🙏 Remember jesselyn, you owe neither guilt nor regret to me, & I highly hope you fully realize that. I never hate you, jesselyn. I never ever hate you, period. Please don't forget this. & even though I've decided to contact you less, I still admire you like all your fans earnestly do. Your kindness, your capability, your likability, your charisma. 🌟 Thereby in this moment, jesselyn, I want to remind you too. Jesselyn is successful & famous, & it makes jesselyn straight away lovable & praiseworthy to most folks. At the same time, however good, kind, & gorgeous we are, jesselyn, isn't it a curious thing that there will always be those who disdain or scorn us? 😗 Usually, through their mean words. Here's exactly where jesselyn ought to be careful & preserve self-control, while guarding jesselyn's own mind. 🛡️ Primarily jesselyn, when you feel that you've done your best & committed no wrong deeds. Why? 🤨 The reason, is due to jesselyn probably having felt attached to compliments & high regards from lots of people. Thus, when there's only one or two flies on the top of a big bowl of fresh cherries, jesselyn might focus heavily on the flies, ruminating, until finally those creatures possibly transform into a big insurmountable problem on jesselyn's mind. 😥 A fact we can remind ourselves as well, jesselyn, is that our personality traits that make many people like us can also be the cause that stirs different people to dislike us. Maybe it can just be claimed, that a tenderhearted leader has a great deal of lovers but also a little dose of haters. 🧂 So aside from power, jesselyn, we all should be alert of abundant positive comments from others, as it could sway us towards weaker vigilance whenever a few negative remarks arise from nowhere & suddenly pull the rug. 😤 Bear in mind jesselyn, in the end it's our affirming self-talk & the pictures inside our mind that shape us, not other people's words. Bad words may get us to feel sad & vexed, but don't permit them to bring us down or even clutch a grudge to the messenger. The most helpful thing we could do when someone insults us, jesselyn, is keeping on to do our work & focus outward to benefit our circle of influence. Agree gurl? 😙 & I believe, jesselyn has wholly learned, that we should mainly pay heed to our family & closest friends, who sincerely value our interests & happiness, the ones whom we can safely turn to & resort to. 💖 Hence to finish this letter for jesselyn, I'ma wish that health, success, happiness, harmony, & companionship at all times stay with jesselyn. 🙌 Jer gan, juragan 🙇

Terigu 60 gram berapa sendok?

jesslyn

Wah mntp ni Kwan Hadir mnyimk dn berkunjung Kwan trimksh SDH berbagi selmt berkarya sukses sllu Kwan

Cobain ahh

krennn ka jess👍❤️

ladyboss🔥🔥

I hope i can taste Jesselyn's thai boat noodles too 🥺🥺

How to eat? Kalo gw, pesan empat mangkok terus cemplungin ke dalam satu mangkok biar jadi satu porsi penuh orang Indonesia; dan makan deh. Mengingat varian rasanya enggak terlalu jauh beda, jadi cocok2 aja beberapa varian dicampur jadi satu mangkok.

Good luck dan semoga bertahan terus untuk jangka panjang. Gw pernah coba sekali. Kesan gw sih memang enak tapi rasanya cenderung bland alias gitu2 aja walaupun ada tiga varian rasa dan dibedakan kuah + kering. Makanya kalau makan enggak abis, sistemnya langsung dicampur semua di dalam satu plastik kan? Ini juga penyebab gw gak terlalu minat balik lagi karena varian menu enggak banyak termasuk side dish. Lu datang sekali uda bisa pesan semua yang ada di menu mereka. Harga juga cukup pricey untuk porsi sekecil begitu; dan waktu buat order-nya lama banget. Terus aturannya rada rigid. Kalo restoran belum buka semua harus nunggu di luar walaupun cuma beda beberapa belas menit. Kenapa enggak dikasih duduk sambil nunggu buka dan beneran mulai service sih? Kan sistemnya first come first serve juga. Sekarang sistem antriannya uda ok, awal-awal kacau karena gw datang paling awal malah dicatat paling akhir sama pelayan semua. Ujian sesungguhnya dari Sanuk adalah setelah hype review dan influencer meredup. Apakah bisa dengan porsi kecil seperti itu bertahan lama dan apa antrian panjang selama ini genuine karena makanannya enak atau karena artifisial gara-gara kapasitas meja enggak banyak dan penyajian makanannya juga rada lama ditambah booster dari influencer (pas gw datang aja ada influencer lagi syuting). Di PIK itu orang cepat bosan dan restoran silih berganti cukup cepat.