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@kevin2400
@kevin2400 4 күн бұрын
I'm on the edge of quitting my job due to micromanaging...its a good union job but I'm on my way out...my work partner doesn't work at all.. while I'm doing all the work .... i don't know what to do
@mnz6324ify
@mnz6324ify 5 күн бұрын
I had just left my most recent job last Friday because my former boss is a Micro-manager. I will give a few instances their was a generator test that was being conducted on a different location and my manager was not following the rules that he himself implemented. At the same he had task a different team to request training to how to operate the HVAC Systems in the data Center in case of emergency. At 8:15 am i get a call from the team lead that she has a team member who happens to work overnight was standing by to request training for the HVAC systems. few moments later my boss calls me that he wants a last minute maintenance ticket for a generator test. So knowing that the maintenance will take time because in the IT world you have to explain the procedures, you have to explain the emergency back out procedures, you have to explain why you are conducting the procedures. Those takes tremendous amount time, so i proceeded to finish the easiest route was to train the team member because it only takes less than ten minutes and he has been there for over 8 hours and i do not want to hold him up even longer of course for his safety. By 8:40 I had completed both task. Despite that i had completed both task he got angry that why i did not follow how i suppose to proceed where he want that Maintenance ticket be submitted first then train that team member? That is one of the main reasons that i left because i have no creativity to perform any kind of task without him on the background trying to control every aspect of it. On the same week i was called in to inspect an HVAC unit after hours where me and the HVAC technician were investigating the mechanical issue and he wants us to call him every ten minutes to update him making it impossible for the technician to do his job. This call was 10 pm and my manager works from home in a different state. He wants us to work all night ???? No i told him Nope not me I quit i dont want to work for an incompetent and a micromanager .
@mnz6324ify
@mnz6324ify 5 күн бұрын
Many people who gets put into a management position is never train how to lead. I wish that their is a course that is offered to the work force like when i was in the MIlitary where we went to leadership training when we were climbing up in ranks. Many of this issues would have been avoided.
@SongofaBeach2012
@SongofaBeach2012 10 күн бұрын
Micromanagement is just a bullying tactic plain and simple and if it's coming from your boss the situation is untenable. Best to try and save if at all possible and find another job. This is why folks job hop so much these days. So tired of these toxic managers!
@andrusha77
@andrusha77 13 күн бұрын
4:36 freedon?? Otherwise, great video..
@chenh339
@chenh339 23 күн бұрын
I dont mind micromanaging, I dont like to be treated like a second class citizen and be discriminated against at work. Micromanaging is ok, but hostile work environment is not ok... Feeling inadequante every step of the way - stifling your confidence and undermining your work is not ok.
@karenpeatey6226
@karenpeatey6226 Ай бұрын
Micromanaging is a sign of a rookie new manager, who lost control of their team and now over compensating
@LuminousRaw
@LuminousRaw Ай бұрын
It is such a helpful video, thank you! It took me some time to recignize micromanagement in one of people I have a contract with, and it became apparent to me after I sensed this toxicity and saw the pattern. Your wisdom and knowledge validate my experience. I appreciate it.
@angatd
@angatd Ай бұрын
I really appreciate this framework, thank you for this great video.
@rikkiwilliams6069
@rikkiwilliams6069 Ай бұрын
This was a great video, but like you said, [the ones that need to hear it, won't.] Would love to send this to my previous manager at a job I just quit because of it. Thank you.
@layerll5968
@layerll5968 Ай бұрын
I love this video it's so well put .
@zuradietrich6146
@zuradietrich6146 2 ай бұрын
Shit advice. Compassion and empathy only trauma bonds an individual being abused. Micromanagement is bc the boss is mentally insecure
@clairebeane3455
@clairebeane3455 2 ай бұрын
All of this.
@KevinFrancis556
@KevinFrancis556 2 ай бұрын
Great work, thank you
@ShantiPiper.
@ShantiPiper. 2 ай бұрын
Love this. Very practical advice. Very helpful. Thank you.
@sugarandspice2136
@sugarandspice2136 2 ай бұрын
Sometimes it’s our customers that are micromanaging. It is so fucking frustrating.
@sssttt2211
@sssttt2211 2 ай бұрын
My boss in Qualcomm sandiego was highly micromanager. When bosses micromanager they silently communicate that they don't trust you that you will do your work or finish your work. They don't trust you enough , so there is need of micromanagement. They do it directly or via other people whom apparently they trust... It signals to you that you are failure in your boss's eyes.
@RedHybiscus
@RedHybiscus 2 ай бұрын
This is a lot of fluff and finally truth. You have to leave. The micromanager will nit pick you out of a job.
@clairebeane3455
@clairebeane3455 2 ай бұрын
Yep.
@kagome122885
@kagome122885 2 ай бұрын
This is one of the reasons I quit working for a cleaning contractor. I was contracted out to the UPS hub on the west side of Columbus from April 29, 2007 to August 31, 2022 and it was stressful. Things got worse in 2021, when my supervisor kept pestering me to speed things up. I am on the autism spectrum, and was VERY nit-picky about equipment maintenance
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for commenting. I hope you found a job where you're happier!
@carolinaelisabarrabia4337
@carolinaelisabarrabia4337 2 ай бұрын
I dont agree at ALL with this types of advise. Micromanaging Is a type of abuse, so no compassion, no empathy, DO NOT become a slave.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
It can definitely be seen as abuse, depending on the intent behind the micromanaging. Thank you for commenting!
@thetlc9
@thetlc9 3 ай бұрын
I have an extreme micromanager and have done all of these things, but she doesn’t want to change and get very defensive (cries, gets red in the face, etc) when even something minor comes up about her excessive control. The entire team is looking to find new jobs, it’s pathetic. You are right, micromanagers are the busiest people in the world because they are trying to do it ALL.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
It's unfortunate that they don't see that though. They are too deep to realize that one of the reasons they're so busy is because they are too hands on. 🤷‍♂️
@clairebeane3455
@clairebeane3455 2 ай бұрын
My micromanaging boss doesn’t do shit. But she does take credit for everything we do.
@karenpeatey6226
@karenpeatey6226 Ай бұрын
Also a sign of narcasistic
@JohnKing-yr7xn
@JohnKing-yr7xn 29 күн бұрын
Dude... That crying resonates. It's becoming entirely too normalized with female staff in corporate environments and doubly so in NPO circles to avoid accountability and end pertinent discussions. There's a term for it *Weaponized Tears*
@jaybigboi1979
@jaybigboi1979 3 ай бұрын
great thoughts, this really helped me think deeper into an issue I am having, thank you
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
I'm glad it was helpful and I hope the different perspective gives a possible path!
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
Sorry, not sure if my original reply stuck around... Im glad this helped! Another perspective certainly rarely hurts! Keep me posted!
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@youtubechannelgrowthexpert 3 ай бұрын
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@LesslyCarthan-rt1hq
@LesslyCarthan-rt1hq 3 ай бұрын
Before I hired anyone I asked have you ever played a sport? I then ask how do you wash your car? Why? In the customer service industry you have to develop a thick skin I played college ball 10 second shot clock, down by 1 on the free throw line I make both we win I mis both we lose and it's an sway game 30,000 fans booing you calling name's if you can handle that pressure you can handle irate customers. How do you wash your car if you leave the roof for last the top dirt will run back over the clean spots you just did that tells me you have weak coordination these things start at home before I invest 90 day's training I'm putting you on a 2 week's probation. That way you get a first check or first and last check. My current boss is running an outside business and getting paid salary and leaves the store to her pissed off over worked low paid and she's always bitchin at them like a pimp to his hoes.she tried that on me a 37 year veteran of customer service and ex franchise owner and GM for a decade her Ego has her believing she can pimp anybody. There's bigger pimp's than her the owner's the hr department and they look at one thing profit margin 4 months evaluation let's take a look at the sales report on your shift minus I cost.shes bad for business and one of us must go heads gotta roll
@dancingwiththedocs134
@dancingwiththedocs134 3 ай бұрын
These tips are not what I was expecting. Thank you! There is a lack of CECW in the workplace from either side (boss or employee). Listening to this, I see where I have been CECW-ing 😂 and where I need to adjust keep moving forward in that. I definitely need a conversation with him. I’m just worried he won’t understand my issues or he will belittle them.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
Curious, any update?
@edwardcasas2137
@edwardcasas2137 3 ай бұрын
5. get another job.😊 That is my bonus tip 😂
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
Yep! Sometimes you have to quit while you're ahead...or behind 🤣 It isn't always worth sticking around. Folks end up tolerating A LOT and it costs them their health etc. I see it often!
@chenh339
@chenh339 23 күн бұрын
Yep!!!!
@ChrisSmith-gt6lg
@ChrisSmith-gt6lg 3 ай бұрын
They get bored, and then they start to toil with things. Things they know nothing about. It distracts us from producing. Then they say our numbers are down. Yeah. No sht. I keep looking. Looking for a better boss. I'd take a $4/hr pay cut to find a job with a boss that isn't a complete waste of calories, oxygen, and space. I'm poor now. Let that sink in.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 2 ай бұрын
You aren't unique, sadly.
@user-wv7wr3mv8n
@user-wv7wr3mv8n 3 ай бұрын
😮
@mandlin4602
@mandlin4602 3 ай бұрын
What I do? Just make it seem I’m following all the bullshit and do my own thing anyway. It’s pure arrogance at its core. Egotistical and arrogant.
@karenpeatey6226
@karenpeatey6226 Ай бұрын
Love it
@SubjectE57
@SubjectE57 4 ай бұрын
Man, I hate when my energy starts shrinking. Then you get all self conscious about it and it shrinks even more, she tells you it's okay but it's not okay! It's never going to be okay!
@hansendesigns
@hansendesigns 4 ай бұрын
And this is why everyone needs to study how to build at least enough wealth to pay off all debt and have an emergency fund. Beholden to no one. Try Dave Ramsey. Everyone can do it (barring an inability to make any income).
@claymonfort3609
@claymonfort3609 4 ай бұрын
Wish I had the confidence to wear a dumb necklace like that
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 4 ай бұрын
Appreciate the feedback 🤣 It has some sentimental value to me that transcends your feedback and I appreciate you taking the time to comment 👍
@claymonfort3609
@claymonfort3609 4 ай бұрын
I’m just messing around anyway 👍🏻😂
@brettdavidson3866
@brettdavidson3866 4 ай бұрын
Micromanaging is usually the result of Incompetent leaders who were promoted to Jobs they didnt earn
@Sirie7206
@Sirie7206 4 ай бұрын
It’s interesting because my boss is a CEO and her micromanaging is getting worse every year. This year we got new board members and she’s not happy they’re micromanaging her. I just wish she would realize this is how she makes her staff feel.
@Bflo100
@Bflo100 4 ай бұрын
It’s crazy making.
@rashidamcpherson6953
@rashidamcpherson6953 5 ай бұрын
Wowwwww
@justme1269
@justme1269 5 ай бұрын
I know I'm being micromanaged. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I like the job and the company. I just don't like ONE PARTICULAR person who is the insecure controlling lead. She needs to lead herself to counselor sessions.
@MrLee-qh2dk
@MrLee-qh2dk 5 ай бұрын
I remain proactive with my leadership style, so I don't really have problems with micromanagers. I find my style is a good fit for micromanagers. An honest conversation and a solid gameplan moving forward should alleviate most of the micromanaging.
@kristinamullen4066
@kristinamullen4066 6 ай бұрын
I don't care why they micromanage.I have no respect for people who do this.
@jordanbrant6648
@jordanbrant6648 6 ай бұрын
I burst out laughing when he said “maybe you deserve it”😂😂😂
@nolanm911
@nolanm911 6 ай бұрын
god bless you man! Great video!
@jf8461
@jf8461 6 ай бұрын
I worked with a MAJOR micromanager before. We laugh about it now. But at the time, it was absolute heII!
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Curious, how'd you overcome it? What does the mincranafer say now? Love that you laugh about it now!
@jf8461
@jf8461 6 ай бұрын
@@DarylDBlack In my case, a number of us brought it to the attention of upper management, and eventually Human Resources (a municipality). But this had little to no effect. I was able to transfer to a different department, and that person eventually left for good.
@Viper4ever05
@Viper4ever05 6 ай бұрын
a micromanager completely destroyed my confidence right out of college and he did it behind a nice guy persona. Made me second-guess myself all the time to the point where I was afraid to take initiative. Reply
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Totally get it! Did you overcome that,.move to another area or ?
@Viper4ever05
@Viper4ever05 6 ай бұрын
@@DarylDBlack He ended up firing me. Having him over my shoulder watching me like a hawk only made me make more mistakes. My fault for staying as long as I did.
@weirdwolf888
@weirdwolf888 6 ай бұрын
Oh how I wish managers would watch this! I’d add in TRUST as a biggie - which maybe goes alongside autonomy or respect. But I certainly cannot trust a manager who only shows distrust in me.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Love your comment! How do you get trust as a leader? Show it FIRST. Love your perspective and I have a lot of content around trust!
@YankeeCountess
@YankeeCountess 6 ай бұрын
Six months ago we got a new boss. I meet with him once a week for a one-on-one meeting. I used to love these meetings, and in the beginning I felt I was creatively contributing ideas. But over the last few months, these meetings have felt more like a chore, and now I actually dread them because they always feel like performance reviews. And you're absolutely right about "sucking time"; he goes through phases where he wants to "declutter" areas (our staff lounge was a bit of a mess, but he had us all take time out during the week to clean the area out, which naturally took time away from what we needed to do). Also, he was fixated on my desk (which was on the smaller side) and I know the reason he was fixated on it was because it was cluttered. So he actually got a larger, wider desk for my office (he got it through a colleague who was moving away) and kept telling me I needed to clear my old desk out so this new one could take its place. But because it's larger than my old one, I had literally rearrange my bookshelves and and other office furniture to accommodate it, so again, massive time consumer.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Now that's interesting. Sometimes leaders exert control over seemingly irrelevant things as a way to gain control, maybe over others or from a self psychological perspective. Then at the end of the day they are tired, cranky and blame the team for them being so busy. Terrible cycle for all involved? Where are things now??
@Sirie7206
@Sirie7206 4 ай бұрын
@@DarylDBlackmy boss, a CEO, picks up our office mail, sorts it and distributes it, when it’s my colleague’s job. For our office move, she did it all. Wouldn’t let my colleague coordinate it. Then complained she had to do it all. It’s a toxic cycle.
@hyronharrison8127
@hyronharrison8127 6 ай бұрын
You forgot one big one! It's a huge waste of money - both immediately and overtime. Because you haven't delegated and allowed sufficient growth of your employee, you're effectively spending a manager AND an employee's time (money) on a *single task*
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
10000000%! The cost as you laid out is absolutely there. Then potential time off due to stress, physical illness etc etc. Thanks for the comment! Share it out, let's spread the word.
@SupaNova_1
@SupaNova_1 6 ай бұрын
Totally invaluable information!!! Thank you ❤
@valenmejia2135
@valenmejia2135 6 ай бұрын
I had a micromanager that used to "pre-design" any design I was tasked to do, and tell me that my job was "just making the jpgs into sharp lines, like you designers do". He managed every single second of my day.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Wow. Talk about finishing your skills, expertise and experience. How'd you overcome this???
@valenmejia2135
@valenmejia2135 6 ай бұрын
@@DarylDBlack He ended up having trouble with everyone else and now has been shifted into consultant status rather than a permanent position. I am still adjusting to a new boss that actually treats me as an adult.
@J1407b5
@J1407b5 6 ай бұрын
Hello, you did a speech at my hockey thing today do you remember me I was the guy who forgot what I was gonna say to our captain lol
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
LOL love it!!!
@mountainmidget1975
@mountainmidget1975 6 ай бұрын
I'm a new firefighter that fell into opportunities for quick moments through the ICS/NIMS trainings. I'm taking the Ops Section Chief this week and needed to gain the big picture but from a view that I can relate to. This video was beautiful put together. Your explanations along the way and revisiting of the org chart was perfect and kept my brain operating in a proper capacity due to feeling like I was informed and along for the ride. If I'm ever instructing I will use your technique of revisiting the expansion of the incident to keep students up to speed. The other big takeaway(since I'm on the Ops side), was that it was a smart move to make the initial IC the Ops Lead since they have the most info and have seen the expansion of the incident from the beginning. I agree and think this gives them many different metrics to make decision while conducting operations. Thanks again, I'm subscribed and will be looking into more of your content as I dive further. Keep it coming! Thanks so much from Cordova, Alaska!
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
Thanks for commenting and I'm SO glad it helped! Share and spread the word!!
@user-je6pn9pr3h
@user-je6pn9pr3h 7 ай бұрын
Micromanagement is necessary for new employees. They need to earn autonomy.
@DarylDBlack
@DarylDBlack 6 ай бұрын
I don't disagree. That's being directive and is appropriate, you're bang on. The trick is to ensure the hands on slows down rather than increases as the employee becomes more capable and competent. Thanks for commenting and share, let's spread the word!