My dad used to get upset with me if I noticed something that he missed on a job (he’s a contractor) or if I did a really impressive job on something and got a compliment from someone…etc…like I was trying to take his lime light or something…he’d mock me and make derogatory remarks like she thinks she’s some sort of engineer or something…ask her.. lol…acting out his narcissistic behavior…I finally decided to email him…my pov…since he can’t hear a damned word I say unless I whisper it to someone and it’s about him…lol…so I know it’s intentional ignoring me or disregarding me….i literally had to explain it to him that if I do a good job at something.,,I’m not competing with him….im mimicking him…because I want his approval…and if I do a good job, he should see that as a reflection of his work since that’s what I am doing …mimicking him…it’s a compliment to him when I get a compliment…he taught me everything I know…now…he can actually tell me I did a good job
@w8what5752 күн бұрын
My ability to have human emotions were taken away when I was a kid..,if I get upset or angry then it’s me being “psycho” without reacting in ways they do…I don’t beat the hell out of everything around me when I’m angry..I don’t scream horrible things like they do….i don’t take my siblings pictures to school and let my friends draw derogatory things all over their picture and then give it to them and when they appear to be shocked, point and laugh hysterically at them…..I’m angry…but I’m more disgusted that I came from this family of psychotic hateful demons
@w8what5752 күн бұрын
I don’t want any attention from anyone lol…if this is a bad thing…,idgaf…
@w8what5753 күн бұрын
I had a neighbor who was a borderline…I’d never dealt with someone who is a borderline before and was completely thrown for a loop when she flipped her script and started her lunacy…she had told me that there were only two therapists in the entire end of the state that will see someone diagnosed with npd, borderline, and one other type..I wasn’t as aware of these creatures then and thought it was odd that therapists and psychologists would reject them as patients because they were reaching out for help…why wouldn’t they want to help them? lol…I know…dumb question lol
@zehenkashmir3 күн бұрын
Thank you Dr Malkin. Often in dealing with narcissistic co-parents, "hope" seems like a forgotten word for a non-narcissistic parent. But your knowledge and the way you share this hope for them is like seeing light at the end of this dark tunnel of co-parenting wiht a narcissist. So appreciate your work, and this video. Ty.
@Elyshieva4 күн бұрын
Its strange, one thing I experience for years now on ky triggered/bad days is that when I feel triggered I feel like I want to go to the very corner of the room as I dont feel comfortable taking up space at all.
@edgreen81405 күн бұрын
Antisocial personality + narcissistic personality and maybe machievialian. Sadism envy ( perfectionism as a defense against envy). Exploitation of otbers, entitlement as a defense against feeling undeserving. A mess the higher the person is in these trait-will certainly have no room for interpersonal relations which they fear( vulnerability).
@Twinnzllc6 күн бұрын
Bro you don’t know what you’re talking about obviously. I mean you got some basic things right but alot wrong
@CraigMalkin6 күн бұрын
Everything I've said is 100% clinically and scientifically accurate. What is it you feel I've gotten wrong?
@Adam_Millns7 күн бұрын
Could you do a video on the relationship of validation within narcissists and echoists?
@markmiddlebrooks164110 күн бұрын
Excellent!
@user-uv1vx9xi4d13 күн бұрын
I know this person always talking about God they believe that they are hearing from God if they were hearing from God they would not be so mean and hateful God is love you know the tree by the fruit it produces i rather see a sermon than hear one sign Cynthia Smith i forgive them but trust is earned
@cartermusic202017 күн бұрын
Both are a painful experience. Protect yourself, loves.
@vmedina551518 күн бұрын
Can you make a video on npd mortification? Npd hibernation and npd schitzoid
@vmedina551518 күн бұрын
Repetition compulsion, from repetitive thoughts/behaviors, npd are perfect n do nothing wrong so they never learn.
@vmedina551518 күн бұрын
Emotionality = mimicry
@sandybeach107120 күн бұрын
You have never experienced a covert narcissist they is a different.
@CraigMalkin20 күн бұрын
@@sandybeach1071 I treat covert narcissists. You're probably confusing them with covert abusers or psychopaths. Most people grossly misuse psychological terms.
@tammyfitzgerald533627 күн бұрын
Absolutely why I am writing ✍️
@tammyfitzgerald533627 күн бұрын
lol they count cash all the time pay attention ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@savedbychrist50427 күн бұрын
How do I help my almost-adult son who most definitely shows NPD behaviors? He has always refused counseling/therapy. His father is also an “introverted narcissist” (undiagnosed, always refused therapy) so he sadly doesn’t help but enables my son’s behaviors. Is there anything I can do to help my son before these behaviors become solidified in his personality?
@finalchapter24kАй бұрын
Women are far more susceptible to dark triad traits then men. I wish you would have spent more time discussing how this effects how men change their behavior for sexual access.
@coenterhaar9183Ай бұрын
So true. All their tools of manipulation makes sense. I noticed all these techniques, before I realised what's going on. Before I realised that there are introverted narcissists all around me. Before I knew what narcisism was. Before I knew, that I wasn't the problem! I noticed that they're always right, they lie, they love bomb, they gas light, they don't show emotion, they don't say sorry, they gradually want to control every aspect of you, whether its finances, driving the car etc. They want to make the final decision on everything. They also withold all intimacy. The list is endless. Thank you for your video. Very helpful. Thank you.
@mikekaren2128Ай бұрын
Nice job, buddy! 😊❤ I liked how you brought up that narcissist do have occasional blocks of empathy. Our family was scammed by a couple of covert narcissists recently and we did not even see this coming. 😢When their mask slipped there was what felt like a demonic energy shift which is not a scientific explanation, really. 😮Is the Minnesota Multi-phasic Personality inventory still the best way to diagnose NPD?
@flowersofthefield340Ай бұрын
" ........Past behaviour is a good indicator of future behaviour...... " 🗂
@Michelle-mg7wzАй бұрын
🤯 So...I'm definitely an echo. And I in fact found the narcissist rabbithole...it's the WHY...after being so wildly mistreated it's like my brain needs to understand WHY.
@sleepysartorialistАй бұрын
Oh god. Oh god my score is above 30. 😭 I want to learn how to undo this. My mom is a raging narcissist. My dad and my brother and I all do this (pretty sure my paternal grandma is a narcissist too) AAAAGH I AM SO UNCOMFY
@user-uv1vx9xi4dАй бұрын
My sister told me not to take the bait I know not to argue back no one can make you do anything you don't want to do sometimes this person has gotten in my face they want me to fight them I chose not they talk to you with ugly words talking about me not showing them love I didn't know this person was mentally ill I see now I should not have let my guard down I forgive them but trust is earned past time for me and move on I bought them a couple of nice shirts they threw them in the floor they drink all day and smoke weed and cigarettes laying in bed all day now they have moved another homeless man in the house they feel entitled because they helped me when I was going through a divorce won't pay any bills want but groceries drives my car want put gas in it always asking me for money if I don't give them money they throw a temper tantrum turn TV off while I am watching it wow some wonderful life just joking I have to laugh to keep from crying welcome to my world another joke sign Cynthia Smith
@MM-wv7ysАй бұрын
there is no such thing as healthy narcissism.
@CraigMalkinАй бұрын
That's an opinion and one that's shared by many (mostly outside the field of psychology). It's not supported by research.
@MM-wv7ysАй бұрын
@@CraigMalkin jeez..actually the concept of "healthy narcissism" is still accepted only by few ones in clinical psychology and psychoanalyst circles...what do you mean supported by research? :D i think its enough to have a brain and see oxymoron in something called "healthy narcissism" ,,,and also, people who use "healthy narcissism" instead of words like self esteem,self awereness etc. are obviously nothing but apologetics for narcissism because they are immature narcs too
@CraigMalkinАй бұрын
@@MM-wv7ys False. Contrary to your unfounded claim, the concept is widely accepted in my field and always has been. Here's a large scale study including healthy (agentic) narcissism that was just published. www.researchgate.net/publication/379309116_Development_of_Narcissism_Across_the_Life_Span_A_Meta-Analytic_Review_of_Longitudinal_Studies Healthy narcissism isn't self-esteem or self-awareness or self-love or self-confidence. It's moderate self-enhance enhancement. Low narcissism scores are correlated with pathology (average scores aren't); thats' why we need to include the concept of healthy narcissism in theory and measurement. One of the most powerful instruments we have for measuring narcissism, the NARQ, includes the construct of healthy narcissism. psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Ft27810-000 In addition to the NARQ I cite a wealth of current research. What's so threatening about accepting that there can pathological and non pathological expressions of self-enhancement? It's interesting how quickly you go to insults. ("i think its enough to have a brain and see oxymoron in something called "healthy narcissism" ; "people who use "healthy narcissism" instead of words like self esteem,self awereness etc. are obviously nothing but apologetics for narcissism because they are immature narcs too" "The concept of "healthy narcissism" is still accepted only by few ones in clinical psychology and psychoanalyst circles" What is this statement even based on?
@MM-wv7ysАй бұрын
@@CraigMalkin that statement is based on reality and my surroundings, maybe in America situation is a lil bit different. Sorry, but that is not an insult, if we take the definition of narcissism ,healthy narcissism contradicts it, so yea, there is no such thing...just like there is no "healthy paranoia", "healthy sociopathy", "healthy addiction", etc. Self enchancement is a trademark of narcissism so by definition is bad and not healthy,its like saying good evil, just mumble overall...you cannot "measure" narcissism or anything else, all of those tests and instruments (like mmpi are outdated and just non valuable in any way
@CraigMalkinАй бұрын
@@MM-wv7ys I wasn't referring to your statement that there's no such thing when I asked what it's based on. I was referring your claim: "Again, what is this statement even based on? I also didn't find that insulting. I found your insults insulting. Anyone can see your statements here are objectively and needlessly insulting: "i think its enoughnd see oxymoron in something called "healthy narcissism" ; "" instead of words like self esteem,self awereness etc. are obviously nothing but apologetics for narcissism because theyI suppose it's possible you're not aware of how you come across. Your claim is simply this: there's no such thing as healthy narcissism because you define narcissism as purely pathological (psychology doesn't, apart from a few dissenters) and then claim it can't be healthy, which is tautological. Current consensus in the field is that there are 3 related factors in narcissism: agentic (healthy); neurotic (vulnerable); and antagonistic. This is also accepted by the leading narcissism experts in the world.
@Eyestohear753Ай бұрын
Yes. Yes Sir we are 😂
@CraigMalkinАй бұрын
No
@ilijanaana4617Ай бұрын
I wouldn't have been able to get rid of my HSV permanently without the use of herbs from Dr okosun here on you tube ❤❤
@leahcompton2522Ай бұрын
This is 100% me. Working on knowing my feelings and wants. It's a hard process. I have been describing it as the intended wife of the prince from the movie Coming To America..... Prince "what do you like to eat?" Her "whatever you like" Or the main character from Runaway Bride Conforming into whatever your significant other wants you to be. Because if they're happy, I'm happy. If they're depressed?, I'm depressed. I've done it for so many years. I have no clue as to what I feel about things.
@User-actSpacingАй бұрын
Terrible audio. Great information.
@user-kb1on7cu7eАй бұрын
One thing I can never find information on is how to cope with a neighbor who Seems to be a malignant narcissist and well versed in the grey area of the law. Terrorising the neighborhood and going after our adult children and friends. Police have spoken to him multiple times he was charged once for uttering threats breaches conditions of release continually. How do you make him stop???
@micali22Ай бұрын
wow my husband is narcissistic and he send this video in which he tells me to learn the differences which I would be the echoism and he the narcissist and he wants to make me feel that I am the narcissist and this started since I started saying no to him and my sister came to visit and I spent more time with her . and now he has caught her with her
@micali22Ай бұрын
My husband is narcissistic and he denied and he send same videos of you doctor about echoismo he said he is that not narcissistic. He alcoholic for so many year bud he cut that 23 year ago.
@ShariBurns-zz8eg2 ай бұрын
Narcissism is more than just an inflated sense of self though, it’s also low to no empathy. I think there are narcissists who do helpful and useful innovative things in the world, but they would make an unhealthy, maladaptive spouse.
@CraigMalkin2 ай бұрын
The core of narcissism is self-enhancement.. As It becomes more rigid and intense, iIt brings empathy impairments, exploitation, and entitlement. Moderate narcissism isn't characterized by low empathy. Narcissism and pathological narcissism are separate but related phenomena.
@katievictoriabrown2 ай бұрын
Yes, with regards to the end of your video and what you said about vulnerability and it being at odds with narcissism, I know that I can’t be one, because it’s so important for me to share my feelings and what’s on my mind and I like to hide my successes and stay humble. It’s almost like, I don’t want people to know what I do and my level of success, but if they appreciate my art, that means a lot to me and touches my heart. I’m in the art and design industry, but I don’t want to talk about that, because I favour humility, because that’s from the heart space and people who go on about themselves (like narcissists) are actually boring to be honest.
@katievictoriabrown2 ай бұрын
Basically, I feel like if I talk about myself and my success, I’m taking the humility out of my heart, and I don’t like that. Humility is peace and love and doesn’t need to prove anything or get anyones approval.
@katievictoriabrown2 ай бұрын
Craig has a good energy, I instantly feel relaxed when watching his videos 🙏🏼
@Rabswood2962 ай бұрын
Narcissists only see black and white. It's either all good or all bad. My childhood wasn't great but at the time it was what i thought was normal however i can remember good times and bad times with both parents and my brother.
@alexbrown22882 ай бұрын
Kind of a weird question, but what are the worst/most hated/least popular kind of personality disorders. Like what personality disorders normal people hate the most? Would be good to have them ranked. Or even what PDs cause the most damage/trauma/etc.
@machstem25362 ай бұрын
Bs they have no empathy
@Ofelia86482 ай бұрын
THIS IS HUMANITIESPERSONALITYS AND LOOK AT THE DIFFERENT TYPES AND YOU WILL FINDYOURSELFS I ask that you please DO NOT DENY IT. Overt narcissism: arrogant. Entitled, overbearing, having an exaggerated self-image, needing to be praised and admired, exploitative, competitive, lacking empathy Covert narcissism: expressions of low self-esteem, higher likelihood of experiencing anxiety, depression, and shame, introversion, insecurity or low confidence, defensiveness, avoidance, tendency to feel or play the victim Antagonistic narcissism: arrogance, the tendency to take advantage of others, tendency to compete with others, disagreeability or proneness to arguing Communal narcissism: become easily morally outraged, describe themselves as empathetic and generous, and react strongly to things they see as unfair Malignant narcissism: vindictiveness, sadism, or getting enjoyment from the pain of others, aggression when interacting with other people, paranoia, or heightened worry about potential threats Adaptive narcissism refers to aspects of narcissism that can actually be helpful, like high self-confidence, self-reliance, and the ability to celebrate yourself. Maladaptive narcissism is connected to traits that don’t serve you and can negatively impact how you relate to yourself and others. For example, entitlement, aggression, and the tendency to exploit others. People need to stop watching these videos, YOU ARE ME AND I AM YOU.
@CraigMalkin2 ай бұрын
Some of this uninvited lecture on narcissism is somewhat accurate. Some corrections follow: Antagonistic narcissism isn't a recognized trait or category because all extreme narcissism is antagonistic Malignant narcissism isn't technically narcissism at all because it's extreme elevation on all the dark tetrad traits. Communal narcissists aren't any more likely to become morally outraged than any other narcissism type.Nor are they more prone to seeing things as unfair. Adaptive narcissism is the heart of all narcissism: self- enhancement. It's healthy narcissism precisely because it's moderate. It's not a distinct type either. I'm the least pathologizing expert on narcissism on here. I'm not sure why you're suggesting otherwise.
@Ofelia86482 ай бұрын
Overt narcissism: arrogant. Entitled, overbearing, having an exaggerated self-image, needing to be praised and admired, exploitative, competitive, lacking empathy Covert narcissism: expressions of low self-esteem, higher likelihood of experiencing anxiety, depression, and shame, introversion, insecurity or low confidence, defensiveness, avoidance, tendency to feel or play the victim Antagonistic narcissism: arrogance, the tendency to take advantage of others, tendency to compete with others, disagreeability or proneness to arguing Communal narcissism: become easily morally outraged, describe themselves as empathetic and generous, and react strongly to things they see as unfair Malignant narcissism: vindictiveness, sadism, or getting enjoyment from the pain of others, aggression when interacting with other people, paranoia, or heightened worry about potential threats Adaptive narcissism refers to aspects of narcissism that can actually be helpful, like high self-confidence, self-reliance, and the ability to celebrate yourself. Maladaptive narcissism is connected to traits that don’t serve you and can negatively impact how you relate to yourself and others. For example, entitlement, aggression, and the tendency to take advantage of others. If you're a doctor shouldn't you be busy with taking care of people's health instead of doing KZfaq videos on cutting down YOU, ME, and all of HUMANITY.
@sheilahs1002 ай бұрын
Thanks for making it clear. My first time to learn about echoism. I scored really high. And I'm married to a narcissist.
@user-lz9wj4xs5j2 ай бұрын
Wow. Thank u for so generously sharing what u know! 👏💎👍
@user-lz9wj4xs5j2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much. Came over after I saw u on a Dr C video. Thanks for sharing your wealth of wisdom! 👍💎👏
@user-jm6ds5dz3t2 ай бұрын
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@annetallegrand56562 ай бұрын
This is needed, I scored 100% on the positive side of things, and 27 on the scale, and ZERO on the echoing thingy. I’m no echo, look at my last name! I’m GRAND LIKE MY DAD❤ I take up space! I lead, I love! I’m a golden but was chosen for my truth telling and emotionality. I love my parents! I freaking ADORE THEM💕 they told me “be better than us” “don’t forget who you are”
@tammyfitzgerald53362 ай бұрын
Forever chasing mommy it’s the devil 👿
@tammyfitzgerald53362 ай бұрын
They want us dead 💀 run plan the great escape ❤♌️🙏🙌
@tammyfitzgerald53362 ай бұрын
They change up one min perfect childhood and next they has worst 🙌🙏🙌🙏🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️♌️♌️♌️