It's great to hear that you resonate with the content! Finding a balance between work, fitness, and screen time can be a challenge.

It's common to struggle with finding a balance in how we approach tasks. Recognizing the pattern is a great step towards making positive changes.

It's addicting, isn't it?

That's funny.

It's tough when our minds play tricks on us like that. Remember to acknowledge all the fun times you've had with friends, even if your brain tries to convince you otherwise.

On a much deeper and neurotic level, it may come to the personality that YOU didn't do anything, because YOU were living life for others. Sure, you had tons of fun and brought the sunshine/spice of life to the party, bringing in that peaceful energy to boot, but what did YOU do personally for yourself? Did you... speak up where you were disappointed with something? Did you speak up for what you may have really wanted? Was anger ever allowed to be expressed? Did you really feel inside yourself, in the body, and connect to that energetic energy, etc. These types of questions may allude you to an answer that resonates more closely than I could ever do here by guessing. Also, speaking about being alone, 9's (generally) love the "alone" time; so if your brain doesn't feel like it was enough, I just encourage you to explore the 7 (ego-planning) with then chasing that constant high, and social time; to organize with friends. Unless you really resonate with the 9, then this may be in the defense (stress) point of 6, with the what-ifs, or perhaps the heart point at 3 with creating goals for yourself :D; regardless, you can see if being socially out there is coming from anxiety as an escape from yourself (like the tv) and living through others as more important (getting straight to the point here) or is it more goal-oriented with being seen by others and taking claim in the spotlight. Again - these are only suggestions as I don't know you, but from the words you've used this would be my initial inkling. Best of all endeavors in this journey my friend!

@@Tousicle I'm a social 9. (Counterype for the 9.) Also #1 Communication in the Clifton Strengths framework. I like having a comfortable, quiet home, but also need a lot of people-time and socializing.

Hey, thanks for the tips! I'll be sure to try out the meditation and breathing exercises you mentioned. Keep the wisdom coming!

@twlahue Can you guess my Enneagram Type sir? Clue : my mbti Type is infp. 👍

Thank you for watching so many of my Enneagram type 9 videos, your support means a lot!

That's the beauty of diving deep into the world of Enneagram! It offers insights and growth that can be truly captivating.

Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot!

When you find yourself cleaning your room instead of working on your assignment, you know the procrastination game is strong!

When I was in grad school, my dorm room never looked so clean as when I had term papers due! 🤣

Hahaha this is so true, guilty as charged!! 😆🙌 although, I justify it as having a clean and tidy environment to work in helps my brain 🧠....

I appreciate your engagement on my channel!

Awesome to hear that you liked the advice! Thanks for pinning it!

Honestly, I don't remember... Maybe, The Wisdom Of The Enneagram

As well as that much of my life I looked down on emotional people and when I was that way I wished very deeply that I could’ve removed that/undone that experience and correct myself and try harder to do better.

I have a question- why is it that I’ve imagined a partner for myself who is playful, explorative, and uninhibited (presumably type 7) as a voice in my head trying to tempt me but I consistently refuse it but feel very sad for doing so?

It's totally normal to struggle with acceptance. Remember, it's not about weakness, it's about understanding and growth.

It's tough when you feel misunderstood and restricted creatively. Remember to stay true to yourself and your vision.

I'm honored that you think my voice sounds like James Dobson's. Thank you for the compliment!

Your counselor's advice is priceless; it's so crucial to have these tools to navigate through tough times. Grateful for your sharing!

@@twlahue Glad you found it helpful! It was so counterintuitive at the time but life changing! To clarify for anyone really suffering and dealing with panic without a professional: this approach was recommended after I had experience of some relief - I had been on as-needed medication for awhile, taken steps to reduce overall stress levels, and was confident with some grounding and calming exercises. This wouldn't be a first step!

It's wonderful to hear that the advice has been helpful to you! Keep practicing and stay positive.

Ice face masks and cold water baths - the newest trends in skincare and relaxation!

That's a great point! It's important to find ways to naturally calm down, especially for those dealing with anxiety. Thanks for sharing this valuable insight!

Having friends and family who understand you and let you vent without judgment is priceless. Keep surrounding yourself with these amazing people!

LOL, your husband sounds like he has his own way of handling social events! Maybe he's more of a quality over quantity guy when it comes to conversations and guests.

Thank you for your kind words! It means a lot that my content resonates with you.

Thanks for the comment! It's cool to see how different Enneagram types navigate honesty and diplomacy. Keep sharing your thoughts!

Your appreciation means a lot! Thank you for watching.

Your support means a lot, thank you!

Thanks for checking out the video.

@@twlahue amazing content

Looks like we have something in common then!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, it means a lot!

Thank you for sharing your experience and insights, it's always fascinating to see how people relate to different enneagram types.

Thank you for pushing through the cringe to get the valuable information! Your support means a lot!

Feelings may not be objective truths, but they sure make life more interesting! Embrace the chaos.

@@twlahue Type 4s *are* the chaos. We are our feelings!

Thank you for sharing your insights on Enneagram 7s. It's always interesting to learn more about different personality types.

Hey, thanks for sharing that Bible verse! It's a good reminder to not worry too much about what others are up to.

Thank you for the suggestion! I'm glad you're excited about this idea. What Type do you think this song illustrates?

@@twlahue The song in its entirety is about transcending limitations, discovering the true gifts within, and the desire to help show others how they can improve ("shining true, and smiling back at all who wait to cross..."). There are probably many types, maybe all, that it could apply to in a different way - because of that multi-perspective aspect as well as the tendency to forever feel lost and unsure of their own identity, it seems particularly apt for type 9s. I'm only beginning to learn enneagram, so I'd like to see what correlations you make with the different types. I type (provisionally) as mbti INFJ and somewhat fit the type 9 description, but I often feel more like a spider hanging by a thread from the top pulled by gravity into the gap between 4 and 5; I identify with some aspects of all types in different contexts and situations, but no single position feels like "home". I think the song lyrics speak to the longing to find that sense of "home" and belonging, which seems to be most elusive for type 9s. I'm curious about your own more studied interpretation, and how other types relate.

Hey, thanks for the comment! I'm happy you found it fun!

@@twlahue 👍👍👍👍I hope you will do other song analysis ! great idea

Dude, your comment just made my day! I'll grab a guitar and give it a shot soon.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on navigating emotions and communication. It's always a learning process, and your insights are valuable.

When I say to go through the emotions I don't mean to express them for whatever they are in the moment, but rather sit back and let them flow over you. It's a personal experience and something I quite enjoy doing, not to mention it's sometimes refreshing :)

Hey, thanks for the heads up! I'll try to keep it short and sweet next time.

Wow, that sounds tough for your friend. Just being there for them and listening can make a big difference.

Wow, that's quite a journey you've been on. Good on you for recognizing these traits in yourself!

Hey there, it sounds like you're in a tough spot with communication. Remember, it's okay to speak your mind and set boundaries. Your feelings matter.

Hmm. I'm not a 4, but that same thing happens to me with the 4 that I'm in a relationship with (I take all the drama he dishes out) LOL...maybe it has more to do with people pleasing than being a 4...boundaries are tough sometimes

Thanks a ton for the love! Your comment made my day!

Wow...lots of feelings in that relationship!!!

Integrating back into society might feel like Everest, but hey, you've already made it through tough times. You're like a solo explorer, but with a cozy cabin waiting for you in the village below.