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@Riya-gw1vf 6 күн бұрын
this is genuinely the best video ive seen on this topic , it cleared up so many things for me and was so helpful . I'm so grateful to have found this video . thank you so much <3
@LiciaWang 5 күн бұрын
@@Riya-gw1vf thank you so much for your sweet comment, it really means the world for me to hear that it helped you! ❤️
@LiciaWang 10 күн бұрын
Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:24 - Not realizing you're problematic 3:58 - Continuously bringing up issues 5:01 - Jumping to conclusions before communicating 7:02 - Being afraid of commitment despite wanting it 8:09 - Not clearly establishing boundaries 9:48 - Acting on emotions before processing them 11:26 - Abandoning at the first sign of conflict 12:25 - Unresolved insecurities/past trauma 13:20 - Impending sense of doom 14:13 - Resentment 15:23 - Concluding thoughts
@LiciaWang 22 күн бұрын
Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro to Law of Detachment 0:58 - Where People are Going Wrong 2:50 - Debunking Misconceptions 7:06 - Healthy Detachment Mindsets 11:01 - Detachment Gone Wrong Story 12:55 - Hopeful Concluding Thoughts
@LiciaWang 23 күн бұрын
Follow-up video on how to deal with a narcissist! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/Y7iZdLOLz5udhKM.htmlfeature=shared
@user-zo6oz9wi7e 24 күн бұрын
Kurang apa minta dukung aku dukung minta support saya suporter ,komen kompling dan sebagainya tapi setelah itu aku di remehkan di kecewakan oke , tidak ada satupun yang perduli aku anjing setela isi lobang ,dengan banana eskrim kopi merokok dan nangka oke,kamu dukung dengan menyuru aku di sampingmu menonton kegiatan kamu, mensuport mendukung dengan komentar kompling dan setelah itu kamu mengejek aku , anjing cuki dasar tidak berterima kasih oke 🙏
@vip_izza 25 күн бұрын
Sorry for sneaking into a daughter's conversation 😅. But I have to tell that as a Asian it is even harder to be the eldest. If our siblings will get f#cked up it'd be an our fault 😢 And I agree with you that we should stay away from useless conversations. I naturally don't like to talk much about useless things. Great vid again girl ❤
@LiciaWang 25 күн бұрын
No don’t apologize at all! So happy to hear from you again :) YES culture is also such a big part in this. I mainly called it “eldest daughter” because that’s what the internet’s been calling this and that was my experience, but I am certain this applies to a whole variety of people (unfortunately)
@vip_izza 23 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang you always bring such interesting topics and things always bothering inside my head. Such a superpower 😁❤️
@LiciaWang 22 күн бұрын
@@vip_izza aww I’m so so glad to hear ❤️ your support really helps keep me going, more coming soon!
@vip_izza 22 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang always here to support ! Keep em coming Lici
@JelenaSpehar 25 күн бұрын
It' s hard to sit in front of the camera and speak up about things like that, but you did it to help people who have the same problem. Thank you so much for doing this! ❤ I will always watch your videos and respect you for what you' re doing.
@LiciaWang 25 күн бұрын
Aww thank you so much for your support, it’s always so nice to hear from you, it really means so much ❤ it was definitely scary to make this video, but I felt like it’s important to talk about!
@LiciaWang 25 күн бұрын
Timestamps 0:00 - Intro 0:16 - Perfectionism & Self-Criticism 3:21 - Conflict Avoidance 5:32 - Self-Oppression & Loss of Identity 7:14 - Being the "good kid" (and how it's not so good) 8:46 - The negative effects of people pleasing 9:53 - Facing pushback when setting boundaries 10:56 - Being "mature for your age" 12:38 - Mindsets to heal & break free! 15:06 - How to stop people pleasing! 17:06 - How this affects our relationships + ending the cycle
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
I hate when people are not listening to me 😒 lol
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
I get you, one of my biggest pet peeves 😑
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang yeah ! Plus everyone can't be a good listener and it's hard to find someone lol 😑
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
70-30 Theory is so valid to our current society
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
Totally. So much overexposure and consumerism with social media and all the materialistic things we have nowadays.
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang wow ! Absolutely, you explained it so professionally and smartly. 🤓🫶
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
@@vip_izza ahh I’m so glad to hear it’s making sense, thanks for all your comments it really means so much 🥹
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang Your content always inspires and educates me, and it means so much to have you engage with my comments. Thank you for all the hard work you put into your videos. Keep shining!
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
I'm currently frustrated by this. What timing-I found your video just now. I just came here to type 'how to stop caring about people who don't care about you' in the KZfaq search bar and decided to let her go 😅
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
Aww haha I'm glad this video found you :) I know it's so tough to let go, but I've learned that healthy attachment means having your attachment match theirs; your attachment grows as theirs grows. Unhealthy attachment is when we get increasingly attached when they get decreasingly attached.
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang this is so true. I have mixed feelings about myself now because, - I'm happy because I understood this - sad because it took me this long to understand this and I feel like ruined my own personality and the value Infront of someone who doesn't really deserve be in my precious life .
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
@@vip_izza aww I totally feel you. I definitely wished I realized sooo many things earlier, my life could’ve been so different. However, there’s a reason why we’re not born knowing everything y’know? It’s up to us to find the beauty in the pain. Like for example, I wouldn’t have any content to post if it wasn’t for this pain; it’s what has allowed me to connect with and inspire people
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang That's the word: 'The beauty in the pain.' Everything we've been through holds a deeper meaning. We should strive to uncover that meaning and learn from our mistakes. Cultivating a positive mindset is challenging and requires deliberate effort and practice. It is a skill that must be honed over time. Really glad I got a chance to talk with someone who is so wise and bit far ahead of me in this journey Licia! You da best !
@vip_izza 28 күн бұрын
Wow. It's feels like i had a great conversation with someone i know since a long time 😢. And i know the pain of rejection very well. Now im afraid and i don't want to be in a relationship again to make myself suffering. Also as same as you mentioned I had bad experiences by believing my friends too. They used my kindness and innocence so trickily. When I realised that , I was too late end up making a wrong attitude in others mind towards me. My friends were secretly on a mission to ruin my name and make others hate me .I'll be better forever alone. Great vid gurl ! Keep shining 🌟
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
Aw, I'm glad this video resonated, and I feel your pain. I know it's hard to believe right now, but the best thing we can do for ourselves is to not let these negative experiences change how we view the world. I went through a phase where all I wanted was to be detached and emotionless, but all that really did was sabotage my potential relationships/friendships. Our strength lies in our ability to keep being kind and loving, despite being tested by low-vibe people :) We can also take some responsibility for our own lives by identifying the red flags we missed, and the boundaries we should've set!
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang The hardest part is that only someone who's been through this can truly understand the situation. This means there won't be anyone to help or accept what you're going through. The self-healing process is really tough, and sometimes you can't fully recover. A scar will always remain in your heart after healing, and during the self-healing process, your soul can feel numb.As a result, I still love the pain because it's the only thing I can feel. You'll also have to deal with trust issues. Now, I look at people differently and am very aware of their every little move. Sometimes it's too much, but I do it to protect myself because I love myself now. And I love that point " our strength lies in our ability to keep being kind and loving " Keep shining Luci ❤️. You da best
@LiciaWang 27 күн бұрын
@@vip_izzaI totally get what you mean. As much as we need to learn to put our defences down at the right times, it’s also a good thing that painful experiences have taught us we need to protect ourselves. As much as I believe there is so much good in the world, there is also almost an equal amount of bad we need to defend ourselves from. So, we shouldn’t aim to fully heal; instead, our pain acts as a reminder that we need to remember to stand up for ourselves It’s easy to be hard on ourselves for being so defensive, but we need to remember that it’s pain that made us this way in the first place ❤
@vip_izza 27 күн бұрын
@@LiciaWang genius ! Best conversation I've ever had. It's so easy to share our opinions when there's someone who is smarter and wise in the other side. It's so good to talk something important like this with someone Lici 🫶. There's so much to learn from you. ☺️
@emersonlee5146 Ай бұрын
People are on a treadmill of satisfaction because a lot of young people are led astray by mainstream influencers who tell them that material wealth or the illusion of self-reverence will fulfill them. But this all seems meaningless because we could always have more, we can’t take any of it with us when we die, and we have become slaves to hollow leisure activities. Things have meaning when they echo in eternity. So if what we do with our lives has a relationship with the eternal God then our lives have greater meaning. The Bible says Proverbs 27:20 Sheol and Abaddon are never satisfied, and never satisfied are the eyes of man. Accepting Jesus and having our minds be sanctified from that will bring us true contentment in life. This is how the desert fathers could live almost their entire lives alone in the desert with nothing but bread and salt to nourish them. John 6:35 Jesus said to them, “I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst. However this doesn’t mean that God doesn’t want us to enjoy some of the delights of this world. He just wants us to do it in a more meaningful way. Ecclesiastes 3:13 Also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil-this is God's gift to man. Let me know your honest thoughts on this!
@LiciaWang Ай бұрын
Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:38 - No criticism/trying to change them 2:54 - Protect your privacy 4:05 - Know their triggers 5:40 - Stay connected with others 7:02 - Conclusion
@ankushmaurya1822 Ай бұрын
hey felicia you are beautiful your content is amazing u need to add KeyPoint's through the captions and bit color grade video is bit off and add minimalist background music and few transitions its more appealing and reach more audience just an observation If you require video editor, I'm happy to edit your first video without charge.
@LiciaWang Ай бұрын
Timestamps: Intro - 0:00 Relationships - 0:44 Friends - 3:20 School/Career - 6:47 Conclusion - 9:04
@LiciaWang Ай бұрын
Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:21 - The "70-30 Theory": why we self-destruct 1:56 - The inner work 2:57 - Partying example 4:08 - Cheating example 5:12 - Conclusion
@bangtanworld7034 Ай бұрын
Fr❤
@LiciaWang Ай бұрын
🫶
@moldenm5239 Ай бұрын
Amazing you are able to learn and realize these only halfway through your first year while others reach many of these conclusions at the end or after their degree. In terms of career, it doesn't have to be science or business. Finance or marketing or accounting. We can always do more than one whether one career after another as a discrete career or in combining them (people who graduated UBC 10 years ago some of them are in their second or third careers). Academic ability gets you only so far. There are social skills, network skills and at times understanding organisation politics and human psychology. Not as much who you know but more who knows you, remembers you and have a good impression of you that you would likely do something with your life. Some of the people who refer others from lab jobs to accounting firm internships are your classmates or friends from extracurricular activities who are or will be in the organization. The people who have parents or grandparents who are influential figures have both bigger shoes to fill like family legacy and accomplishments does not overshadow them and they have to frontier more paths in the world to leave their own mark. It can be useful in the future to know some of them and school is one of the few places where different socioeconomic classes mix which such classes stuck to their own groups in other situations. It is possible now to be an entrepreneur when one is 5 years old with the emergence of technology. Previously kids did not have good opportunities to make money or access to information and the internet made it much easier for them. In life, schools gives little opportunity to fail and big consequences if one does fail. It is important to learn to fail because doing things beyond our comfort zone and dealing with uncertainty have chance to fail. Companies start new projects that sometimes doesn't work as one example. Learn to mitigate any consequences from said failure, understand how to improve or do things differently for next time and be able to face setbacks and get back up. Great work and good luck with remaining university years. It goes by fast and one will have more and more responsibilities.
@JelenaSpehar 2 ай бұрын
You look gorgeus! ✨
@LiciaWang Ай бұрын
Ahh just seeing this, thank you so much 🥰❤️
@moose1113 2 ай бұрын
This is so me 😂 husband always gets an immediate reply, everyone else can expect a response in approximately 3-5 business days 😂
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Yes exactly the same with me! Glad I’m not alone haha 😂
@theotherway1639 2 ай бұрын
People are trying to date nowadays, but they haven't even defined dating. It's in a weird place. The book The Dating App Confessions by Logan Tindell was helpful.
@bananabubbles3 2 ай бұрын
she speaking facts 🗣
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Glad it resonated!
@Phuq-U2ube 2 ай бұрын
I don’t have friends to hangout with either, my depression doesn’t allow me to even have a girlfriend.🥺
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Aww I’m sorry to hear that :( do you have any ideas of what you can do to improve your situation?
@munny8985 2 ай бұрын
Womp Womp
@munny8985 2 ай бұрын
Womp Womp
@staubsauger1 2 ай бұрын
I think it's worse when they know
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
You know what, that’s valid too. Either way, they will not be willing to change their ways, so all gaslighters are equally damaging in a sense.
@BVBDV 2 ай бұрын
Slay
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
🫶
@hongkongrioter9803 2 ай бұрын
its like saying that your food taste bad but u continue to eat it
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
EXACTLY, great analogy!!
@JelenaSpehar 2 ай бұрын
Finaly someone who understands that! I always tell the same thing to everybody around me and no one understands. Thank you for your amazing advices! ❤ I truly support an respect you!
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Ahh I’m so happy it resonated, it also confuses me why people around me don’t seem to understand this! I love how we always understand each other ☺️❤️
@bencatfleckgaming5613 2 ай бұрын
Cool!
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Thanks! 😊
@potatosei2103 2 ай бұрын
Most women embrace that gut feeling, leading to sexism and lesbianism
@melodyjohnson3244 2 ай бұрын
Yes.
@EEYore-py1bf 2 ай бұрын
I’m sorry.
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Thank you, it’s been tough :(
@JelenaSpehar 2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much! ❤ Your advices always help. We need to stay strong in times like this!
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Yes we do, glad it’s helpful :)
@moax_the_hoax 2 ай бұрын
im so sorry for your loss stay strong
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, it’s been really tough :(
@JelenaSpehar 3 ай бұрын
I know how you feel. When my father died I always had to smile so people around me do not have to worry about me and now when I' m not smiling everyone is worried about me. I hope you understand what I'm saying. Thank you! ❤
@LiciaWang 2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, you are so strong for considering others during that hard time ❤️ I always understand what you’re saying
@JelenaSpehar 3 ай бұрын
I love how you start the video very dramatically and later you speak casually. 😂 I don't go to college yet, but I feel like that's a normal feeling. Thank you for making this cute videos! ❤
@LiciaWang 3 ай бұрын
Hahaha the video got a lot more serious and reflective than I intended at the beginning! Thank you for your support, once again 😂
@heyfire7825 3 ай бұрын
I can tell you what it is, but you probably won't like the answer. Us men hardly get approached, so when a girl that is acting too nice, overly interested or make advances, we are not used to it so we don't know how to read her intentions and we see this new experience as a red flag, and our first thought is that there must be something wrong with her 😅😂
@LiciaWang 3 ай бұрын
Haha that’s interesting 😂 I see this problem commonly among women too, though, speaks to a bigger issue about the amount of people with unhealthy attachment styles!
@elyonbellot4476 3 ай бұрын
Maybe her previous relationship ws delayed in her reply, so now she is replying fast . He is not sure what he wants..humans. are unpredictable...
@LiciaWang 3 ай бұрын
That is definitely very possible. So much complexity when it comes to this stuff!
@Ophie.37 3 ай бұрын
Facts
@karubaki_nag_6239 3 ай бұрын
Just subscribed to your channel and I'm very sure so many of us women have the same lives! I became the extroverted popular kid (cuz of academics ,extra-curriculars and helping people on tests) from the second half of my middle school to high school. But, I was the bullied kid in elementary school upto around 6th grade. You are so right about this trauma. I didn't want to be bullied anymore so, I just took to doing things for random people that only your close friends would do. Nevermind the fact, that, even in college I'm still scared that, if I stop being a people pleaser/ problem solver, I'll get isolated and bullied once again. The anxiety is SOOO real. A lot of times, I'm genuinely afraid to even voice out any unpopular personal interest/hobby just out of fear of being left behind. Also, what is up with senior girls bullying junior girls?!? I never understood the appeal of going off on a random power trip. Like, girl, she'll be in your class next year anyways. You should focus on your academics if you don't wanna end up being her classmate, lol. But seriously, some of the worst physical and mental harm(including SA) has been done to be by the senior girls in my school. The senior boys, in that respect, at least till middle school, weren't that extreme.
@LiciaWang 3 ай бұрын
I totally hear you! Crazy our experiences are so similar. I’m in college right now and feel the exact same way. Even posting on social media makes me a bit scared, I’ve learned to have no opinion of my own at all. I’m slowly working through the healing process though, hopefully some of my videos will help others with that too! ❤
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
I overthink everything and whatever happens stays in my head for days and years so I'm always like that. Thank you so much for your advices they really help! ❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
I definitely fall into that too, I’ve been working hard to change it! :)
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
I know what you are talking about and I totaly agree beacuse being in that "mid era" is actualy the best. I Love your videos!! ❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
So glad it resonated!! Thank you for your comment ☺️❤
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for advice! ❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for your continued support, your comments make my day! ❤
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
I always loved my self and my body beacuse people can think what they want but I have to love my life and my body, so my life can love me to. I'm sorry if you can't understand what I am saying, I'm not fluent in English. ❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
I love that way of thinking! Such a good mindset to have, I totally understand what you mean ❤️
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so so much! ❤You are really helping me with your videos, I don't know how to help you enough!❤️
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
I’m so so happy to hear, my goal is to help people 😊 more videos coming! ❤
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Where do you get all this ideas for videos! ❤ I love all your videos and all of them are amazing. Thank you so much, you always make my day beautiful❤️✨
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
I’ve definitely gone through lots of ups and downs to get to where I am today, so I’m so glad sharing my stories is resonating with you. I really hope they help! ❤️
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Why was this video so funny? 😂 I love your vibes and good energy you have❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
Haha glad you enjoyed, it’s nice to make lighthearted videos once in a while ☺️❤️
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for giving me advice! Love you! ❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
☺️❤️❤️
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
Your comments always make my day! ❤️ appreciate you
@JelenaSpehar 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for giving me advice! ❤ Videos like this are always making me smile. 😊 Thank you so much❤❤❤
@LiciaWang 4 ай бұрын
I’m so happy to hear, your comments also put a smile on my face :)