Wow. The competitive and ego-centric socialization of men is truly shocking and eye-opening to hear. Thanks for the insight and honesty! This realization shook me. There is no room for collaboration and giving with a partner with that attitude.
@fajr43374 сағат бұрын
Hi :)) Thank you so much for this. Really, really appreciative
@user-tq4fm4he8i4 сағат бұрын
I think it's because men are socialised to dismiss what women say. It's called 'nagging', 'b*tching' et c. Men are taught that listening to women and doing what they ask is 'simping'.
@user-tq4fm4he8i4 сағат бұрын
Good topic but please don't talk over her. I wanted to hear what she was about to say. (Ironically enough you said later that 'we never listen to women'. 😬)
@meowanna51312 сағат бұрын
Thank you for your honesty-your story makes me feel less alone as my partner and I are rebuilding trust in our relationship. 💗
@JaimeandJosh9 сағат бұрын
❤️🩹🙏🏼❤️🩹
@ehirsch20616 сағат бұрын
“Mind reading” is a poor interpretation of the task of observing. The information is often right there and it’s a choice to ignore the information that’s right in front of you.
@aanrsshnsnКүн бұрын
Ironically the only thing that’s doesn’t have a gift receipt at your wedding is your partner 😂
@dianab66967 күн бұрын
This is exactly what has happened in my marriage. The trust was lost too many times. I've stopped talking. Now what?
@mpress46913 күн бұрын
As the "Mother and son" iconography suggests, patriarchy is a natural extension of a spiritual matriarchy where one can not exist without the other as they follow each other throughout the course of all eternity. Spiritually speaking (gender and race aside), matriarchy begins with a fundamental understanding of the cyclical nature of reality (God). Represented by the snake in many creation myths, the living cycle has a trinity of a beginning (head), a middle and end (tail). As above so below, the sexes were created in the image of God's cyclical nature where Mother is the head and opening to all beginnings and Father holds the tail to all endings (through which the sowing of seeds allow for the next great matriarchal rebirth).The joining of the two (symbolized by the Ouroborus or the marriage ring) is the sacred union needed in assuring the creation and continuation of new life cycles. To speak of the present day God as "Our Father" is simply an admission to our collective positioning within the bigger cycle. As all mothers have direct experience with the creator quality of birthing, so is the direct experience of rebirthing the divinity within (baptism) belong to that which is spiritually matriarchal. (John 3, verse 3-8). Sekhmet statues (ancient Egyptian) carry most of their weight in symbolic memory of what was a mother culture dedicated to the direct experience of baptism. As the leg shaped hairlocks extend from maternal breasts to the womb of rebirth, the lioness's head proportions are such that they highlight the bust of a second animal figure. The Lioness's ears as eyes and eyes as nose (nostrils) brings to life the figure of a reptile. 'Neath the halo headress of the solar egg, the lioness's egg fertilization process being internal (Set) and the reptile's egg fertilization process being external (Setting), such being key components to the safety of entering the trans-egoic or "born again" state. The life threatening fear associated with the predatory nature of a lion and/or crocodile encounter are reflective of the intense ego death experiences associated with the transpersonal awakening process. In spiritually matriarchal times, illumination could be seen as wearing the false beard (ancient Egyptian funerary "ego" death mask) as the high state of cyclical self knowing; high awareness of both our upper matriarchal half and our lower (later) patriarchal half (compared with a mini lower body replica, an "as above so below" tail end beard extension); in full recognition of her civilizational Underworld; her inevitable cyclical destiny. The male pharaoh wears his beard tapered in reverse, indicating a pointing upwards towards the patriarchal head, divine representative of God's tail end cycle. Mary's anointing and wiping of Jesus's feet with her hair can then be seen as "Head to tail" (toe) imagery as she descends her matriarchal head to his patriarchal feet, thus reenacting the high understanding of the divine cyclical process. (John 12, verse 3) To carry the Ankh (now the female symbol ♀️) was perhaps to symbolically carry that upper and lower understanding. As the upper matriarchal womb symbolised the fertile birthing of civilization, below, the now Christian cross is carried to place emphasis on the lower (later) "End Times" Father principle of the great cycle. Lord Ganesha, the elephant headed Hindu diety, displays a cyclical head to trunk symbolism and points to the Mother head of his matriarchal elephant society. Ganesha (like the elephant) wears God's cyclical nature on his face. A whole temple was dedicated to Hathor (ancient Egyptian diety), who is the matriarchal "Uterus" personified. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gJadY917uKuqe2Q.html "See all women as mothers, serve them as your mother. when you see the entire world as the mother, the ego falls away. See everything as Mother and you will know God." - Neem Karoli Baba "My son, keep thy father's commandment and forsake not the law of thy mother" - Proverbs 6 : 20
@CynthiaHintz13 күн бұрын
How do you be okay with them saying it still isnt as hard as a real job? I have a real job now, do the majority of the house work, and do most kid things. But i still dont come to his level of 'hard' (per him)
@Stealth_Gamer92Ай бұрын
All I heard was someone apparently not understanding the golden rules purpose and limit that isn't explicitly stated(I am willing to be proven wrong, and appologize if you read my original wording). It's a way to make a comunity run smoothly, and the limit is if they're a prick you then get to be a prick towards them until they A.) stop or B.) act that way to the wrong person or die ostricised. It was never meant to be an absolute rule.
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
I think ironically you are missing the intent and purpose here. The real message is that subtly but importantly many folks think they are doing good by projecting what they would want for their life into others, which turns out not to be very loving at all.
@Stealth_Gamer92Ай бұрын
@@JaimeandJosh Oh, ok. Thank you for explaining.
@SamirCCatАй бұрын
As someone who lives with chronic mental illness, this is marriage boundaries. This is boundaries for someone who supports someone with mental problems. You need to take care of yourself in order to be able to support someone struggling, and if your husband doesn't have professional contact with a psychiatrist, I highly recommend he seeks that ASAP. It's not your job to help him out of his problems, that's for a therapist to do. You can support him, but not heal him. You can never heal him. I'm glad you're putting up healthy boundaries for your own mental health, time and energy. Hope he gets/has help and will rely less on you soon, so you two can be together because you WANT to, not because he needs someone to take care of him. I don't blame him for being in need of help, I'm blaming him for asking you to have his solution.
@JakeBerg777Ай бұрын
Very interesting!
@ivnehaasАй бұрын
I disagree. The first child sometimes gets the best parenting. Parents have time, patience, energy to spend on the first kid. The youngest may get a lot of siblings, but not at much quality time with the parents. Not all families are the same.
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
The most attention unfortunately does not translate as the best parenting - you really don’t know what you’re doing with the first. At least my parents didn’t and neither did we. But you are right in there’s a lot of undivided love to give. But where firstborns get attention, youngest often get resources and middle borns may be the best of us. 😊
@LaplacianFourierАй бұрын
I am curious on what you went to college for. You are investigating the right questions!
@aanrsshnsnАй бұрын
Josh is prob the most articulate introvert on the planet! On your last point, you’re probably getting some healing vapors as you dish out shovel out loads of healing nuggets to the interwebs!😊❤
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
Super appreciative of your kind words and encouragement friend. It means a lot.
@Commandant_AeonАй бұрын
Catering to feelings always led to suffering. Sure you may have good intent, but remember that Hell is paved with them (good intents).
@jennifersteen8236Ай бұрын
What if I want to improve on our marriage and my husband doesn't show that he wants to as well? I have been really trying hard to work on making positive change in myself. Been following all the advice from professionals. But he is not interested. He says he is interested, but his actions don't match.
@005AmerginАй бұрын
You were blessed with solid family!
@llIlIlllIIАй бұрын
Incels who say that don't want to hear this. They like having villains in their worldview. They hate women.
@amandagardner5576Ай бұрын
Same… so lucky🎉
@ninjajohannaАй бұрын
Love that! What if everyone was more like that, what a world we could have together ❤❤❤
@jmacmanagement840Ай бұрын
Great job in self reflection and then application. You are appreciated❤
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
Thank you kindly. I appreciate you as well! 🙏🏼
@KyleTO7Ай бұрын
I think the way that your raisec is amazing(i was raised similarly where i share everything (minus Halloween candy lol) because other people haven't been raised like that It would probably leave the fact that it's your favorite of anything out of the convo until the person is actually using it. Proof is in the story where he feels awkward for using the mug. If that's your favorite mug I would instantly say no because then I would be worried about breaking your favorite mug 😂 Reverse psychology can go a long way, or omitting info until the right time.
@jmacmanagement840Ай бұрын
Growth. Bless you for sharing
@choycejoyce4699Ай бұрын
Agreed with food or other consumables like music. But i feel like a mug is different. Maybe that fellas favourite mug is sentimental but not necessarily the best one and he thought same with yours.
@christinataylor7114Ай бұрын
So wholesome!
@pamelaparks6171Ай бұрын
That's beautiful.
@alc71EM90Ай бұрын
That is loving your neighbor.
@kimberlysusie701Ай бұрын
I love this! I am first born. Baby sat most of my cousins. I was parenting at 10 yo. I have held some type of leadership role since I was 18. I have used the book The Birth Order book as a management guide for at least 20 years. Thanks for this video!
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
You’re most welcome and we so appreciate you sharing and engaging! When someone starts parenting at 10 like yourself, that will certainly have an impact on both intimate relationships and parenting.
@jackwatt8988Ай бұрын
I've been saying this for decades. People should be treated how they deserve to be treated, not how I want to be treated. In a conversation about beliefs and ideas I want others to be brutal in their criticism of my ideas. I don't think it would be right to be brutal in my criticism of other people's ideas simply because it's a thing I'm comfortable with having happen to myself when I'm expressing my ideas.
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
Well stated and a good example. Thanks for validating and adding on!
Ай бұрын
It's a wonderful idea until you realize there is a large amount of population is anxious about what other people want, and would do anything to meet everyone's POTENTIAL needs.
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
As someone who struggled/struggles with this myself I can trace the origins back to caregivers who expected me to be someone I was not - treating me as they would want to be treated. I think this is a pretty common human thing, but if we are able to really see and support each other, especially from the get go, a lot of that anxiety will dissipate.
@malingreaney-stasiak2837Ай бұрын
We did the pacer test and the mile
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
Sounds like double prizes for some and a big bummer for others
@firstgenspsАй бұрын
Being married for 30yrs. When my wife also had to work we shared household tasks. When she wasn't working, IMO, there is no reason to share tasks, with some exceptions. FME, women divorce so they can fuck another guy!
@brandonhanrahan1748Ай бұрын
That’s really sweet. And Americans in general are kinda like this. But your family is beautiful for that. However. That really had nothing to do with the main point of the comment you were attempting to ”answer”
@savannahhutcheson8909Ай бұрын
❤❤❤ this was my experience growing up too!!
@DahliasDriveАй бұрын
This is such a great story. I love the way you set it up. I was recently at a friend’s and asked if any mugs were off limits and he looked at me like I was from another planet. It just goes to show how differently some people are raised!
@drewaloysousparkerАй бұрын
Aye love for RI
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
😊😊😊
@malingreaney-stasiak2837Ай бұрын
That’s amazing
Ай бұрын
So what you're saying is that the world should become one family, we should remove all of the borders, and get rid of competitive economics?
@VictoriaMorganawesometoriАй бұрын
I'm OK with this
@ktnolanАй бұрын
What books did you read? I’m considering going to grad school for urban planning
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
So many! We’ll see if we can post a list here, but a great start is Jane Jacobs’ classic The Death and Life of Great American Cities
@ktnolanАй бұрын
@@JaimeandJosh That looks like a great place to start, thanks!
@Fusionplayz764Ай бұрын
Interesting!
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
🙏🏼😊
@AshKetchum442Ай бұрын
oh that kid totally knew what they were doing 😂
@LaplacianFourierАй бұрын
🗣️🔥
@HaileyluvsC4TSАй бұрын
oh this kid is in for an amazing time!! Best project Ig
@AllAndMore849Ай бұрын
😂 school in a freaking nutshell
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
🤣😊
@Eggy79Ай бұрын
Sounds like a bad idea. Unless you support releasing prisoners? I'm sure they would love to be treated to a release. Btw, this concept already exists and is called the platinum rule
@JaimeandJoshАй бұрын
So to recap, you acknowledge the idea exists but don’t like it. In part at least based on a black-white understanding of humans as either good or bad and a whole lot of unearned faith in the current justice system?
@TheuglymugАй бұрын
@@JaimeandJosh something like that
@melaniestarkey7868Ай бұрын
If you start treating them the way they* would like to be treated We had to have a whole race of more codependents.(Just kidding You're probably on to something.)
@fuukifynoeАй бұрын
Everyone buys stuff online at the best prices. A walkable city can't be maintained without consumers support.