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@Bria-ms7kz Күн бұрын
I respectfully disagree - if you are in a monogamous relationship and your partner approaches you to say “I’m catching feelings for someone else, can we open up our relationship and be poly?” - that’s a recipe for disaster, bc the asker is already in a state of betrayal. For this therapist to say “those are her things to work on” is dismissive and unfair. Like, that’s only true if that couple had started opening their partnership to other relationships *before* the client’s partner came to her - he (assuming it’s a “he” for some reason) came to her after he was already into someone else - that trust was broken; he had already betrayed her. A better thing for a therapist to do would be to suggest that the client’s partner break off that burgeoning relationship, at least for awhile, while the original couple considers and learns about polyamory from a place of trust and respect. Then perhaps that other, new relationship might be explored again, if client and her partner have decided it’s okay and the work has been put in. For the client’s partner to come to her to ask for something he already was getting into is not honoring his partner’s heart, agency or trust. Signed, a fellow therapist who works within the community
@Bria-ms7kz Күн бұрын
And again, I say all of that with utmost respect.
@bharris8051 9 күн бұрын
Awesome conversation. I was happier to see this movie than my own 9 year old hahaha. I say often it was emotional awareness for kids but a message of healing for adults.
@TherapistThrivalguide 9 күн бұрын
Perfectly said!
@Nish555 9 күн бұрын
Great episode, I have to watch the movie
@TherapistThrivalguide 9 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@rauriemadison 11 күн бұрын
loved this episode
@TherapistThrivalguide 9 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@laurelb4193 16 күн бұрын
It’s sooooo not a problem 😅 👌
@LilyDuncan2003 20 күн бұрын
I loved inside out!
@momcast_psyops 21 күн бұрын
Im a PsyD in Clinical Psych and agree with you 100%. *Also--a senior lecturer in a graduate program at a local university. Great intervention and wisely done.
@TherapistThrivalguide 9 күн бұрын
Appreciate your comment!!
@toddmayo9843 24 күн бұрын
I agree with everything you said
@our.secret1130 Ай бұрын
Great listen. They look like 22 y/o babies lol. Good stuff tho. Thanks
@TherapistThrivalguide 21 күн бұрын
Ha, I suppose I should take that as a compliment 🤣 Glad you found the content helpful!
@our.secret1130 21 күн бұрын
@@TherapistThrivalguide 💕🩵🙏🏻
@SkyLene Ай бұрын
The big mistake you made here was misremembering the thing about Jimmy telling his patient to push her husband off the cliff. He encouraged her to spill his coffee, if her husband is mocking her about it but he specifically DID NOT tell her or agree with her that she should just push him off the cliff.
@PnuttyBuddy Ай бұрын
About to head to court for the first time, MFT. Thank y'all for this!
@GSG196 Ай бұрын
Thanks - as a new therapist this was very helpful
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@EricMHowardII-yh1rn Ай бұрын
One caring person can make a difference in connection to suicide both inside the family and outside any family on earth. - First Peter 3:8
@FoCoCo750 Ай бұрын
What is aDA?!
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Diagnostic Assessment :)
@chasegraboyes-reed1443 2 ай бұрын
Great content. Thank you all for sharing your experiences!!!
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@zaidydel7145 2 ай бұрын
You guys are so great to listen to! Great conversation!!
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Thanks for listening
@pksmallan 3 ай бұрын
As a mother who's experienced 4 deliveries, I must say that not every experience is going to be the same. So we not only have to worry about what other women have been through, we have to worry about how different the next delivery is going to be? Not only that, a whole new person is born. Someone we still have to get to know. We know we love them, but we don't know what makes them feel loved, safe, and cared for. My oldest was the easiest. I could bottle feed her AND breastfeed her. She was calm when she was with calm people. We had a bout of fussiness, but we figured it out, and the rest of her infanthood was smooth sailing. Number two, I knew her before she was born. She was stubborn. Held out till her due date. I couldn't get her to take the bottle. That was wild, but we were okay. I found it easy to care for two girls that were almost 3 years apart. Number three was the most difficult. I don't know what it was, we couldn't make a connection. I loved her and tried my best, but it wasn't enough. One, my whole birthing experience was wack. I was normal until I met the anesthesiologist. It all went to shit from there. The catheter slipped, the guy had to drill a hole in my back. After that, I labored and delivered, but as soon as she was out, my cervix went back to 0cm, and I couldn't expel the placenta. They placed me on pitocin. My body doesn't respond to that. I'll save you the rest of the details. I couldn't feed her right away, they fed her for me, she couldn't move her bowels for 3 while days! I specifically told them I wanted to breastfeed her, but they went against my wishes. My supply wasn't coming in as it should have. Both me and her were not having it. Whatever I was eating was affecting her, and I couldn't supplement her feeding. It was a nightmare. But I'd endure it all just to have her back. She was 3 months when we lost her. She wasn't sick, at least an illness is not why she's no longer here. All I know is I take all responsibility and say I could have done better. Better how? I don't know, but anything different probably could have been better. She passed away sleeping. It was hard. My rainbow baby came 5 years later. And if you've been keeping up, you will know that I've had three girls up until that point. My rainbow baby, my youngest, is my only boy. My experience with my youngest girl, my angel baby, put me in high anxiety with my last pregnancy. I decided I was going to tie my tubes after that. Delivery was induced, I did not have an epidural. I screamed as I bared through it. Postpartum was screwy, but I think it was because I was in hyper vigilant mode. I could not sleep. I'd spend hours until I couldn't hold my eyes open anymore. Sometimes I'd catch him not breathing, and I'd spend a minute or so trying to wake him. My psyche was shot. That's why I decided no more kids. Was putting myself through heartbreak and hell worth having another child? What about my well-being? I had enough kids to love. I'm okay. My youngest is 11. We all made it through.
@0oMaria_airaMo0 3 ай бұрын
My lesson; love myself and be careful whom I choose I love.
@Bunnylover-is5kr 3 ай бұрын
I have tried killing myself, well in a mental hospital!
@StormeBrownbreezybaby 3 ай бұрын
Another perspective: The more you love someone, the more you understand you can't own them or keep them or have them to yourself. When they leave, which will happen eventually because we aren't immortal, instead of hurting inside, strive to love them even more in their absence, so much that its gratitude and thanks you feel instead of hurt and loss. Falling in love with someone before learning to love yourself will always end in feeling the hurt in their absense. But when we learn to love ourselves and know that people can't be owned or kept, it's grace and gratitude that sits where the hurt might have taken space inside you. So learn to love yourself so that you can learn to love another in a healthy way, this guy said too much without saying anything valueble on Love at all 😅
@giangboo 3 ай бұрын
This is like saying the "the more you eat, the fuller you will feel" like duh
@WilliamDancin 3 ай бұрын
Just be aware there is a difference between love and limerence. Losing a limerent object can feel like grief, but it doesn't mean it was love.
@lucasvolini 3 ай бұрын
I agree with everything I said.
@project8vr79 3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this, super interesting. I am the Co-founder of AnomieXR and we have co built a visualisation tool with therapists for therapy and coaching . Especially interested in a couple points you mentioned that relate to future features we are thinking about for the platform and talking to therapists about it. We are looking at incorporating text and voice to 3D models to make it easier for clients but there are a lot of ethical considerations with that. Would love to talk to the team about this actually.
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Reach out to us: [email protected]
@thepopeofkeke 3 ай бұрын
No Even if I was an actual muppet I wouldn’t be able to take any advice about manhood from a guy built like a seated Kermit the frog.
@EO.studios 3 ай бұрын
What are you talking about 😂 every man I know loves to be by themselves in a room or what ever.
@lucasvolini 3 ай бұрын
If I were speaking to the rare glory of a dad finding himself alone in the house for a weekend, I’d agree. But I’m not…I’m referring to a man sitting still, in a quiet room, by himself, without any devices, tv, or distractions, for 8 hours.
@StephenButlerOne 4 ай бұрын
I love siting on my own. Being in my car is one of my favourite places to be.
@Amy-hj8yk 4 ай бұрын
Loving your videos - thank you for creating them! I did want to point out the occasional use of "sanist" language, which can be highly offensive and hurtful. When y'all have some time, I would recommend looking up "sanist" laugage and how to ultimately remove it from your vocabulary, especially as an ambassador for mental health. Again, I am so grateful to have found your channel, and I am enjoying learning from the various topics and guests.
@Amy-hj8yk 4 ай бұрын
And the gendered language, specifically "guys" in reference to the two guests.
@TherapistThrivalguide Ай бұрын
Great reminders! Thanks for listening!
@LaurelASmith1 4 ай бұрын
85% of therapists are female. One of the best things about Stutz is a male therapist seeing a male client.
@darylhiggs9100 4 ай бұрын
Hey guys im 35 male currently doing my Ba in psych with the intenetion to complete my masters in psychotherapy. Im writing an essay discussing the effects of patriachy on emotional development and long-term mental well-being of males. Stoked to find this page and get into this discussion
@boknows598 4 ай бұрын
The only 2 people I know in therapy are more screwed up now then they we're before therapy. It's a money grab, especially when it's always over zoom
@TherapistThrivalguide 4 ай бұрын
Whew, that's disappointing to hear. I hope they reported those therapists to the appropriate boards if they were experiencing harm and are worse off. Clients deserve better.
@ryleeortiz5249 4 ай бұрын
Ehh I'm at the point we're I think my time for therapy has passed I've got a lot of fucked up shit going on in there I had a therapist for almost nine years who stopped practicing when she was attacked by a bear I don't think I can go through a personal connection like that again and I know you don't have to be fully comfortable with them but in my opinion if I can't tell you everything why do it idk I wish I could do it again but I know I'm just going to scare the fuck out of them the only reason I was good with my old therapist was cause of the age we started at honestly I feel like someone new would be disturbed or get me put in a straight jacket if I really let my demons out I've seen shit that should bother me but doesn't like seriously gruesome fucked up shit so I'm always up in my head I wish I could talk about this stuff again but I can't and I don't think I will ever be able to
@TherapistThrivalguide 4 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that your therapist left the profession after such a long professional relationship. It can be devastating to feel like you're starting over with a new person and I agree--it's absolutely vital to feel connected to your therapist in order to be vulnerable and actually make progress (research backs this up too). I want to challenge you: you are not the only person to have dark thoughts, and your experiences and your trauma are not so unique and so complicated that you do not deserve relief and healing too. The right therapist isn't going to be scared off. I hope you find them.
@killersatsuma6451 4 ай бұрын
This is a major red flag that she knows she has that desire, just imagine a guy saying the same thing. Disgusting.
@WilliamDaGreatYT 4 ай бұрын
I don’t think she’s saying that in a creepy way, you just have a dirty mind. She’s saying she doesn’t want the child to go back to a bad home environment.
@TherapistThrivalguide 4 ай бұрын
@@WilliamDaGreatYT Correct! It can be hard to see kids going back to difficult home environments!
@killersatsuma6451 4 ай бұрын
@@WilliamDaGreatYT And again if a guy said the exact same thing everybody would have a problem with it, I give no exceptions for the fact that it's a woman saying it. It's disgusting
@killersatsuma6451 4 ай бұрын
@@TherapistThrivalguide not correct at all, it's completely irrational. It's disgusting how differently men and women are treated when women openly display far more predatory behavior and everyone just thinks it's normal.
@kah7012 4 ай бұрын
And that is how she took my child and never gave us family therapy. Then she abandoned my child.
@trailtherapyman 4 ай бұрын
Yeah, as an adolescent therapist, I quickly figured out that a lot of the struggles they were facing had to do with their parents and the environment at home.
@killersatsuma6451 4 ай бұрын
So you are a professional scammer and thief.
@TherapistThrivalguide 4 ай бұрын
Intergenerational trauma is real! Thanks for joining the discussion.
@killersatsuma6451 4 ай бұрын
@@TherapistThrivalguide lol no, it's not. That literally just playing pretend victim
@MartinHouser 4 ай бұрын
God... What they are saying is good, but the vocal fry of these is absolutely unbearable to listen to.
@JASPRRRRRRR 5 ай бұрын
😗
@zernoofficial 5 ай бұрын
Really enjoyed the podcast!
@TherapistThrivalguide 4 ай бұрын
Glad to hear it!
@Romulus609 5 ай бұрын
Then he puts his hand on their inner thigh, and see where it goes
@lucasvolini 3 ай бұрын
Nope. That would be both an ethical violation and felony.
@king_thin 5 ай бұрын
why does this THERAPIST actually say, that crying isn't manly? what does crying have to do with being a man or not?
@TherapistThrivalguide 5 ай бұрын
Unfortunately the world equates crying with weakness, and in the full episode we discuss the importance of men taking care of their mental health too (and how crying is ok!). This therapist shares that adding some humor can help his clients feel less shame about crying in a session-- of course this depends on the client and the therapist. Thanks for watching and interacting!
@ibis0921 4 ай бұрын
It always depends on the relationship, but I can think of several instances where if I said that to a client what I would be signaling to them is that I don’t think any less of their manhood because they cried. For a lot of men this is a deep fear. That their feelings are thier weakness and in those cases using humor to move through that would be completely appropriate.
@fellowviewer1095 3 ай бұрын
I think you missed the point
@sandysanchez7151 5 ай бұрын
Taylor Tomlinson has really done a great with her comedy because she's so open and relatable. It's so nice to hear someone talk about the same things that I've felt as an individual, it makes those experiences feel really universal 😊 🌎
@GeneCreemers 5 ай бұрын
Yo pause!!
@gamingrat842 5 ай бұрын
❤
@FMcrow020 5 ай бұрын
That's an awesome response! The world needs you.
@Mattster2578 5 ай бұрын
She’s not the sharpest tool in the shed I see.😂
@scottcarlson5418 5 ай бұрын
This is stupid advice. Once you speak it you're more likely to do it. I've been married 30+ years. We've worked through a lot. We never use the"d" word.
@allydc 5 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video! Very helpful in reinforcing ideas
@TherapistThrivalguide 5 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@pickle48694 5 ай бұрын
This channel is absolute gold. So glad I have found it
@TristineBarry 5 ай бұрын
🎉 Thank you!
@jess3297 5 ай бұрын
Read a fkn book? Really? Talk about a HUGE EGO with this guest. Could not finish listening to it and will not give the podcast a try anymore. Disappointed
@TherapistThrivalguide 5 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that you felt that way!