Preach! That is a great question to ask yourself. What is making me willing to give this person the benefit of the doubt? Sometimes it might be fear of conflict. And many other excuses that are not good enough. I am finally learning that whenever I have given the benefit of the doubt it was not the right move. It has always come back to bite me in the a$$
@sweetmeadowmedia51 минут бұрын
Thank you! Healing is hard…this pain is horrible…it ended up it was my fault for making this man feel alive again..yet I’m a whore now…
@msc82456 сағат бұрын
100% correct
@kathleenosullivan82096 сағат бұрын
Your channel is amazing ❤
@LookingBehindtheMirror4 сағат бұрын
Thank you. That’s so nice.
@sweetmeadowmedia6 сағат бұрын
Thank you, I’ve been watching your videos and appreciate you taking the time to film and post these so I can heal! 😊
@ab-kh4hm7 сағат бұрын
How to control the narcs moods: Act very sad. This will cheer them up. Act happy. THIS will induce rage, fury, and is VERBOTEN!! 😂😅
@nopereradicator6 сағат бұрын
Nailed it! I learned a little trick years ago: Post struggle life on social media. Complain about your kids. Your bills. Act downtrodden. Works like a charm.
@queenlauralee478 сағат бұрын
You will wear yourself out on their hamster wheel!!!😮
@queenlauralee478 сағат бұрын
True! Stop trying...let them go! Your peace is a precious resource 💫💫💫
@queenlauralee478 сағат бұрын
They use the shut you down tactic by talking over you repeatedly... it's ridiculous 😮
@kittyblue83109 сағат бұрын
I get what you’re saying, but it’s terrifying when they scream in your face .. like they’re going to tear you apart in a minute… You feel like you don’t have a choice to say no
@LookingBehindtheMirror8 сағат бұрын
I totally get that, and if they are in a position to physically harm you, that’s a little different, although it is still important to understand that complying with them will not keep you safe. If they are not a physical threat, however, you can remind yourself that they will scream in your face no matter what you do or say. As scary as it is, you still cannot control their behavior by doing what they want.
@nopereradicator6 сағат бұрын
This is what no one likes to address. How violent they can become. It’s not so much what they do, it’s that there is always this unspoken if you don’t comply unaliving is always an option. Enable my arse. I’m not willing to risk being unalived because the chicken was baked not fried and I didn’t mind read well enough to know it.
@clayhousley549022 сағат бұрын
As a narcissist I am exactly as you describe. In trying to strip away my false self I find I have nothing. I feel nothing. I am a void and a nobody. I am like you say, the terrified child. And I have ruined many lives as a result.
@LookingBehindtheMirror8 сағат бұрын
I still believe there is hope if you are willing to put in the work. And I know it’s a lot of work.
@forgottonbabyforgottendeca1483Күн бұрын
Thank you and you have beautiful teeth😊
@susannt.7254Күн бұрын
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
@PantaRhei-wz5znКүн бұрын
Several workplaces have this. It really is very hard to escape, as you cannot easily find new similar jobs It fried my nervous system badly, even though i proceeded with caution. They simply have a power balance over you. If you are not malleable enough to their tastes, they start spreading lies, interfere with work assignments, and it is BRUTAL ... especially over a long time ...
@רבק-ג7עКүн бұрын
I discovered the narcissist part after she monkey branched to her new husband after disacrding me. I was her 4th relationship. Monkey branching->narcissim->relationships with narcissist...and that is when I figured this out. The narcissistic relationship cycle...it was like these youtube videos were spying on us from the outset through the discard and beyond. Low level narcissist, though, and a tough back story. I do wish her self awareness and healing.
@andreeaciobanuc404Күн бұрын
We would highly appreciate some solutions, some clues on how to deal with these people, in case we can't just leave them. For example, my mother has all the red flags of a narcissist. While I do understand that we cannot help them or change them, perhaps you could make some videos on useful tips how to handle them, how to teach them to treat us better, so that at least we could have a decent relationship, based on mutual respect, even if it's shallow and formal.
@LookingBehindtheMirror7 сағат бұрын
The problem is that there is no way to manage them. Everything is a catch 22. The best you can do is to keep as low of a profile as possible. Saying as little as possible, making no waves. But even that will have moments of failure, not to mention it’s no way to live. You can’t live with them without paying a heavy price that you shouldn’t have to pay. There’s no way around it.
@Tane77Күн бұрын
Sometimes they don’t recover especially when they are old and can’t find supply, my father was like that and he killed him self
@LookingBehindtheMirror7 сағат бұрын
Oh I’m sorry to hear that.
@yosra3551Күн бұрын
Dear! They are demonically posessed... took me 36 years to finally see the demon. They are not alone in their bodies!
@רבק-ג7עКүн бұрын
Thanks for your videos. I got discarded out of the blue after two years. We had gotten engaged and bought a beautiful home together and renovated it all by ourselves. I should have known better...I was her 4th relationship, but she said that her brain had rewired after having her kids with her 3rd husband. It turns out she had monkey branched throughout. I was truly hurt bc I did love her and became super attached to her kids. I was hurt because we had to live together for six months before I could move out and saw it all unfold right in front of my eyes. Interestingly, when she was home, it was like nothing had ever happened. We were civil and even loving, so I still had hope. And it was not all terrible... I surmise she was on the low end of the narc spectrum. The relationship lacked depth and it was one sided, but still something that seemed working for. Luckily, I connected the dots and found these resources and it all made sense all of a sudden and that was highly therapeutic. She married her now husband (very rich person - she always had fantasies of money and power) three months after I moved out. I congratulated her at the office (we work for the same company) and just left it at "you love whom you love." She smiled, but her body language told me she was pissed - I guess she expected a different reaction from me. And... part of the hurt was also that her husband just moved in, in a house into which I had put in so much work. I am not angry at her. She had some severe childhood trauma. I do wish her well and pray that she will find the werewithal to reflect and find some healing. There is no point in seeking revenge...these people have some tough back stories - not for us to solve. I refocused my mental energy back unto myself and I can really see myself coming out of this pretty soon.
@amygerstle20372 күн бұрын
❤❤❤Very comforting video. Thank you so much. I needed this. I really appreciate your content and the way you present it.🥰❤️🩹🔥💥
@opheliedussidour46432 күн бұрын
the music is too annoying could you please remove it. you message is good but the music is a distraction and annoying
@user-em3np4vr8c2 күн бұрын
Ok, this probably won't sit well with some people but i believe they are possessed of an evil spirit or many evil spirits, this is why the behaviour is just not normal in any respect, and when they start ripping you to shreds, you can fight back but its a losing battle, the only thing you can do is sit there and allow them to destroy you or get your arse as far away as possible, i recommend the latter, but it took me many years to come to this, i am an older person so i understand if you put up with this, i never even lived with em and it was hell on earth, so anyway i agree with the speaker, great stuff, has made me remember, i don't ever want to let these dark beings back into my life, and i need to be reminded because this could happen all too easily, now that i am rid of them, it must stay this way, no more psychos!😂🎉🎉🎉🎉
@LookingBehindtheMirror7 сағат бұрын
I totally understand that, but I think it’s important to acknowledge that they are nothing but human. Nothing supernatural is necessary for human beings to become monsters. We are perfectly capable of it on our own.
@lalunar82 күн бұрын
Perfect, thank you. Finally have gone No contact 🙂
@user-em3np4vr8c2 күн бұрын
I discarded them, my 2 sisters, the middle one saw the writing on the wall and stopped ringing me, the youngest kept ringing but has given up now! I have been quite the wreck lately, my beautiful cat was the kicker, i feel so devastated about my ragdoll having to go because he 💩 in hallways, talk about bad luck, i don't miss sisters abusing me or their cruelty, i worked out awhile ago i meant nothing to middle sis; i don't hate them, well yes i do get a little angry but i can't hold hatred, i am too busy trying to keep my mental state from deteriorating and finding energy to keep going, i have had bad depression for years, all my life! Luckily i also have no depression a lot of time, end of day is best lately, my medication has stopped working; i love listening to you, you have it nailed!🎉🎉❤
@user-em3np4vr8c2 күн бұрын
I am afraid of one of my sisters, i have gone no contact with both now but i do feel fearful and also her help as a solicitor is no longer available to me! It feels very isolating but i was isolated anyway, any real loving support was not really there, i only had support when i was married and yes i have had friends who were supportive but there wasn't any a lot of the time as a child, you were on your own trying to figure out how to make a muffin with only uncle tobys oats and maybe butter or milk, otherwise there was nothing to eat, i seem to remember many Sundays like that, but its vague!
@user-rn5qo3pp7c3 күн бұрын
Mine would say that I had “selective hearing” and have a smug look on his face as if he was a professor teaching a student a new term. Mind you, he never finished high school and I’m a college graduate.
@lizmackie40043 күн бұрын
They're criticism is hidden in jokes and when you call them out for it they then say your too sensitive and can't take a joke
@sunnycatc64913 күн бұрын
Exactly right!! Ty.
@attractarattigan35743 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@akashalove3 күн бұрын
Well - I did tell my narcissistic ex that he can’t love. I guess that could be considered a “generalised insult” but it is based on my experience of 1.5 years with this person. And it’s the truth of my experience with them. Is that still a bad thing to say to them - in the context of discussing why our relationship did not work out?
@lexander_The_Grape4 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@kammellioo4 күн бұрын
I also can't wrap my head around this concept. Although coaches and the self aware narc channel expresses this idea, it's so hard to grasp. My brain cannot see the way they sees. The see a snap shot of our image or a characture of us to play with, this sounds so confusing, I cannot relate to it properly
@lblincoe20945 сағат бұрын
Imagine playing a video game. The world and all of the characters/bad guys only exist in relation to you as the player, they have no function outside of you. When you're playing level 1, level 2 literally doesn't exist, and so on and so on. The second you pass that goomba, he doesn't keep walking until he makes it home to his goomba wife and goomba babies, he isn't thinking about financial stress or thinking about what he's going to have for dinner later, and he doesn't have emotional reactions to things, he literally ceases to exist the second you don't need him to. Because he's only there FOR you, there is no use for him outside of his use to you. He literally only exists for the purpose of engaging with you. Everything he does is about you and for you. He's not just aimlessly guarding that tunnel, he's doing it just for the impact it has on you. Even the other main characters, they still only exist for you. No one is there for anything other than serving your gaming experience, they're all there to serve you. When you go and talk to the princess, she isn't reacting to you as an autonomous being with purpose and passion and history and personal values and her own beliefs, she only says the preprogrammed things she supposed to say to you. There is no thought or emotion driving her, there's no depth or nuance, you don't consider what she's feeling or experiencing, she's just dutifully following the script. That's her only purpose in existing, to follow the script that serves your experience as the player. Imagine if all of a sudden she started telling you that you'd invalidated her or she was having a hard time dealing with a coworker or her student loans were stressing her out or any other personal sentiment that has nothing to do with the game you were playing. That's the best way I've been able to conceive of it 🤷🏼♀️
@lindatallon92174 күн бұрын
Can't wrap my head around this twisted entity.....
@anitanash77774 күн бұрын
1. Guilt tripping; 2. Future faking; 3. Gaslighting; 4. Blackmail; 5. Dependance. Thank you. Blessings to all 🙏💪❤️🩹🌻