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This was incredibly helpful to have step by step instructions. My husband would be helped by this since he his conflict avoidant with me. I need this because I’m conflict avoidant with my girlfriends and family.

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Very accurate

“Putting them outside the house” was the key insight I needed. I meditated and journaled multiple times, but nothing seemed to help. The thing is that I’ve been resistant to letting go. It felt like a huge loss. But gradually detaching myself mentally seems to be a way out. Thank you, Michelle!

this entire video is me 😩🥹

1. Self esteem is based on what you do for others. 2. Don’t know what you need or want. 3. Lose yourself in relationships. 4. Can’t say no or set boundaries, can’t share feelings. 5. You attract people who are difficult to be with in a relationship. 6. Have a hard time letting go of abusive or dysfunctional people. 7. Expecting perfection from partners and not stating expectations.

I am experiencing now exactly how “resentment kicks back in again “ more like surrender …. to what I don’t want and I am ignored…… painful mentality and physically 🙏 thank you for confirming.

My intuition is always right but people Always say im wrong

Omg I am a narcissist magnet.😢

I have resentment festering... and I hold on to it because I want to avoid an argument, and I don't speak to family or friends about it because I don't want to speak negatively. I have emailed my pastor to see if church counseling will help get it off my chest (just me because I don't think my husband will be open to it)😢

Right

I failed to put them at first...how do you put them now?

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I put everyone family before myself. I don't take of myself. Why

My sister live together bestfriend. Why do I have this tell every thought I have our learn. This is driving me crazy to. Even when is reading cleaning. I call out gigi

Ditto❤ this has hit home , I am determined to break this cycle

Thank you❤

I just came out of a relationship with a sociopath...he would get mad over silly things, blame everything on others. Worked 10 hours in 5 months..he said he wasn't using me when i paid for everything..i mean everything..he blamed it on his mental and physical health, he has variable pulse; alway saying he could deop dead any time. I asked him to find an easy job..he didn't. The last time because he got lost and parked in a wrong parking lot, after me telling him where, i tey to explain where to meet, he yelled at me like a maniac then horribly told me to shut up...i if course told him who t f do you think u are to tell me to shut up...my oldest was with me..heard tbe whole thing, aftehe comes out he goes and gets in my son's face and start yelling at him , blaming him that he had to pay 20 bucks...my son is pissed. Tells him get if my face you stupid piece of s...you are lucky i can't walk or i would kick your ass...he took that as a threat...i told him th get away feom my son..he got mad that i took his side and left...never apologized

Growing up I was lied to about EVERYTHING! I begin having trust issues as a child and it progressed into my adulthood. When being in relationships I’ve had a gut feeling that the guy was cheating. I would ask and he would lie but my gut wouldn’t let up! My body always have let me know when something wasn’t right in my life but I just didn’t know how to trust and believe in myself. I had a problem with calling others telling them all my business just for them to confirm what I felt/knew and just for me not to listen and end up hurt in the end. I’m 31 yrs old just learning how to trust myself. My new way of living and thinking is “When your gut tells you something, listen to it!”

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Having a narcissistic boss is the worst form of bully ever. My narcisstic boss dominates me, Gaslights, bullies, spreads misinformation using my name. Is a BIG hypocrite and then says she isn't a hypocrite 😂😂 If i mirror her behaviour and do the same thing to her she doesn't like it and always always knows how to defend herself. After every conversation with her I feel like I have been demeaned, destroyed.

I just write on KZfaq fear of abandoned. And this comes out. OmG.

Preach it. Women don’t need accountability 😂

Oh god yes. It was smoothing and painful in the end. Now she won't go away, 12 months have passed and I'm still getting contact attempts. Very strange, I now fully understand WHY I WAS HER ONLY FRIEND.

I've heard the gut feeling caller your GPS system which stands for your God Protection System! It's the precious Holy Spirit. God never steers anyone wrong. God bless everyone.

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Me too I didn’t listen to my gut feeling the night before my wedding… learned the hard way to ALWAYS listen to it. 😢

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Me too! I think part of not trusting our intuition is also wishing that the little voice is not true. You want things to be how you hope or wish them to be.

Thanks❤🌹🙏 for🌹 advice and honest insight

SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP

I have a miserable sister that picks 1-2 family members per day and lashes out usually by text messages. I was her target Sunday and I had a horrible two days after. I have been dealing with this for about 20 years .

I know I have an issue with anger because I quickly snap on my family when they don't listen to me. I find it very hard to get over because my family actually refuses to listen to me or respect my feelings, needs, etc. I constantly feel alone when I'm with my family. They also only react with anger whenever I have tried to adress their behaviours. This has led me to combating their anger with more anger or else they will always be angry. It feels like if I don't get more angry than my family is, they will never listen to or respect anything I have to say. It frustrates me that this approach works because I really hate being angry and yelling.

i recovered from a short term anxious period about 4 weeks ago and now im feeling quite anxious again. im not sure why i am but i really dont want that phase i had a while ago to come back

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this hits hard, i'm an aspie so i really only have 1 friend from high school who initially only asked if we wanted to see movies with him, then it was hanging with him after school/weekend which kept going after school ended and i started working (travelling to him also avoided chores at home given by my parents) BUT i only saw how dysfunctional the friendship was after i moved out and he started calling almost every day for trifles and wanted to hang out EVERY weekend. me being an aspie also means that i can go weeks without contact (outside of work) and not be bothered by it, but he seems to always crave contact, then my twin brother told me that he suspected him of being a narcissist and that his (late diagnose) asperger is possibly a misdiagnosis

Putting up with someone who is beyond help requires you to walk away. That might be the thing that saves them and you.

Thank you for this video. You put things in perspective for me and helped me understand my feelings better. Now I will shift focus from the chaos caused by the narc in my life to things that I enjoy and positive people

From an recovering alcoholic, this is absolutley true 100 %. Dont blame yourself, because it started way back in their life. They need to focus on them selfs like you need to do. After you can talk, make a mens, forgive, and move on. Realise it is a sickness on three levels. In The soul, the mind and in body.

I love that! I was wondering what their philosophy is.

I finally feel like i can trust myself not to do drugs ...im taking therapy and rehabilation and my relationship with my sister is healthy, self rewarding, and determination to gain trust

It all I believe was after an event but I can’t talk about it

It all started in 4th grade when I would get outbursts and throw balls and stuff at people during recess or gym, 4th grade was when my lip biting was real bad