as a wheelchair user, I don't hate the movie honestly. I am in a wheelchair, I know some people who used euthanasia to die. I personally like my disabled live but it is hard to cope with sometimes. People should be able to get the right help and Will's mindset was kinda toxic. But I get that some people would choose to end it and that's their choice. Though I agree that the wording could've been better

I'll admit i was sobbing at the end of the movie, but there was something that seemed very off about the portrayal of wheelchair users. As someone currently in the process of a depression diagnosis, the rep of that also didnt sit quite right, especially with the ending. Thank you for educating people on this topic!

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I wish you would upload more KZfaq videos! You are so well spoken, I enjoy listening to you

I wish I had seen this before I watched the movie. 😭 I cried so much at the end from having wasted my emotions and time on it. I won’t even bother with the book, especially with the clear lack of research in it.

You are right,tell the truth about disabled people can still live a normal life just change their lifestyle

ur right, we should ask u first before making any movie

I loved the movie. Still do.

No tea but you can move your arms and that he couldn’t so…

You gave me some new insight. I totally lost this negativ point because I was looking out for excuses for such drastical decisions like his neverending series of illnesses and pain that could make anybody go crazy but in the end Will himself admits it is because of the disablity and he does not mention the pain as much as the psychological trauma he suffered in contrast to his old life. So thank you for the insight and this bittersweet taste for maybe a more disturbing story I did not understand.

Thank you for talking about this.

This is very insightful and well done! You honestly could be an actor.

I won't defend the film. Also: anyone who gets offended by facts is not good.

It's a movie.

Why does everyone have to be a victim these days

Thank you so much for making this video! I'm an English teacher in Ukraine, and our English coursebook has a very problematic excerpt from the book (the scene where Lou and Will first meet). Me and my students live in a country where there are many more people with mobility problems now because of the war, missile strikes and landmines, etc. It's so important for us to interrogate these harmful ways of thinking, but the book doesn't push back at all. As extra homework, I gave them your video to watch and we will discuss it in our next class.

I absolutely disagree and hate the ending, it gives away such a wrong message. You don't end life just because you want to! That was legit suicide and murder. First and for most, WTF is ending life because "I loved my old life" "I'm not the person I've become"???? I thought this was plain stupidity, don't come at me, but istg WORD'S, the real wise words could've saved him. Idc. It is only God who decides when to die or not. And if you're not religious, here's a better " Why not? " Befuckincause, every moment you live is a new you. Even if your whole body isn't working. Every moment you take a breath is a new you, a new life. You don't live for people, or to make their lives less/more miserable. You live for yourself. What the actual fuck was that?. He clearly gave up. That wasn't some wise shit. She could've saved him! He could've saved himself!. It wasn't like he was short of money, or actually anything, only thing, THE ONE AND ONLY issue was the paralyzed body, and maybe it's just me. That's literally nothing, to love and to live desires a soul, not body. The ending was absolutely trash.

The movie/book is not about every people but Will, he had to give up on being super energetic and sportif to someone who is in a wheelchair, for him not running, swimming, surfing, driving is just surviving, he choose to not live like that because HE can't see himself like that not because people can't live like that. Lu doesn't know a thing about the spine injury,she is not a medical assistant just someone who needed a job.

It’s not offensive! It would be offensive if people in the movie thought he had no value or no reason to live . Everyone in the movie wanted him to live. It’s he himself who did not want to. He had right to feel the way he did, whether you agree with him or not You can’t tell someone how to feel or think it’s wrong just because you don’t agree . Of course, disabled people have value and can live full happy lives. They actually show you this in the movie he just chose not to. The movie is about choice right or wrong . It’s not a movie about showing disabled people are useless quite the opposite. It shows he has loving family and can find love. It’s a love story sad as it is

The narrative in the film isn't unrealistic. You just happen to not find it relatable.

you forgot she left her 7 year relationship for that emo wheeled will traynor.

We are living in a time where most people get offended about just anything.

I'm not physically disabled, but I'm glad I'm not the only one that thought this movie smelled a bit off. I write stories about a lot of different kinds of characters, and one of my favorite focal characters is a girl who lost most of her left leg in a terrible machine accident when she was really small due to negligence and unethical child labor. She eventually gets a new home and recovers from the incident. And literally her entire deal is that she determinedly finds a way to do whatever she wants to do, and has a lot of fun doing it, even if she has to adapt to a situation. She has ADHD and is super active and loves parkour and climbing and lots of things that you wouldn't picture someone missing a leg, would do. But her story isn't about just "a girl overcoming missing a leg", it's really just another detail in a story with a ton of other things going on like sci Fi elements, living in an atypical adopted family unit, overcoming the struggles she faces with ADHD (which I do write from experience) Because I wanted to write her like a person first, with a detail applied, not making being disabled her entire personality, like a lot of shows do, or writing her like she's not disabled at all, like a lot of shows do. Which, I got a lot of the realistic details about what it's like living without part of your leg and using a prosthetic from youtube channels like footless jo. I think in the age of information we can take the time to actually hear what people we're representing in fictional stories, have to say, especially when it's as easy as looking up a KZfaq channel. I like the way footless jo put it, in regards to living with a disability. "It's not a good thing, it's not a bad thing, it's just a thing," and I like looking at it that way. No stigma, it's just a detail. There's so many different kinds of people who live differently than the bland standard we've seen a billion times before. I think there's so many cool new possibilities if you just write with an open mind.

Shut up. This movie wasn't about your community. It was about an individual and him having a choice.

The movie in my opinion wasn't offensive. It was told from the perspective of a person with quadraplegia and their choice not to go on. The movie never suggested people with paralysis or disabilities should die, cannot live full lives or have sex. This was the choice of one man..period. We have the right to live and die as we choose. Personally i wouldn't have given them six months if it were me. It was a good movie but sad because like his character pointed out he could've still had a good life but he chose it wasn't for him.

I havent seen the film. And it looks beautiful in the trailer. I'm disappointed now because you just said the ending 😱😭. And if that's the ending it's very sad and a turn off.

you forgot something, you're not the center of the universe, not because Will did that means everyone has to do it too

I just read Me Before You, and I'm so glad to have stumbled onto your channel. I am one of those people who cried like a baby, but then I got be really mad about it. May I also submit that the book is incredibly classist and illustrates how profoundly a sense of privilege will mess you up? The main character, Lou, and her family have to turn themselves inside and out to adapt and make ends meet. Will has the financial ability to take advantage of every adaptive technology, an advantage that many people who use a wheelchair don't have. And yet, as you pointed out, many others with a disability lead meaningful lives without this same financial advantage. There are countless examples of how the main character has to buck up, because she can't afford otherwise. Yet, this guy can't even imagine a live where he can't do exactly by everything he wants in the way he wants to do it. He can still do many of the things he says he can't do, including starting another company and have sex. Thank you for sharing your experience.

I thought the ending of the movie was stupid too! I love the movie except the end. As someone who works in the healthcare industry, I’ve seen people go through great pains. So I’m okay with someone leaving their body to not feel pain anymore. It’s not always that they want to die because they’re tired of life. Sometimes it’s simply because life is meant to be enjoyed. And some people don’t have the privilege of having joy because their pain doesn’t give them a second to have gratitude for life. What I’m not ok with is that the guy in the movie (or book) didn’t seem to be in great physical pain. He had depression and committed suicide! HE WOULD NOT HAVE KILLED HIMSELF IF HE HAD A GREAT PSYCHIATRIST FOR DEPRESSION MEDS AND A GREAT THERAPIST. I didn’t read the book. Does anyone know from the book whether he had mental help or not? As sweet as the girl was, the only thing that can save people is the right help and themselves.

I like your video, points of view and clearly The way you spoil the movie for everyone. For real, Apologize from being ignorant since we do not know about people with quadriplegia. But the movie is a good similar to "PS I love you" the only diference is they compare to cancer. Which is worst. The man character is just a point of view of a person that give up in life. You on the other end you are not like that. But some people think certain things are like terminal decease. X-men for real. Profesor is paraplegic.

Well, I'm not sure if you are still doing videos. Your last video is from 5 years ago. I hope you are fine and wish you the best.👍🏻😊 Now I will give my opinion about the book, and don't get offended. My favourite phrase is ' Where there is life, there is hope'. But let's think for a while, let's imagine that Will is a real person that passed from being a healthy person without any dissability, succesful and happy. And then he has an accident where makes him a handycap person. You know I understand your point of view because I'm also a girl with a dissability. I don't wear a wheelchair, but I have a problem in one of my legs and a problem in left hip and low back. I got this problem because of Septicemia that almost killed me when I was just a baby, I had until now many surgeries around 6 surgeries that I had to support because some of them included external apparatus that were inserted in my bones for several months. I know what is to feel impotent and to suffer of pain. Also I know what is to feel judge by people no matter if they are adults or children. I know how is to walk on a wheelchair because some pos-surgery recovery made me used wheelchair for some time. And when I was a teenager I wanted to finish my life because I felt depressed, because of the bullying from some students that without any reason used to judge me, to insult me, etc. Nowadays I feel emotionally better, but let's think for a while that everyone has to live even if they have a dissability. Each person can pick up a decission. I have read the book, I have watched the movie and I liked both. I felt identify with some parts of the movie and book, I will say mostly with the book because you can read Will's feelings and those feelings are the ones that I had felt some time in my life. I understand what do you mean, but there are millions of people like you, like me that have different opinions and we can't judge the author. There are people that suicided themselves for millions of reasons, and I'm sure that some of those people had a dissability mental or physical.

“Isn’t any Adam sandler movie just a pile of garbage” the way this man just connected with my very being 🤩 why does EVERYONE I know think he’s a good actor? He plays the same worn out character in every movie he’s ever in 🤦🏻‍♀️ I legit felt a wave of vindication

Well you have a choice Don’t watch the movie ok

I love the amount of education in this video. And you're not insulting anyone, just trying to help make the world a better place. P.S. eventually I forgot you were a wheelchair user. Just saying. And I super love the tiara. Haha

I got out of the wheelchair, was close to death still recovering after 10 years. Appreciation on a different scale came. I don't know how long I live, but I have hope for a better present and future. I've been comparing myself to my better self in the past. No use really. I found some parts of the film offensive, but it is someone's imagination laid on paper, then, a film. Again, I thought there are 3 choices: 1 to watch, be critical and get upset and feel bad, when I already battle health issues 2 follow a story of love and tranformation 3 not watch it

Not everyone is the same 🤷🏻

Ok,, anti-suicide leage in the video and in the comments. You people know a lot of your condition but you don't know a f*con about?

Thank you for this video! I got recommended the book on goodreads and I found it to be the most morally bereft book I've ever read. His suicide is treated as some sort of triumph of spirit instead of a tragedy. And everyone's life is better with him dead? Lou gets money. His dad finally gets to leave his marriage and live with his mistress. So...yay? And Will misses his life being a blackberry addicted adrenaline junkie so much he commits suicide? His family was toxic. He was toxic. Louisa was too cowed by their money and intelligence to really speak up effectively. The mental health system failed him. I understand the value of medically assisted suicide. But this was not a case where it was called for. For those who have lost a loved one to suicide this book is a slap in the face. It didn't have to end happily. But it sure shouldn't have glorified his choice. I'm glad I read a library copy instead of buying it.

I don't see how it was offensive. The story clearly states that many people with similar disabilities are happy and fulfilled, just not this particular man. Also why Dignitas controversial? It offers a valuable service to people in need. Just because some people with quadripeglia such as this lovely dude experience joy and lead a purposeful life does not mean that is the case for anyone.

I’m not offended by the terminology used but it doesn’t sound good. I’m a partial quadriplegic c5-c6 just like you but I can move my wrist

I hate video's that Criticize Book's and Movie's, also take so much time and effort in to creating and vice versa ! ! !

2022 comment - yes to more film/movie reviews!!

I just found this, and I want you to know how upset I was with the ending of the movie. Why the movie found no value in his life was very upsetting to me. Family would still love him, and he could still love them the same when he came out of his depression. It's a dangerous slope that I don't want to get into, but to say that your life has value no matter what happens to you. And what next, I have OCD send me to Switzerland? Any way I love you putting this truth out there. I'm God fearing so I don't need to explain more. Anyway your funny, cute, and a good actor. God bless. Watching this was a positive experience. ☺

Although I am someone who uses a wheelchair and am not a person with quadriplegic, so I can’t fully understand how it may be to read a book like this. I agreed with a lot of your points, there were a few points where I thought you were a bit too, I don’t really know how to explain it. I’m not really that bothered by most ‘un-politically correct words (I know that’s not a cohesive sentence but I don’t know how to say it otherwise). So I don’t really mind as much how people describe me; wheelchair bound or in a wheelchair, although wheelchair user sounds cooler, I don’t really mind it as much. I thought you were a bit heavy handed with the ‘offensive’. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big fan of the book that doesn’t listen to anyone that dares to differ from my opinion, not at all, I hated the book just as much as you did. As I said, I agreed with most of you said, I think there were a lot of offensive things in the book, however I though you were a bit too much into the political correctness in my opinion. Who cares about my opinion though I’m just trying to give my two cents about this topic. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion of course. I’m not trying to start a fight I’m just merely trying to give my views.

Aww

I come back from time to time hoping there's a new video.

I'm not someone with quadriplegia, but I am disabled. I won't go into detail but I just wanted to preface this with the fact that I am not an able-bodied person. I use a walker, won't be able to walk at all as time goes on, and have constant severe pain. I'm not gonna go into all the terminology the author got wrong, but I just wanted to say this: not everyone is the same. Will was in his early 30's, very active, and had just become someone with quadriplegia two years prior. Some of us would be able to live with paraplegia or quadriplegia, and some of us wouldn't. There are many ways people are different. I don't believe that there is anything wrong with assisted suicide. Will was mentally competent and made a decision based on what he wanted, and what he knew he could and couldn't live with. I know this is a very controversial subject, but to be me it comes down to a simple premise: someone should have the right to end their life if they (not anyone else) feels they are suffering and doesn't want to continue living as they are. If Will wanted to go on living, then I would fully support that too.

‘No, You are’ - in a chair and still able to boss the ladies around amiright my guy?

Instead of complaining why don't you write your own book and make it a movie.

Sorry you were offended but I would do the same thing like Will if I were in his position. I love my physical life and all the things associated. It's an individual choice.