Tell that to japanese

I was raised by my mom, as a single mother and a military she always taught me to be polite despite the other people's reciprocity. I don't want to be perceived as weak, but don't want to leave behind what mother taught me

You said the Japanese had a cultural differing in bowing. And in the US we don’t. I disagree. Where I come from in the United States of America we do too; it’s called shaking hands. It’s a sign of showing mutual respect, and yielding, it’s our version of bowing. I’d like to also use Jesus as an example; most powerful man to ever walk Earth, and would wash your feet when you enter his home. Your success is measured by your metrics in life. If your version of success is thinking to yourself in your head that you’re more powerful because you curb being polite, that’s a generation and version of the future I hope not to see. Speak gently. Carry a big stick. - Theodore Roosevelt

Good reminder.

Live next door to an Indian ,will know what good neghbour can be ,,,....western countries and their culture about mind ur own business leads to newspapers lying at the door for more than 3 days and someone calling police about foul smell coming .

to the one reading this, the worst you can do to yourself is learn social skills online. Go out there and suffer and learn from it. You'll never forget and get better.

So much to remember. Aaah

Being polite doesn’t mean taking shit from others. Being polite isn’t the same as having a weak character. I deal with many people that have this sick mentality and I just have to remind them “POLITELY” that I’m not dealing with their BS. Be a source of light in this effed up world. We all need it. Be polite.

Trade scchools, you get jobs paying just the same amount as a college degree, without the hassle of school debt and unnecessady classes to be taken. I can see why men are like "Nah" on the college hassle.

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can't believe I missed this great advice for 6 years. Keep up 👍

This is applicable only when dealing with white males or white acculturated women working on white-male terms. Otherwise, other rules are in play and the rest of us dont worry about white terms.

I hate that this is true. I used to be too polite around others, but pathetic people see that as invitation for abuse. I am still working on figuring out assertiveness.

i thought speaking quickly is an expression of anxiety?

Thank you very much for this! ❤

This video has really helped me. Thank you so much!

Right

I mostly consider myselve brutally honest, though practicing tact my whole life. With many reasons, in numberous ways, from studies & training, to work or.... off topic. 😂 Though for me this shows a similar kind of tension, you mention between honesty and tact. Which do not need to conflict or contradict, nor any sacrifice to either, Yet to be considered in nuances. The latter makes it not blunt nor brutal, often perhaps even tactful & considerate, in several ways. Thanks for pointing that out, me being a fan of nuance & considerate clarity as well... Appreciated useful sharing & reminder 🙏❣️

How do I deal with family members who constantly rejects my feelings?

I was in a work meeting on my phone because I was on my way to a meeting, my boss was explaining something to us and another car swerved in front of me so I shouted 'you f**king tw*t' ! and I wasn't on mute

well, when someone shows a lack of politeness with me it reads weak and insecure.. politeness is a sign of intelligence and strength and self awareness. but measured of course.. deference isn’t polite, it’s a sign of lack of confidence. just my perspective.

Great advice! Thanks! 🌼

Twat. Be nice to everyone.

I don't agree with this premise. I think good leaders are polite, empathetic and fair minded. A good leader shouldn't be less polite and shouldn't be blunt or too aggressive neither should they be overly passive. A nice assertive medium would be the goal but of course it would depend on the situation. But if someone is rude or blunt to me I respect them way less not more. Maybe it's different for white males and/or if you are in the military or something.

What are folks tips on dealing with “powerful” doctors ? 🙉

Great job 👏

So if you want to be powerful, be an arsehole, got it. Sounds more like a poor excuse for a manager to be rude. 🙄

This is bullshit and doesn't work in real life :) we aren't 1 and 0, it depends on so many variables you can't just say, stop being polite if you know you are right, it's called being an ass

Some examples of do's and don'ts would be helpful to further drive ur point. Thanks for the info

How will it work in Canada? Be assertive and then say i am sorry?!

wow.. I saw one of your videos made 6 years ago... and came to your channel and this is latest (as of now) and such a consistent, interesting way your teaching has been... I am going to take your videos as lessons as frequently as possible..

Don’t divide everything into small pieces, first have good diet, regular exercise, daily working out towards goals with discipline and many other elements matter to become confident in life, if you strengthen the basics then you will definitely become what you really want.

Just be truthful that is all.

dont be afraid to break rapport

Politeness is ingrained in me and I find direct assertiveness a real challenge. I hear what you're saying about being mindful and intentionally thinking about being assertive. I typically don't think to do this until after the fact.

What does the claw mean? what does it communicate? I don't go on tik tok ... so I am not learning this...

How can I delete them? I’m on a iPhone, it doesn’t seem to let me delete text messages. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.

That, coupled with ice, is the worst of all; I grew up with it and I wait for someone's anger and am surprised when nothinng bad happens .

Excellent, thanks very much. I found your insights to be very resourceful.

I was in the military for some years. Superiors without ego issues saw no problem with me being blunt and direct with them. Never rude, mind you - but never more polite than what I needed to be. Will definitely have your words in mind, by the way. I think I'm still too polite and I'm trying to be a bit more disagreeable. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.

I'm gonna give it a try even if I'm from another culture than yours.

Makes sense to me. You don’t want to be a pushover in dealing with others. Yes men are not respected by others. Presenting yourself with surety and confidence is very important. The way people perceive you, will determine how they treat you. That being said, people need to know that you care for them. This is a difficult balance. I am still working on the second part of this equation.

Most people are better at lying than I am at truth-telling.

thank you sm this helped me a lot!

She sent me this 💀💀

I agree with this if one doesn’t know how to interact with people. How to truly interact with people effectively is to be respectful to the other person. There is no need to figure out power, politeness etc. I hold a very high position at my work. Actually, I am the ceo. But, when someone messes up. I pull them aside, in -riveted, and ask what is happening. And how ‘we’ can fix this. And guess what, I have an environment that has very little drama. Because everyone treats everyone with respect. If you feel the need to figure anybody’s ‘power’ or how ‘polite’ you need to be. I think you need to work on your self respect first. Get that down form. Because once you respect yourself. You respect others with the same integrity. And people can feel it. Talking up or talking down to people are various forms of sucking dick or having your dick sucked.

"Just because you’re thinking it, doesn’t mean you should say it”

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Hi Bruce! Firstly, I want to thank for all your advices! you can't imagine how much they improve my relationship with my family, friends and even people I have "small talks" (everyone wants to keep going conversation after I learned with you give the cues 😅, but It's very good in Brazil, trust me) Bruce, I want to ask you about how to express gratitude - there is a step by step in speech that can convey gratitude for things, actions or words that somene have do for me, in a way that fully express how I feel, reconize others actions and make they feel good? I think a miss some important things I want to say

I say this all the time lol these people don’t have a single original thought in their head.