The common sense spoken goes straight to my heart. I have never heard videos so intuitive and helpful

Very good! Thank you!

I needed this my brother 🙏

Conflict avoidance is my krptonite

Any child out side marriage is a curse ,we dont care if is hurt

Do you talk about Christian dating? You have taught me so much but I lack communication skills and discernment. I realized just now how this one guy I like isn't even a friend. 😢

Remember Lebron tried to fake a hate crime then covered it up because he realized how dumb he was gonna look.

You do know that many women are the same. They are little girls that have been forced into a woman’s body. Young girls taught to clean, cook, nurture and take in responsibilities at very young ages.

Thanks good advice

God bless you man. This is what I really needed to begin with

Delet is a great advice How about id there is a child involved?

Whatever you said is good for newlyweds or young couples few years in to being partners. That’s a totally different deal when man being in the relationship for decades, all of the sudden remembers she never actually initialized throughout all that time. And then you realize that she actually never even initialized cuddling hugging or spooning. She will accept your initialization, she will enjoy massages, foreplay and other stuff - and you better do it good and for a long while, otherwise you might not get the whole package. Or she will fake it ( which is worse, and I’ve known when she did it for decades) - something like that hit you like a ton of bricks. I have cats, because if I don’t I’ll have bad rats problem. And I feed them only enough so that they will stay around my house. So when that “ton of bricks” hit me - that was some sobering epiphany, that I am like those cats! And she actually doesn’t care about me at all.

This is all very helpful. Thank you for the great advice.

DO NOT STAY!!!

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She will do it again. She's already done it more than you know.

I am synical about 90% of psychologists, I feel most who get into this profession do it because they are wrecks in their personal lives, the last who should be giving advise, but Clifton you make sense and are reasonable, I enjoyed your advise

What's the point of initiating if there's a schedule I know what day and time to drop the drawers

Thanks. So helpful

Amen. These are tough topics but what you said, I can tell, the Holy Spirit is guiding you. I totally agree, but it’s not what I think nor is it about my opinion-it’s about what our Father in Heaven, our Creator, says it’s the way it’s supposed to be-therefore, since He’s our God, He knows best. Not only that, when we live in His will for us, is when we find true connection with, and love for one another. Thank you so much for sharing and speaking truth. It’s hard to find godly men who speak up nowadays. Every since I’ve decided to stop focusing on myself and my selfish needs all the time, my husband and I have actually started to connect emotionally, physically, and spiritually, which is so much more rewarding than the way we were living before. Again-thank you my brother! May Jesus bless you and keep you, and your loved ones close to Him! ✝️🙏

I really enjoy your content

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Being single is superior lifestyle

NO ONE

You just described my entire marriage of almost 4 years in 11 minutes. My husband needs to see this, but pride and ego won't let him.

I’ve been married for 30 years. She’s never denied me sex and I can wake her from a dead sleep and she’ll still let me in. However it would be nice if just once in a while she would initiate sex.

It used to be simple. The one who pays the bills

Self-compassion for the win! Looking forward to this season - #ManHoodMonday

Thank you so much for sharing

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I'm not married, but I found this to be very helpful. Recently, I traveled to see a guy that lives 2 hours by plane. Took a very early flight. Yes i paid for it with my own money. we just had a day together. Have not seen him in over a month. We talk often via video chat voice notes, phone, and send memes on IG. The connection has advanced. We are not together, though. He is more sexually experienced than I am and is very flirtatious often. I made it clear that I have been celibate for close to 2 years. I also mentioned my dissatisfaction with former sexual partners and not climaxing due to poor quality foreplay. I expressed my desires to make reservationfor an activity i enjoyed., finding places to eat, and then spending quality time together connecting. I also expressed enjoying light touching. I reliterated this the week of meeting. When I arrived at the airport, he hesitated to kiss me and did not kiss me at all the whole time I was with him. There was a lack of affection on his end. Last time when I visited, he was more affectionate. I understood he had worked before picking me up. I was disappointed and did not feel connected and desired. I know what you all are thinking did I talk about it. With him. No I didn't. I sat and observed. When we were at his place watching television I made gestures ( put my head on his lap) He did get the hint and touched me but I still felt he was distracted by his phone. There were some PROS though: he opened my door, took my luggage, paid for meals and made the reservation for the activity I wanted to do. He was accommodating, did the driving. Gave me a tour of the other areas of his apartment complex.He made me laugh. Cons: No kissing at all, Gave me a friendly hug, ,When he was affectionate it was short. Would only grab the boobs and slapped my ass, Later in the evening he tried touching my private area and gestured for me to sit on top to get off. I declined tand pushed him off out of frustration. I went to sleep. When i woke up in the middle of the night i went to the couch and sleep there until i had to wake up and get ready to leave. .(He did wake up and asked if i needed anything from the kitchen which showed her cared) No kiss goodbye at the airport. Currently I am still in my feelings. I have decided to keep my options open for dating, which I should have been doing and to pull back from effort to visit him and will entertain when he plans to visit me and if I am available. I already went out twice to see him. I am focusing on myself for now. I do plan on talking to him about it and to see if we can resolve anything. 0:52

There is also the issue of control and manipulation at play. “I will participate in sex, but you must come to me for it. I want it, but I will not initiate it.”Therefore, the other person’s sexual drive/appetite is being used against them to feed the non-initiator’s need for control or sense of power. So they manipulate you into participating according to their dictate.

I had a male friend, dated a girl for 6 mos then they move in together. Month 7 (that's just one month of living together), he's calling me complaining about how infrequently [HE'S] getting s3x. I asked how often did they have it before living together, he said about twice, 3x's if she stayed Fri-Sun. I asked, so what is it down to now that yall live together, he said in frustration, IT'S THE SAME! I asked, what's the problem. He said I WANT MORE. I asked what does more look like to you, he said tiwce a day (before work and when he gets home or before bedtime) every day or every other day. I explained (1), our body can't handle that frequency. Kat get tender, soar, and swollen and therfore not pleasurable. (2), I asked if he expressed this before they moved together, he said no. He just thought they would naturally do it more once they were under the same roof. I asked, why did you think that, he said, HE just THOUGHT they would. Before the year was out, she moved out cause she felt he only wanted her for her body and not a true committed loving relationship.

Only full fledge grown folks can receive this message. @5:00min There's a difference between being hungry and just wanting to eat something just because it's there.

We do not operate from lust and a lot of immature men keep trying to pull us into their lustful perverted world. We are wired for LOVE, not Lust. I don't care what semantics you put on it i.e. "desire you", it's LUST. Until immature men let that click in their head (both of them), I guess the battles continues 🤷‍♀️ Turn Off The Corn

Sex is not on women's mind because we're not inundating ourselves with s3xual images all day everyday. Therefore, it's LITERALLY not on our minds. If men turn off the corn, our interest "desire" would be more in balance with each other. Why is that so hard to comprehend???

Your a clown men can handle rejection just fine but once it becomes all the time it's not the man being a little boy it's the man that wants a real wife

You a whole feminist yes it's the man being immature it can't be the woman being a cold b*tch it's always the man miss me with that

It's not a maturity thing well it is you need to be mature enough to see that itay very well be she doesn't want you like she used to

This was really insightful.

I love how you put that “if she’s not feeling you or feel connected she won’t initiate.” I definitely felt that way with my partners i either felt like we were not connected or I’m doing everything in the relationship why should i be initiating sex too

She was not feeling it. Physical changes from a newborn plus a school age kid. House. Work. The minutia of life. “No” is the easiest word to say in the English language, and it means so much more than just ‘not now.’ It stings. So, he backs off. Waits. She’ll come around, eventually. But she doesn’t. And she won’t. Complacency sets in. Patterns of behavior form. Passion dies. He gave up asking a long time ago. It’s not that he doesn’t want her. It’s not that she doesn’t love him. He remembers how good it was, and he yearns, but he also remembers the pain. And he no longer knows how. And she’s long since forgotten why. But, sometimes. Occasions. Not often, but just often enough to keep hope alive. He thinks she’s come back to him. So he tries. And fails. The pain is the same. The humiliation. The self doubt. You suggest he awaits her lighting a candle? Some tacit message that tonight she’ll be receptive? He can’t. He doesn’t believe in fairytales anymore.

Dealt with rejection for years and at some point just completely stopped. I'll never let that happen again. Some rejection is fine, but when it's constantly for years it's over.

Great video!! Rejection and disconnection!!! 🔥🔥

Ive made the mistake of rejecting her advances when I REALLY wasnt in the mood. And now she no longer initiates. Informative video. Thank you

Lol...i feel like the only wife in this comment section. Ive been the initiate 90% of the time throughout our entire marriage...even during the newlywed phase. Itd be nice to feel wanted that way more. To be clear...ive never rejected my husband when he has initiated. He just also has a problem with HOW he initiates. Hes very awkward and just kinda gropes a little until i get the hint. It makes me wonder if hes been rejected in a prior relationship and is still afraid to go all in so he just sort of fumbles the ball when he tries. This has been a larger issue in our marriage than ive let him know. Its left me feeling ashamed of my sexuality (makes me feel like im the only one who wants sex), rejected, undesirable, unwanted, and just generally unloved. So strange how something like this can have such a big impact on an intimate relationship.

So GOODT 🔥

Valuable live. Does love alone sustain a marriage, or are other factors like communication, compromise, and shared values equally crucial for long-term success?

Hello Cliffton, Love your wisdom and Is there a way you can be reached through an email please? I would love to have a collaborative conversation about sexual Wellness . I would explain more on the email if you're more open to that. Thanks.