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@DK-lr2xs 4 күн бұрын
This is great
@MyPeoplePatterns 4 күн бұрын
Ah! Thank you - So glad it reached you -
@dijanafiorentino9399 4 күн бұрын
Love your content
@MyPeoplePatterns 2 күн бұрын
Thank you so much! Thrilled it’s helpful
@anonanon1344 4 күн бұрын
Please don't give up on this channel. This is so helpful and easy to understand
@MyPeoplePatterns 2 күн бұрын
Aw. Thank you! Another Bowen video going up tomorrow
@taltaljm1359 5 күн бұрын
How about, how did you know if an emotional broke man is just using you?
@MyPeoplePatterns 5 күн бұрын
yeah definitely
@phmo4519 6 күн бұрын
All my characters are super traumatized and I use this as more of a way to pass time or vent my emotions. It’s like writing a book for me.
@Andrei-nz6tc 2 күн бұрын
I am the one traumatized here😅 I just daydream about hugging someone😢
@phmo4519 Күн бұрын
@@Andrei-nz6tc I also day dream about (my characters) hugging someone! After they brake down crying because they just lost all their family and almost died like 10 times. 😀
@macier6589 7 күн бұрын
Thank so much for this series! Love it!
@JeannettaJoy 8 күн бұрын
Not everyday. Nor being disrespectful and mean
@alexanderkagan6022 10 күн бұрын
Great-- can you publish the PDF?
@heyrobin 10 күн бұрын
Looks like you provide a great service! Nice advertisement
@ffloresalfaro 10 күн бұрын
Anxious attachment
@nubz-mg6uf 11 күн бұрын
In my professional opinion i think she suffers from her not writing her own music instead is sings about somones elses mental issues...just sayin.
@MyPeoplePatterns 11 күн бұрын
yeah.... that's not really the point though. Thanks for trying.
@BeLoud13 15 күн бұрын
I've been telling my man for 27 years what exactly bugs me and it hasn't changed a thing.
@PersononEarth-xf9tg 15 күн бұрын
My great grandmother was the party kind.
@garyhaughney2165 16 күн бұрын
yes please. clips are interesting.
@Ridingrules10000 21 күн бұрын
Funny thing is, if you minimize and ignore your feelings, they will take control of the thinking part of your brain and turn it into a basic binary processor. What you think will be driven by your feelings, and you won't even realize it.
@MyPeoplePatterns 22 күн бұрын
Hi Emily! Thank you SO much for- this had made my day 😊 so glad you found them and that they’re actually helpful!
@emilyromneysanchez5196 22 күн бұрын
Hey Oliver. I'm a clinical social worker in private practice and I just found your channel. Just wanted to tell you that I love your content and it is helping me revitalize my practice and my own relationships. Just wanted to say thank you and you are making a difference!
@sharadscharma 22 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos! Please keep them coming!!
@saru1078 23 күн бұрын
Stop touching up your videos with ai it’s so unsettling
@MyPeoplePatterns 22 күн бұрын
No that’s not how it works. You need to stop watching them. Go talk to your therapist about it, it’s called “zone of control” and they’ll explain it to you.
@nightriviera 24 күн бұрын
As well as that unconscious preparedness had from manifestation practices, I reckon the (figurative) magic (i.e. not 'magik'!) also comes from an unconscious perceptual and behavioural 'nudging' of us to perceive things related to the sought entity and to act in ways compatible with obtaining the said thing. Simply, such as mantras, affirmations & dream boards position the desired - and the idea of possessing it - at the mind's forefront, so one's senses and thoughts are more likely than otherwise to draw us to being involved with it 'in real life'. That involvement may be very 'distant' - a long way from actually having the thing (say, being 'nudged' to looking at an 'American Classics' car magazine in an on-platform newsagents, at a British rail station, whilst whiling away a few minutes (it'll end up hours, given the state of rail transport) waiting for a train; for the Cornish (still West Coast) New-Agey Corvette-craver; um, make that one of those Chevy 'Day Vans'. But then very pragmatic factors could ensue from this that sooner or later sees the person owning such a vehicle (e.g. an ad' in the magazine that - 'would you believe it' - is for a Chevy Van, for sale at a bargain price and near where the person lives); and so 'as if by magic' he/she/they is delighting in choking traffic in Cornwall's narrow rural lanes that were never intended for such vehicles. I'm sure there's one or more/many 'cognitive biases' that could be cited as operational here. But these probably wouldn't detract from the sense of wonder and credulity, from a notable manifestation success; regrettably though, a fillip perhaps inspiring that person to devote too much faith and time at further (trying to) manifest things, instead of knuckling down to trying to get what's wanted 'the hard way' - with blood, sweat and tears (which, of course, could be a misperception - one paradoxically reinforced by continuation, maybe fruitlessly, with the 'easy' (err, 'manifestory') way - so pre-occupying that one overlooks researching the actual practicalities of goal acquisition.) Anyway...love your channel; thanks for all the work you put into it. Wasn't expecting to find a video on this subject here!
@MyPeoplePatterns 26 күн бұрын
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@MyPeoplePatterns 26 күн бұрын
Download the workbook here stan.store/MyPeoplePatterns
@sunnyflower3873 Ай бұрын
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@sunnyflower3873 Ай бұрын
Well, now I watch your videos. You’re so wonderful for spreading this kind of information, please keep going 🫶
@dest8401 Ай бұрын
Thank you. 🙏
@KimberlySmith14 Ай бұрын
My son is 20, is he too old for this book? He's anti social.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
Naw. Not the right thing for him.
@lotr7015 Ай бұрын
Said a whole bunch of words with no actual meaning. Fuck outta here
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
More Emotional Communication Skills: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j9ibmNeYl7WcpIE.html
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
More structural family systems here: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fLdymsh63cmmgWg.html
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
New video on Bowen Family Therapy and Enmeshment : kzfaq.info/get/bejne/i-BdgdGqnc7ZgmQ.html
@unpopularbelief11 Ай бұрын
So what if you communicate how you feel qnd the person yells or gets upset is packing bags maniplulation to me its fed up..
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
It sounds like you would be in a relationship with someone who isn't interested in hearing how you feel, and you'd have to ask if that's the sort of partner you want to be with.
@BRCAinBCYouTube Ай бұрын
I watched and shared with a client asking for a resource on this topic. Thanks, Oliver!
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
No way! That’s so cool - I’ve not shared any of these with clients yet! 🙉🙈🙊
@melutza8 Ай бұрын
Very helpful, i am looking for The pdf. Thank you for all your Work!
@MyPeoplePatterns 26 күн бұрын
try this link - stan.store/MyPeoplePatterns
@drakeford299 Ай бұрын
More! More! More!
@annaczarna2733 Ай бұрын
I wonder: can one have too much of self-differentiation? If one has perfectly separated their thoughts and feelings and self and other, and their other has no influence on their self, they would seem psychopathic. Beyond any impact of human emotions of shame or guilt which stem from what we think we did (or didn’t) to the other. I realize it’s a distant possibility but still. The perfectly self-differentiated would be psychopathic, wouldn’t they?
@drakeford299 Ай бұрын
No, I don't think so. Shame and Guilt are feelings - which have evolved as ways to make us feel bad and to follow rules, to avoid rejection from society and tribe, which we need for protection. A differentiated person has a separated Self, and Other doesn't mean they are not influenced by them; it means they would listen to Others, think about what they said, notice their own emotional reaction, and then CHOOSE to act however they do (vs undifferentiated which is more reactive to what other people say). Psychopathic person would not have a very imbalanced SELF and other) and have very small feelings and probably lots of THOUGHTS ... crap, I might have to do a video for you on this.
@annaczarna2733 Ай бұрын
@@drakeford299 also, are narcissists highly self-differentiated?
@drakeford299 Ай бұрын
@@annaczarna2733 Highly differentiated people do not have psychopathology.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
A fully differentiated person is like the most HEALTHY version of our self. If you believe in Jesus, we might wonder if he was all the way at the 100% and fully differentiated. 🤷♂️ Narcissists don’t have much of “Other” it’s all Self. They have difficulty accessing feelings. So all thoughts, No feels!
@annaczarna2733 Ай бұрын
@@drakeford299 As a researcher, I appreciate your clinical insights. I'd gladly respond in an email.
@sm7657 Ай бұрын
I don’t understand what you mean by “micro-journalling” ?
@kendracrippen Ай бұрын
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@TheKsadia Ай бұрын
This happened to me. The other person never apologized when I communicated how their actions hurt me. In fact, they continued to shift blame to me because I pulled away after never hearing an apology.
@melutza8 Ай бұрын
Thank you!
@melutza8 Ай бұрын
Having all these good examples, helps a lot!
@vocalbasics Ай бұрын
More? Yes please! I love your approach. The simplicity of the visual aids. Thank You.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
Aw -thank you - so glad you're enjoying the way my weird brain works :)
@vocalbasics Ай бұрын
@MyPeoplePatterns well, my brain most probably is weird as well cause I SO appreciate the way you present the concepts. In fact, your videos inspired the use of sliders in my vocal coaching work. It works so much better than flat either/or pass/fail language, and gives space for movement in increments. Your enthusiasm is contagious in the best way! Keep going. 😊
@GoldenSheenObsidan Ай бұрын
Exactly
@Sara-oi6wp Ай бұрын
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@veronicahunter640 Ай бұрын
I found it very helpful to have real examples shown and explained so that I could hear/see/interpret what people are saying when they speak. I've seen several videos of SOFT explained, yet this really helped with understanding/application.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
this is wonderful to read- thank you for sharing your thoughts! i am thrilled it found you ;)
@veronicahunter640 Ай бұрын
Love this video - very helpful
@veronicahunter640 Ай бұрын
How about if a person is neurodiverse and has difficulty with their own self-awareness and perspective-taking? Where does one then start to help build emotional intelligence and communication skills?
@athenafarrell5127 Ай бұрын
I think almost all the kids before the 80s were raised free range until the street lights came on. My parents were free range but i did a lot of dangerous things with heights when i was alone but nothing ever happened thank God. Gave me more confidence in myself and decisions, and knew how to talk to adults. Although i needed more help with homework and i didn't put hope into others doing things for me.
@user-ds6qi7td5z Ай бұрын
Hey
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@missymoonUS Ай бұрын
I would consider client privacy before you use a third-party app. Maybe don't use identifiable information when using the Ai tools.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
thanks - that point is made abundantly clear in the video
@GlitchyOfficial Ай бұрын
i wish this was viral
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
same!
@macbethh Ай бұрын
The effort you put into your videos is so valued, thank you so much. I am currently in a process group with 6-7 of my classmates as its apart of my person centered counselling degree and i would love to know how to get the most out of it. I spend most of my time in the group uncomfortable and silent and honestly, bored!. I want to break this resistence but my body feels like a deer in the headlights. Thanks again for your content.
@MyPeoplePatterns Ай бұрын
Oh my gosh! Please tell your professor that some random guy on youtube says 'thank you for teaching group with an actual process group' - SO many places don't do this and it's such a missed opportunity. Here's my tips: depending on who the 'therapist' is, #1 I would ask for help. "Jimmy, I've been in this group for X weeks now, and I am still not comfortable sharing, can you help me with that please" (if its your professor running the group, they will LOVE this, actually, even if it's another student, I say start there. #2 More generally, just start paying attention to your feelings and try and share them whenever it feels clear. "Hey, I've not shared much in this group, but I wanted to share now that I feel really anxious / bored/ angry - and I can't quite figure out why, can we maybe look at that?" #3 Try and share why you're not talking - "I'd like to start this week because I've not shared very much and i think it's because this group doesn't feel safe / i don't feel safe / no one talks to me / I don't like _____"