Oh somebody trained you! Lol the details 👌🏽😂

If she was unloyal and lost the original father, what makes you so special? Alpha seed, Beta need.

Stay away from single parents dont waste your time

A guy will ALWAYS come 4th behind the Kids, family, and career. The first two we all get and understand but a woman putting you behind her career is a relationship killer.

I said in my relationship of four months to her that her daughter was being a brat, and treating her like a princess. The daughter is 19. Needless to say that didn't go well. I realize I was out of line. I said I wouldn't let it happen again. We tried to work through it. a week later, She comes to me about her son. And how this is probably not gonna get any better.That she's gonna start spending more time with her son whenever he starts College to help him do his homework. "Do his homework". I proceeded to say that she does everything for him , but feed him with the spoon. He's 22. Now she needs space. It's been a trauma in her life and has affected 2 marriages and every relationship. I have been working on my self awareness, my emotional intelligence. As well as empathy. Would you give me any advice for how to get her back? Thank you.

I’m a black woman moving to Texas soon and looking for a white male partner 😊

These women will dump you for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Like you will have no idea what you did wrong because they do not view you as number 1. I’m telling you. Avoid this like the plague. They will make you think they love you and then realize no kid comes first and they will just move on with their kid like a blink

Hey Alex, What about when you have a kid with the single mom with prior kids? Then your biological kid is part of the mixed family dynamic?

There are three main reasons people get tattoos: 1 "Everyone is getting one. So, I am getting one (or more) as well." This tells one thing about you - you are a brainless sheep (conformist). 2 You a criminal who did time behind bars or you belong to some sort of organized crime ring. 3 You are an insecure guy, who wants to look tough.

If you see a woman that has kids RUN 🏃 don’t look back

I’m 41 years old man single no kids and to be honest dating a woman with kids it’s not worth it at all , because they want money and to help her on everything please all the men out there stay away from women that has kids I had a very bad experience .

Living someone else's life will always be a dubious endeavor. Live your own life, have your own children and forge your own path. Don't settle for someone's leftovers.

Yet you have very cheesy music tastes

I'm white and go for personality

Singlemoms are not looking for love..but most of the time they only need financial support

Such a terrible misconception that single dads should date single moms,NO!!! Stop that crap! I have been through that mess,it doesn't work! Its more financial burden and your gf will never view your kids as their own but expect you to see hers as yours mainly for financial gain!! Dont do it! But date a woman with no kids that will accept yours and you will last much mych longer I promise.

This is a good video to listen to and I was recently in a relationship with a single mother

Why would anyone enter a relationship with a woman with children? Who needs the problems? If she has 2 kids you'll be #4 priority, if she has 3 you'll be #5. Not only are you at the bottom of a long food chain, you can be sure that the woman and her children will be hitting you up for $$$ Oh! If they aren't getting child support they'll be hitting you up for $$$ The ex they'll be someone else that will throw you even lower on the chain. Let's not forget that it could be more than one "ex." And the statement, "for the best interest of the kids" is often just a card that's played so she'll get her way. To me it would be like going out to shop for a new car and you want a car with the most milage and the most factors that could go wrong. Sometimes abusive women have abusive children. If there's false allegations who's side are the kids going to take? Your's? LoL 😂 Why would you do that? Love? Com'on

I wanna marry a girl who's 6ft im 5'9 😅

The difference is... the smell

No

We'll any guy can fall for those situations if they aren't experienced with women, but,,,,, if you've had relationships I personally think it's dumb to get too involved, in North America it actually does "not" I repeat "not" make sense for men to get married. Basically your signing yourself up for a life of misery just to pay to split up in the end...

Never again will o date someone who’s contributed to overpopulation being childfree myself!

Be a good man. That’s what every good woman wants. Just be real bc they will.

Black women are beautiful, I don't care about melanin, menn have to expand their options in order to find a compatible companion.

Great video! Thanks, Aleks! 😀

Bro to look at it I dated 2 baby mamas bro it's a headache especially when she speaks about the child so just run away don't marry someone u didn't start even your parents will be dissapointed if u...the 1st one I dated used to make too much contact with the baby daddy she will even go to him Nd block my calls when she's there and speak to me when the baby daddy is not there look she used to give me stories and I would believe it's a long story ...we came to a point where I was understanding that she has to go to her baby daddy's place nd I ended up accepting it coz I was going through personal things too but I'm so happy that I left her it's was very hard but at the end of the day she gave me trauma that will stay within me for years and every girl i get I will do em bad coz I can't really trust women no more... so just know there always going to be contact between the father and mother and you will be left alone like a stranger...I know there r not the same but fvck don't marry someone u didn't start second hand bullshit I'm really suffering from trauma Bcoz of a single mom.

There’s so much more to a relationship than the height of each other

Don’t date women with kids. Just save yourself the trouble

Theres no pros Raising so bitch fuck up I wont waste my time money and effort on some other man fun woman whit kid have no value for me as partners friend sure i can help we can be friends but f that plus the drama the bullshit Dont f do it dont never die virgin is a better option or rent some ho ho ho hell a mail order bride is a lot wiser decision that dating some bitch whit kid You win nothing NOTHING

Ive been talking to a woman who has a kid. I really like her but ive never wanted to marry a woman with a child. It gives me anxiety thinking about it because i never wanted that, but Im really into this woman. Im trying to let go of my ego. Any advice?

Let me tell you'll the most blunt way possible there is pros only cons it's a hard fkin L bro.

Been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over a year. Everything is great between us, but her son has an influence on our relationship. He sometimes runs the show. I’m usually the type of man that likes to lead and make the plans. He’s only 12 years old and I’m picking what does he know about relationships. I’m somewhat getting tired of her, letting him make the decisions when we are together. I’m trying to bond with your son and get his trust. I know it’s going to take a while. I’m trying to be patient.

You should expect as much loyalty from the Mom as she gave to the father of her kids.

Don’t do it if you don’t have kids. Women and men without kids should just stay away. They will trap you in the beginning and you will fall in love with the fake life. Once that honeymoon stage is over it’s family life time. You will be in the back seat now. You will live their schedule.

No no were socks bad sick feet

So, are black sneakers ok? Or should I wear some higher stylish shoes?

I once dated a girl who had a kid. It was great until it wasn't. This coincided with me (not) having a say regarding parenting as well as labeled too strict when all I really was hoping was self-reflection on when to say no to children's manipulation. Oh yeah, she got pregnant in the time period I spent a lot of time abroad for work and it turned out that I'm not the father but the first kid's daddy is. So, even though I only spent around a year with the toddler (3 y.o.), it still hurt to get him cut off just like that. Fast forward to today, where I'm dating this amazing woman who has a toddler that's almost 2 years old. Why risk it again you, the person reading this, will ask? Because it's an opportunity for growth. I get attention from a lot of women but don't consider many of them partners I would want to have for various reasons (I've been since burnt by an emotional wreck, a nymphomaniac who fantasized about me sucking another guy's dick and an English teacher who played games, spied and I'm pretty sure cheated on me due to her own insecurities). So there's a lot of crazy out there around my age (33). And there is this woman, 26, who is just amazing. Yeah, she has her own shortcomings much the same as I do. Yeah, there is an insecure/slightly controlling baby daddy involved whom I shall meet this Thursday. Yeah, I need to keep my eyes open and not invest too much too fast. Sure, I get that. But children can be so amazing to be around. I used to hate those little buggers but I'm growing more fond of them as the years go by and see sort of an emptiness in my peers who just party and fuck around. Actually, when you look at this through these kind of optics, a woman with a child might be exactly what I'm looking for. I get to see how she is with an ex (can she handle him?), with a child (can she check herself when things get overwhelming), with me (does she find time?), etc. I already have some of the answers and soon to get more. Now, then there is growth on my part as well in store here. I used to be really insecure and needy. Without relying on "other validation" I can appreciate the time we have together without being desperate for more. I can spend energy on work, my hobbies and friends while I can also enable my partner's ability to do so as well by helping out to take care of the child. This translates to her becoming emotionally stronger and a team player when things get tough with the kid, ex or what have you. All of this by letting go of control and unhealthy attachment and expectations. Will it work out? It depends on both of our resiliency to outside forces. But hey, we can only do the best we can at our current level of experience in this life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Alex and hope someone gets something from my experience and mindset.

There is only one advice. Don't date women with kids. Period. Anything else is a weakness of character and no matter what you do, no one, and I mean, ON ONE respects a weak man. She, the kid or kids and her ex is a team against YOU....and all will think they are doing YOU a favor. Never compromise. If there is a second advice, it would be to say on your purpose and NEVER be someone's side simp.

Look be yourself no trying make yourselves better byvmaking up some lies about u just tell her who u are how u live your life what u will not allow and what u think how relationship will work for both of u going forward. If she ask u what your view about interracial relationship be honest about it even if it your frist time or if something u have been thinking about doing .she listen may take your views in then ask her how she feels about it.get know each other.now don't talk about getting married early in relationship wait few year she how relationship grows and when times does come she wants start family with u tell straight out u wantvsame but want make sure u guys are money wise set to raise family she will understand that may agree because in this crazy world nothing cheap u going need to be prepared .set time when u want start trying .now as for getting married usually couple has be together for good 3 or 4 years may 5 before time pop guestion i think but everyone different. I dated black women we didn't care what people thought who cares if u happy in life with each other enjoy life u guys will share as 1 2 hearts become 1 u like her for who she is not just by color of her skin how fun she is have around help u feel happy andcrelax at times she may feel samectoward u.as for negative punks laugh at them they only talking about how lame there life are anyway theyvnot going change .move on .i been thinking about trying it again black women always been attractive tobme because they stay true to themselves and dress way they feel look good for them .yes when talking with them theyvmay have wall at frist but if u slowly take your time get know them make them laugh and blush and even make them feel butterflies in therre belly orvmake there heart pound out of there chest those walls may come down she mayvmake move let u into her wirld .just like u will let her into yours .

(My opinion to this is) children are not baggage their a blessing, Yes your correct about a man being number two my children do come first, but the love I give my boyfriend is different from what i give my children as for coparenting, my x has to respect my boyfriend and thats my job to make sure of that if an x gets involved from prior relationship then it's the women's job to put him in his place. My boyfriend should never have to deal with my children's father nor ever have to feel uncomfortable in anyway. if my x were ever to try and draw the line there will be serious consequences, and it's the same when I drop my children of to my x if he ever had a girlfriend I will respect that, it is sad that parents tend to put children in the middle out of spite, jealousy or using them as a way to be rebellious. I'm so sorry you had to go threw that not being able to see the children you raised but karma will fall into place, it always seems to. I do not expect my boyfriend to be thier father but the least a friend because I am a full package not a partial one. He doesn't have to maintain my children financially in any way shape or form but if it comes out of his heart to do so that is also fine. My children will respect him because he is the man of the house and that is also my job to make sure of that and I do give him permission to put them in their place if ever need to be, I do understand some women don't like that, but if you want him to be a step father to your kids then that is also a full package not a partial one if a women expects him to be father figure to her children then he should have a right to discipline them as well. For the women that don't want a stable relationship and that's their way of being I don't think it will be wise for that man to meet thier children ever if that is the case.

There are no pros to that scenario for a man. He will forever be a rent a dad.

I m dating now and it’s stressful 🤦‍♂️

I am a 43 yr old black woman who has always been attracted to but never approached by white guys and for the longest time I've always wondered why aren't wm attracted to me but then I looked in the mirror and realized that it's because I'm physically challenged ( born prematurely and now have health issues that affect my mental & physical health) oh well while I've learned to accept my fate I have also learned that these very things are exactly why I ( have been) and will always be single

In short yes

kids+kids is better than kids+no kids 3:15 decision: full-time dad or part-time dad, say weekends 6:45 plan: dealing w/ her ex; male ego principle: kids above all discuss: access to kids later

I actually have quite a thing for taller women. I think part of it has to do with being a leg man and taller women often have nice long legs. Of course not being a particularly tall guy, I'm probably 5'7 at most, I often fall below the minimum threshhold a lot of taller ladies seem to have. Of course the other reason I find taller ladies so attractive is that they give some of the best hugs I've ever had LOL.

Disagree

needed this becuase im a good person but the ex is something else n im a female

Spot on...