You are very welcome!

Thank you for educating yourself by watching the video, that is an important step to build the relationship you want!

Oh~ this made my day! I am so grateful to hear that you got something out of my weekly videos. That is exactly what drives me to do this. I love sharing what I learn from trainings, clinical experiences, and self-reflections. My goal is to show that we are all different and have our own challenges, and we can integrate our differences with the right tools. Kudos for you to face your fear and getting support for your unique brain!

Thank you for your great question! It is a very common dynamic when one partner seeks connection and mutual understanding and the other feels attacked then gets defensive. After I finish my series on ADHD and Infidelity, I will do a video on this dynamic. Stay tuned!

Ha, John, it is more complicated than that. Stay tuned for future videos on this topic. Dopamine-related transgression is also just one out of many varieties.

Hi, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your own experience here. The acceptance of the self is the beginning of change, Kudos to you! My experience and understanding is that ADHD is a neurological condition, that is highly inheritable, which means you can be born with an ADHD/ neurodivergent brain. While attachment style tends to be formed in relationships with others. The first relationship an infant has is with the caregivers. One can have different attachments with different caregivers. My video here is to name a possibility that one has an ADHD brain (with avoidance tendencies for certain tasks) and happens to have developed an anxious avoidant attachment style with their loved one(s). I have clients who are diagnosed with ADHD but have anxious preoccupied attachment with their partner. Hope this helps.

@@yizhaomartinslmft5631 Yes that does. Thank you.

Thank you!

More are coming! Thank you for the encouragement.

Thank you for your question. Let me try to understand your question. Are you asking if one partner has a secure attachment style and the other has insecure attachment style, how does it show up in ADHD-impacted relationship? Insecure attachment styles are anxious-avoidant, preoccupied insecure, and disorganized attachment style. One can develop different attachment styles with different people, e.g: one can be securely attached to father and anxious-avoidant with mother. One can be avoidant in one romantic relationship and preoccupied in another romantic relationship. It is not a disorder, in my opinion, it is a dynamic that can be looked at. To listen to a great in-depth discussion on attachment and neuroscience, check out Dr Dan Siegel's The Neurobiology of We. www.audible.com/pd/The-Neurobiology-of-We-Audiobook/B005OZJFWA?action_code=ASSGB149080119000H&share_location=pdp

Thank you, Francesco! Same to you!

Thank you for your comment. It seems that you and your partner may have different speed in completing house chores. I do not know him, but I see lots of clients with ADHD procrastinate tasks that they are not excited about. If two have you have different expectations that when this "chore" gets done and you are the one wants it done earlier and has less tolerance for the "unfinished mess", then it makes sense that you end up get it done before he gets to it. This is part of the "dance". He "fails" to meet the expectation that you have, you get frustrated and maybe resentful? he feels guilty and maybe withdrawal? I do not know the two of you so I am making lots of assumptions. If you are curious about how this dance plays out in your relationship and wants to explore more, feel free to reach out for a free consultation on my website: www.yizhaomartins.com

Thank you, looking forward to our interview!

谢谢你的反馈，我会在今后的视频中用外接耳麦。