I embody most of the traits you speak of, I cried so hard listening to this. I am 50 years old and the last of 8, my school life would have just been hard if my family hadn't moved cross country every few years for my father's "broadcast engineering" jobs, so my education was destroyed, and yet I have only had 3 non-engineering jobs in my life all self-taught. But because of my lack of a proper education and degree and even though I'm doing the work nobody else can, I do it for much less money than my peers, the message that sends is my product is valued but I am not. The worst part is I never wanted to be an engineer personally I just was very good at it having watched my father's career I could solder before I was 11 years old. I knew I had ADHD and it mostly fit me, however, it felt my brand was not typical, and sometimes it felt a lot like I was "not like the others" that also "are not like the others". I have felt mostly like a "one-off" in this world for a very long time but this gives me hope that maybe I'm not. I have a difficult time talking to people about this because the reaction is "Oh poor you, you are so smart" but "smart" is tormenting when you don't have an opportunity worthy of it.

I usually shower first then do workout.

I hate the word neurodivergent. It’s a cultural Marxist term meant to divide us and it is horrible self talk.

I figure we are a welcoming bunch, because we have always wanted to be welcomed =) You're cool, this was a good video. Thank you =)

I got 21/21…….😢

Honesty I don't really know what these mean (like I don't do full on research) but i watch these for fun lmao

I feel so seen 🥹😭 Like... the whole bunch yep. Let's seek a diagnosis haha 'Do you have special interests?' Me: answering no. 'Oh I have a question about personality troubles, do you know...' Also me: encyclopedia-dropping 😂

Just call it time blindness. It’s a simple, understandable term. No need to complicate it.

i'm trying to do this but i find it so hard to unmask, even when alone. when impulses come up for things i want to do, even when i'm alone if i try to actually do them i just get intense dread and anxiousness and i lose the impulse or desire... i just gave up on a therapist who i was trying to get help with this stuff, but when i would try to explain wanting to focus on this issue she would interrupt me (triggering anxiety about being too rambly when i talk) and redirect me to focus on what she decided was the issue. sigh, not even the first therapist that has happened with. i just dont know how to move through this shut down when i have time to myself and to just connect with myself in the moment.

Wow! You're fantastic!!!!! Just discovered you as I'm learning all about the Polyvagal Theory, CPTSD and Trauma Release. Functional Freeze has been my life-long default.

I am OCD level when I organized or not at all and everything is complete chaos. If I clean I only know how to do it one way. The right way and will deep clean and alphabetize everything and lose all track of time. So if I do not have time to dedicate to that, I will not do it at all. When I do organize I get stuck doing things like matching the close to the hangers and putting everything in rainbow patterns. Alphabetizing cans in a pantry. Shit like that.

Also struggled with self medication, eating disorders and panicky attacks and complex alienation. Everything is masking. I see my identity is an observer and everything else is what I have to do to survive.

As for time it either does not exist to me at all or everything is now. The past is experienced as now, the imagined future is experienced as now. However I do not experience the passing of time at all.

I was misdiagnosed with Bipolar 1 mixed rapid cycling and BPD. No med. treatments works. At 50 I got diagnoses with ADHD and CPTSD. I have Hypo and Hyper intraceptive body awareness.I also dissociate and shut down.

This is me!!!!!

I am sure I am both, just don’t know what to do about it

Very good video and clearly explained thank you

I found out today i wasn't they told me at the doctor's, yes i was tested aswell but they said i didn't have it but my school said i did

Wow!!! Did NOT know this was a thing. I've been suffering... now I can take some meaningful action steps. Thank you!

Thank you for being so validating… the part about feeling pain about starting a task 🥺

Ooooh I’ve heard of the time unawareness of adhd and have always been like hmm that is an aspect of adhd that does not resonate… lol I have just been in waiting mode my whole life 😅

I’m curious if you think that audhd can predispose a person towards developing bpd. There’s more symptom overlap than I realized, and the amount of chronic invalidation you experience as a person with audhd (the main environmental factor in the development of bpd) really seems to fit as well. Thoughts?

Thank you SO much for posting this. I recently came to the realization that I am likely neurodivergent and will be seeking a genuine diagnosis soon. I don't know if you know what I mean but I always have felt a bit different than a lot of other people, even as a kid. Whatever justification I had for my behaviors and/or experiences, I always thought it was me having low self esteem or "that's just the way I am" , type of logic that explained. The thing is I have known about neurodiversity but only in an offhand way but I think I may have been subconsciously going out of my way not to research it more even though I have had times where I've thought to myself, "I'm starting to think I could be on the spectrum, a bit." After really looking into it and considering some of the folks I know are neurodivergent, I realized how much it explains a lot of what I've felt and experience in social, work and relationship situations where what I felt seemed like it came across to others as if I was speaking a foreign language or like I came from another dimension, or something. In any case, I am ready to learn skills to help me embrace my nature and not allow it hold me back from living a fulfilling life. And your videos have helped me get one step closer. So glad I ended up here! <3

Have not even finished video yet but need to say Thank You I feel so seen! (first time watching) Identify with every single one & the sh#t started to get real at #9. Have also oscillated b/w bored & overwhelmed my entire life, where is the sweet spot?? #15 is so meaningful as I'm a new teacher & try so hard to find different ways to explain things to students, b/c I graduated late in life and vividly remember how frustrating it was to get thru college a 2nd time. If anyone has teacher resources (I'm not going for Spec. Ed but want to learn alot abt it) or wants to compare notes HMU😁

I got my audhd diagnosis 2 and a half weeks ago.

This video was incredibly reassuring and has everything I needed to hear. Pretty much everything you listed applies to me, but I still struggle with the idea that I'm just lazy and everything would be fixed if I just tried hard enough. I learned recently I have a learning disability (NOT an intellectual disability - they are different things, and I wish this was talked about more!) and it's so frustrating seeing others effortlessly (seemingly) able to do what I want to do. There's so much I want to do and learn about that I would never finish it all, even if I wasn't plagued like this. I really appreciate your video, you were really infomative and to-the-point, I hope more people watch it! I haven't checked out the rest of your videos, but just in case you haven't yet made such a video, I would be interested to learn about demand avoidance too.

18. Very literal or very metaphorical. What u could switch between those 2 POV at will? 😮

21x YES! 😘 my parents and sister say I have a super brain ......sometimes 🤣I Got my diagonosis later in life (40) I'm 50 now and learning to deal with it :)

As someone with an official autism diagnosis diagnosed by two doctors it's not that expensive autism diagnosis if you have a decent insurance it should cover all of the cost for the diagnosis and you have some of the diagnosis can be wrong but you can be diagnosed with anything and it be wrong so not really a valid argument there

I’ve watched countless videos on this subject over the last few years and this is by far THE BEST and most helpful 🙏🏼 thank you! I’m so grateful to have found your channel and I deeply appreciate your heartfelt wisdom.

I have found that many historical achievers definitely sound like they were on the spectrum, and I've always thought we all have some of the symptoms. Now I'm thinking the same thing about ADHD/ADD. Think of the evolutionary advantages. We'd be the best problem solvers, innovative fighters, and our ability to short cut problems and explanations would obviously be advantageous. I bet it was a neuro divergent Neanderthal who thought of the wheel...probably while they were supposed to be making sure the fire didn't go out!

Serious question..how common is this combination? I'm recently, at 62, diagnosed as Combination ADHD and now I'm often seeing ASD behaviours in myself. Both my kids are on the spectrum.

Missing the obvious and picking up on sublety? I've spent a life time warning people, "I don't get hints. And I don't give them. If you hint at me then in three years time I am going to be doing the dishes and suddenly think, "Ooh! I wonder if that's what so-and-so meant?"

Thank you so much for this video. For years I got into trouble especially wirh my husband and today I finally got a name for my deficite: "auditory process disorder". Now I know, I'm neither stupid nor ignorant. Thank you so much

16th HIT ME

Instead of talking negatively to myself, I repeat the phrase "every day in every way I'm getting better and better." I believe in the power of positive affirmations and their ability to reshape my mindset. By consistently reminding myself of my growth and progress, I cultivate a more optimistic and empowering inner dialogue. This mantra serves as a gentle reminder that change takes time and that every step forward, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction. With each repetition, I reinforce the idea that I am capable of overcoming challenges and achieving my goals

One time I was in full meltdown status and all my dad did was scream at me. When I said “do you think I enjoy this? Like do you think this is fun for me?” And he said “you know, sometimes I think you do.” And when I was saying how unfair it is that I am the only one who has to go to therapy, he told me that he will never and I said “why are you too manly?” And he said yes. Lmao.

I just started reading tarot and within days I started actively working on unmasking, like really unmasking. Wow. So interesting I found this video because it's the first one I decided to watch regarding specifically unmasking after being inspired by tarot.

I just learned today that I’m not bad. I’m 42.

I hope people recognize the importance of this video. If you ever consider writing a book about these topics, I would buy it! It would be beneficial to so many people! I love how eloquently you speak; it's always a joy listening to you talk about these topics. ❤🤗

i think i know what you mean when you say that negative emotions can drain your mental energy when i am at work i am bored all the time and i cant get anything done and when i get home i am so drained that all i want to do is to relax and enjoy myself wich is quite problematic when i need to house chores and do workout to lose weight 😭

I was born into a family who pushed self awareness into me from age 5. They constantly dismissed me, and reinforced "you've got to be more self aware" every time I messed up, minor or major. In my experience they drew it from Law of Attraction which was the religion they were fanatical about as I grew up. So not only was I challenged on a mental/reality level of "this is your fault and have more self awareness." they doubled down with law of attraction beliefs which is - you create and are completely responsible for your reality and all things in it. I became an atheist in 2022 and last year I found out I'm AUDHD. Finally woke up realising how much those terms and comments from people crushed me. I'm so desperately glad to have watched your video because you know my struggle. I know, but I can't do. That was always my issue but being self aware doesn't mean you can magically make yourself more "neurotypical". Thank you for all you do. ❤

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with ADHD. Also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.

There's nothing unusual about yor feelings.

Most of the diagnostic criteria for autism comes from being autistic and traumatized by it so it’s not that far fetched

Pppfff luckly only ticking off 17 of them...😂😳🙈 This makes so-much-clear ☺️

In my experience It's genuine insanity. It's like both sides of your brain are trying to outgaslight eachother about your needs.

I was at number 3 and then I zoned out and suddenly it was 15. That’s probably a sign….

Life's short. Who cares?

20/21 Hmm. Thats fun. Dont want medicen just want clarification