The fact he didn’t upload this to his main channel says a lot about his clout chase.

Imagine the monk convo between garnt n dr k

1:24:00

I already am a huge fan of both of them. It was really beautiful to see Connor very raw and vulnerable because I'm so used of his consistent hilariousness. Also Dr. K as always shows you things from a different perspective that you might not have been able to see before. I can't wait to watch Gigguk, Mouse, and Asmongolds. These streams also help you even potentially learn something about yourself. I really dig these videos from Dr K and the people he brings on.

Thank you, mate. A real good one

I want a podcast on shut-ins, hikkikomoris, hermits etc. Perhaps just a podcast on the origins that such phenomena have in common, and how to address the main respective issues. For more in depth content, a comparison and differentiation of these phenomena could be interesting and useful as well.

Bless

This was super helpful, the indebted vs gratitude and the blaming ourselves and feeling guilty part is so useful to identify.

Didn't women and the feminist movement put that new expectation on themselves. like we want to be equal and the world was like k... and now here we are.

“Process the emotion without action” 1:24:00

"Kind???" ".... Kind???" 🤣 I laughed at that so hard.

you're doing God's work with your channel, thanks

2:04:07 oh

1:14:25 oh my god why are all of these issues so relatable 😅

Do you know why this one is not on Dr. K's official channel?

this was pretty cool to see. maybe the first of these interviews I've seen (I've seen a few but not that many tbh) that resonated with me personally.

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"I can fix her" ahahhaha

I have the exact same problem where I don’t understand lyrics

43:15

💜💜💜

Thanks for posting this 🙂

Btw whole binary aspect was amazing to hear. I am a impulsive person and also feel things very strongly but I’m also logical. However when faced with complicated emotional events I tend to ping pong between two states, my heart and my head and make a impulsive decision. But now I understand to try too combine the two and make a choice like that.

HUGE W Recommendation with Psycho-Pass. SO GODDAMN GOOD!

This dude is a very good talker. Even if he is just talking about random things, he is pleasant to listen to. He is a good storyteller.

As to the anime recommendation question you asked him, I wonder if you would be into some retro anime, or at least what a lot of people call retro.

23:50 You need an asshole side because if you hold all your shit in, you are going to get hurt (i.e. be taken advantage of).

Love how you know exactly when the core theme is uncovered when near the end, the "any new questions we haven't covered" and Connor mentions that he's curious why his anger issues disappeared despite it being readily apparent in their formative years. Only for the metaphorical nerve to be struck when it's recontextualized as it being transformed from external shows of anger into internal judgement and shame for not being good enough. Going from angry at external stimuli to becoming angry at yourself. The perceived imbalances in social interactions where the gratitude you feel the more you must reciprocate it to clear the debt, a debt which makes you angry for being inadequate. The chronic thought to improve since otherwise you're stagnating or even reverting to a worst state. All of it viewed from the new perspective that the anger isn't gone it's just been turned inward after the realization that it was an ugly emotion to be ashamed of. The target of anger changing was what birthed the need to improve and/or optimize everything from social interactions to behavior and even to quality of work. Connor was going through the motions, as if answering a series of surveys each one giving a general theme for a plan of actions. The general theme being to sit and stew with your emotions, identify where you can, and acknowledging what you will do next before you do so. Just recognizing that you feel an emotion before you proceed and not to outright ignore them. Then Connor offhand mentions his unusual lack of anger, and it being rephrased as the source of his shame and guilt since he's angry at himself for not meeting expectations he himself perceives to exist. Tldr, Connor's anger being the source of the majority of his issues being revealed near the end was great, and so is the metaphorical light bulb going off when both of them connect the dots!

Anime recommendation: Kotaro Lives Alone.

25:31 I get this soo much. I don’t have a lot of friends and I unconsciously only give people who tick all the boxes on my unconscious “standards” list a chance. It’s not that I look down on others it’s just if someone ticks enough boxes I can be 90 per cent sure we’ll get along and can talk about whatever

Wow at the end Dr K is talking about some scary stuff, how do I prevent it from happening to me?

stream starts a 5:47

42:29 imagine Sydney on here ....sheeeeesssshhhh😅

1:04:08 but in my perspective, is it not in a way that to try hard is how a good kid would be? Aren't I good because I try hard?

Wtf ..idk how i ended up here....but im here for my boy connor

"Take care of yourself and be good." Isnt that the exact phrase ChubbyEmu also uses? Is that a doctor thing or did someone borrow the phrase from the other? Its a good tip though!

Why do I feel like Dr K has never spoken to a British person before, lol? (Connor talking about feeling guilty, not wanting to let people down, and always being polite no matter the situation. Dr K be like, 'hmm... that's so weird'.)

33yo and just starting therapy, Is like finding a guide for that 90s game you never could pass level 1, but for my life.

just now seeing this due to a clipping channel, but I resonate so much with connor when it comes to how he feels about caring how people he cares about viewing him, how he should hang out with his friends and make more friends but it's also exhausting. It's a huge struggle.

I like the idea of changing the minimum threshold for success in keeping the daily habits. Thanks dan

Thanks. Hate watching twitch vods due to the mass amount of ads when watching on mobile

I have the same problem for the song lyrics. I cant hear the words properly, like my brain focuses on the actual song not the lyrics.

Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah Yeah, Yeah, Yeeeeaaaaaahhhh......

34:00 Victims of ourselves Daily and 15 minutes, count week streaks 55:35 deep meaningful friendship light shallow interactions condensed period of time 1:11:40 Accepting means change not resignation 1:32:00 don't try to be accepted, just find people who accept you 2:17:00 how you percieve yourself can make you depressed, make sure you are objective with your view, 2:23:00 purification of perception: watch a rock grow

I relate so much to Connor’s introverted side. I’ve never resonated so much with people

Basically Connor only allows his good nature to express himself to avoid the consequences of not having solid boundaries. He’s captain America, always reliable, for the sake of never establishing his own will on life. Unlike the character of Iron man (tony stark) who only allows his bad nature (bad man side) to express to enforce boundaries but struggles to open his heart to those who care about him. Basically, Connor is a good guy who deeply no longer just wants to be a good guy, but also establish his boundaries, his frame for people to respect. He wants boundaries that are respected by others.

I love this so much.

Bruh, it seems like Dr. K is talking to me XD

Connor is such a wholesome dude 👍

This shit really just popped into my reccs when I was feeling bad about not wanting to go hang out with my friend.