Seems like a kind soft spokenman. Blessings to both❤

What a wonderful, open, brave, and heartrending interview. Annabel is such a lovely, genuine person, so strong to be able to unburden herself in this way, and I just felt that I wished I were with her to give her a huge hug. The love for Mel and the utter devastation she feels shine through. I felt that being able to talk through it step by step and express things openly was helping her to think about some things which she hadn't been able to do before, and with your empathy and perception, Julia, helping her in a step forward to processing the future. The trauma which she still re-lives from the day Mel died is so evident, and total and utter shame on that awful nurse - it beggars belief that this behaviour and attitude are permitted to be practised in what should be a caring environment. Such a creature should not be working with people, especially dying people, and nor should that horrendous consultant. Maybe writing to Mel in a positive way, as you suggest, Julia, and expressing things on paper, may help with processing some of the final day trauma.

Thank you to all of you. This totally resonates. My deepest wish would be that schools are educated and that teacher training would include IFS and neuroscience. On a personal level I spent my childhood becoming hyper vigilant, trying to find or create a safe camp, as the camps of mum and dad were ones in which I would either drown or be not allowed in. Only through long term therapy ( and latterly IFS) am I seeing that my parts were working overtime, constantly. I’m 75 and Kate Silverton is speaking my language. There is a safe camp to go to, it takes work to find it. Thank you

Thank you for sharing these conversations 🙏❤️

This made me cry . Wow , how I wish there had been understanding like this years ago.

Read the book. I was shocked and felt so sad for this child. I've watched many interviews with Charles and each time wondered about his father as a child. Was he abused?

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Beautiful work. Production value top tier. Touched me deeply. Thankful to be able to share this experience with you.

What a beautiful conversation. Thank you, Kate for your bravery and strength

Dear Julia As always I will never tire of listening to you and your guests and your lovely daughters. Thank you so much. So consoling and inspiring. I am so happy to see you looking so much better 👏🏻👏🏻

Thank you Kate for being so honest and sharing for the purpose of growth and helping others. It helps to reduce the feelings of shame of not only the trauma but the behaviours to manage and sooth the trauma.

I have always loved uou Kate. Thanks gor your honesty . May you have peace love and joy as uou go on with your life ❤️

thank you as always

This was a stunning conversation. Thankyou for having these conversations publicly it helps many people and is incredibly moving ❤

What a great conversation and I learnt so much listening to you both.

Love the work that Kates doing,need so much more of this,education in schools and with parents and also hopefully alot more in mainstream media,this stuff has to get out there and become widely known,

I lost my little Mama four years ago. I was her carer and fought to keep her at home; she had dementia, curvature of the spine and was deaf. But everyone loved her. In the last few months she suffered from massive tissue damage; stage 4 from bad equipment (she was bedridden) bad harnesses which tore her fragile skin, because she had scoliosis. I was forced to accept an air mattress but I insisted, it would damage her spine even further. No one listened, they insisted 'they knew best'. She died in pain ten days after being on the mattress. I slept downstairs in order to turn her every hour & because of the lack of support for her spine she basically jack-knifed which impacted her heart and twisted her rib cage around. The day she was dying the head nurse and another who was panicking were there. I had a breakdown in front of them both, screaming that they had killed her because in fact, they had by refusing to take her off the mattress which was impacting her lungs. As I broke down, the head nurse patted my arm and said, 'She's old, she's dying, it is NOT the mattress'. As Mama struggled to breathe they suggested I 'Held a hand fan in front of her mouth to help her get breaths'. I screamed and howled; my sister was present and witnessed the level of cruelty towards us and almost pleasure as Annabel says, in watching this horror unfold. I will never, NEVER get over the pain Mama was in during those last nights as she struggled to rock herself upright, which was impossible because her body weight was sinking deeper and deeper into the air mattress. I will never forget the way we were treated, and I don't want to. There was no duty of care, no compassion, no respect for the way we wanted to treat mama (we had EPOA but that didn't seem to matter). It boils down to this; if you show genuine love, care and knowledge about how your loved one should be treated, the medical profession hate you for it and punish you for defying them by using cruelty towards you.

Two very vulnerable people being incredible courageous and candid in broaching this terrifying subject Thank you both so much. It moved me to tears.

Sounds a bit like autism as well. Autism and eating disorders often co occur

I happened upon the documentary and did a deep dive on Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward. Paul Newman’s memoir is a great read. I love listening to this interview. Thank you!

Most helpful..🙏🏼❤🙏🏼

My 58 yr old husband passed away in his sleep via a silent heart attack 3 weeks ago tomorrow and my world has crumbled. I met him when I was 21 too😢 This conversation feels like a warm hug from the universe right now. Thank you 🙏🏼❤️

Glade you found you're way, I may have it too its in my family all woman have it at least. But its a varient there a masektomie won't do anything at all, neither any hormons or anything at all, I don't go to any check ups and won't in the future I know that I don't wanna do chemo or something like this and rather have a short live then. Wish you the best✨

totally agree. so open and honest.if its not rude i wonder if she has ever had an autism screening.

Thank you Charles Spencer, for sharing your story. We cannot quite know the world you grew up in, but we can all understand pain, humiliation, betrayal, loss, etc and in that we are more alike than different. Beautiful interview and I've shared it with others to raise awareness of these issues. Survivors of SRA will relate to aspects of your experiences as well. Some are heirarchy kids but most, sadly, are "expendable". Was wishing you would share more about other aspects of that world.

What a lovely person.

this is so sad....I'm in tears because a whole generation has been screwed up by not being allowed to have a voice and the ''old school rules.'' So glad that Charles has found the inner strength to talk about this - he should be so proud of himself. Traum is not easy to overcome. May he continue to recover and love himself 100%

Poor Annabel. So sad. Thinking of her xx

I really understand what it's like to be abused at school!

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This must have been so horrific for the family 😢 Did the child ever admit to making a false accusation?

TH❤NKU ladies !!..☆☆☆

An amazing and frank interview. Charles Spencer has had such a troubled childhood and into adulthood. Its amazing he got through all of that pain.

God bless you Charles. You are so brave and gifted. I loved your sister Diana since i was 10 and am now 53 still missing her ❤

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Beautifully put 🦋

Helena is a great actress in my opinion, and she seems really genuine and personable in interviews. I've really enjoyed everything I've ever seen her in she inhabits characters in a way that makes her totally believable in the story . Great actress.

This is horrific, Charles is an excellent narrator just going on the eulogy he wrote for his sister, Princess Diana. It's so great to see someone so honest and constantly trying to evolve and heal themselves. It's disgusting also to think that these parents were paying these sadists thousands od dollars every year to look after their kids. Dept of children safety needs to make sure they do spontaneous visits to these institutions, and speak to children separately.

You are wonderful 🎉❤

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And what on earth is the point of then pulling it apart with her daughters!!! Horrendous

I really can't see how how this helped annabel at all. It was painful to watch and l didn't feel the therapists approach, questions or suggestions aided at all. Terrible. Much love to annabel and her family. X

What a fabulous sensitive conversation about deeply important life events! So real and authentic TY!!!! I love the tip self awareness asking “what is my shark music” ❤

I like him, pray for him and his healing ❤️‍🩹

That sucks! Trans people really have it the worst, there’s just too much suffering when it comes to being your true self. But in the end, the reward is huge!

I was a matron in a posh prep school and knew of a teacher abusing the boys. It wasn’t until 5 years later I had the opportunity to report him. I did! 3days later the police came to arrest him. Apparently 6 years earlier he had been asked to move on after a big enquiry - which he never got round to! I was petrified at the time but now at over 60 it’s one of the proudest things I did!

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Thank you for telling your story. I was also abused in a "privileged " home. The psycopathy is insane actually in these situations where the perpetrators are well educated and powerful people.

Therapy is the key to happiness, mental health and better life.