Lovely information well presented, thank you

I admire your courage, vulnerability and authenticity making these videos. I want you to know you are not alone and it can get better.

Thank you🪶

I'm an addict

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❤ what a wonderful conversation thank you so much for this! we need you all, all around the world with this attitude at heart!

One of the things I notice is the undeniable underlying anger in my husband who is definitely enmeshed with his family. It’s like he’s never truly happy 99% of the time & there’s glimpses of seeing him happy when he’s in the cycle of “closeness” with the various people in his family. I say it like that because the family dynamics are intertwined with narcissistic personality disorder family cult type behavior, his mother in my opinion was a covert narcissist & his older brother the golden child is without a doubt a full blown malignant narcissist. Back to the topic of anger, I have to say the enmeshed man is a miserable man & the source of his misery is the very thing that angers him yet at the same time he cannot recognize it because he even gets overly defensive if I ever point anything out to him, he throws a major tantrum & freaks out & a frantic response. To me it’s much like that of a person who has an addiction, he goes through the same phases: sugar coating & denying it’s a problem & justifying & protecting the bad behaviors of family members & it’s a black & white mentality for example he’s said what am I supposed to do never talk to my family again vs. having that middle ground where there’s grey area & boundaries. His mother passed away 3 & 1/2 years ago & however still until this day family members constantly sending reminders of “mother” by sending photos, videos, etc. every other day & keeping the enmeshing alive in my opinion, it’s subtle but very much apparent. I have resigned myself to withdraw from the toxic relationships & I now pray that my husband can detach himself from the enmeshing of his mother & family & can heal for himself so he can experience happiness for the first time in his life.

Bravo beautiful souls...I am deeply grateful to you all for sharing your understanding on how trauma affects our bodies, mind & soul. You prove Hope to us suffering from trauma. Life is beautiful!!!

So what to do in this scenario if you can't escape it how to get out of addiction then ?

how does escaping make you shamed? That's like saying that breaking something fixes it.

oh thank you I'm fixed

Sage advice

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CPTSD

Movement is life!

Kinda old for a fresh start: I’m in my senior years🙁

This is real. And that is why we all need these messages of help. We all need support from time to time. And to help one another.

Or raise your kids to respect you. It's not a power struggle. It's respect

Commenting to feed the algorithm. Not if it works the same for shorts, but I might as well do it to show my agreement.

A very good format: questions and answers have a concrete benefit and I found myself in some of the questions. Thank you very much for your efforts and all the best!

This is what's wrong with this world, (liberal)

I had a roof over my head food on the table and I got to sit and watch movies with my over worked parents when they were able to finally sit awhile ... I was loved very loved and blessed it's sad to think of children without loving parents

I agree with you saying I grew up in the household that didn't have that concept so I definitely understand is just that we are everybody in the world is so driven so hungry for that love they get it anyway they can that's why they get into circus field crazy drama film relationships they looking for something they cannot find

Pull yourself up butter cup. Stop crying

My parents loved me by providing a nice home, nice clothes, food on the table, teaching us how to be good kids with nice manners and treating people with respect. This was very important to my parents was to treat our elders with respect. You don’t find many young people this day and time who do that. And it is so disrespectful.

You are fucking kidding me . 😮 The most spoilt people in the world .

Many people are settling their anger with g-d . The anger is real .

Excellent Thank you for such great webinars

Magnificent!!! As a somatic healer and someone who works with trauma, this class with Mr. Strenger was definitely one of the best! Just beautiful. I am recommending him to many people.

So profound, enlightening and encouraging. Thank you for an amazing Webinar.

Türkçe çeviri seçeneği olsa daha iyi guzel olurdu

Amazing!!! Thank you!!!

What an amazing resource!!! Thank you Fresh Start, keep up your incredible work.

I feel like I am the type who needs to disconnect, but I feel extremely guilty doing that

I keep listening over and over to a few that I’ve received to find a little peace with myself, dealing with all that is going on in Israel and the world and with all the problems I have to deal with in my own home 🥹 May there be peace one day amongst all 🙏🏻💙❤️‍🩹🇸🇻☮️

She is overly positive and optimistic. She states how important it is to find caring people. But people who were not raised with caring, nurturing parents and were abused as children rarely have close relationships or support groups. They were programmed to fear people, to believe that they are fundamentally disgusting, unlovable and defective. Thus, those with C-PTSD as a result of chronic abuse, may feel insulted by being told that everything can be fixed, cured, resolved and healed. Most of us will have to learn to live with a certain degree of anxiety and PTSD symptoms. Miriam Adahan, Jerusalem

Amazing video !! True gift to the world

Excellent! Thank you, Dr. Adams

After getting sober almost 9 years ago, my wife had had enough. I didnt know of the term enmeshment, but i certainly do now. Ive been NC from my parents for over 8 years. Dr Adams, you saved my life! I have both of the books you referenced in this video. Each one was like reading my life story. Thank you!

My child isn’t my easel to paint on Nor my diamond to polish My child isn’t my trophy to share with the world Nor my badge of honor My child isn’t an idea, an expectation, or a fantasy Nor my reflection or legacy My child isn’t my puppet or a project Nor my striving or desire My child is here to fumble, stumble, try, and cry Learn and mess up Fail and try again Listen to the beat of a drum faint to our adult ears And dance to a song that revels in freedom My task is to step aside Stay in infinite possibility Heal my own wounds Fill my own bucket And let my child fly -Shefali Tsabary, PhD

Wow !! Great shtickle. Wonderful chizzuk. Thanx so much.

Love Sarah!! Her loving approach and curiosity instead of judgment approach is so gentle and refreshing!

Shalom Rabbi & Dr Stephen, watching from Tampico, Mexico.