I have to say this conversation triggered me because of the constant race descriptions. I can accept every thing she says as true and do understand from a blk carribean perspective. But the way she talks about 'whitenes' in a way that reinforces their supremacy and in the other opresses blk people. I dislike that. The convertsation would be just as useful without reinforcing these beliefs that really needs to go in order for us to ever become truely equal. We have learned white ways as descendant of slaves. We do need to connect with our deeper self to reconnect to our roots and who we really could be once the conditioning is challenged. The process is the same regardless of race or experience. We also need to accept that we will never be able to go back. We can integrate new learnings we feel called to but will never become our ancestors / African. Most Africans also looks down on us and we r still different or outcasts. My personal exp. So our job is to find the self we want to be and do that. Not try to learn the conditioning of another culture. Just my opinion. I'm happy with with who I've become and the conditioning I am releasing. I suppose that's why I'm triggered as I've also realeased a lot of blame on my journey.

Owning our power. Wonderfully presented with great respect. Opening to learning from our collective imagination.

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A narcissist interviewing a therapist about narcissism. 😂

I went through war , as 4 year old child I've seen killing , bombs,...... Now i have PTSD

They killed over a million innocent people during the american invasion of Iraq. It was nothing but T'ism, which they claim to be fighting against. These individuals may be powerless against their superiors but they are neither warriors nor heroes.

Maybe his mother was addressing his tendency toward covert narcissism.

This is not a good idea

Is there a way to access this full webcast series? I couldnt find anything on the website.

This video offered no solutions. Do you have a better follow-up? I'm not the only person who had a disappointed take-away here. If you have another video that could be helpful, could you please share? Thank you.

what a beautiful poem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so great and so true thanks Scott why dont we have more of you

Ive got the end all cure for Climate Anxiety. Its pretty revolutionary. Its called a swift kick in the ass!

This is so sad to see, ive had ptsd for 30 years and seen so many 'experts' in the form of doctors, psychologists, therapist, even tried hypnosis with 3 different people had brain scans, did mindfulness techniques and all they keep going back to is the same outdated methods from the 70's like going out as much as you can to de sensitise your fellings, was offered so many different medications to keep 'big pharma' going, even tried the emotion code and spiritual healing which eased things a bit but nothing works...

Autsch , that went straight to the heart... Not being seen and feeling all alone in the world as a little child is probably the biggest trauma I carry with me. Anything that happend later on, emotional and sexual abuse when I was a teenager is far more bearable than this feeling of utter abandonment. And no, my parents weren't not what you imagine when you think of baf parents, they tried, but they couldn't be emotional available because they were traumatized themselves.

Tell us how to do better then

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One of the most healing things my therapist did for me was celebrate me for being me. Never had that before and I could never repay her for what that did in my life.

K-hole

That made me cry.

five editions over how many years? and before this? bedlam. chains, cages, horrendous abuses. how many pages were there in dsm i, ii, iii, iv and now v? how many additional diagnoses over this time? this is no 'enlightenment'. the 'dsm' is an invideous tool for the pathologising of deeply vulnerable people. preferably everyone. it is shameful and contravenes the hippocratic oath of "do no harm" by being both spurious, subjective and venal. it is not science but opportunistic speculation promoted by big pharma while lining the pockets of these 'professionals'. one question. why doesn't everybody know about attachment? the difference secure attachment would make to peoples lives is immense. instead the public is kept in the dark about this feeding this industry and all the others that prey upon our collective dysfunctions. for shame! 🤮

mental health is a barn door entry for pseudo babbling abuse. without binary tests the scope for 'black arts' blathering by the burgeoning mental health technocracy is immense while developing 'patients' into cash cows. "do no harm." if only!

This is the foundation of healing through therapy.

Being neurodivergent, I can very much relate to the feeling of constantly feeling pressure to live up to the standards and expectations of others - what to say and not say, what to wear and not wear (will I be judged at work if I opt for comfort over style because I'm hypersensitive today?), constantly worrying about what others think. In our world we live behind not a prison but a mask, every day we put the mask on and try to make sure no one sees through the cracks. Too many people feel trapped or silenced because of difference, things needs to change.

🤦🏽‍♂️ literally if your sexually attracted to someone it’s most likely bringing you pleasure and you going to most likely eroticize that person.

This is so interesting, I work as a somatic coach (trauma informed) and actually some of these changes are what I feel when working with my clients. Because I focus on my own body as well while guiding the client I can feel those “change moments”❤ and take time to explore them…. This is somehow so validating for my work and at the same time so exciting to get my second degree in clinica psychology to learn this specific therapeutic way. Thank you so much for sharing it 🙏🙏🙏

I was 17 years old when my father passed away suddenly, I pretty much decided right then and there that I would never become a parent because the pain that he seemed to go through was very stressful and I felt that I had contributed to his death. I realized that love was pain over the years and have kept my connections few and far between and quite small and that loneliness hurts and makes me realize that when I do experience loss it will be even greater because my circle is so small. But truly it created a fear of connection because now I have such a profound fear of loss. Screaming in the car is a good one it's very cathartic nobody can hear you and you're not bothering the neighbors. I become aware of my anger and I realize that it's my body's defense mechanism against the pain and so I turned towards the pain instead. I wasn't always able to do this.

Would love to hear his thoughts on compounding grief

Thank you so much for this… It really moved me 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you so much!!!

❤ y’all for your BRAVE!!!

Dear God please help everyone heal🙏🏼❣️ in Jesus mighty Name I pray Amen!!!!

Wendy thank you so much for being treatment focused instead of pathology focused. You're really the only strong voice out there saying we can do treatment with this population.

Thank you so much. I've been saying that for years. Why are we always forced to adapt to shit that doesn't work for us? I stopped going to therapists who say this sort of shit.

Children should be saved too like adults from toxic family. It may need more efforts but it's not impossible!

A child needs to adapt to toxic parents. As an adult you can escape the situation, if you want. Big difference.

Misleading title here. No tools.

In a generational context, a covert narcissist is what pops out of the overt narcissist's jello mold.

Thank you for this. I am battling with grief at the moment. I recently lost my husband of 50 years. I don't have an identity any longer. He was a Minister of Religion and Military Chaplain. My youngest daughter passed away at two years old and my adult and only son at 25 years old. My surviving daughter lost her husband during covid. My brother was last year, and now my nephew and niece. I'm tired of being so sad 😞 I am a born again Christian and have a relationship with the Lord. Please Can you help me?? 🙏 I'd like to do grief counseling. 😢

Hello! I'm listening to you from Asturias, Spain. In minute 10 you talk about something like "legacy birds in" but I don't understand it in Spanish. Could you write those words in English so I can translate it please?

Please, there’s no such thing as “stages of grief”.

For people struggling with trauma I would recommend the book 'the body keeps the score' by Bessel van der Kolk. It's very good, gives insight into the body-part of trauma (like this video), and suggests useful healing methods along this approach.

I have lost both my sons (adults) and a daughter-in- law in less than 4 months. I’ve grieved many times before but this time I’m in freefalll. I know I’m not alone in grief but I’m drowning in it..

Dr. Childress in America has detailed lectures about narcissistic abuse in childhood and parental alienation also it's very sad indeed.

Thank you for this video. This is something that is necessary and helpful 😊

psychicals are definitely difficult to overcome once the parasympathetic is triggered and they dont stop

Brilliant

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Insightful!

😂I was gonna say that’s an older book. I recommend the new book very very good