I had a photo tagged when I was 4 yo, I remember vividly (now) that I had depression then already. So I don't know if I was born with a spark

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My parent doesn’t believe in my trauma and decided to stay with the other parent that caused the trauma. It’s miserable for them, my siblings (who also went no contact for the same reasons at the same time), our children and of course myself. Trauma destroys not one but few families - the one that happened to and their next generation too. Lots of sadness but finally no fear

I have a great relationship with my parents and my in laws🫵😂

I add here 1 point just to see if someone has the same issue and if it can be related to this trauma list: - I never argue or participate in discussions where 2+ people argument their different points of view (be it political, societal, general discussions, different opinions or points of view about life..etc) I never debate nor negociate, I'm unable to do it. I always listen, observe but never participate. I'm almost 40. If I have to participate or someone asks me my opinion I start to dissociate, be worried, feel naked and have difficulties even to built up structure/sentences. Quite dramatic. I have this since childhood.

I'm the same I'm not the person I was when I left the snake pit I have none thing in common as them I have remove myself for my own happiness for one the goat got away😅

Patrick!!! Can a covert narcissist use these to mask without being self aware of it? How do I know the difference between??

dont be like this guy

I feel these need the right conditions to be 'activated'. The Darkness/The Ghost/The Are We Good I recognize a lot of these... The Doer When my down feelings are satisfied (I had my cry or did some TLC or had enough sleep) I'll switch and focus on what I CAN DO. The Hostile Only when I'm pushed/triggered or around people I feel know me more.

i have all of these.

This is about as "dangerous" as postmodern "marxism" gets people! Has absolutely nothing to do with old-time "commie" Stalinism. It's about "the love of money is the root of all evil." We never needed Marx to give us that zibbidee toilet revelation.

Amen

Had to scream and cry to get the material unit to seem like she was listening.

How the fuck do you get rid of all this

#3 uh oh! then #4 UH OH

Truth. Thanks, as I couldnt tell what Is the brick wall at seeing things. Is it me, is it me Is it a,b,c...?

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The life of internal emotional pain with no relief has been as bad as physical pain. Stigmatized for sharing. Finally, I see it for what it is. Countless triggers. Attracted to traumatized partners. Therapy is helping..

Thank you ❤

that's soooooo sad i feel.so bad

lol you are killing it with the LOLOL 💯 truths

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This reminds me that many shared traits people with ADHD have aren't actually innate to how our brain functions, but instead how our brain adapted to trauma growing up. Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is a term I hear a lot and that I apply to my experience with ADHD, but I also have significant childhood trauma that has not been addressed

Does the family ever accept they've been doing this? On the plus side my husband and children see it really clearly and we laugh about it. I've become the contrarian though so their dislike of me looks entirely justified I suppose.

I never realized why i am how i am. I still dunno. Seems like I am a mix of these.

Transactional analysis

Oh dear. Ive worked really hard to learn when to reveal what is going on within social interactions or relationships. I can see and feel the dynamics at play. Why someone is behaving the way they are. Do i overwhelm people? I have done. Now i try to help by knowing when theyre ready to listen. Looking forward to this one Mr Teahan 🤍🙏

Yes. Yes I do. And once I found out what I was doing and what it was called, I hold back . But sometimes it's so hard and I have to literally clench my lips😅

the sideways grief thing is why i can’t even watch a mother and daughter have a loving and understanding conversation on a tiktok. i feel like it’ll never go away honestly

Yea, i asked too many questions apparently, when my abuser was lying and gaslighting and i knew he was. So...im glad he got overwhelmed 😂 cause i was beyond frustrated.

For gifted people of any age, "the real you isn't acceptable" (among others,) is just true, societally speaking. Gifted people are alienated, rejected, bullied, ostracized, isolated, and discriminated against because humans evolved to dislike/distrust others who are different. Gifted people are also not enough AND too much at the same time. Sometimes people DO want to know them, but once they realize the gifted person is different (or once they've used them as much as they can,) they'll leave. It's hard to believe that love is real when most people actively dislike you and anyone else leaves you. Unfortunately the vast majority of people (inc. therapists, teachers, employers, etc.,) know nothing about giftedness, leaving those who endure it not only unable to get appropriate help, but the treatment available will do further harm. Their normal experiences are pathologized by people who know nothing about their condition. It's like treating a diabetic for cancer. Not only is the diabetes going to worsen, but now you have all of the unnecessary cancer treatment effects to deal with, too.

Damn, let me not say I love my mom in public before I get jumped by the people who had crappy parent.

So general. BS

This is spot on and such an important topic of therapeutic conversation that I believe more therapists need to have with there clients, but I also think it beneficial to further the conversation to help bring awareness of why, this is a reaction we have. I've seen so many times where this reactionn served as a protective measure. For some its an inner child reaction of believing it's easier to think we're the problem versus the other person, at other times it can be a protective diversion from an emotional flashback, etc.