Me and my bf have been together for a year and he’s been in and out of trouble lately and it’s been a lot on both of us. I need to forgive and build trust. He feels like his mistakes have brought me down and in his words “ you deserve the world and more” and he said he needs the time to be that person. He needs time to get his life together so he can be the man I deserve. It’s super hard rn considering he’s 16 and I’m 17 .I think what helps is knowing we wanna be with each other. I’ve never seen this man cry ever and that day he cried a lot. It’s a good feeling to know that we are doing this for each other and that we wanna be with each other but it’s still hard not knowing if he will find someone else. The agreements were we were gonna focus on ourselves and not talk to anyone else. And we were still gonna talk and hangout occasionally so we can build our friendship back up. And we only are only supposed to tell two other people not including our family so that no one else gets involved. And the break is for two months and then we will talk and see if we need longer. I pray that anyone who reads this will pray for our relationship and that we can come back stronger and better than ever.
@The_Super_PoodleАй бұрын
There is no such thing as “a break”. That’s a break up. Period. If you can’t talk it out or find a way to resolve whatever the issue is the hit the door. I’m not gonna wait and be lead on because you can’t figure out what you want to do. Kevin Hart said it best “Let it float in the air…. And disappear.” Y’all need to stop playing games with people and start being adults. This is not high school.
@jeremiahhoffman57973 ай бұрын
I feel like doesn't matter who decide "we need a break" and whoever respond okay and how long a break we need? If he/she respond idk I'm not sure then that right there stop and don't waste your time. Move on and good bye cause what will happen is, she/he will go out on dates behind your back then one day he/she will say hey we are done okay then other person who been respectful and giving space been clowned. So if a woman ever told me we need a break, I'll ask her time frame and she doesn't give me the answer, then bye bye cause I ain't going to be the one being stupid at the end finding out she move on either without or even telling me at the end bye haha.
@DelilahVega-qd5qd3 ай бұрын
We are calling this a break up, But we are not dating other people just focusing on ourselves, we said a break would be good but the title of boyfriend girlfriend might intimidate the idea of a break and not work. So is a breakup okay? It was a health break break up
@gregorybible76103 ай бұрын
Is a non monogamous soppost to be defferent than a monogamous relationship?
@susang.85493 ай бұрын
I went on vacation..I broke up when hecwanted to go to a dive bar alone .I went downtown by myself..im 60..he didn't care
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@user-ex6wz9nj3o4 ай бұрын
Background music is so distracting
@MS-sf3wx4 ай бұрын
Hi my bf wants cool- off he gave me time frame like 3-6 months. And he said after those months if we are going to meet again, if it works out he said it's good and he will marry me. He's depressed and stress from work and family problem and we always fighting because of our own problems. He said that it's a hard decision, he's crying in pain and said he wants to retrieve his love for me he wants rest from love or relationship or me. He cannot focus. But I want to court him and bring back what's lost. Is his love for me really slowly gone?. But he said he hopes that our promises going to work. We talk before cooling off. Is it okay if I court him and show him my love while cool off?
@undead6006 ай бұрын
Breaks are weird. I agree that you can grow alone, I've been in a relationship that lasted 4 months, we had a lot of common things, humor, share same interests etc, we only had a hard a small argue once, it's true it was a rebound for both of us, we all know that saying: easy come, easy go .. I had a shorter moment when I got cold a bit, I felt something from her also, when I realised things and tried to get back to giving love at 1000% again when I was on a business trip in Germany for a few days, when I got home, that day she packed my stuff and said she wants a break to figure out what she wants and how she wants it, that was end of February 2023, she said that day that she loves me and doesn't want me to think she is misleading me, I wrote and she replied a few times the next 3 days, I called her to meet up on womens day to give her a rose, haven't messaged or anything since, only wished her happy birthday in may, I was devastated and didn't know what happened and why, sadly I made a mistake by asking her friend online .. I regret that, I did figure out things in time and I feel I grew a lot, she didn't write or greet me on my bd, she did block my messages on FB, anyways my brain knows this is not what I deserve, I did meet a girl who was next to me when I lost someone very important, I am better in relationships now, I'm dating her since May 2023, taking it slow and steady, she is next to me, to be honest I have feelings for the girl who wanted the break , but this is not what I need, I wanted to marry her but I wouldn't leave the current girl for her, recently I bumped into her bff with husband by accident at the train station while I was picking up the girl I'm dating since May, we held hands and probably she knows now from her bff that I'm on the dating scene, anyways it's her loss if she didn't message or anything, I know my worth, my brain tells me that it's better this way and it's true , but i wish I could forget the "ex" who never showed up since she asked for a break.. it's been almost a year and it's non sense, I hope to forget her, sincerely
@catalinart6 ай бұрын
My partner and I were in a relationship for 10 years. I'm a freelance artist/illustrator and love to go on occasional bike trips. I asked my partner for a much needed break - a solo bike trip where I can also draw on my tablet. She said it was a good idea for both of us but later when we were getting close to that (healthy) break, she started panicking, she told me she has abandonment issues because of her parents. Later she started being fine again and chatting a lot on her phone. Seven days before the break she completely discarded me, monkey branched to a guy she knew :(
@undead6006 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that bro, but she did you a favor, now you know that she isn't a good pick for you.. you deserve better
@DarkEmoNinja7 ай бұрын
This video is helping me through this current break. This is my first time doing this so it’s very scary and nerve wracking since I’m so used to just saying bye to my past partners, never had the chance to actually discuss taking a break with my partner til now.
@ernest15767 ай бұрын
Come on their aint no rules. In Love and War
@jereledwards22917 ай бұрын
What if they hurt their spouse? The spouse isn't or was never afraid of being hurt? They are afraid to be hurt or shown the action that was displayed. So the accuser the suspect alway is trying to get over? I don't believe it is healthy.
@melkerner7 ай бұрын
My Wife decided years ago that I was not worth touching or kissing or anything else. She loves her cell phone, dogs and doing things for others rather than attending to our relationship needs. Defensive and pissed off whenever it is brought up (no matter how tender and careful). Insists "it's completely normal" but will not seek professional help.
@arturow26867 ай бұрын
i dont take advice from a woman
@arturow26867 ай бұрын
bro truth bro
@cipryan968 ай бұрын
Break = letting Tyrone tap it and have the sucker as a backup option. You want to doom your relationship? Do a break/pause.
@shedrickwallace93639 ай бұрын
I always meet someone new during a break. I guess it’s because I’m an stick it through and grow type of guy.
@elfu9li1009 ай бұрын
I'm in a long distance relationship, and I was just on video call with my gf yesterday night talking about a potential breakup after 16 months of being together. She wanted it to work out, but my love language is physical touch and we barely see each other...so end of story, we decided to be on break so I can focus and figure out what I wanted (because I'm the person who initiated the "breakup"/break) any tips or advice on what I can do so im just not crying or being depressed over this hard truth?
@rye7349 ай бұрын
I’m in the same situation as you buddy. Find hobbies and activities you’re passionate about to fill the time. Make new friends, go out if your comfort zone. Just broaden your horizons. And don’t, I repeat, don’t, text her.
@arya36626 ай бұрын
Don't break up if you both love each other and don't wanna give. That's rare. On a similar boat as you. I understand the pain. Stay busy. Take care of your skin, hair, workout, and try to go out more for walks etc. The more you stay indoors alone, you'll be sad. This is what I think. Get back together buddy. She loves you!
@honeycheesechips3 ай бұрын
I’m same as you, not yet asking my boyfriend a break. LDR is not easy. As long as you guys have ground rules then that’s fine. Sit with your feelings and figure out what you need to figure out
@segaoldschoolsega9259 ай бұрын
I’m in a loveless marriage , me as a man I’ve messed up but she uses it as a weapon because I’m no good . I try to look beyond my mistakes and not to do them again and I know what my weakness are and try to be better no cheating of course… but lately after 18 years of being together I am useless I’m no good to her to myself to no one , if I could I’d end this thing but something in me the coward inside won’t let me end it all…
@Taylovesyou188910 ай бұрын
The thing that kills me right now maybe the most is that I’m still holding out hope that I get her back. We didn’t discuss any of it before but after. And we don’t seem to see eye to eye on the seeing other people thing. I’ve seen plenty of people and was committed to her but I had my issues. She had love for me but is talking about seeing other men even if that was sexually. And she said she wanted nothing serious with the other men she talked too. I’m being supportive but I’m also scared because I can’t and don’t want to move on
@chosen.673910 ай бұрын
same happened today to me.. i moved out but i want to get back now.. What do i do?
@Taylovesyou188910 ай бұрын
It’s day 3 for me now. I’m eating again, started going to the gym. Did have a little angry phase last night and was kinda scary cuz it was turning into hate for women. But I quickly caught it and caught my head. Maybe it’s a good step for me because she had been talking to me today the most in a while. And honestly that’s all that matters because at the end of the day, we love each other and she is just living life that she didn’t have as a kid. As long as she is okay I’m okay
@sofie960810 ай бұрын
The music ata the backgroung is pathetic
@yearight120511 ай бұрын
Taking a break is code for "we need some distance between us as I sort out the end of this relationship." There is no "taking a break" to help the relationship. It's over, move on.
@ilovechristopheredwinbreaux7 ай бұрын
that's not correct. my boyfriend and i took a break 1 year ago and after 2 weeks of not speaking we both realised that we wanted to stay together, but even then we continued the break for 2 more weeks. taking that break gave us both time to improve ourselves to improve our relationship. we came back stronger than ever and we still are now, breaks don't always mean the end in a relationship. a break in a healthy relationship should mean taking a couple weeks to recoup after a fight, if you really love each other and you know you want to be together, a break will always end better for both parties than just breaking up when something goes wrong.
@gabrielmiraldo11 ай бұрын
you are so sweet and nice!!! thank you so much for your time and for explaining this hard topic with such joy and excitement. hope all the best for you 😊
@chaleychurch9190 Жыл бұрын
This is really helpful. I’m in love with my boyfriend and we need to discuss how we both feel, and this makes me feel a lot better about it. I want what is best for the both of us.
@purplekancable9 ай бұрын
I’m in the same boat right now. And he just suggested for us to be on a break. So I’m just taking it one day at a time
@Shelovestinn4 ай бұрын
Same here. We can do this.
@mr1m020 Жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot! I'm looking forward to healthily employing these tools for my break
@user-gf2np2kd2p Жыл бұрын
My girlfriend kept this decision for herself during 6 months. How long should I wait before talking to her about this. Since she took 6 months to decide this should i give her more time?
@qwertqwert835710 ай бұрын
dump her yesterday
@ImmortalConez Жыл бұрын
Why's it hurt so much
@owuns05 Жыл бұрын
frl 😂
@hellokittie3977 Жыл бұрын
I got into a fight with him yesterday and I took it as us just breaking up, when to be honest he just wanted a break to reflect. Im scared because I feel he won't come back but he is his own person and requires time
@Ireneeeee2711 ай бұрын
did you guys get back to together?
@hellokittie397711 ай бұрын
@@Ireneeeee27 no we didn’t my baby. He said he wanted to be single a month after I posted that. I’ve healed. Are you going through a breakup of your own?
@Ireneeeee2711 ай бұрын
@@hellokittie3977 yes I am, he wanted to end because of the petty fights we had everyday. I called his friend he then talked to him. We ended up on a decision that he wants a 6 month no contact. But he’s saying that he isn’t quite sure if he’ll still have the feelings
@hellokittie397711 ай бұрын
@@Ireneeeee27 that sounds like a breakup to me. In as much as you most likely don’t want to hear it, I suggest you move on. It’s going to be hard but my best advice for you is that you feel and express every single emotion you need to feel right now. That way you move on faster and heal properly. Don’t use anyone to get over him. Don’t go out and pretend everything is fine when it’s not. You have to become whole again on your own. One thing I’ve learnt is that no man wants to be away from the woman he loves. The fact that he is asking for space for half a year is insane. If it was a shorter period of time I’d understand but he’s gone my baby. I wish you all the best 🤍
@couttsie2 ай бұрын
@@Ireneeeee27hey, how are things after 8 months? are you still without him and are you coping okay? i hope you’re doing good regardless of what your situation is x
@Viikk785 Жыл бұрын
Me being a break from my partner has only made me realise that i want to be single … now what
@amberooms2212 Жыл бұрын
How do I get over the pain of feeling rejected and not good enough. I know i’m ‘good enough’, I really did do my absolute best and he told me I couldn’t have done better, and I understand if that spark just kind of fades for someone. But how do I process that if he wants to get back together? How can I trust in the fact he isn’t just gonna lose interest again in a few more months? I want my relationship to work, but i’m just so immensely heart broken by the fact that he does not want to be with me right now. Any tips?
@gabemorales796 Жыл бұрын
Same situation but roles reversed im blindsided but at the same time treated my highschool sweetheart of four years poorly the last few months not showing how much I care etc, she needs time because she dosent know what she wants she says and I can say I trust and respect her enough to see her life is hectic right now and her being unhappy with our relationship didn’t help her.
@gabemorales796 Жыл бұрын
Im hoping showing her in my actions and no longer rambling on with words maybe if we’re meant to be the space will be healthy for the both of us and we can rebuild a better relationship but if not at least im taking care of myself in my actions improving everyday
@armaldee Жыл бұрын
thank you so much, this is really positive, my partner ask for a break and I've been miserable this video really helpful to help me calm down, thank you so much I hope you always healthy and always spread positive things
@animefan2454 Жыл бұрын
Usually breaks for me end up where my partner is screwing someone else behind my back.
@FranscescaStam Жыл бұрын
i see so many comments on insta etc saying things like “oo yeah we broke up after the break, but i hope yall are going to be okay” LIKE OK BRENDA THAT IS NOT GOING TO HELP US. UR SCARING ME.
@royalcass Жыл бұрын
I've been using this time to stream more and I made a brand new best friend! I am really happy! It's just a shame she isn't happy, i mean that's why we took our break in the first place
@rowanphillips3497 Жыл бұрын
Wow I had 21 out of 23 red flags. Im so glad im getting a divorce
@georgekranz7669 Жыл бұрын
I am a srt8 grandpa and hate to live my last years on my own and hate to sleep alone. So how can I follow your rules? when my doc has suggested that I don't sleep alone?
@socalledmax906 Жыл бұрын
please seek the lord and savior jesus Christ and repent of your lustful youth. love form Serbia 🟥🟦⬜☦☦✝✝
@MsAmuay20 Жыл бұрын
Our couple have always been against taking a break until we hit a point where the issues aren't being solved. Thank you so much for all of these tips, we have definitely implemented it.
@wnatalia32818 ай бұрын
Can I ask if now it’s better or are you guys dating?
@MsAmuay208 ай бұрын
@@wnatalia3281 a lot of down before ups because we actually broke up a long the way, let's say we're both at the better place now and we know a lot more about ourselves than before
@kauigirl808 Жыл бұрын
Breaking up with him isn't the hard part. It's breaking up with his entire family and explaining to my entire family why it's happening.
@Gabbyintermoia Жыл бұрын
I needed this this is really hard. I want to be better for my lover I care for him too much.
@damianmandras8283 Жыл бұрын
I took a break because of depresion off
@damianmandras8283 Жыл бұрын
If you think by depresion i talk about pain i mean i hate myself
@moo9413 Жыл бұрын
@@damianmandras8283 I feel the same way I tried unalive myself
@damianmandras8283 Жыл бұрын
Whatever i just discoveret that she took it as a break up after gramiticaly mistaken brake ans placet acidentaly an up and now im even more depreset
@moo9413 Жыл бұрын
@@damianmandras8283 don’t give up.
@damianmandras8283 Жыл бұрын
Ehh is more like an anxiety and whats worse my subconstient canot imagine a life withoith her for that long is bether to forget the past
@kaycheyenne3039 Жыл бұрын
I've only seen this and another one of your videos, but I just want to say they are so different from other coaches and people I've seen, and they are so helpful and you have the sweetest voice
Жыл бұрын
I needed this. Taking a break in a relationship is driving me crazy tbh. I'm a firm believer of either talking it out or break up. There's no in between. I'm new to cooling off so yeah, I need videos like this to help me. 😔
@Precious.palacee Жыл бұрын
Did y’all get back together?
@nyx8633 Жыл бұрын
same here
@ndlovukazi7798 Жыл бұрын
Did you get back together?
@Mountains4ever11 ай бұрын
Same. Going through it right now. It’s only been a day but I miss her and it’s going to be a long 2 weeks
@fwlilzay8 ай бұрын
@@Mountains4every’all get back together ? Atleast you only had to wait 2 weeks my girl saying could take months for her to get her shi together and I don’t know how to feel about it
@mgu1N1n1 Жыл бұрын
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
@PeterNorthsLeftTesticle Жыл бұрын
Only 23? Good thing you narrowed it down.
@user-ez8tf9np3p3 ай бұрын
😅
@imkivamarie Жыл бұрын
I was looking forward to learning from this video, but the music/background noise is completely distracting for me. I cannot concentrate hard enough on your words to grasp the content, which may have otherwise be very helpful for me.
@apurvatiwari1340 Жыл бұрын
I am in a loveless marriage since last December and I feel so suffocated every single day.
@luleetomas2108 Жыл бұрын
I feel your pain
@MxC2X3 ай бұрын
Same what are we supposed to do
@CH-yp5by Жыл бұрын
Your tips came a bit late, the suggestion of the break to me without warning over the phone... its not like I had a list in my head of how to approach this.
@sarahstevenson8155 Жыл бұрын
What happened?
@conniegonzalez2729 Жыл бұрын
This therapist makes sense but speaks too soft and low. She needs to speak louder so people can hear her video better.