QUESTION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can you PLEASE review the book "Discovering the Mind of a Woman" by Ken Nair, specifically chapter 13 titled "I'm Just Weird" ? A man at church was handing this out to several brothers and gave one to my husband. I decided to open it to see if it was correctly telling him what I am thinking and this chapter made me so angry that I told my husband it was junk and why and, thankfully, he believed me and let me throw it away. However, I would be VERY grateful for you to do a video review of it (including with your evidenced based data regard woman having a "responsive" drive) that we could possibly share with the other men whom he has given it to and also for the folks in web-land who may be looking for reviews for this book. The author seems to have good intentions, trying to take the load of responsibility off wives and encourage husbands to educate themselves on how women think, but he fails miserably regarding $ex and I'm concerned that his apparent good intentions will mislead people. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@SheilaWrayGregoire3 сағат бұрын
Hi! It sounds like a terrible book, but it also doesn't sell very well. Right now we're focusing on books that have really high Amazon rankings, meaning that a lot of people are still getting suckered in. That doesn't mean that we don't agree the book is bad--but we're trying to focus on the big things first. But hopefully as we bring awareness to these issues (since they all seem to have very similar problems) people will be able to start identifying those problems in other books they see!
@Star-dj1kw8 сағат бұрын
Restart at 18:00
@artemisgoddess11 сағат бұрын
I don't think I want to try anymore. I wait on him hand and foot. We don't have children and is causing me such bad depression. But I can't tell him because he takes it as an attack and we end up arguing. He can keep his stupid porn and flirting with all the females. This will destroy me. I'm tired of trying. I don't even know why he is with me. I hate life so bad. I've tried so many times to be the best wife and person and it is all useless. He only thinks I'm being dramatic and tells me to relax. I'm sp tired of trying. I'm so tired of crying. I have needs but screw my needs. I hope that my desires just die so I no longer long for anything in life. I think it's the VR porn he is hooked on. I'm so sick of crap. I'm gonna have to even hide my tears and smile otherwise we get into argument. I give up!!!
@wunderthunder20 сағат бұрын
wow Christians need to listen to more classic love songs.. "Ï will make love to you, like you want me to, and I will not let go, till you tell me too...." (Boyz to Men). Or just listen to people like Sting, in his opinion sex begins at dinner.
@ElenaLearningForeverToInfinity21 сағат бұрын
wish you guys would say which Goodman's-es (lol) book you are talking about as the antidote. they have so many books now. I would love to read just one. HA! he just said it, the book name is "why marriages succeed or fail" thanks angels! (human and spiritual) love, kisses, hugs
@JM-no8uy22 сағат бұрын
Remember that this woman was a spinster until nearly retirement age and has NO CHILDREN of her own. I think she, for some bizarre and perverted reason, condones lawless, sinful, ungodly men. Does the following verse apply to the husband and elder in the church who is a drunk and a cheater? According to Nancy, no verse applies to this type of wretched man. ◄ 1 Corinthians 5:11 ► But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.
@MalloryNewcombКүн бұрын
0:33 Love Rebecca’s braided ponytail!
@MalloryNewcombКүн бұрын
9:55 also did she go to the hospital when she had a 104 fever?!
@TheEllaTBКүн бұрын
The irony is instead of protection we got abuse! Hurt by the ones who were supposed to protect us and then blamed for it! Agghhhh!!!
@jilllingenfelter4682Күн бұрын
If I would have known from day 1 who my ex husband and His family really really were and what they were all about 100% No way would I have spent time with them at all!! And I definitely wouldn’t have walked into the Christian Club in High School at all. And I definitely wouldn’t have joined it at all. And God would have been able to save me completely 100% from a horrible horrible toxic relationship/marriage completely:) And I could have stayed 100% completely Single that would have been a major gift miracle from God:) And I wish that I would have went. and eaten lunch somewhere away from the high school campus grounds. And I could have studied. And I Would have been able to make the honor roll list after high school unfortunately I didn’t end making the honor roll list when I graduated. And I have major major regrets about that to this day 23 years later!! And I’m super thankful to God that I’m indefinitely permanently Divorced from my first husband now. ex husband. 10 years now thank you Jesus :) And we won’t be Reconciling Ever ever ever!!!@Sheila Wray Gregorie
@MalloryNewcombКүн бұрын
Sheila, if you’re reading this: please bring Alyssa back! I would love to hear an update on her life and how she is doing now. I’d also love to hear why she said Bob Welch was a pervert, talk a bit more about Gothard and how did she find Jesus in the faithfully presented way she knows him now!
@Himmiefan2 күн бұрын
"Christian communities have enabled this." Yes!
@loricusenza48872 күн бұрын
Christian Nationalism is seeking to codify this into the state here in the US. Project 2025 has much about putting the patriarchy into the government. Dangerous.
@user-jt2uc5go7q2 күн бұрын
Talks about how men fake respect for women saying " they love respect women" 7:27
@amyfmc13 күн бұрын
It's a joke y'all. Relax
@andiovenden37653 күн бұрын
I loved your take on homeschooling! I’m a teacher in the public school system in Ontario and so my kids also attend public schools- and our experience has been great, but it’s just a different choice! For your toddler: I know two people whose toddlers used one of those plasma car things to get around when they broke a leg!
@bloomon403 күн бұрын
Where is Christ in this? If we read our Bibles daily it says over and over everywhere that we CAN’T be good enough and Jesus died for our sins. There’s NOTHING that any of us can do to earn heaven. The true GOSPEL is what is missing. We have ALL broken God’s 10 moral laws and we either recognize our predicament then accept the gift of salvation Jesus offers owe don’t. So trying to be good for any human is not relevant. Being thankful to God so wanting to know who HE is personally and how holy HE is will begin to transform us to be like HIM. The Church is supposed to be the people encouraging us to read and pray for ourself to know Christ personally! I pray for all to understand this true gospel not the false gospel that led to tragedy. Jesus did die so we will serve better Sheila. He died because we have all sinned and will die UNLESS we repent and put on Christ to have eternal life with Him.
@SheilaWrayGregoire2 күн бұрын
Your comment actually shows the problem. You seem to think that Christ only came to get us into heaven, like a "get out of hell free" card. But there's so much more to the gospel than that! Think about it: Jesus was declaring the gospel BEFORE he died. He told people "the kingdom of God is here" BEFORE he died. You have such a small view here! Jesus actually cares about us. He wants humanity to reflect the kingdom of God. That's what we pray for in the Lord's prayer--that His will be done ON EARTH as it is in heaven. If Jesus only came to get us into heaven, then this life has no meaning. But it does. And people matter to God. So do your part and be the hands and feet of Jesus, here and now! Because eternal life starts NOW, and we're part of the kingdom of God now.
@JovannaandFriends4 күн бұрын
She Who Will Not Be Named 😅😂
@samlee50164 күн бұрын
“Hath God not said…” saith the Serpent. Adding to the Words of God always results in damage. Thankful for coming out of the false teaching and being freedom to men and women!
@MsSmalone4 күн бұрын
Too funny about ripping girl nonsense out of your Bible. This is the same reason I don't go to women's conferences at my church very often.
@MalloryNewcombКүн бұрын
I thought that was kind of awesome. Rebecca’s got some spirit that’s for sure!
@emilypayne83944 күн бұрын
Odd that your FB page is going through exactly the same thing that NakedPastor's FB page went through just recently. Coincidence, or is someone targetting voices talking about healthy faith, deconstruction, etc etc?
@lisajohnson47444 күн бұрын
hmm... that's a good question. !!!
@ladymacanrothaich4 күн бұрын
Around 53 minutes in, really appreciated your balanced answer about how it's not just a choice between purity culture and hedonism. Ironically the way purity culture has been used to give power to men and to blame women is powered by obligation sex thus ends up being absolutely hedonistic. Using purity culture to control and use people is not treating sexuality as sacred.
@bloomon404 күн бұрын
It is her true name. Martha has been married to her high school sweetheart, Sanford Peace, since September 24th of 1966.
@pastorkoko5 күн бұрын
I think a lot of times the help requires other healthy women and men to be aware of the signs of someone being abused. From personal experience when you’re in the middle of it, or when you’re groomed your entire life into one way of thinking, you think the problem is you - not your husband. It would be helpful for people to know to pick up on things being said - like “my husband won’t let me __”. I would have never said he was abusing me because I didn’t even believe it myself.
@bethany.freefromcontrol4 күн бұрын
100% and victims often rationalize and justify their abuser's control and abuse. Like you said, they view themselves as the problem. Coercive control is very personalized and tailored to the victim so it's going to be difficult for outsiders to really understand what's happening.
@MatthewDowell5 күн бұрын
@21:54 lol I bet Rebecca thought that Sheila was going somewhere else. Some husbands sure do like that extra 10.
@renearosser14665 күн бұрын
There is a lot wrong with public schools but the answer isn’t misogynistic religious teachings
@lisajohnson47445 күн бұрын
As to how to navigate dating, I don’t know if you’ve heard of the Burned Haystack Dating Method, but you should check it out - she does some phenomenal analyses of communication patterns (that’s her PhD), which helps a lot in understanding who is or is not a good potential date, and she has a huge following, so she’s really resonating. It’s VERY good material.
@SheilaWrayGregoire5 күн бұрын
YES! I loved her TED talks and spent a whole evening following rabbit trails about her stuff a while ago.
@ashlieleavelle5 күн бұрын
You should do a debate with Lori Alexander " The Transformed Wife".
@lisajohnson47445 күн бұрын
“She who must not be named.”
@AGPerry-go3xk5 күн бұрын
Whatever people are saying in the comments about how you're endorsing sex before marriage is absolutely ridiculous 24:17. You're trying to have a nuanced view about engaged couples and how they should approach sex so that both parties enjoy it when they are married and that we shouldn't condemn them if they have sex beforehand. My husband and I did wait to get married before we had sex but we told each other after the fact that if we had had sex beforehand we knew that it would not have been wrong because we had already committed ourselves to each other spiritually and emotionally. I will say that it is wrong for people to have one night stands, go to prostitutes, or just have sex with their boyfriend or girlfriend when no serious promise of marriage has been made.
@jenniferphelps22305 күн бұрын
Painting, clay, coloring, educational kids shows
@tristazerbe81195 күн бұрын
Ok I know this is my purity culture indoctrination coming out but when you said just go to each other’s houses and hang out I nearly choked. Lol. If you are planning to wait for sex till marriage I guess it’s not impossible but definitely hard to wait if you are hanging out that much in private. Sure there might be other people there but my husband and I both had our own place so if we went to each other’s houses we were alone. Sorry like I said that’s the purity culture in me screaming 😂
@FireflowerDancer4 күн бұрын
There are some men I can be around and would sooner lick the bottom of my shoe than try any you know what . . . I get that it's different for when you're in a dating relationship with someone you're attracted to and not just friends, but couples need to decide for themselves what would be wise boundaries 😊
@tristazerbe81194 күн бұрын
@@FireflowerDancer oh certainly I agree! I wasn’t implying that every man is a temptation just as I don’t believe every woman’s body is a temptation. But certainly if you are in love and attracted to each other and you are trying to save yourselves, hanging out together alone is risky, it was for me at least.
@brighidmcmullen95773 күн бұрын
I get what you mean about the purity culture in you screaming. I have had so many talks with my mom about purity culture and the harm it inflicts and it took years to help her uproot the fear based teachings she was given that caused the purity culture scream. One thing to consider is that purity culture doesn’t prepare young girls especially in navigating relationships. Advice I received from purity culture advocates was to date for 3 months, get engaged, and rush to the alter in 9 months. Because that way there’s less time to “burn with lust.” This is very unrealistic for so many reasons but the biggest, most dangerous reason is that it allows so little time to get to know the person you are going to need to trust the most in the whole world. Especially if you follow the rules and are never alone with them it is impossible to actually get to know someone under those conditions. Abuse is so common and we should be arming against it by telling our young people what wholehearted, genuine consent looks like, what love-bombing is, what the abuse cycle looks like, what qualities should they be looking for in a romantic partner, what to do if they find themselves in a relationship with an abuser, not “don’t ever, ever have sex or God will be mad at you.” The fear tactics the church uses especially on young girls and the topic of sex is intense and it is hard to root out. But God does not give us a spirit of fear. Freedom from this fear is possible. So let purity culture scream out its death rattle as you heal from it.
@tristazerbe81193 күн бұрын
@@brighidmcmullen9577 I agree. My first marriage was like that. We were together about 4 years but always chaperoned. We were virgins when we married or at least I was, as soon as we were married and living alone he became a monster. There’s no way to know someone if you are always chaperoned.
@tristazerbe81195 күн бұрын
Oh we adore snarky Rebecca lol 😂
@rosaliebarton97245 күн бұрын
I live in Cyprus and I’m a dual citizen of both Canada and Scotland. I look forward to your videos very much every Thursday! Thank you so much. I have learned a lot and I continue to share it!
@annacaputo56425 күн бұрын
Hi, Sheila I want to get your opinion how you understand the “House hold Codes” that Paul writes about. I am referring to where Paul uses “Head” in his letters to refer to marriages. I have noticed that there are two views on how to understand the word and to be honest I am having a difficult time to understand it.
@Himmiefan2 күн бұрын
I'm sure Sheila can explain the egalitarian view of the word "head," and I totally agree with that view. A secular video, though, really helped me see the whole submission/headship in a healthier light than what conservative churches teach. First, everything must go back to a teaching of Christ, in my view, plus there is nothing about hierarchy and being the boss in the Ephesian verses. I watched this secular video and others to help heal my femininity since conservative Christianity teaches that it's subordinate, etc. This video explained that in general, femininity receives and supports, and in general, masculinity provides and that mentally healthy men in general like to do things to support their partner, in other words, their "leadership" is to provide and benefit, just like a husband's headship is to be like how Christ loves the church. So, under the umbrella of equality (submit to one another), wives receive and support while husbands lead by carrying out acts of service to benefit and support. Now, none of this should be used legalistically. This goes back to loving one another as Christ commands and touches on aspects of femininity and masculinity. Just my two cents.
@feliciaingram49925 күн бұрын
I purchased this book! I love it, as women, we need to see ourselves! Thank you for letting us know about this book!
@spikylittlemind80585 күн бұрын
You mentioned Saxon math. My brief foray into Saxon math was not positive, but I thought that was just me being stupid. What's wrong with Saxon math?
@SheilaWrayGregoire5 күн бұрын
We actually really really liked it and that's what Rebecca and Joanna use! Many people find it too rigid though.
@lisajohnson47445 күн бұрын
It was originally written with special needs students in mind, so it may be more regimented than what many of us look for. I really liked Singapore math, but it only goes through 6th grade.
@wardcircus6 күн бұрын
The part about women propping up unsafe churches/pastors should be a short clip to share because YES!!!!!!! (A little after 56:26)
@angelamc29236 күн бұрын
Christian homeschoolers should also seriously think about Charlotte Mason style homeschooling which is a rich liberal arts style of classical. The podcasts, The Literary Life Podcast and The Mason Jar talk about it. Ambleside Online is a free Charlotte Mason style curriculum online. And read John Holt and John Taylor Gatto, who were public and private school teachers. Sheila is right that homeschooling is for broadening your kids opportunities, and in my state my kids could take high school and college classes for free just like a public school student. And participate in sports.
@carolineyoung38515 күн бұрын
Which state?
@SunshineRox0075 күн бұрын
I have a friend who is using the Charlotte Mason method and I found it fascinating.
@SheilaWrayGregoire5 күн бұрын
We pretty much did the Charlotte Mason method!
@kangmule6 күн бұрын
This is as cunning as the serpent with eve. Mixing the Truth and changing a little to push an idea(smells like deception). What he's saying is Adam was entirely the problem, and no mother would say child bearing is just some "effort " "In the last days, They shall deceive the very elect!" Be vigilant ! If you don't read the bible, you're in trouble.
@jahbern6 күн бұрын
I have a 20yo daughter. I was sobbing while listening to you read the audiobook and all I could think was “this CANNOT happen to my girl. It cannot.” My husband and I have a loving, healthy relationship. But even so, we need to be explicit with our kids about what is unacceptable in relationships. I’m going to call her up in Michigan where she’s in college (ironically - she LEFT Florida for Michigan😂) and remind her AGAIN that she can always call me if anything in a relationship ever feels even a little weird. It is far too easy to go along to get along. I’m so glad you were able to escape and start the life you always deserved. You are a light in this world ❤
@melaniecave12566 күн бұрын
Excellent thesis topic Bethany. If anyone knows the truth about Mark Driscoll you know about coercive control. It is truly astounding how many people fall for his sick, narcissistic so-called leadership.
@bethany.freefromcontrol4 күн бұрын
For sure. And if someone tells us with confidence that they have all this wisdom from God, know the true blueprint to live biblically, plus the social proof of their entire congregation confirming this, it's going to be difficult think differently. If you dare mention that you see issues, it's going to cause blowback on you. We saw the way he treated people who dared to question him.
@craigandleaaho66817 күн бұрын
Tara Leigh Cobble. What's your opinion of her?
@SheilaWrayGregoire7 күн бұрын
I don't know who she is? Are you asking me?
@MayBlake_Channel7 күн бұрын
I'm the 100'th like! Whoo!
@AGPerry-go3xk7 күн бұрын
Yeah, saying that men's only options of response to conflict with their wives is either get physically violent or walk away is a false dichotomy.
@knowthymedicine7 күн бұрын
Disgusting. My heart holds space for the women still involved in this distorted view of our role in this world.
@ebonyharbut76417 күн бұрын
Oh man I just listened to this episode 🎯🎯🎯 and I tell ya, these "Christian" marriage books, were what I went to 6 years in, kept me imprisoned 15 more years before I would FINALLY find the right answers & info to what I was living... 🤯😡
@ruthc46207 күн бұрын
My mother tried to engineer a marriage between me and my youth pastor.
@amandamooij20908 күн бұрын
Oh wow, Shelia I would love to connect, my grandparents built McMichael gallery in Kleinburg and knew the group of 7. They were people of great faith I cannot wait until I see them again in heaven I am so taken aback and in awe of what you are doing for the gospel. Praise God for your ministry and vision.
@Ms.EJLewis8 күн бұрын
I’m a survivor of a 14 year long fundamentalist marriage. Thankfully the Lord led me out. ❤
@tinyshepherdess77109 күн бұрын
I have listened to this podcast reviewing 'Love and Respect' and a few others... but never have I been as horrified and triggered as I have been listening to this one! I am a deconstructed Baptist (ABCUSA) myself and know of women in my family who have read and live by this book. Ugh. Women are dehumanized - regarded as slaves. That a woman wrote it... is just sad. She has bought into the most oppressive system imaginable - one that is a recipe for repressed anger and nervous system chaos that will slowly kill women, not to mention rob them of their humanity. Why does no one question why women have to suffer every moment of every day as men engage in narcissism and sin whilst their adoring, dutiful, soft-voiced wives care for them domestically and sexually? This discussion further exposes the patriarchal ROT in evangelical churches today. What kind of god would sanction such a life of endless suffering for his female children? There is nothing holy or Christlike about it. Of course men want to further this male toxicity and use the bible as their rationale. The truly rotten ones have it made!
@SheilaWrayGregoire9 күн бұрын
It truly is horrifying. I had the same reaction as you. This is a whole different category--and yet mainstream SBC churches like Lake Pointe have it on their recommended resources list.