Nah I'm ASPD and have gotten better. 8 year journey. I take a lot of steps to not hurt the people who care and love about me, especially my wife. The love of my life. She has BPD and has been going on this journey with me to recover! What is that saying? Birds of a feather sort of flock together. Her and my kitten taught me what love was.. I'd never want to cheat on her, hurt her, lie to her, manipulate her, anything at all unless it benefits her. Call it selective empathy or very adept cognitive empathy when it comes to her. Same for my kitty. I'd never ever hurt that baby boy. He's just too cute. I used to be eviler, but not evil any more. And I have a LOT of time left until I die. All disorders are a spectrum, and gross generalizations are harmful. But hahaha the demonizing never gets old.

And before you freak.. some people I've told do. So I'll put it out there. Me and her aren't planning on creating children.. Not with our disorders. Neither of us want any child to have either of what we do. Even the slightest chance they come out with what we have is strong enough to sway us both from that. Me and her are both on birth control and take whatever steps necessary not to have children. But we DO still want kids..Definitely not bio..me and her knew each other since early childhood, dated for 3 years, married for 7 now. We saw a lot of our home life issues and trauma growing up. Maybe it was the trauma bond that brought us so close but there's still many other factors. Anyway. Maybe in like 5ish years from now and a hell of a lot more therapy, we'll foster kids to get a grip with them, maybe adopt foster kids if possible- use all the money the state gives us FOR those children. Therapy, school necessities, holidays for them, vacations, clothes, food. Comfort things. Toys. Etc.. and maybe we will also legally adopt. Think that's the game plan! Pretty soon we're looking to get a dog. Which I know will help with both of our empathy. The dog 😂 not the future kids. But yeah! Not all success stories are inherently lies or sugar coating. Crazy I know. Just mind blowing how people with disorders can still have moral codes, and cognitive empathy (different than emotional empathy), and a lot of self awareness huh 😂. Best of luck to you learning about disorders though! Hope you stop demonizing them.

One last thing. Psychoparh vs sociopaths. Psychopaths are born. Sociopaths are made. Not all ASPD are psychopaths, not all ASPD are sociopaths, some are just ASPD. In my case my mental health team unanimously agreed I'm a sociopath. Psychopath and sociopath aren't really medical recognized diagnoses anymore, but still are used by people and doctors or mental health people to pinpoint which "type" of ASPD better. Sociopaths have a lot better hopes at recovering since they, and me in this case, were once normal. Neurotypical. While we can't recover fully- as ASPD doesn't have a known cure- we can improve a lot more than psychopaths could. Poor psychopaths honestly. Had to clarify though.