My younger brother died suddenly 8172024, my heart is broken…I needed this. I have been strong for my parents but I cannot step into my younger brothers shoes…I don’t want to uproot my life and move …my parents have already asked for me to visit more and stay longer on visits , RIP Rashad V Wise

I myself am a Marriage and Family therapist, and I have an unusual form of grief, which is complicated grief. In the midst of a very difficult time in my life, I had strong support from a very good friend. She and her husband moved from the area over 4 years ago due to her retiring as a PhD children's therapist. I had no idea that I would have such an intense grieving process over the loss of her support. She is still very much alive which makes the situation unusual. Communication is by cards and letters a few times a year. This completely platonic relationship inspired a kind of caring in me which I call friendship love. The Greeks called this philia love with no eros component. I have experienced 4 1/2 years of this grieving process daily. I have those feelings mentioned of shortness of breath when feeling this grief (which comes anytime, unexpectedly), loss of appetite, and difficulty concentrating and have interrupted sleep. I have also lost 30 pounds without even trying. It didn't hurt me but it was unplanned. I contracted with my own therapist a couple years ago to 5:16 try to work through some of these issues which helps. As a man, I have never been prone to tears, but I have misty eyes and tearful reactions when I hear beautiful music or see anything that reminds me of loving relationships, including parental love. Most people I know have difficulty understanding my situation, trying to associate it with some sort of attraction which doesn't exist. At 70 years old, I never expected that I might be experiencing this kind of depth of pain. I have studied the grief process fairly intensely since this has happened. Fortunately, I have not experienced depression from this or had any other MH issue. I do have a good friend who I speak to about things like this. It is difficult to not feel understood by others who I have attempted to talk to about this on occasion. Grief groups don't work well for me since people are always talking about loss due to death. I am able to put aside these feelings and work and socialize. Distraction helps. Thank you for providing these videos which I clicked on accidentally. But I don't believe in accidents of fate. I have a faith which tells me that God is working through others in my life. So thank you again.

Lost my wife by suicide. 32 years old. We we’re going through difficult times and she has dealt with heavy depression, her whole life. Two weeks before she took her life she quit taking her antidepressants. The night of she started drinking heavily and fighting with me. This happened just two months ago. I I still don’t know how to deal with the reality of it. Nothing is going to make it better. All we can do now is just live our life best we can. I don’t think there is a worse feeling in the world.

Always sage advice and a direction in which to move next. Thanks Jo ❤

I lost my ex boyfriend to suicide last month. he was only 24. I have so many questions and feel so much guilt and anger. I will never blame him for this. I only hope that he’s better now. I miss him every day and I will love him forever.

I'm less than 3mon. So the hiding & raging

I lost my son, he was an alcoholic, he started drinking heavily in college. He tried to commit suicide by drinking heavily in a motel room. He had second thoughts & called grandma but by the time he was found he was resuscitated. He was on life support for a short time, he had brain damage. It's devastating, my son had so much going for him, he was only 33 years old.

MY OLDEST HU NG HIMSELF IN SEPT 2019, HE WAS AN ACTIVE ADDICT, WENT TO TREATMENT BUT NEVER WANTED TO STOP 'PARTYING"........THE WROST PART WAS HE LEFT TWO CHILDREN

I get the last three medals

I feel like a failure and just want to curl into a hole and never come out.

Then the other shoe dropped when 2 weeks ago my sweet little girl (4 legs) died at home.I was glad it was at home like my husband found both of them dead on the floor (my husband 2 years ago and don"t know why he died as well) so needless to say I am in a state Why Why Why. So back to sorrow and loss and extremely negative.

My poodle Benji passed away from sudden kidney failure at the age of 15 years...its a year ago but I still miss him so much😢

Hi am just sick of feeling lonley l had such good friends and a partner and my little dogs can not believe l would end up like this to me it's just a night mare l just want to wake upand it's not real just had a terabble dream can not stand thee empty ness of it all hellish and stil it goes on and on no answer answer

I honored my wife, who died in February of pancreatic cancer at age 80, with a diamond ring that she wanted, because fate had been cruel to her by taking her so young. Now it will go to one of our grandchildren when they are old enough.

My son ❤was 24 😢2/25/2024💔💔🙏

Thank you very much for helping me understand more about grief. I do need this today and now not feel so alone in the darkness of my mind.

Thank you. I have been listening to you and working on my grief for about a year. I feel supported and encouraged. Your approach is direct and easy to follow, but hard work at same time. I can manage all the feelings I have. Thank you.

I struggle to concentrate and I'm so tired all of the time. I have to make a lot of decisions in my job and decisions are incredibly hard at the moment. I definitely feel emotionally overwhelmed.

Soooo needed this.

Grief doesn't always mean death of a person. Relationships/divorce, loss of job/home. Before and after tornado/nature's destruction.

It wears on us, but thousands of thousands of years of grief of our ancestors and their losses. I've found through losses and grief, remembering our ancestors and most everyone around us, has experienced grief. But yes...grief is real, it affects us.

You so clearly define these questions that I struggle with constantly. It’s even a relief to hear this much. I’ll be waiting for your longer video. Thank you. With your help I’ve been able to make it through these past 10 months since losing my husband to cancer, and our son to sudden heart failure 2 years before.

I unfortunately would have to say all of the above

Like an internal wave getting higher and higher, until it explodes in the form of uncontrolled crying. It’s like a temporary release.

My mom❤

My ex-husband completed suicide two months ago. We had been divorced for about two years. He was an alcoholic; could be my best friend, then lacerate me with his words. We essentially had no contact after we sold our house and he left to travel the country with our special needs dog in an RV. I woke to a call from his sister that he hung himself, and if I couldn't take our dog, they would put Fluffy down. This was my one of fears realized. He had rehearsed suicide once while we were together, and I feared when we divorced that he was too unstable to leave Fluffy with him. Fluffy was on the complete opposite side of the country. I wanted to save her, but ultimately it became clear after speaking with police and vet, that her condition had declined significantly since I last saw her. I had to make the call to put her down. Two losses in one go...for the second time around. This grief is unlike any other I've experienced. The angst and shame and loneliness are intense. My current partner struggles to understand, because my ex could be really nasty to me. Even so, I still cared for him for a decade. I don't feel responsible for the fact that he chose to complete suicide. However, all the feelings with the divorce resurfaced. I have been struggling with a sense of not being enough, that there is something wrong with me that all of this played out the way it did. That I can't trust my choices. My capacity has been so low, and I seem to lose it really easily. It's hard for people to understand or hold space for me. The grace that people get with other types of losses hasn't come much for me, except from a few close friends. This is hard. It is really hard. And I've started to struggle with my own suicidal ideation. I don't plan to do anything, it's just really hard sometimes to handle all this, and feel like a burden to other people. Like my loss is dampening their world. One day at a time.

Would you be willing to do a video about losing an ex? My ex-husband completed suicide a couple months ago. He struggled with alcoholism, and we had been divorced for about two years. This grief has been really challenging and I've struggled with a lot of angst and shame. I don't want to alienate my current partner, but it seems like I may have. I have a few friends that care and a therapist that I can talk to, but overall it is hard to grieve openly given the layers of stigma. My capacity is really low, and it's difficult to know how to integrate this. Thanks for all you do!

My sweet baby girl brought me here. She was so smart, witty and beautiful. She had goals and direction. She was going to graduate high school at least one year early and was trying to finish even two years early. But she was never pushed to do it by me or her mother. It was her own drive. She was hard on herself. If she didn't get a 100% on a test shed say she failed. She was her toughest critic. My baby girl was 15 years, 9 months and 20 days old. I just miss my sweet baby girl so so much. I took for granted that she'd just be here my whole life, and I just feel so empty. Thank you so much for making this video for us. I don't know if it will actually help, but thank you for trying

Iv just lost my husband 2 months ago & im finding it hard to cope without him . I also have anxiety which has been bad . Please 🙏 for me . 💔

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❤. H.s. ❤.H.S. ❤. 20's ❤I was the 'finder' ❤. Late 20s ❤. ... ... Friends... And my girlfriends son... I guilt is empathy, I've come to realize... Wishing that I could have done more to help, is FINE..! holding my self responsible for unmanageable / uncontrollable situations & actions of others... In not... ❤

We buried my only brother 4 days ago. there are 3 of us girls and he was probably closer to me as he was exactly 1 year older than me. we grew up in an environment that was not kind to either of us. we both turned to drinking and drugs. I have 4 years clean and he tried and tried to to do the same. His demons wouldnt leave him alone and he fought so hard. my best friend, my protector, my everything. this world is a cruel nasty place. my pain for him is unbearable, I just want him home, he meant more to me than i could ever express. Thank you for your thoughtful video

Thank you for the validation of what I have been going through. I received a card from the funeral home on the first anniversary of my husband's death. We were married 39 years., he is gone 13 months. Yes, I'm a counter. They also had a "coping" sheet with it and it mentioned year 2 being more difficult than year one. This started by web search as I felt my grieving was delayed. Your video was especially helpful about the brain fog. I have been misplacing things and feared I might be developing Alzheimers as my mother had this dreaded disease. I also am a counselor and have worked in traumatic brain injury. I stepped away from evaluating people in the emergency room to doing this in a zero hour position, I could not do this with what I was going through. Thank you for your support.

I lost my wife on August 11th and I am having a horrible time with it, I feel like I don’t want to live anymore

Im so grateful to have found your chanel.

It is hard xxxx

Thankyou Jo ❤

I have been listening to you since my beloved husband died in February 2023.

Thank You So Much Jo.

I am honering the loss of my 5 people each indiviually with the memories they left me with. This can be time consuming and exhausting but I am determined never to to completely forget any of them.

What I find is that no one wants to talk about my husband, whom they all adored. I just want people to talk about him! He lived! And oh, how he loved me. Now I am alone, and people avoid me now as I am a reminder that someone they cared about and loved died.😢😢😢

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NO SUPPORT JUST BAD ADVICE

So sorry for your loss. That’s exactly why I’m not having mine done cause I’d have no one at home to help take care of me.!! I.e., one of the hazards of becoming divorced people don’t warn you about/!!!😢😢

Recognizing the loss” ,, yes- all of these family my members and family friends were major players I. My life at crucial parts!!!❤😂😂

It is so nice having someone ask about how my day is going And how did I sleep last night

I have sought out many online dating resources which are helping me fill my tremendous void of losing my mom brother dad and 3 friends!!!

This has been so difficult grieving 5 people at the same time😢

I talk to my husband all the time and I feel better when I do, but now having lost mt dog who I talked to as well ...I jus feel so sad and depressed ...it was sudden and she was older but I wasn't ready