Thanks, love the practicality of this advice. I talked to a higher up before getting ready to talk to her.

Some people are just not worth communicating with, you will lose your own mind. Best thing I can advise is to stay out their way, yes timing is key, try to use the kitchen when they are are there. Try to find out their schedule so you don’t bump into them as often. Stay silent, people know when they’ve done something wrong and your silence speaks volumes. I’m no longer compromising my mental health to talk to grown adults like they are little delicate petals. Save your energy and stay the fuck away

Hi I hope you can help me. My sister said to me that I'm a passive aggressive she said this months and months ago. And I don't get angry or anything like that but I do get it in a small sort of a way our mother passed away in 2021 and I took care of my mom for most of the duration because I lived with my mother at that time my sister had a bad relationship with us when she used to live downstairs because she couldn't get a boyfriend at the time. Now she is married and at the service for my mother she was crying her eyes out horribly because she used to treat my mother very bad because of her boyfriend relationships at the time meaning she's a grown woman but you know always hoping to get married. Anyway now when my mom was still alive she married a wonderful man and I don't know what to say she married a wonderful man now she has problems with him and I said oh yeah that's her but anyway like I said again when it came down to my mom's viewing and stuff like that she was just crying her eyes out she told me hey I feel so bad and this and that that's her issue hi I can sold her everything is cool we were like friends. But the fact is nowadays I am taking care of my mother's stuff she's not doing anything so every time she tells me something is going great for her I may shoot something down at her and I think I did it one too many times one night and she is a very vigorous person to where so on the defense. And she started calling me a passive aggressive I would be happy for her at one time and her husband but then I would find out little other things and it would piss me off. It would totally piss me off. So I would basically at that time blow up and speak my mind I never did that with her because I always walked on eggshells with her but this time I blowing it all out and then she calls me a passive aggressive she goes you're nothing but a passive aggressive b**** and all this other stuff you need help you're a passive aggressive no. I am not a passive aggressive maybe I have been to a certain little things that she threw out at me I'm not going to be happy for her spending my mom's money and they're going away on trips and stuff when I'm here trying keep the mortgage and everything up like that so of course maybe I was a passive aggressive but ever since she told me that and we had a big huge argument about it I have held in a lot of stuff telling her. After we made it up. And I will never do that to her again on purpose even though my feelings are so totally against what she's doing. To call me something like that is not good because I was sitting here with my mom I was paying for everything with my mother to make repairs to the home which her name was on that mortgage as well. Maybe that's why I was a little angry? But does that truly make me a passive aggressive? Cuz I don't think I am but then again I may think I could be I'm not sure but ever since that happened 5 months ago all I do is coddle her problems that she always has all the time well I'm sitting here trying to pay a mortgage I'm a chef and I work all day long thank God I have somebody here to take care of the rest of the stuff like my laundry and my yard work and stuff like that but I'm not the passive aggressive they're both on disability probably purposely and it's a joke it really is and but she called me that and she kept calling me that and calling me that and calling me that and actually I kind of took pride in it the next day I'm like yo does anybody know I'm a passive aggressive LOL hahaha but if I am it's only with her can you please help me try to answer that question thank you

Never. 👎

I don’t think this is good advice “ understand that your parents are human” yea so? So are we. A lot of parents don’t put any effort into changing and doing better even if their child or adult child is desperately trying to “fix” the relationship. I think that’s where a lot of the resentment comes from and why it’s hard to move on bc u see how u do so much to get closure and fix things and they just don’t care.

It has been chronic the whole 16 years of "friendship". I started backing away a couple years ago after she started trying to hang out with my closest friends. But now she has become best friends with my sister in law and even my sister in law's sister. sooo now she has pretty much woven herself into my life- maybe she could sense I was pulling away. idk what to do at this point

Don't waste yall time ....run leave pls

They also use lots of excuses not to do the right thing. They lie and have no character

Yelp sounds like my soon to be ex

My mom always had a favorite child, and I feel like she never put him a stop to his mental and violence abuse, I have tried to make her understand and she least excuses him saying that we are family and between siblings there are always fights… 🤦🏻‍♀️it is not fair my siblings and I have lived in fear and even now she tries for us to continue a relationship with that sibling, and me and my little brother are not going to but it bothers me that she tries to convince my middle brother to talk to my older brother knowing he bullied my middle brother his whole life !! She knows she can’t try with me and my little brother but she knows my middle brother is a bit more soft, this makes me really mad because I feel that she does protect us, she never did… 😕 now that I live with her I see it more, she lies, make up things, and continues her manipulation but now I’m older and I don’t put up with it… I am trying to let it go and just understand that she will never change, she is 80 and doesn’t have much time left… I just feel hurt by her actions and I wish she understands someday that we don’t want to deal with her son…

Happens to me all the time especially with my children.

Umm.. it doesn't work with people who see nothing wrong? I got push back on all of these (intuitively tried to do it, before I knew better). It all just gets twisted back. "Well I FEEL like telling you that, why are you so sensitive!?" You can't ask for sympathy when you were offered none, it's absurd.

Naaa😅 they are just mean

Even the practicing is stressful ;)

Repeatedly violated the boundaries then giving them a deadly end! 👉🚪🏠🎧👂

Thank for sharing

I cannot tell you how helpful this video is. I feel so heartbroken and I am quite frankly am surprised by it.... I am starting to realize this an old wound for me aka history repeating itself. I met this girl like a few months ago.... seemed like a cool chick. So I introduced her to my close friend here and there have been a lot of red flags since. I have since learned that this girl doesn't have any other female friends and doesn't get along with her sister. She's super okay with excluding me from their interactions and has gotten really close to my friend who is more extroverted and opens up really easily. I haven't been able to socialize with either of them for a month because of personal situations but in that time they have hung out together a lot and have gotten really close. She shows wayyy too much enthusiasm for the same things my friend is into and has been quite rude to me in a way that is subtle enough that no one can really see it but me. I'm angry at both of them and also sad that this is happening. I know the people around me are gonna gaslight me about it (unintentionally)....Thank you for this 🥰 really appreciate it

If it's a one time issue you automatically assume that it is chronic and you never really know how many times it occurred

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Real generosity (in this case generosity of spirit) always comes from strength. 😊

True

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I’m of the mindset that if someone continually does this, they’re not worth my time or effort, so I dismiss them. The gray rock method has helped me but others warn not to use this long-term.

My dad has given my sister a house and not to me because « I wasn’t there » and it was the only house he has . I work everyday and my sister is able to only work half the year save all her money etc I get sick about it

I ask my self this question day by day I’m 22 and to be honest I don’t know In which direction go 😢

My father was narcissistic and dogmatic (minister). My mother is a people pleaser, smooth everything over, do the right thing, say the right thing, always be pleasant type person. My childhood was v stressful due to my father’s narcissism and my mother’s avoidant personality. I resented my father’s lack of care for me but I actually liked the fact he was at least honest and direct about his feelings - even though the truth was he didn’t care for me much. With my mother, she is such a people pleaser, I get resentful and tired of the ‘always walking on eggshells with everything I say’ vibe she has. I wish she was more direct and honest and less Pollyanna-ish about everything. Everyone loves her due to her people pleasing, because she stays in her lane and never says anything challenging or controversial. She’s just so ‘nice’. Truth is she complains to me behind the scenes. Now I feel the niceness has been programmed into me. Both of them have been programmed into me. My father died. I still resent my mother’s people pleasing Pollyanna be pleasant and agreeable at all times approach to life. I have no idea what to do about my feelings. I don’t contact her all that much but she constantly contacts me and keeps wanting me to meet with relatives mainly to keep up appearances. I’m sick of the fakeness. I grew up with a facade of fake perfection. As in ‘we are just such good people compared to everyone else’. Real feelings were dismissed and swept under the rug.

Thank you

Thank you

This is bullshit. There is zero you can do when someone is undermining you. Chances are the manager sent them out to do just that - either way you won’t get support. And we all know HR is not your friend

I came here because my housemate killed a cat and has gone off the deep end. though i think this is helpful for annoying i wish there were more resources for how to deal with people with mental illness..if anyone has any links please comment

Had boyfriends like this. Never again. Especially the anger management issues.

I can't help other people, because i can't help myself.

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Thank you 🙏🏾

dealing with one that never stfu

Thank you so much. It actually makes me quite depressed when my kids who are now adults when I go to a Event with them and they say I’m too much. I’m not like drunk. High am I something doing anything inappropriate? I’m what you call high energy and an energy producer ,they try to simmer me down,now I know where it’s coming from. I really appreciate the confirmation I subscribed to your channel because of this video I want to thank you I have to keep on doing me I’m not being malicious wicket or inappropriate. I just have a high energy level and I’m bold in Energy Eric an outgoing thank you for the confirmation.

Its not only when youre expressing a problem or are feeling sad. Someone can also diminish or dismiss your feelings related to accomplishments/ realized goals... when youcshare with them how happy or proud you feel related to someting you worked very hard to achieve a goal and then achieved it.

Only those that subconsciously feel inferior, would try to invalidate you. Keep that in mind!

Nah they cannot handle a simple funny 1 minutes video either, just because he study, and then he said bye dude, wtf is this?

So we are three people staying together,,, almost after 2 days of staying completely fine there is 1 month where I feel they just team up against me.At, this point no communication helps me at all I am tired of their mean selfish behaviour and want to leave the room at any cost but watching this video with a hope if I can still fix things

Empathy is the worst advice because it drains you by taking on their feelings. I can show compassion and put it back on them

I don't know why this was in my algorithm but my advise stop being a victim.

can you calm down a bit, my head was spinning , didnt last one minute

This is happening to me everyday & I work in a school

Check out my previous video on anxiety at work here: kzfaq.infoLJc2KUP6QrA

My parent would cry or get angry. I always have to walk on egg shells when I say things.

I had a boss that talked about the same person a few times. Boss was interrupted by a phone call during a 1 on 1 meeting, I just thumbed through my paperwork like I wasn’t hearing a thing. I never mentioned it to anyone, until now. I lost a lot of respect for the boss

But you are bad mouthing bosses then... not a trait anybody should have

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