This is such an informative video! Can you share a link to the BCA template you walked through? I have found several but none that offers space for not only links as well as a place to list alternative options and urge rating. Many of my DBT clients find having a printed resource helpful rather than journaling and tracking that information on their own in "free form." Thank you!

What if some of those needs are not met for a long time??

Great video!

Exercise definitely decreases my binge eating or potential binge eating

Outstanding

Are don't hurt me responses tied to bpd exclusively?

So people on heart pacers have no heart rate variability _ this explains the personality changes in my loved one adter heart pacer inplant. Puts a person from ventral vagal into survival trauma brain. May u doctors today xperience personally what I have experienced _ I hope u live

Thank you, this has been very helpful for me

How is 'acceptance' not giving up? And I can't feel self compassion, or anything else, while in pain. You are saying to do two things at once, which are diametrically opposed. This does not make sense.

Can a favourite person be a child?

im an OT so this is all quite interesting to me, on top of my trauma background and anxious ambivalent attachment. i lean hard into ambivalence and hyper independence, whereas I felt that video highlighted more of the anxious root of things that is so difficult for me to relate to for some reason. its so easy for me to disconnect once i shut down. for whatever reason im still able to have healthy friendships, mentorships, great client rapport... its interesting to me that after my 10 years of on and off psychotherapy, i'm only just realizing some of these things. maybe someone else suspected an issue but never asked about it. anyway looking forward to checking more of these videos, potentially buying the book, and trying to incorporate some of the lessons when relevant in my OT practice.

jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez. how many things i didn't realize were related to this attachment issue i'm only just realizing i have. the only things that weren't relevant were the BPD specific things that sort of stuck out.

This is so insightful and put together in a way that can be applied to one's own relationships. It's an abstract concept at first but this was explained and broken down in a logical way that made it so much easier to understand. Thank you 🙏

Thank you so much for sharing the actual techniques, Jennifer 🙏🏼 I have found a lot of videos explaining the concepts and principles behind the HeartMath research, but not much about the actual practical application. They typically mention one can use their techniques, but they don’t actually describe them. Your video was super helpful in that regard. One thing I’m still not sure about is how do those monitoring apps and devices they sell help with actually getting into the state of coherence? I get that they indicate whether you’re in it or not (or to what degree), but do they actually help with reaching coherence?

These videos are wonderfully generous, Dr May. I deeply thank you, both as a therapist and as a human being.

Thank you so much

Having a mother tell you she loves you and as a child trusting that after the mother just tried to stab you to death is confusing. Living in constant fear and craving to be hugged and loved by the mother at the same time is the worst experience ever. After 45 years of life I am finally understanding this attachment style.

My wife had an aneurysm in her frontal lobe as a child had her first seizure at 22 been dealing with them since the last 10 years her EEG have been normal we live in the Memphis area. Is there doctors here to help us please help

This was pure gold. It also seemed to me to be a lot similar to covert/vulnerable narcissists’ behaviour.

I was born with autism, with a reduced affect display and a poor grasp of body language in general. I feel like I'd have to take acting classes to use this correctly/not creep people out, and just keep up a character all the time. That sounds lonelier than being alone.

Thank you. We'll explained.

ok that’s my life so what now

Excellent! Thank you!

Excellent. Thank you!

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I feel like my favourite person relationships are almost entirely in my imagination. This includes constant commentary to them throughout the day, imaginary conversations and scenarios where they 'rescue me'. I am very aware of what the person means to me which is why I avoid in person interactions as much as possible. Anyone else experience it like this? I have already tried to reduce intensity as much as possible so it seems I'll be focusing on letting go of the fantasy and getting a life lol. But thank you very much for the moving forward tips- this is the most helpful video I have seen on FP so far!

Awsome! Thanks!

Do you know where an LICSW could get proper training to treat people with PNES?

I don’t know how to work with Shame. Do you know much about avpd (avoidant pd) Apparently all pd’s are mostly development trauma based but there is not much help for avoidance and anxiety to the point of maladaptive .its quite different than just Social anxiety . DBT apparently works with shame , but my emotions are mostly surpressed. I also feel a severe freeze response so maybe somatic work? Thank you for being compassionate in your presentations.

she started all this shit and i wish i had never met her , its a horrible story of 2 broken people trying to get something from the other they dont have, its all just horrible she a BPD and all sorts of other stuff me CPTSD i begged her to block me and she wouldnt so i called her something thats true but she sure didnt like it to get her to block me 107 days NC and i am a mess i been crying for 18 months around this stuff. still crying.

thank you! I was looking for something like this but couldn't find the right vocabulary for it.

I’ve been having these for nearly 5 years and no one will help me because I’m not suffering from anxiety and depression, I’ve been called a lier by 2 drs and now I’m just passed around like a toy, I only seem to have them when laid down, the last few months I’ve been having them non stopped through the night that’s lasting 5-6 hours I’m absolutely exhausted and fatigued, I also have 2 heat conditions which it’s affecting giving me chest pains, terrifies me I just don’t know what else I can do to get help

Your example feels low-key projection (i.e., slut shaming).

I think you're a great lecturer and I like the straightforward and informative approach. I felt so seen and it almost made me uncomfortable despite being continents and screens away haha. Thank you for the resources and ideas at the end. Most of the time people don't give such guidance. I researched and made my own list, but this allowed me to see what I was missing and gave me some new resources and what to ask to focus on in therapy when I can try therapy again. Very helpful.

Dr May are you accepting new patients for sensorimotor?

I love watching your videos and introspecting. So useful and helpful! Thank you for this valuable resource

Very helpful! I will share this with my family so they can have a better understanding of what is going on with me. Thank you for doing the research and for sharing this presentation with providers. ❤

Will this acceptance help me to accept my diagnosis of Parkinson's disease? It's been 3 years now. I'm struggling to accept that I have Parkinson's disease now. What's your thoughts cuz I could sure use some help.

Thank you a lot for such useful content and great delivery 🙏

You know what's the worst that probably your first favorite person is your parent or someone from your family who you always wanted to get love from and you didn't and you were punished and you were not appreciated and then you kind of you know search for that person in other people and this is what happened to me with my avoidant. I literally was so much in love with him because he reminded me of how my mother and my stepfather both treated me and how I wanted to do everything for them to love me and that is why I was trying to make him love me and that was my priority and when I was actually let's say succeeded in that I was so happy that I realized that it's not really about the love I feel for him although I do love him but it's more about how I finally got that one thing that I never got from my stepfather and I got it from this guy who is literally mentally his copy

I wish My BPD person was like you

If a person or group treats you like an it and you insist on treating them like a thou, all you're doing is harming yourself for no reason. There's no moral high ground in sacrificing yourself for someone who hates you.

Thank you so much Dr May, this RO DBT playlist has been an absolute treasure trove for me. Through this I’ve learned so much about myself that I previously couldn’t pinpoint/articulate (ie being over controlled). I’m relieved that these skills exist to help me (and others) heal in such practical ways ! Much gratitude

Thank you Dr. May. it’s a struggle in France finding a therapist who knows DBT and your videos are a really helping me

Thank you so much

Very useful for women! Thank you 🙏

Great video 😊

awesome series... thank you!

That‘s so true…………

I’ve come to understand I was my ex best friends FP, she eventually severed the relationship herself - not me, and I never understood what I did (it started to go wrong when I got a boyfriend) even though I still was prioritising her. I’ve never had any closure so these videos are helping me come to terms with it after several years of being baffled.