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Wow! You're the therapist i would have needed, but couldn't find. What a wonderful way of dealing with wounded people. So rare 💛

Bravo! The honest, brave professional!

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Autism is a crutch of this generation of rubbish parents and unstable, ill-defined family structures and home life. All generations are bad parents in their own way. But this generation is the first to not take responsibility for their parenting on a massive scale: turning to autism and the mental health sciences to pass the buck and relieve them selves of their own psycholgocial guilt complexes (repress their guilt.) My parents generation were bad parents too. Parenting isnt an exact science. My father was distant and neglectful and my mother was alcoholic and bipolar. Loving one moment, abusive the next. But the difference was we didn't have this autism crutch in the mainstream consciousness then, and so the response to my own destructive and antisocial behaviour as a child acting out from the pressures of an unstable home life was never to be ignored or passed over to a healthcare worker. I wasn't diagnosed with anything. When I behaved terribly in school, she shouted at me and called me abusive names. She would scream "You horrible little shit!"..As bad as that was, the benefit was it at the very least identified me as the *culprit and architect* of my own choices (even if I wasn't the *source* of my own feelings, that wasn't the point, the point was no matter how I felt I still could choose my own actions in response.) I never once felt that my own bad behaviour was out of my control as a result. Yes I have been scarred and depressed by my abusive upbringing in many ways. But it's not a totality. I'm not defined by it. Bad as it was, at least I knew when I was failing to focus in class, getting terrible grades, swearing at teachers, shop lifting, or damaging property, it was because I was just "being a little shit." Not because I had a mental health disorder beyond my control. I'm not saying verbal abuse and physical beatings as I had are ideal. There are better ways to instill a sense of personal blame and responsibility in the child for their own actions or lack thereof. But today we don't correct behaviour. We blame it on an illness and the child grows into an identity-less adult and regular customer for the pharmaceutical industry. When a child acts out, we should blame them. When a child can't tie their shoes despite being 10+ years old, we should make them sit down and practice for hours until they can. This generation is the first generation to reject parenting altogether and expect children to just grow up without any problems. As if when things so go wrong it's somehow a sign of abnornality of illness. When things going wrong is part and parcel. We have the same view of marriage today too, when things go wrong we rush to separation and divorce because we have this lack of accountability in our heads where we believe a relationship that requires work is somehow abnormal. We go through life hedonistically, pleasure seeking all the time, and any time we don't get our pleasure we think change is needed. We dump our boyfriends, divorce our wives, and send our children to the psychiatrists office. Then, as Dr Mike says, head on down to the pub to tell everyone how the world is against us and none of it is our problem let alone fault. Despite difficult upbringing and challenges I am now a postgraduate with my own business and happily married. And when my kids come, no matter how bad it gets or how antisocial and destructive they act out, I will never consider for one second the possibly might have autism. I will take it fully upon myself to sit them down, talk to them, and teach them to behave for as long as it takes. And when they act out against me, I will punish them and establish authority. I'll make them tie their shoelaces a thousand times if they can't already. If they consitenly fail in exams or are caught cheating, I'll throw the TV in the bin and watch them as they read their textbooks every evening. I'll send them to a boy scouts or military summer camp or to a jiu jitsu school or on a tug boat to haul up anchors long before I ever send them to a shrink's office. But parents today have no time to invest in their families. To be there for the infinite hours of love and attention and discipline and sterness. They raise their kids like their pets, leaving them to their own devices in front of phones and televisions, then feeding them when necessary. Parents today consider their careers and individual lives their greatest investments and so devote most of their time to those. Mothers and wives have their careers and fathers want to work in other cities for months at a time because their families must work around their own dreams, and not the other way round. But family is the most important investment of all. An investment that will pay back far more in the long term.

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wonderful video with all the explanation to give one an idea to know more about play therapy, PTI -PTUK. Hope to meet both Jeff and Monika again... wish you both every success.