I have.

They are smart, they are too smart for their own good! That is what i have learned..

Jojo Leicester 😂

Agree

Spot On

God bless you, Rebecca for raising awareness and educating people about NPD. This message is truth. They always attach themselves to people who will make them "look good." My prayer, for these individuals, is that they will receive deliverance and healing in Jesus' mighty and undefeated name.🕊️

Rebecca Zung Wow! It is amazing to hear someone, whom I’ve never met, describe my daily experiences. I cannot believe these people exist and so under the radar for so long. I have been agonizing over how to explain to my good friend why I haven’t returned her calls for years. I truly just thought that she was better off without me and my chaos. I have just spent the past 3 years working through my narcissistic mother issues. It was unthinkable to me that my husband would turn out to be one too. Anyway I’m done being afraid. You are the Narc Whisperer. I will live by your words because I recognize the power within them. I’m almost 50 and my husband is 23 years my senior and an attorney. We have a 9 year old son who is such a sweet boy and will be looking for content on how to care for his emotional, spiritual well-being. The scariest threat is taking our child from my life. The one thing I have noticed is since he’s much older he’s no match for me ,energy wise. I have started to employ some of the boundaries, non emotional/reaction techniques. Omg the Chinese torture, drip drip drip😅 For sure! I agree and no more fear! Gray rock! Got it . God bless you🩷

I got an ally in one of the current neighbours.

My story is so crazy. My mother is working with an organized group to intentionally convert my retirement, infiltrate gov't operations, created an alias on my name and making them the beneficiary. When I found out, I was immediately arrested, thrown in a psych center and wire fraud was committed on my disability through the VA. Turns out my mothers group has been doing this to my family (dads side) for 2 generations and law enforcement wont lift a finger!

Thank you. I needed this message this morning. ✌🏼🧡

No Fear!

You are speaking to us who are waking up to having been abused maybe their whole lives

I was TRYING to walk away… and my All-Star Narc, circled back, broke in my home, disarmed me while I slept, and woke me up with a loaded Glock to my head. I was hostage in my home for 5 hours. I had to do unspeakable things, to SUPER-FEED his ego… and manipulate my way to SAFETY. I totally manipulated the manipulator, that had been MANIPULATING me. Well, me and God did. All PRAISES to the Most High. He is still being held without bond, under Aniah’s Law, and I’ve already brought back felony indictments from a grand jury. I have a 32 min recording, 26 hours prior to this gun to my head(that he fired into my pillow) , and shoved back on my head. Boundaries, and narcissistic injuries can quite literally get you killed. My narc mother was “in” on it. Ahhhhh… what a tangled web of new supply, they weave, when they practice to DECEIVE! I’m 51y/o, and THIS is the first time in my life that I’ve had to seek therapy. PTL, I got one that is a Believer.

Saying someone is a narcissist in a subjective way in court and throw that label around is fucked up. Having been through this it won’t work for the person being abused by the narc and the court. The motion should be an evaluation and a psychological diagnosis for the narc for NPD

❤❤❤Thank you!

Too bad so sad. Lol yesterday I texted my boss and rejected doing business with her she's expecting but I said it's not agreed upon to her expectations 😂 now I feel all hell will break from her again. Wish me luck 🙏❤

Hi. I have just noticed that my kids dad is narcissistic and started educate my self. All you said is happening now and the only thing he gets is my cold face and no reaction. My only issue is that he is still living in the same house so how do i make him leave as I can't afford to move out? Thanks.

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Once you start being a detective you have hope of finding proof. You may become obsessed over it. You are being sneaky in order to catch your spouse being sneaky. Since you know that your spouse would always deny. You feel you must have proof. But how much proof is enough, you could be trying for years with constant uncertainty. Even if your spouse fully confessed would that be enough? So if you caught your spouse red handed and / or they confessed and apologized and begged for forgiveness and a second chance after swearing it won’t happen again…… it does not mean they are truthful, does not mean they actually stopped. Broken trust is very destructive Repeated broken trust is devastating. It’s not a competition with the affair partner and you trying to win your spouse. Don’t make it one. You are the prize, don’t sell yourself short. What the affair partners have is 2 lying cheaters selfishly pretending love, in a make believe world. Do you want to spend your life being uncertain, looking for clues, looking over your shoulder, feeling insecure? Yes couples can work on saving their marriage But you should not be the only one doing so. After deep reflection you may realize that your spouse is remorseful and sincere and proves they are serious about re establishing trust. You may decide to stay. But if your spouse does not take you seriously or with deep respect, then you may decide otherwise. If your spouse goes to such great lengths to deceive you, that is not love. It is intentional harm.

Omg, the "So after all I've done for you, I can't even (insert whatever here), because I'm just a bad person. I guess all that doesn't count for anything". Lovebombing is not a credit towards treating me like crap later! Smh

I win!

When someone gives me an icky gut feeling, then I know that I'm dealing with a narcissist or other cluster B personality disordered individual. Covert narcissists also constantly give you hidden indirect criticism and insults. Basically it's like getting slowly poisoned. 🤢

4sure

Wow! Right at the end (right before she left), I found it weird that she asked me when I realized or what she did to lead me to say I was afraid of her. Only thing is that I never felt afraid and definitely never told her I was.

So true they hate anyone who is confident or secure in who they are because they always want compliant pleasers around them at all times

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My husband is goin through mid life crisis. He’s on verge of 35 and not where he thought he’d be. He has a crush on a much younger coworker too and I found out because he was looking her up and trying to be friends with her. It’s caused so much rift and I can’t take it. He tells me he was super cool could get any girl back then and now that he’s married and little overweight he’s longing for the old life

Yes indeed. The narc virtually lied seconds after having made a statement by projecting it on me after realising it had exposed her insecurities. It got me totally confused as i didn't know i was dealing with such an entity. Come on!

agree, doesn't even need to be at marriage stage

My whole family is a dysfunctional mess. I included. However i made the CHOICE to improve myself and try my best to take responsibility for my part. After 20 years of self improvement and little to zero contact with bio-fam i decided to reach out and visit. For 3 years i endured hell. Listened to the gossip. Started to get tangled ip in their drama. Attacks on other members. I found myself back to childhood nightmare. Lies. Etc pure hell. I felt used and dried up emotionally. My mom the center allowing cruel behaviors. Well, fastforward it ended up crushing all of my education and success and spinning me back to negative feelings and reacting. Then i had to.cut off completely because i was back down to their levels and they were not changed. I had changed. Grew up. Emotionally mature by working on myself over the years. So i had to send a nice card to say goodbye. No explanation but it was best for me to move on and cut off the old bio-fam. I had hoped being naive that all of them would have worked on themselves and changed and dropped all of the anger gossip and cruel behaviors. But I was wrong and I learned my lesson. Very very painful experience. Was back in 2018 when I decided to cut off completely and move on and it's one of the greatest decisions I ever made you can do this if you need to and you will have to get support work on yourself and act your age be mature and kind and loving towards yourself as well. If your mental health is impacted by Family you need to make a very serious decision.

AMEN

Not giving the narcissist 🥶 any sense of supply..✌️ Thank you Rebecca 💖💐

Good video. My marriage is over now. I just want to mention that not all women with narcissist husbands live in the USA. So, not all women can go to a shelter or call the police for help. A wife in a foreign country may not have the legal right to work in that country. She may also not qualify to attend college in that country. There are circumstances that keep women from employing strategies that might have worked "inside" the USA, but not "outside" the USA.

Thank you very much for awfully helpful tips 👍

whenever i tried to build a good rapport with my relatives, once my narc mum knew about this, she will 100% visit them and inject her 'venom'(smear campaign) into their brain. once my relative told me 'your mum visited us after a decade' after my mum knew i bought them presents... very soon my relation with my relative naturally went quiet after her visit, giving excuse like 'can't chat because of home renovation' narc is really venomous, she doesn't care any repercussions of her action.

Sounds very familiar

My ex bf was a narcissist and his ninety year old parents were also. His mom made so much trouble between us to keep her golden child. I told him on several occassions " Control Your Mother". She just backstabbed me more and made more trouble. One day he went on a rant (he does not drink, which is all the more worrysome, the level of dysregulation sober). I left and have ZERO contact. He taunted me " I won't chase you'. Next day I had an apology text. The next day an audio with more nonsense saying we had to talk. I believe his mom was to blame for his severe ED. No loss for me. I am at peace now. They picked fights with EVERYONE. So sick.

My wife is currently doing so much of this and my bpd makes me feel like im wrong so much. Never felt soo wrong about being right. Even seeking help on my end is wrong anymore

This is kind of awkward but I am with a narcissist and I have called her a cheating whore because she has cheated to my face every which way short of me being in the same room as her. I tell her nobody likes her because I keep my cool and eventually everyone figured her out and I ended up in favor and they seem the truth, I called her ugly because well she has a nice body but that face and she was calling me every name in the book while I was calmly asking for the truth and finally I slipped lost my cool and I told her that because she is very self conscious about her image, I have told her she was the biggest mistake I ever made because she made me almost lose my daughter and made me lose my jobs and turned my family against me and had me very down on myself for a while until I seen your videos they helped so much

On track

For sure

THESE 10 sentences are in fact a complete box of fantastic 😃 'first aid responder' tools. LOVE them! Thank you SO MUCH for this concise video❤

Amen

My narc knows exactly what she is doing and is stumped for a few seconds and her eyes turn black while she is calculating her next strategy for the game.

My soon to be ex-husband is narcissistic. I remember some years ago we was arguing about something I forgot because it was like normal at a point. He got so mad he said he hate me and called me a bi**** before he begin choking me! I went unconscious; I don’t know how long I was unconscious but when I woke up, he was over me doing something like a medical procedure... when he knew I was up, he quickly jumped up like trying to prevent me from seeing him. I said “oh my goodness I died...you choked me!” in a frantic of course. He had the audacity to say, that didn’t happened and to this day he will stick to the story...I did not know it was gaslighting at the time...My narcissistic soon to be ex husband is 16 years older than me so I was a very good target for him. Eventually I moved away but I just recently found out he was low key stalking me for 4 years! I refused to run and live in fear. However, I am super cautious! Dealing with narcissistic people is not a game! It is dangerous!

How are they not bad people? People that just randomly off their spouses, parents, kids etc. suffer from mental disorders too but are they not bad people? People who r@pe other people suffer from mental disorders too but are they not bad people? People that are PDF Files suffer from mental disorders too but are they not bad people? Having a mental disorder is not an excuse because they KNOW for a fact that they are doing wrong. Also how can a narcissist "know that your on to them" and also be unaware of their actions? Those are 2 conflicting statements

Also, when relationships do get into a non repairable state, there's no more competing on who was hurt the most. That too is counter productive , like agree to disagree , constantly. See! Triangulation.