11 ай бұрын
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@MelanieNguyen-n1i 5 күн бұрын
Can you tell me what the experience is like for adopting with grown or mostly grown children of your own
@TheWhites6 5 күн бұрын
For us it's been primarily positive. In some ways it's a similar adjustment as when you add another child to the family by birth. My older children had a more difficult time with foster children coming and going and some of the trauma behaviors that they had to live with.
@fatema7497 Ай бұрын
Is food coming up to throat one of the symptoms?
@TheWhites6 Ай бұрын
Yes it can be especially if any of the lower "flaps" or sphincters of the esophagus are damaged.
@tizrahisrael3003 Ай бұрын
Excellent video thank youvfor taking time out to do it.
@ehhhh5137 Ай бұрын
Keep in mind everyone, your state will be different, here in New Mexico it is way more relaxed there is a growing need for foster parents majorly!
@ehhhh5137 Ай бұрын
I don’t understand why CPS doesn’t take the children with lice to the lice clinic first to get them removed! Oh my goodness
@TheWhites6 Ай бұрын
My guess, is because most removals are done at odd hours of the day/ night.
@LoversFriends 2 ай бұрын
Definitely will try the chart of morning and bedtime routine . Thank you for the tips
@LoversFriends 2 ай бұрын
Hi, foster to adopt mother here ❤👋 Have you ever had a birth Familie member/parent follow you after you pickied up the child from the visit?
@TheWhites6 Ай бұрын
Thankfully no. but we did have a close call with an irrate father who cornered me in the building. After that we made arrangements for the children to be picked up by a social worker.
@matildecontreras9281 2 ай бұрын
Like, If you have a pool, what type of license do you have to pass? Thanks for sharing.
@TheWhites6 2 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching! There is no additional license to obtain if you have a pool. You just have meet the safety requirements for your state, which probably include, a Swimming Pool Safety Fence, possibly an alarm and keeping pool chemicals in a locked location.
@JSBowling2011 2 ай бұрын
@The Whites…Did you actually have a Heital Hernia?
@TheWhites6 2 ай бұрын
No. I've had multiple endoscopies and nuclear medicine scans..no hernias of any kind.
@JSBowling2011 2 ай бұрын
@@TheWhites6 ok. Well not sure your methods can work if someone has a heital hernia
@Mdshahin-ob2eg 3 ай бұрын
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@krystalbaker5858 3 ай бұрын
I do agree with everything that you're saying for fostering the foster children or child just saying that now
@kith4500 4 ай бұрын
How much did it cost you didn’t say in your clickbait
@TheWhites6 4 ай бұрын
Lol click bait?? 3:30 in and you'll get your answer.
@jupitereye4322 4 ай бұрын
Can you even choose who to accept? What if you can't handle the trauma if you are simply not able to navigate? I am a bit shocked you are given just some random situation...
@TheWhites6 4 ай бұрын
Yes you can always choose to say no given the information they tell you, if you feel like it's not a good situation for yourself, your family or the child. But, because these are often emergency situations the social workers are unaware of many of the details. Once a child is placed with you and you feel it's not a good fit You can do a " 10-day notice" where they will have to find alternative placement within 10 days.
@ashleyshayday1526 4 ай бұрын
I'm 36 years old and I've lived in Alabama all my life. My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and we do not have any children of our own. Now, I have been interested in learning about what options were available and more affordable in becoming a foster parent that would like to adopt a child in waiting. Now I know some families don't luck up as fast in finding a newborn baby, but their has been some foster parents for a child in waiting that was able to foster a child as young as 16 months old and then later adopted that child. I wonder if the foster care will be honest with us and tell us the reasons of why this child is in waiting. Does this child have any physical or learning disabilities. Or are they perfectly healthy and just in need of a safe and loving home. And when a child is in waiting, does that mean that the adoption is closed and there will be no conrinued contact of the biological parents with the foster parent who might asopt the child later on? Cause I know some adoption cases are open and the foster mother keeps in contact with the bio mother. But I do worry about how to provide a home for a child that meets all needs required. For one, my husband and I are planning to move into a 60 year old house once we finish restoring and repairing everything and remodeling. This small white house has a new tin roof on it. But we are going to have new floors put in and new windows and I'm going to have new kitchen cabinets put in. There is only a living room, dining room, the kitchen, I want to find a space in the house to have a walk in pantry built. And possibly one with a lock so I can keep cleaning supplies in a basket together away from children that cannot have any access to it. I'm not really sure what most foster do in order to protect their children from cleaning supplies in the house. There is only 2 bedrooms in this house. The master bedroom and then the 2nd bedroom is just next roo ot and it's a pretty large bedroom. I imagine 2 children could share the room either with a double bed or 2 twin beds if they are the same gender. But old houses didn't always have a closet. And this 2nd bedroom does not have a closet. I was going to have one made though. But I'm not sure how long and deep the closest should be if it's ok for 2 children to share closest space. You mentioned something about led in paint. Well, there is not telling I this house would pass that test or not. It's 60 years old. And so before I go and repaint both the inside and outside of the house? Who do I call to coke check the house to make sure there is no evidence of led. And if there is, how can I remove it. Now another issues for safety you spoke of if clean tap water that is safe to drink. Well, it's been issued that we the residence in our city is not suppose to drink the water in our tap. Not even bpiling the water will make it safe to drink. But I do use the water to shower and to wash dishes and clothes. So that is why I and my neighbors stock up on gallons of water plus bottles of water for drinking. We are always in supply of good water to drink. But not from the tap water. And I'd hate to think that something like led in paint or my tap water could keep me from becoming a foster parent. I cannot fix the problem with our water system. But I do stock up on clean drinking water. So will a social worker and foster care accept that? I mean all of my friends who are my neighbors who have kids of all ages do just fine but don't drink the tap water. Only frank water that they stock up. So if it works for them, and for us, can't we do the same? Now I've heard that you have better chances of getting picked to be a foster parentfor a child in waiting that you may choose to adopt 6 months later if 1 parent is a stay at home parent that watches over and takes care of the child at home while the other spouse works. I don't mind being a stay at home mother. But as the child gets older and in school, I might want to work part time or even do a stay at home job of some kind if possible. But I want to know what type of parents are most likely chosen. And what questions foes a social worker ask you about your past and how you were raised and yoir marriage? What specifically do they want to know? And I heard that the government will provide for the foster child's medical bills until they are 18 or sometimes even 21 years old. That they may provide an additional check that isn't much, but is some means to help provide for all of the childs needs for nutritional food, and clothes, shoes, school supplies etc. And I heard some foster children can go to college for free. Now I don't know if it's possible for them to do that I Alabama, but it would be great for the child if they did do that. I don't know if they pay for tuition and books and everything though. I'm also not sure if they wish for the foster parents ro write down every little thing they use that money to spend on in providing for your child's monthly needs. I know it's probably not going to be enough without investing more money into providing for the child, but I just want to have a better understanding of what financial and mecical support we can expect to help us provide for a child in waiting in hopes of adopting. And how long would we more in likely wait if we wanted a baby as young as possible or atleast 1 years old? So how would you suggest for me to fix up this 60 year old house we are restoring and transforming. Who should I call to inspect it to make sure it passes safety standards for a foster care or adoption agency.so that way while I'm at the beginning stages of stuff, I can do what is needed to fix this house in the way it needs to be to pass safety rules. And also, how can my husband and I prepare ourselves and our marriage for the major change that is parenthood in the future? And how can we best learn how to properly raise a foster child d and how to reward good behavior and give unpleasant consequences for bad behavior and do time outs, grounding or taking privileges away when they break the rules etc? Now one more safety concern I have is allowing a child to play outside the house. We have alot of land for them to run and play. But still, they could run towards the highway and there is no fence to stop them. Now, I will have a large portion of land that will be ours. Must I fence all over it? Cause that's ALOT of fence. Or is it possible to just have a certain portion of the yard fenced in so the kids can play maybe in the back yard instead? I just wantto make sure I understand all the rules. And we so not have a pool. But way off in the distance but in plain sight on somebody elses property, there is a pond. So is that an issue that will come up? I mean, it's not like I would ever have small kids outside not being watched by an adult. We would make sure they was in a safe area to play.
@chrisfix3546 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, so helpful God bless you and your family.
@spacesight6453 5 ай бұрын
Stress triggers mine The covid lockdown had giving me panic attacks
@TheWhites6 4 ай бұрын
Agreed, stress certainly is a factor 😞
@spacesight6453 5 ай бұрын
D limonene is good
@christinaconkle4987 6 ай бұрын
How about the adoption story for a child...what it is like for a child child?? How about the struggle...we are not cabbage patch kid dolls!
@TheWhites6 6 ай бұрын
Clearly you're not a regular subscriber to our channel. Viewing children as dolls is the last thing we think. Maybe watch through our Foster care playlist. My children are not the age to have a video on their perspective.
@McDermottFamily100 6 ай бұрын
Oil of oregano and caprylic acid are strong antifungals. Wonder if you had candida??
@TheWhites6 6 ай бұрын
Nope.
@user-er9sw9yp6y 6 ай бұрын
I’m in Rhode Island as well and my husband and I are beginning classes in a few months to be able to foster/adopt ❤
@SaucedoDGOm 7 ай бұрын
Hey Val! I miss your videos! I miss seeing you around! Hope everything is good. Also hope u guys have settled in your new home!
@TheWhites6 6 ай бұрын
Alma! I can't believe how long it's been! We are definitely settling in and still going through lots of changes but God has been so good!
@SaucedoDGOm 6 ай бұрын
@@TheWhites6 yes it has been a long while! Happy to hear back from you! Im glad to know you guys are settling in. Praying for you guys! 💜
@RaymationsYT 7 ай бұрын
Going tomorrow!
@TheWhites6 7 ай бұрын
Have fun!!
@emilyyoung9285 7 ай бұрын
Can they appeal the adoption if it’s open? The visits are retraumatizing her and idk what to do. I don’t want them to appeal it and keep having visits but I also don’t want her to see them the rest of her life
@TheWhites6 7 ай бұрын
By "open" do you mean the adoption has not been finalized and signed? Or it's been finalized but you have agreed to an "open" adoption meaning there is some amount visits, phone calls etc..? If it's finalized, the chance they could appeal the adoption is slim. If not, then, yes, if they are not in agreement with the terms you want ( no visits) then they could drag out the process. Ultimately, if you truly believe the visits are retraumatizing and will not get better, and you have some proof ( from a counselor or someone supervising the visit), I would go before the court to amend the adoption terms. I hope that made sense and helps!
@emilyyoung9285 7 ай бұрын
@@TheWhites6 It’s not finalized but I’m thinking while deciding to do open or closed that if I do closed and they appeal it she’d have to see them the whole time. I’m a therapist myself and I see firsthand that the visits are retruamatizing, and the woman who does visitation and her state case worker agree. If I allow visits after adoption can they still appeal the adoption for some other reason, or are they not able to appeal at that point?
@TheWhites6 7 ай бұрын
Yes, until it's finalized she will still be allowed visits and if you choose closed and the bio mom doesn't agree, she can drag the process out for quite a while, until it can be proven a closed adoption is best for the child. Once it's finalized, rarely will those terms be changed but she could always try. Often families will choose an open adoption but with very strict stipulations on very minimal visits, like one or two per year, supervised with the option to not allow the visit to happen if the parent doesn't meet certain criteria.
@emilyyoung9285 7 ай бұрын
@@TheWhites6 I don’t think you get my question 😅 You’re saying that they can appeal it if you choose closed adoption but if I chose open isn’t that still a risk anyways that they could also appeal the open adoption just to maintain control over the situation
@TheWhites6 7 ай бұрын
@@emilyyoung9285 yes they can always but it's very unlikely the terms of the adoption will change if you have abundant documented evidence of what terms are best for the child. That is the whole reason the adoption process takes so long, to give the state and courts enough time to collect documentation to prove what's best for the child and not have to go back to court after finalization.
@adrewfis925 7 ай бұрын
But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Yeshua ישוע (Jesus) and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. 11 For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.” 12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek, for the same Lord over all is rich to all who call upon Him. 13 For “whoever calls on the name of the YHVH יהוה (LORD) shall be saved.” Romans 10:1-13
@feliciagrant8548 8 ай бұрын
Thank you!!
@rodrigobalibalita12 8 ай бұрын
My wife and I used red apple delicious and Fuji apple to cure our acid reflux. It worked and the problem never came back.
@TheWhites6 8 ай бұрын
Great tip, apples seem to help me as well!
@user-er9sw9yp6y 9 ай бұрын
This is the first video of yours i’ve come across and I’m so excited because we live in Rhode Island and have just started the process for foster care/adoption ♥️
@TheWhites6 9 ай бұрын
So amazing! I hope our videos are helpful. If you haven't already, I recommend getting involved with Foster Forward, they have a lot of wonderful resources for both parents and children ❤️
@gailhickman743 10 ай бұрын
I dont know how they measure up clothes in this way, (I think its to do with height) but the numbers in the clothes represent centimetres. Just Google 'what size in centimetres for a 3yr old child's t shirt' or whatever you're looking for. Hope this helps 😃🇬🇧
@TheWhites6 10 ай бұрын
Thank you! That IS helpful 💕
@ILovecats564 10 ай бұрын
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@ILovecats564 10 ай бұрын
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@willenasbraidsandbeautie8517 11 ай бұрын
I truly thank god for your videos ,because I’m going through this now and this really help me mentally,love your family ❤❤
@TheWhites6 10 ай бұрын
❤️ I'm praying for you as you regain your strength. Rest in the Lord as much as you can!
@andreamerchant 11 ай бұрын
In California you do need a dresser as well but the county did offer to provide one.
@mrs_leanne_jones 11 ай бұрын
This is so awesome Val 🙌🏼🙏🏼 I love witnessing how God rewards when we are obedient to His plans. So exciting for you all ❤️🙏🏼😘
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Amen! Thank you
@live_the_lifeyoulove 11 ай бұрын
I’m so excited to come along this new chapter in life you’re embarking!
@mamajessiej 11 ай бұрын
You look great in that black top! This was so fun to come along
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
I'm dying that black "top" was my nightgown 🤣🤣🤣
@mrs_leanne_jones 11 ай бұрын
How satisfying! Love magic erasers Always love a motivational cleaning video ❤
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Same, Leanne 💕
@marie-dj9if 11 ай бұрын
Yayyyy I love how God works!!!!!! ❤
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
So creative and personal, right!? Thanks for being here 💕
@RockSimmer-gal4God 11 ай бұрын
I shut down feelings and I could tell you where doing it!!! Our house looks so different to any other house as we designed it!!! It’s awesome that the house you love is close to the school and church!!! It’s awesome that you could have enough land!!! I say and too many times so I know it’s just the way we speak!!! It’s awesome that your offer was accepted!!!
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Thank you 💕. Very excited for this next step! Thanks for always being here and supporting us 💝💝
@MamaKatsHome 11 ай бұрын
This is so encouraging to me. You know what we are praying for, and like you we aren't being picky. We just have certain things that will work for us. Like you we want to go smaller but we don't mind if we only find land. Thank you for sharing this.
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
All in God's perfect timing Kathy...your piece of land is ready for you ❤️
@MamaKatsHome 11 ай бұрын
@@TheWhites6 Amen!
@SimplyBethany 11 ай бұрын
Hey hey friend! So happy for you❤ so wonderful how gods timing is just perfect!
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Amen, thank you Bethany!
@spousewife 11 ай бұрын
Congrats Val‼️ 😊🎉
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much Kimberly 💕
@MrsAlmaTrumble 11 ай бұрын
Congratulations!! God provides on his time, not ours. I'm so happy for you, Pat, and boys. Our newest granddaughter, Letty was born last Tuesday. 7lbs 10oz 19 3/4 long. Alex is slowly getting use to her. Right now, Letty has jaundice and Alex is starting to crawl and talk, so they are keeping our son and daughter-in-law on the move. Asking y'all to please continue to pray for them. Thank you in advance.
@TheWhites6 11 ай бұрын
Thank you Alma...yes definitely praying for the beautiful little family 🙏💕
@MrsAlmaTrumble 11 ай бұрын
@TheWhites6 you're welcome, friend. Thank you, we appreciate all the prayers.
@MamaKatsHome Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for taking us along. I know that y'all will find the one God has for your family. It is just a lot to have to weed through all the bad ones to get there sometimes.
@TheWhites6 Жыл бұрын
Yup and sometimes we don't know what we want or need till we see it. Thanks for being here Kathy ☺️
@mycraftyhome Жыл бұрын
I’m praying with you for the right one to shine through! 🙏
@TheWhites6 Жыл бұрын
Thank you my friend ☺️