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@kyliestaraway2492
@kyliestaraway2492 6 сағат бұрын
No not TA What he should have done is ask and, offer to pay you
@n.priveee1
@n.priveee1 14 сағат бұрын
YES TF YOU ARE
@lynnhobbs9901
@lynnhobbs9901 21 сағат бұрын
Live your life... not your debt not your problem.
@user-ms2zq4gc8e
@user-ms2zq4gc8e 21 сағат бұрын
You should go
@Kate-bi9dh
@Kate-bi9dh 23 сағат бұрын
NTA. She can decide how to take it, whether that’s a self pity party, or as inspiration for her/excitement for you with all your hard work. If this was a wife it would be different, but that’s not the situation
@galpickney
@galpickney Күн бұрын
Why hold yourself back when you have the money, time and ability. It's not as if you are blaming her for her excessive debts, but it's her debt and her situation not yours. I hope you went and had the most excellent time!
@enchanted_treasure4636
@enchanted_treasure4636 Күн бұрын
Not the asshole. People holding peopke back no matter the reason, are always the asshole. Ive missed out on so much that ill never be able to do bc of past partners and my current partner who has changed a lot and now encourages me to do things even if he cant go or doesn't want to
@evafruh3375
@evafruh3375 Күн бұрын
No you are not the asshole absolutely not. I would have done the exact same thing. I don't give a shit who's there. That woman needs to understand that you are a mother and you have to breast feed your baby for a while and there is nothing she can do about it.
@anamariecameron7874
@anamariecameron7874 Күн бұрын
shame on these nasty so called dad who is a piece of shit
@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678
@valiantsfelinesmccarty6678 2 күн бұрын
Sis was not realistic about the situation. Would not have married that man. And definitely wouldn't have dated him so soon after the death of a wife. Divorce is bad enough but death no you got to let the family heal and sometimes it never works. They got a really love the new mom. For the guy really has got to love you and you cannot build any resentment on your end You've just got to let it flow off your back. I am the stepmom who has completely been denied My husband backs me and I've never done one thing I've always reached out It's been the ex and what she did and my husband has backed me because I've always been the one to bend over backwards and because of that my husband's with me not his kids.
@SectorS7VEN
@SectorS7VEN Күн бұрын
When i was 10 my mom started dating a guy 2yrs after my father passed, I had absolutely ZERO intention of getting to know the man because In my eyes he was taking advantage of her and he was never going to be or replace my father. So I understand how those kids feel, their mothers passing is an open wound that will never heal to 100% that young and shortly after. I don’t see how she thought that it would workout Later that year I lost my mom to a car accident. It was a Saturday and she dropped me off with my Grandparents because she was going to Work for some OT, but before she left I got a gut feeling like I’ve never experienced (even to this day) telling me to not let her go. She insisted on going and let me decide, I gave in so she left. A little while later we were notified by police of her accident where I learned she lied about work and met up with the guy she was dating. He was also killed in the crash. My grandparents (moms side) became my legal guardians and in 2016 when I was 16 I lost my grandma to a brain tumor. My grandpa started talking with a woman a couple years later, which me and my family weren’t ready for so he respected our feelings and cut ties. He hasn’t dated until this year, which we’re happy about because he let us heal and deserved it.
@mirandadolores8407
@mirandadolores8407 2 күн бұрын
Fuck no
@Liaandviolet
@Liaandviolet 2 күн бұрын
✨Part 2 pls✨
@Liaandviolet
@Liaandviolet 2 күн бұрын
NTA, you already told them before, she didn't respect you and you have every right to replace her
@Nightmarekitty75
@Nightmarekitty75 3 күн бұрын
Just make up an excuse to not go to the wedding. I mean if you tattoo one person you might be expected to tattoo more and the groom never consulted with you prior to that one text about getting a tattoo. Neither him or the bride. You’re under no obligation to give them tattoos and if they don’t like that then they need to be adults and realize that they might have to go to a tattoo parlor and get a tattoo there. Like what? They expect that you’d do it for free because that is what it is sounding like. Them or the very least the groom wanting to save some money and some tattoos cost a lot because of the ink and the size
@Cindy-gj7ge
@Cindy-gj7ge 3 күн бұрын
Absolutely not! What were you thinking allowing them to stay for a month?! That's not them helping out, that's them coming to visit and taking root. Who does she think she is to come into your house and give orders! You should have told your husband he better get her and handle it...and if he doesn't, you will. She needs sent back to her house to give orders there. Nip it now or you and your husband and children will be dealing with it the rest of your lives.
@evafruh3375
@evafruh3375 4 күн бұрын
No you're not the asshole. He just srung this on you out of the clear blue and didn't even ask you and just told you that you're gonna do it. So by saying no you are not the asshole.
@paulapridy6804
@paulapridy6804 4 күн бұрын
Some people 😑
@valoriemurray2688
@valoriemurray2688 4 күн бұрын
Just tell them you checked with the airline and can not fly with your equipment and if they say otherwise say this is you livelihood and you can not risk it being confiscated
@LappelduVide013
@LappelduVide013 6 күн бұрын
Gold? I'd call it burnt orange...? She must be a gymnast to be able to project and reach at that high of a level.
@Xloud7
@Xloud7 6 күн бұрын
Your partner a cat. he decided to marry you so he should be less Scared to make you feel comfortable
@Pure_Bliss420
@Pure_Bliss420 6 күн бұрын
Meh, my husband and i didnt really do vows lol. We read back the necessary part to eachother and signed the documents 🤣
@SW.Wallace
@SW.Wallace 6 күн бұрын
IMO I don’t see an issue, maybe he’s not good with wording. I use it a lot to get my point across without pissing family members off, granted I had a brain injury and have to learn a majority of things again, but still I personally don’t see an issue
@lloydchristmas829
@lloydchristmas829 6 күн бұрын
Some people are just bad at writing. They know what they wanna say but cant seem to put to a pen and paper. I see no issue with this.
@jop23ify
@jop23ify 6 күн бұрын
Oh dear God... Really, this is a problem?
@franceshaypenny8481
@franceshaypenny8481 6 күн бұрын
He wouldn't have said the words of he didn't mean them. He was obviously not confident and didn't want to ruin the ceremony. I give him extra credit for wanting to make it a perfect day.
@mercurialmelody
@mercurialmelody 6 күн бұрын
Yeah, I kinda don't see the big deal. After all the cake-smashing videos, this is actually very sweet.
@lissa._.
@lissa._. 6 күн бұрын
i mean if the person who chooses to spend their life with you can't even think up a few sweet sentences to say about you and your future together, and doesn't even bother to change their vows (off the internet) into their own words or even attempts to make it unique to their love story I don't think I'd feel very grateful. how hard is it to put effort into this one major piece of the wedding, literally the words your marriage is based on, your vows, something that millions of people have managed to do before you. she recognized it did not even sound like his usual way of speaking. how much time did he have to think of something and still managed to entirely copy some cute ai generated words? if thats what you'd be happy with thats fine but lets not give 'extra credit' for the absolute bare minimum effort. girly got married to a guy who skipped out on the most intimate and important part of the whole ceremony. no one thinks writing their own vows is easy, it is stressful, it takes time and effort it shows the level of commitment and thought you put into your partner. besides the fact that its usually the bride who takes care of most -if not all- of the wedding planning, men usually just have to get their suit, ring and vows in order. bare minimum.
@franceshaypenny8481
@franceshaypenny8481 6 күн бұрын
@@lissa._. Some men simply aren't adept at expressing themselves in an eloquent way. He can say 'I Love You', and give compliments, etc., but probably felt that wasn't good enough for a ceremony in front of family and friends. Men are different from women, emotionally especially, and that's not a bad thing. You don't want some sappy guy who is always emoting rather than thinking and analyzing. Marriage is a complimentary relationship, and I'm saying this as someone who's been married for 20+ years - do not get bent out shape about stuff like this. Let men be men and women be women, and forgive the small stuff. If nothing else, this is a funny story to tell the kids.
@lissa._.
@lissa._. 6 күн бұрын
@franceshaypenny8481 a lot of people aren't good at expressing themselves emotionally, thats not necessarily a female or male thing. what however is a male thing is getting away with doing the least and getting praised for it. and if genuinely expressing his love, dedication and devotion to her on their WEDDING is too much for his pea brain I don't think that's something that deserves bonus points or praise. how are men supposedly leaders, better at everything, so hard working, good at thinking and analyzing as you say, - and still not be able to comprehend the most basic stuff. and besides the fact that it's absolutely tacky to get your vows online, he did not put a single bit of effort into changing the outline of the vows to still make it special and their own in a way. you can keep making excuses for poor behavior but let's not pretend men can't do better because that is pretty insulting in this case.
@TR19
@TR19 7 күн бұрын
Smart dude
@miabewick8307
@miabewick8307 7 күн бұрын
You are not an as***l as you said no and they disrespect your boundaries i understand that i would be special for them to do that but as the bride you should have your say and your husband should of been support you or you could of made other plan like after the wedding or at the wedding part .
@gabrielladavidson2938
@gabrielladavidson2938 7 күн бұрын
I'd rather they be clunky and awkward and in your own words. I'm not marrying chatgpt
@Zorya8
@Zorya8 7 күн бұрын
Definitely a red flag that the fiancée is putting up with his friend's attitude. Also you should be able to not invite someone you're not comfortable with. Especially at your own wedding. Double red flag that he isn't supporting this decision and triple red flag for guilting you into accepting her at this important event.
@taleaferguson5590
@taleaferguson5590 7 күн бұрын
Don’t marry him when you least expected he could be cheating on you with his best friend think about it. He should see that this is an issue not you. There’s a TikTok where the woman was pregnant and going into labor and my husband left to take care his best friend, too many red flags that desperate
@saraashrafy9881
@saraashrafy9881 7 күн бұрын
breakup
@gamesclips380
@gamesclips380 7 күн бұрын
Naaah on a shared account is crazy
@FroppyThefrogy
@FroppyThefrogy 7 күн бұрын
I mean I would get mad and you have a right to get mad I mean those words are really important and you only really get to say them once to your partner
@Nightmarekitty75
@Nightmarekitty75 7 күн бұрын
Maybe there was so much he wanted to say but didn’t know how to say it all together? Or he wanted it to sound both sweet and formal and knew that if he said it like he normally would it might not sound like that since some people when they say one thing and mean another it doesn’t come across like that to others? Or maybe he lost his original vows and when the time came he froze not knowing what he said so he quickly used an AI?
@nuclear_stardust
@nuclear_stardust 7 күн бұрын
YTA. Girl, that ain't his gift for you. He could've forgitten to change it, or changed jobs by chance.. There's a lot of reasons. Do the ACTUAL right thing and give the money to his mom and girlfriend.
@KmariOwens
@KmariOwens 7 күн бұрын
Maybe he didn’t know what to say so he used Ai I use Ai to cheat my school work and I use Ai to write me essay’s
@lexi7749
@lexi7749 7 күн бұрын
I mean, yea it’s understandable. But vows should be heartfelt and personal, they should come from the heart and not copied
@sophie_arkenstone1484
@sophie_arkenstone1484 7 күн бұрын
@@lexi7749I agree. Even if they’re not the most poetic words, from the heart matters most.
@sophie_arkenstone1484
@sophie_arkenstone1484 7 күн бұрын
I’ve hear students use AI to do all of their schoolwork teachers use AI to grade it all. What a shocking waste of time!
@alishaparr577
@alishaparr577 7 күн бұрын
I mean he provided the themes, should count
@lorrainehayward3173
@lorrainehayward3173 8 күн бұрын
When you go to a wedding you should never try to outdo the bride unless you're a bitch amd yes you're a bitch
@silvermalwareai4047
@silvermalwareai4047 8 күн бұрын
Op is definitely the ah. How you gonna take that Montel you have no right to
@masquiroz
@masquiroz 8 күн бұрын
And????
@emiliagalambos1489
@emiliagalambos1489 9 күн бұрын
first : FUCKING LEAVE HIM second : just know someone who loves you for you and you only is the right one
@tugboat2
@tugboat2 9 күн бұрын
Maybe tone down the pranks….
@themoonlightspartan3206
@themoonlightspartan3206 9 күн бұрын
Yes You are. Simple as that
@myadivinemoore2948
@myadivinemoore2948 9 күн бұрын
Get rid of him you should be with someone that constantly compares you to someone else a person who actually loves you wouldn't do that type of shit
@nunyuh111
@nunyuh111 9 күн бұрын
I mean, most guys are friends with girls because he's waiting for a chance to be with her. You should tell him you're divorcing your husband and want to be with him (planned with Lauren) to see the truth.
@galpickney
@galpickney 9 күн бұрын
There will always be someone prettier than you, taller than you, sexier than you or more educated than you ( or more financially set than you). The trick in life is to own who you are; to find the things you adore/like/ appreciate about yourself and build those aspects of yourself up. Your sister's beauty is her beauty. It is not something gor you to feel bad about or something to make you feel small. Be happy for her as you would want her to be happy in your strong points. You may not want to hear this, but I have to say it: let that boyfriend go. Instead of celebrating your beauty. Inside and out, he hurriedly brought up your sister and showed everyone her social media accounts? This was uncalled for and it shows where his attention and heart is. Let him go, he has a crush on her and would leave you for her if he felt he had a chance. Don't be someone's second choice. Please leave him and never look back.
@hanayamamoto4239
@hanayamamoto4239 10 күн бұрын
No honey, the bride thinks her man wants you, so she has let all that insecurity take over and is nit picking every. thing. you. do. 1st place prizes are gold she, in her delulu, thought you wanted to be a trophy, to show her up. Now this is just me being petty but i say when/if you have a son, name him after your friend 😉
@reneehenderson4818
@reneehenderson4818 10 күн бұрын
Yes, you are the asshole.
@annmarie6060
@annmarie6060 10 күн бұрын
No! She's Not a friend if she takes this si personal! Plus, she should be focused on their marriage Not a Dress!
@user-tt6zq8mt2r
@user-tt6zq8mt2r 10 күн бұрын
Its a wedding if he cant chose you over her theres not a point of going through the wedding. Shes clearly been a problem for a while. Wouldve told him to cut ties with her.
@Duke00x
@Duke00x 10 күн бұрын
The best friend has boundary issues and likely also has a thing for him.