When i was 10 my mom started dating a guy 2yrs after my father passed, I had absolutely ZERO intention of getting to know the man because In my eyes he was taking advantage of her and he was never going to be or replace my father. So I understand how those kids feel, their mothers passing is an open wound that will never heal to 100% that young and shortly after. I don’t see how she thought that it would workout Later that year I lost my mom to a car accident. It was a Saturday and she dropped me off with my Grandparents because she was going to Work for some OT, but before she left I got a gut feeling like I’ve never experienced (even to this day) telling me to not let her go. She insisted on going and let me decide, I gave in so she left. A little while later we were notified by police of her accident where I learned she lied about work and met up with the guy she was dating. He was also killed in the crash. My grandparents (moms side) became my legal guardians and in 2016 when I was 16 I lost my grandma to a brain tumor. My grandpa started talking with a woman a couple years later, which me and my family weren’t ready for so he respected our feelings and cut ties. He hasn’t dated until this year, which we’re happy about because he let us heal and deserved it.

Yeah, I kinda don't see the big deal. After all the cake-smashing videos, this is actually very sweet.

i mean if the person who chooses to spend their life with you can't even think up a few sweet sentences to say about you and your future together, and doesn't even bother to change their vows (off the internet) into their own words or even attempts to make it unique to their love story I don't think I'd feel very grateful. how hard is it to put effort into this one major piece of the wedding, literally the words your marriage is based on, your vows, something that millions of people have managed to do before you. she recognized it did not even sound like his usual way of speaking. how much time did he have to think of something and still managed to entirely copy some cute ai generated words? if thats what you'd be happy with thats fine but lets not give 'extra credit' for the absolute bare minimum effort. girly got married to a guy who skipped out on the most intimate and important part of the whole ceremony. no one thinks writing their own vows is easy, it is stressful, it takes time and effort it shows the level of commitment and thought you put into your partner. besides the fact that its usually the bride who takes care of most -if not all- of the wedding planning, men usually just have to get their suit, ring and vows in order. bare minimum.

@@lissa._. Some men simply aren't adept at expressing themselves in an eloquent way. He can say 'I Love You', and give compliments, etc., but probably felt that wasn't good enough for a ceremony in front of family and friends. Men are different from women, emotionally especially, and that's not a bad thing. You don't want some sappy guy who is always emoting rather than thinking and analyzing. Marriage is a complimentary relationship, and I'm saying this as someone who's been married for 20+ years - do not get bent out shape about stuff like this. Let men be men and women be women, and forgive the small stuff. If nothing else, this is a funny story to tell the kids.

@franceshaypenny8481 a lot of people aren't good at expressing themselves emotionally, thats not necessarily a female or male thing. what however is a male thing is getting away with doing the least and getting praised for it. and if genuinely expressing his love, dedication and devotion to her on their WEDDING is too much for his pea brain I don't think that's something that deserves bonus points or praise. how are men supposedly leaders, better at everything, so hard working, good at thinking and analyzing as you say, - and still not be able to comprehend the most basic stuff. and besides the fact that it's absolutely tacky to get your vows online, he did not put a single bit of effort into changing the outline of the vows to still make it special and their own in a way. you can keep making excuses for poor behavior but let's not pretend men can't do better because that is pretty insulting in this case.

I mean, yea it’s understandable. But vows should be heartfelt and personal, they should come from the heart and not copied

@@lexi7749I agree. Even if they’re not the most poetic words, from the heart matters most.

I’ve hear students use AI to do all of their schoolwork teachers use AI to grade it all. What a shocking waste of time!

I mean he provided the themes, should count