I’m autistic and need to use the disability bathroom for many reasons, I used to just hold it til I came home for years but wen that’s not a option I need the disability bathroom I hope ppl will understand that not all disability’s are visible
@A-TypicalsАй бұрын
Now do one from the perspective of autistic people looking at the rest of the world and call it "Hidden Disabilities: Neurotypical"
@yuvisingh10095Ай бұрын
I love this. Keep this up.
@miguelitosАй бұрын
undiagnosed and ridiculed, teased, bullied even by teachers. Grandview seventh day Adventist school - the worst place to go to school as an Autistic person. I was literally beat with a strap 6x in a 5 day week. Had teaching staff literally critize me for my 'poorness', in front of peers. This was in the 80's mind you. Can only hope it has gotten better.
@1917WorkingClassАй бұрын
@University of Southampton Students' Union Why are you classifying autism as a disability? For, it clearly isn't. And you call yourselves a university?? Get serious.....
@graenicholls4657Ай бұрын
My last psych appointment ended with being informed I need to get assessed for Autism. I see the psych because the world is confusing and as a 50yr old life hasn't ever worked out. We've already worked out I am ADHD, so his wasn't expected (because I was ignorant of how autism manifests in our experiences). Since then, i've watched so many videos where people explain the experience of being autistic and I am absolutely dumbfounded. I am overwhelmed. I thought I was broken, rubbish and can't quite handle how this video (like others) explains my world. This process is intense, but knowing is golden. Thank god I have some wonderful people I am supported by. And thank all those who are willing to be so exposed in order to shine a light on this.
@joeeeee256Ай бұрын
I waited in Southampton Hospital A&E from 10:30pm until 10am after wacky blood pressure readings and palpitations (during dissertation hah). I think the Conservative candidate here is on another planet, they have done nothing but strip the NHS...why even pretend they are interested in public service? As for the Reform party, that's just no 😂 don't even go there...
@elizabethsorola22012 ай бұрын
6/17/2024 Hi I'm Elizabeth 48 years old and I love being alone because no One understands my feelings, People and family are to judgemental and I can't deal with injustice acts... I'm so grateful because being A spiritual person helps me struggle less...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Houston Texas 🙌
@aarone90002 ай бұрын
With a lack of peripheral vision My biggest @$%! Is "there's nothing wrong with you!" But then when I walk into a thing that is so obvious; "what the L; didn't you see that!?" I ask for no special treatment, other then to not be given credit for the level of ability I have worked so hard & long for!
@SigMaQuint2 ай бұрын
Considering a society suited for everyone, I think this is important insight. I know I have been around autism, probably so much that I have been taken for being undiagnosed. Knowing what can help is important, I think.
@DatDude042 ай бұрын
There already has been awareness for asd. The real question is can these people have autism acceptance?
@Krista-3883 ай бұрын
I hope to see more of these videos done through universities and other institutions. Glad I found this
@dt78433 ай бұрын
I just watched the video and I’m not autistic
@jeannettemolina53483 ай бұрын
I would like to know if people with autism have to take medication 💊 like antipsychotics, my son stopped taking his “cold turkey “ and now he is not doing well, PLEASE ANSWER big thanks
@michaelbyrne55073 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed at 51, four years ago. It helped me understand why I was different. I've had a difficult life.
@jamarissherman724 ай бұрын
I got anxiety 😥 disorder because it reminds me of Piglet from the movie Winnie the Pooh because we both always get nervous 😥 and anxious 😥 of certain people or a lot of things
@tomralfe54284 ай бұрын
This dude is awesome.
@EphemeralProductions4 ай бұрын
Hugs to everyone in the video! From one autistic to another. I can relate much much to you. It’s a tough and rough life as an autistic, no matter what anyone says. We all need support , at least from other autistics.
@MargaretGibson-tg8xc4 ай бұрын
how to be a part of the production of assistance for the mentally who have invisible handicaps handicapped 😊ww
@callanmacandie5 ай бұрын
I generally cannot believe this. It’s amazing to learn more about autism from this video ❤🙏🏻
@joankain61935 ай бұрын
It is so wrong this goes on-AND ---- Sermon on the MOUNT 😊(Autistic-Artistic) are those that might be the ones mentioned by Jesus -as in - "Blessed are the Peacemakers".... ETC ETC ETC *****
@bmxt9395 ай бұрын
Can relate to 1st guy 100%. Our cities are shitholes in terms of noises, movement, smells, lights and unnecessary verbal input. It's like being firehosed with bullshit 24/7. One day I will hapilly move to rural area and find my peace. And most people don't have boundaries, like at all. It makes it almost impossible to socialize. They either treat you like some weird bug or try to shape you into their norm.
@AutiSam19745 ай бұрын
Excellent video, well done to everyone involved for commissioning, creating and publishing this. As a late diagnosed autistic person I wish that this kind of insightful info had existed when I was at Uni in the 90s. I'm very glad young people can have access to it now, its great to see how understanding of neurodiversity is improving all the time.
@thefuturist88645 ай бұрын
I was diagnosed at age 40. I had very similar experiences to the guy on the bench. I have a very narrow range of interests, none of which are particularly financially viable, and society considers commerce to be exclusively viable in this way. The idea of giving someone money to help them be who they want is seen as ridiculous because that person isn’t doing anything for society. I have never had a reasonably paying job; the closest I came was working for Lloyd’s TSB in their collections department but I left after two months because we were being paid to bully and harass people and I’ve always believed both to be morally unjustifiable. I will likely never have my own house or flat because there is nothing about me that is seen as useful to society.
@nav65455 ай бұрын
Thank you for making this beautiful video.
@johnrainsman66505 ай бұрын
My sister's classmate said I was *_just_* a guy with disabilities (learning, ASD, and limited motor skills). He made me sound like a joke to still be living at home at 27, graduating from a small charter school--at TWENTY--and being a slow learner in general.
@ContemplativeLife-24-722 күн бұрын
You are special, and just need a little more time to develop your potential.😊
@johnrainsman665021 күн бұрын
@@ContemplativeLife-24-7 Thank you. My ex-boss doesn't respect me either, as far as I'm concerned. She was once upset I had signed up for a one-person shift, because she didn't think I could manage alone. She was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. Sure, I'm a slow learner and have messed up at work before, but the automatic assumption that I was heIpIess, while our newer workers were allowed to work alone, it made me feel like a Ioser. I left the job. But not before telling a coworker, "My biggest fear in life is turning 50, having never married. If I could cater wedding receptions here until retirement, I would, just to make up for my sad lonely life." My ex-boss is a banquet manager and I was making her feel like an unsuccessful spins ter.
@johnrainsman665021 күн бұрын
Thank you. And the guy did apoIogize--when his art project broke and I refused to let him borrow my glue. My sister and I passed him in town after I bought glue. He dropped his model, asked if he could use my glue ,and after my sister revealed who he was, I refused and he failed the project. He _begged_ and apoIogized for being so close-minded about me, but nope, I didnt give in.
@tomakafrankconlon32075 ай бұрын
Shy autistic people do not go on camera and make videos about how shy they are and hate attention.
@MyHumanSuit5 ай бұрын
Newly preliminarily diagnosed last year while I work on getting the official which is a process here in my state. My whole life makes sense and courageous stories like this have saved my life. 🩵
@akinmoluoluwaseun58605 ай бұрын
Thank you bro... My name is Olwaseun Akinmolu
@drcardinalli5 ай бұрын
That beautiful, extraordinary, courageous young man is my hero. He describes perfectly what so few people, through no fault of their own, can never understand.
@conscienceaginBlackadder6 ай бұрын
Autistic from the north and with an active metabolism and a strong sensory issue for shorts. I was in Southampton on Nov 24-5 and 9 Dec 2023, at each end of a cruise. Bright days with springlike weather in the pre-Christmas period with all the market running. Weather that never used to be possible Nov-Mar in Britain of my 70s-80s childhood, but Dec 9 had a nippy windiness too. There were loads of folks wearing shorts. Not just one in a day. Not a few one-off sensory issue outriders like is often how you would see me. No. There were many! Still a minority, but steady stream of them everywhere and all through the day. Like just as casually ordinary to do then as in summer. So that for Dec 9 I could even predict it from the earlier memory, and that prediction was right! A very nice shift in society, in a world with precious few of those, hekping the sensory issue to be asserted and get less resustance for firmal situations.
@johnrainsman66506 ай бұрын
Why don't we just leave it alone, a person's ASD? Who cares? They're fine the way they are. Let me guess. You guys don't agree. You think ASD is worthy of attention, concern, and "Oh, no, we gotta help this person."
@reviewchan98066 ай бұрын
Yes, we do.
@johnrainsman66506 ай бұрын
@@reviewchan9806That's prejudice
@reviewchan98066 ай бұрын
@@johnrainsman6650 good.
@audreydoyle52685 ай бұрын
It's worthy of compassion, just as every other facet of the human condition.
@johnrainsman66505 ай бұрын
@@audreydoyle5268Not true. We get singled out. We need the attention and concern because we don't count as _normal_ human beings. I can read between the lines. It's belittling and labeling
@ronniecorbett63066 ай бұрын
At work I am disliked because I won't take "On-Call", but On-Call is for 7 days and in those 7 days I will get no sleep out of fear of missing a phone call. I guess I'm a bit of an outcast. No one at work knows about my issues. Peace to you all.
@user-xe5yy1xy6x4 ай бұрын
I had so many jobs like that and it was awful. I needed routine. The stress made me sick. I would be constantly nervous of whether I would have to work or not and also would loose sleep over it. I would get brain fog and make mistakes at work because I was so tired and then after a mistake I would feel nervous of making more mistakes and getting fired. It was hell. I have a routine now and am much healthier. I bet there are autistic people who are on disability because after working terrible conditions they fell apart physically (think fibromyalgia, autoimmune, ibs etc). If they had had quiet, not too bright routine work places without being expected to make witty banter and joke around with colleagues they would have been able to keep working. A few accommodations would save the government a lot of money.
@LilChuunosuke6 ай бұрын
As a child, I experienced so much pain from chronic sensory overwhelm that my parents and doctor originally thought I had injured myself playing in the yard and was hiding the source of my pain. When they found no physical injuries, I was labeled an attention seeker. When I insisted that the world was just really painful and overwhelming, I was called a hypochondriac. I spent my entire childhood feeling like I failed at existing. Like I could do nothing right. As all the adults I looked up to assured me that if I tried hard enough, all these problems would magically disappear on their own. The idea that I may be autistic was never even an option because my doctors, parents, and teachers all believed girls could not have it. Discovering I was autistic in my early to mid 20s was a life changing discovery. Up until that point, I had blamed every meltdown, every shutdown, my sensory sensitivities, my poor emotional regulation, my insomnia, my chronic fatigue, my difficulty reading subtle social cues, my crippling anxiety around new social situations, my inability to form meaningful relationships (with non-disabled people), etc. on my own personal failures. Now, at least I know I have been mistreated by society. That hurts far less than thinking that my own family doesn't love me over factors I should be able to recognize and control.
@higherground3376 ай бұрын
The two people interviewed in this video look perfectly "fine" to me on the outside, and I look perfectly "fine" on the outside to the people I encounter every day. Yet I can relate to everything that was said here, and both my therapist and psychologist have told me that I'm likely autistic and encouraged me to seek an official diagnosis. I've never considered myself disabled but there are times when it seems to me that other people can handle certain tasks so much more easily than I can, like listening to someone in a noisy room without having to ask them to repeat themselves over and over again, or "winging it" when plans suddenly change. It takes me longer to learn to do certain tasks, and I often can't learn unless someone physically walks me through the steps. When I was a young adult I lost some jobs because I couldn't keep up. I've been diagnosed with anxiety but no one has any idea how anxious I feel on a daily basis because it doesn't show on my face. I was in "gifted" classes in school, and I did great academically. It's so hard for me to believe that I might be autistic; I keep asking myself things like, "doesn't everyone struggle with that?" But two separate mental health professionals think I have autism, and videos like this one featuring low-needs autistic people make me feel like seeking an official diagnosis wouldn't be a waste of time.
@UnionSouthampton6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing and we are glad you can relate to the video!
@AutiSam19745 ай бұрын
As someone who was diagnosed 4 years ago (at age 45) I would encourage you to seek an assessment. It can be a long and bumpy journey to get diagnosed and then come to terms with it and figure out who you really are but it can also be very rewarding and validating. Also self-diagnosis is totally valid. Good luck!
@higherground3375 ай бұрын
@@AutiSam1974 Thanks for your encouragement. The screening I did with the psychologist pretty much confirmed it for me. She was really confident. At the same time, she also ruled out ADHD and mood disorders. I've already gone through much of that journey you described, and I feel I'm better able to take care of myself now. Still, I do want to seek an official diagnosis as soon as I'm able to.
@chrismaxwell1624Ай бұрын
I was diagnosed at kid, I've never felt disabled either. It's hidden from others and hidden from me. I have support that I really didn't recognize. My parents, my grandmother, my wife and even my kids. I just didn't really see it as support but they do a ton for me.
@soylilly6 ай бұрын
This made me cry so hard. I've been trying to understand why I've always felt so different my whole life, and recently have been doing more and more research into autism. I'm trying to get a diagnosis but its so hard because there is a stigma that girls don't have it still, especially since I'm now 25, and most drs won't take me seriously. Thank you for sharing these stories; it's so comforting to know I'm not alone.
@UnionSouthampton6 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story! ♥
@Loveandpeace202444 ай бұрын
I feel you!!! I’m a 24 girl and I’ve just found it out as you. It’s been a nightmare my entire life and knowing this at this point is SOOOOO liberating. Trying to get the diagnosis but it’s not easy.
@radioVHS149Ай бұрын
@@UnionSouthamptonwhat outfits/clothes do you mostly prefer to wear as an autistic person?..
@ArtsyLila6 ай бұрын
Fibro disabled me in my 30s. I am in the USA. It is still very prejudicial here. Few doctors will treat it once diagnosed. But I was a nurse before and was able to slowly get myself healthier over time, with family help. Now, twenty years later, am in remission with no auto-immune markers showing. It can happen so don't lose hope. I am not back in college to finish my degree, at the age of 52. LOL. This time, it doesn't hurt. Though, the tech is new. Be kind to yourself. You may need to slow down.
@UnionSouthampton6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story!
@Truerealism7474 ай бұрын
Do you have hypomobility
@jamesdean08857 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing, especially the gent, as it really helped me appericate that even my small steps ARE strengthening.
@UnionSouthampton6 ай бұрын
That is so great to hear!
@ThroughTheLensOfAutism7 ай бұрын
For about a decade people have said I have autism, but no one will test me, apparently it is a childhood disability.
@UranusMcVitieFish-yd7oq6 ай бұрын
PIn the UK you should be able to go through the process of assessment and diagnosis simply by asking your GP.
@ThroughTheLensOfAutism6 ай бұрын
@@UranusMcVitieFish-yd7oq I live in the USA, and it’s not so easy here.
@audreydoyle52685 ай бұрын
Autistic children become autistic adults. We don't disappear
@recoveringsoul7553 ай бұрын
It might have more to do with maybe there aren't many resources available to help autistic adults. But of course, autistic children will all become autistic adults. We don't grow out of it The medical community may think why bother diagnosing an adult, because then what? If there isn't any treatment or insurance doesn't cover anything for adults, and the US medical system is profit driven...they have no incentive
@shoelacedonkey3 ай бұрын
@@UranusMcVitieFish-yd7oq Apparently it's not that easy in the UK either. The waiting lists are enormous and in some places can take months if not years to get an actual test & diagnosis.
@EliW957 ай бұрын
i don't like to frame autism as a disability per se, rather the *real* problem is the fact that we have monocultured society that try to coerce conformity rather than a polyculture that accommodates people just simply being different
@davezad6 ай бұрын
I think it's something Temple Grandin touched on in her quote. The idea of not just being different to them, but rather seen as having less worth. If you take a room of 10 people, 9 of them being average size and one who is significantly bigger and stronger than the others. He's also "different," and even if none of them like him, he's not getting picked on. That only happens when the recipient is seen as being lesser than the group somehow. Then all social morals are deemed inapplicable to them because the lesser person either deserves to be mistreated or is implicitly understood to be unable to defend themselves from it. It isn't only the neurodivergent who are bullied. Contrasted to my first example, smaller sized people are especially picked on because they are also seen as being of lesser worth. The true problem is a lack of social decency as often expressed by the dominant social group, simply because they fear no reciprocal bad behavior from their targets.
@EliW956 ай бұрын
@@davezad that's actually probably a better of putting it if i'm being honest
@davezad6 ай бұрын
Thank you! Although, I was not intending to improve on what you said. You are not incorrect. There are not enough advocates from the perspective of those outside the social majority. @@EliW95
@theamziss4 ай бұрын
I disagree, it's very much a disability and we require support regardless of how well the outside world caters to us. Comments like yours are part of a trend that is causing it to be harder for Autistic people to receive (medical) support and get on gouverment benefits. Right now there's a huge 'push' to get Autistic people in the workfield, while the vast majority are entirely unable to work (again, regardless of gow much a comlany caters to their needs.)
@jeremyfisher85124 ай бұрын
I disagree, the percentage of people with autism that cannot hold down a job even with a college degree is up to 85%. I would classify that as a disability because it makes it so much more difficult to support yourself. That and a lot of cases in autism it makes basic tasks like just eating a massive chore.
@ChristineCircelli7 ай бұрын
KZfaq. FreshStart
@Truerealism7477 ай бұрын
Comorbid with heds ni comment of the link
@bonwrentaylor27438 ай бұрын
As someone with autism, this is all totally relatable and a very welcome video to accurately raise awareness !
@lisamariep35328 ай бұрын
I am a newly disabled female, I guess. I was diagnosed with chronic vertigo coupled with vestibular chronic migraines in 2008 or nine. I do not look ill. Most of the time people just assume that I’m drunk or high on some thing. It is frustrating, disheartening and it’s very difficult sometimes for me to ask or want people to help me because everybody seems to think that just because I might look good today That I’m not really sick and I’m taking it, or that I can just get over it and push through it no problem which is probably part of my problem because I’ve tried to push through for so long and ignore it to. I can’t even work anymore. I would love to work. I have been told that I am not a viable candidate for any type of work outside or inside the home because of my disability because I fall. I think this is stupid I think if I work from home and I’m taking the risk in my own home, that I should be granted D, or actually afforded the opportunity to do I don’t know answer phones for somebody or something like some of these other remote jobs some people have. I think I would be good at it and it would probably help my self-esteem and my mental net awareness because sometimes I feel like I’m just getting bog down by fogginess because there’s really not a whole lot for me to do. I wish people understood that just because I don’t look sick doesn’t mean that I’m not and that if I actually extend myself and ask for help, please help me because it took a lot for me to do that because I’m a very proud person. Thank you for listening.
@Michala82Martin8 ай бұрын
Disabilities is an awful word for having inconvenient quirks that help us cope with the super processing system that is our brains. The brilliance we offer comes with a few harmless quirks.... Deal with it!!!
@Sw1rl_st4rz7 ай бұрын
I don't think crying for hours because I didnt like something is an inconvenient quirk :)
@Michala82Martin7 ай бұрын
@@Sw1rl_st4rz I meant inconvenient to others.
@audreydoyle52685 ай бұрын
I was born half blind. That makes me a disabled person. Because I cannot see through my left eye. I am also autistic. That makes me a disabled person also. Because it prevents me from social inclusion. We are a social species, we need community. And disability is NOT a dirty word.
@user-eo9qd8zx4w8 ай бұрын
Big thanks to Dr emuakhe on KZfaq from Africa for giving me a lasting solutions to my fibromyalgia case, you're truly an epitome of good treatment
@CuteCatsofIstanbul9 ай бұрын
I hate how I lay in bed in the mornings and hear the world start - how people wake up, some easier than others, but still wake up, get ready, eat breakfast, go out to school/work, drive, take a bus, socialise, talk, laugh, run or be lazy, all ready to do it again the next day ... and I am in bed in sooo much pain feeling exhausted no matter how many hours I slept or didn't sleep, and it's this moment of dark loneliness. But I'm sure many neighbours look at me, an adult living with her parents and think 'she's lazy, she loves to sleep, she is using her parents, she doesn't want to grow up, she smiles/laughs/walks so she must feel great' ... Please don't make assumptions about others. Let's just be kind to each other.