Whatever happened to respecting your parents and not rebell against the authority in their life?

I will call my 63 yr old partner “D” .Today D went to the bank outside atm to deposit a check. ATM was out of order so he went inside. Inside were other people saying that the inside ATMs were not working. Then one of the tellers said that all the bank computers were down but that they should be back on in a short time. So D decided to wait. I would have left at this point ! It was 90 degrees outside. So then yet another teller tells D to wait outside. D said he preferred to wait inside as it’s so hot. Teller says again that he needs to wait outside. So D yells “Okay I am leaving!” ! He comes home all flushed and flustered. Red faced and upset. Despite the fact that he and I have discussed numerous times how keeping calm is his superpower he had to overreact! I told him that I think it’s his ADHD that causes him to not be able to blurt out what he is thinking and that leaving without saying anything would have been less upsetting for HIM. I also told him he could have politely asked the teller who told him to leave what is her name and then come home and emailed the bank manager. He agrees that would have been better. Now! Now he sees the right way to react but when he gets triggered he overreacts! We watched a video together this morning about how we are not obligated to respond to disrespect and sometimes saying nothing and walking away is the best thing!! He cannot help overreacting and desperately needs medication. 😬If I am wrong about him having ADHD I will be very surprised. are tellers supposed to tell customers wait outside in 90 degrees for computers to come back online? Was the teller out of line? What would you have done? I would have just left as soon as the first teller said all bank computers were down!! 😮and I would NOT have yelled anything at a bank teller.

Help me, I am a grandmother parent of a ADHD and ODD. 5 year old child.

This is absolutely phenomenal

Very helpful video

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Please consider renaming title. It is misleading. This is not a toolbox for ADHD. It has no specific strategies for an ADHD patient to utilize.

My brother was diagnosed around 4yo and was put on Ritalin. My mom is not a fan of medicine so she took him off because she said he wasn’t acting right. She didn’t try to find the proper dosage for him or work through it. He was expelled from schools and was the wild child as a teen. He engaged in reckless behavior all the time. I was the quiet one who struggled. I felt stupid because I couldn’t remember anything I read in school, I was self-conscious about my looks, I engaged in less impulsive and crazy behavior but I did, I never had money because I always spent every dime I made, etc. I was a college dropout and had a baby right after I turned 21. I’ve struggled my entire life. I’m mad. All along I had combined type ADHD that was only diagnosed 5 months ago. My oldest child was so much like my older brother. I struggled parenting her because I didn’t know how. I didn’t know about ADHD in girls. I could have helped her but I never could because I was never diagnosed and neither was she. I could have had the tools to better my life and hers for so long. I think the only reason my marriage has lasted as long as it has is because I believe my husband also has it. It’s in his family and his dad also has it. It’s amazing neither of us have accidentally burned the house down by leaving candles and stoves on. Anyway. I’m mad. This diagnosis and learning about it has made me mad. Why was I ignored and left behind for so many years? Even red dye made me go crazy wild. I had all the signs. I never sit still; never have. I’m secretly intelligent but bad at school so I struggle. I hyper focused on school when I went back for a degree and scored a perfect score on my boards, but I struggled so much and still feel dumb because of the way I grew up and not knowing why I make careless mistakes. Either way, my mom never would have put me on meds as she took my brother off of them. Thank you for educating those who are diagnosed because more awareness needs to be in this area. So many struggle and I don’t want others to struggle like I did and so many others have.

No wonder kids develop these coping mechanisms! Maybe we should be looking at how bizarre this society is.. in the way we're conditioned to squash them and force all our stupid ideas onto them. Check out other alternatives to pharma drugs. Dan Seigel, Gabor Mate, and other trauma experts. Think about the education system how much actual useful knowledge was given us??

It's interesting to me that as a therapist you continue to use the word "crazy" to describe behavior you might find interesting or unusual. Unhelpful vocabulary

Swimming too! Exhaling slowly. Is it a coincidence that one of the best swimmers in the world has ADHD. (Michael Phelps) Probably not.

I saw just last week on the news, of a nursery who had an autistic child.They hired a young girl and placed her in that nursery.Without a more experienced person or supervisor,the child got out of control,as most autistic children get,..and no one came to help her,they fired her,then the police lock her up.Wicked world.Although I do not know her,I asked God's mercy for her.They should have locked up the Supervisor or Manager of that nursery & not that inexperienced person,giving her no help with an autistic child.athat pained me so much.

I had a great grandson with Autism.Plus a grandson.Most schools do not refer the Autistic child to a therapist,they were kicking my little great grandbaby out of school 7 years ago,almost arrested my grandaughter,while she had to work & trying to take away my great grand boy.You bet the system must have improved. Thanks to this Therapist & others who are helping these innocent children & saving the parents from going to a mental institution.

Great job.So many parents suffer without the real hel0 they need.

This is a real disorder. OOD. It is not a fake issue. Our families dealing with it and we’ve gotten various psychologist to help.

Teach about ADHD treatment techniques as young kids to have leverage for adolescence.

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The correlation between ADHD with fibromyalgia syndrome and migraines was jaw dropping for me. I suffer from them all and they are all related. Very reaffirming. Thank you, Doctor!

Another life-changing video. Dr. Barkley's work is the absolute best resource out there for folks with ADHD who are trying to understand their disorder, bar none. Clear, concise, and just the facts, ma'am.

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Why this program does not have more reviews

I was disabled by this for my whole life. My mom and family abandoned me and left me alone to live with it. I was abused because of it, diagnosed with the wrong illness and treated badly, even by doctors. Now at 64 I finally was given a prescription for Strattera-- I can actually focus now. I am a different person.

For those of us that don't eat animal products, cooked flax is the best source of omega-3s (and note that no animal source will provide ALA, which we still need for a healthy heart, so overall the best source of omega-3s is really flaxseed). As a bonus, large quantities of flax (as long as it's cooked in liquid to avoid cyanide poisoning) not only provide all the omega-3s we need, but also lots of fiber, while skipping the mercury that is common to most cold water fish. (Also, any oil supplement has a chance of being rancid by the time you get it, so you really should not supplement any oil, whether flax or fish, to get your omegas.) We eat homemade flax cookies/patties that are basically just ground flax and light coconut milk with a bit of salt, baked.

A person with ADHD would not make it through 5 mins Of this video.

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There's loads of points in the ADHD complications sections where he explains that the complications are due to ADHD peoples' impulsivity. I just feel like the science might not actually be seeing the picture as a whole. Maybe it's not just about their impulsivity and lack of understanding for consequences (seems very blame-y since it's not their fault). Maybe it's also the lack of inclusive understanding in society that causes ADHD people to have extra stress and responsibilities. They might just be taking on more to cope leading to stress, self neglect and, consequently, a lot of these complications.

Neurofeedback method othmer is the best thanks to Sue and Siegfried Othmer for their contribution being so effective and efficient

Has anyone accessed the free chapter from Stephen Porges' book? I can't see a link to it.

What if someone is on ADHD medication and wants to try the neurofeedback???

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36:28 ABSOLUTELY *NOT TRUE* that diabetes is forever!!!! This statement is false and scientifically untrue. If a person has diabetes type II, it can be REVERSED and I’ve witnessed it reversed in 9 people that I know of and my father witnessed his mother reverse diabetes. Diabetes type II is a lifestyle illness where you eat too much sugar (high fructose corn syrup[which is the absolutely Worst offender], GMO beet sugar [which is the other worst offender … besides it messing up your gut],cane sugar, sweet fruit, rice, white flour, and any other food that spikes your insulin) that spikes your insulin. The spike of insulin messes up so many of your internal systems including but not limited to mitochondrial dysfunction, which in turn causes other issues such as hormonal issues etc. You cause a domino effect of health issues from eating too much sugar and processed junk food-wannabe items. Then there are those whose genetics has a *propensity* for diabetes. Note that I said propensity because geneticists have proven that genes can be activated and deactivated!! That means some people are more prone to diabetes, such as myself, and others could eat as much sugar and be fine. 1. Know your family health history and genes 2. Avoid all sugars. I.e. Eat a Keto, Paleo, or GAPs diet … or carnivore diet and you will Never get diabetes!

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🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:01 🌟 *Introduction and Background* - Dr. Russell Barkley's introduction and background. - Clinical professor of psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University. - Extensive experience in ADHD research, publishing, and international lecturing. 03:16 🧠 *Broadening Awareness of ADHD* - ADHD not just a mental health or educational disorder but a public health disorder. - Overview of the adverse effects of ADHD on health and lifestyle. - Emphasis on the recent shift in understanding ADHD's impact on life expectancy. 06:02 🚑 *Health Risks Associated with ADHD* - Detailed exploration of various health risks related to ADHD. - Discussion on accidental injuries, traumatic brain injuries, and violent behavior. - Insights into risky sexual behavior, STDs, and the long-term impact on physical health. 12:32 💔 *Evidence of Increased Mortality* - Presentation of recent studies showing increased mortality in individuals with ADHD. - Reference to life course studies, Danish population studies, and global research. - Insight into factors contributing to early mortality, including accidents, suicide, and homicide. 18:41 📉 *Life Expectancy Calculations* - Explanation of the life expectancy calculator used in Dr. Barkley's study. - Calculation of life expectancy for individuals diagnosed with ADHD in childhood. - Impact on life expectancy when ADHD persists into adulthood, emphasizing untreated cases. 23:05 🤔 *Understanding Lifestyle Factors* - Identification of specific lifestyle factors contributing to reduced life expectancy in ADHD. - Focus on behavioral disinhibition, low conscientiousness, and impulsivity. - Linking these factors to a 30% variation in life expectancy, replicating findings from health psychology. 23:58 🩹 *Health Impact of ADHD* - ADHD is a significant predictor of life expectancy. - ADHD is worse than the leading causes of death combined (smoking, alcohol, lack of sleep, poor diet, lack of exercise). - ADHD predisposes individuals to various health risks, leading to a shorter life expectancy. 27:03 🚑 *Addressing ADHD in Healthcare* - Healthcare professionals often overlook the impact of ADHD on lifestyle factors. - ADHD symptoms, especially behavioral disinhibition, contribute to difficulties in regulating a healthy lifestyle. - Primary care providers need to consider ADHD when addressing issues like smoking cessation, diet, and exercise. 27:44 📋 *Steps for ADHD Treatment* - The first step in ADHD treatment is a comprehensive evaluation and diagnosis. - Evaluation should extend beyond traditional domains to include lifestyle variables like diet, sleep, and exercise. - Treatment involves a combination of interventions, including medication, cognitive-behavioral therapy, and evidence-based parent training. 29:38 🔄 *Lifestyle Focus in ADHD Treatment* - Awareness of lifestyle factors is crucial in ADHD treatment. - Broadening the lens to include health and wellness in evaluations is essential. - Lifestyle changes, including diet, exercise, and sleep improvement, should be pursued alongside ADHD-specific interventions. 31:00 🚸 *Importance of Continuing Treatment into Adolescence* - Treatment continuity into adolescence is crucial for long-term outcomes. - Most individuals disengage from treatment during adolescence, impacting adult outcomes. - Longitudinal studies emphasize the need for sustained intervention through the critical adolescent years. 34:58 🔄 *Early Intervention in ADHD* - Early intervention in preschool years is recommended for better outcomes. - Treating ADHD in early childhood reduces the risk of comorbid disorders. - Medication in early years may promote brain growth in critical areas. 36:51 🌈 *Embracing ADHD Management as a Lifestyle* - Managing ADHD is a lifelong commitment, similar to managing diabetes. - Sustained lifestyle changes and interventions are key to improving quality of life. - ADHD is highly treatable, offering hope for positive outcomes with appropriate and continuous interventions. Made with HARPA AI

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Positively fascinating! I was a stutterer as a kid, and while I didn’t feel that my parents helped as much as they should have with this - my dad would tell me to slow down my speech, just like Stephen described the lady giving a speech. Maybe stuttering issues are rooted in the vagus nerve?

I think there are some good conclusions but I also think some are quite faulty and incomplete; there is no substitute for first-person knowledge; the assumption is that one outgrows ADHD is incorrect - one just manages it better, also ignores the effect of poor memory and focuses on " apparent impulsive behaviour" as if it was just impulsive and deliberate and the main issue; people with ADHD are not low in conscientiousness - the problem is the brain is not functioning as well in a variety of areas - memory, emotional dysregulation and a number of other symptoms. And it is far more tricky to navigate if one is not diagnosed and has comorbid ASD (and has other medical conditions that amplify/unmask the ADHD). Diagnosis is the hard part, the main lifestyle factors are exercise, rest, sleep, diet and a supportive family. The ADHD symptoms are never going away - they just may be managed better - but just as with other incurable conditions, ADHD symptoms are not something to be blamed for. We did not get the choice (or often the diagnosis); we all try to navigate with what we know.

Outstanding

Interesting what he says near the end, in that ADHD treatment early on causes brain growth in the critical areas, yet he says it's a permanent thing like diabetes which needs lifetime treatment. Does this imply that if it's caught early that the medication can make enough changes to lessen the strength of the disorder in adulthood? And is that also true for adulthood over time, or is it only treating the young, developing brain that works?

Hitting a little close to home. I’m ASD, adhd and bp1

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Amazing content!!

Wow!!! What a bunch of bullshit. I don't think you know anything about ODD.

Quite terrified of the stats, i can’t lie! I have ADHD and i strongly suspect my mom has it as well but she refuses to get diagnosed. Treatment was, and still is, a gamechanger for me and i find it to be a massive shame that she will not even try to experience that, and i’m especially worried about repercussions on her lifespan

This was wonderful information. I am currently a CMHC student and wish the thankyou35 code still worked.

Why are stimulants prescribed if they increase the risk of Parkinsons/Alzheimers by over 8x ?

I disagree regarding being sedentary/not wanting to exercise/becoming obese through poor eating habits. I have combined ADHD and dislike fast foods and sweets. Ate a lot of sweets as a kid, and did have a lot of fillings, but as I've gotten older my eating habits have naturally changed. A balanced diet is important. I love hard exercise and regularly worked out in my teens and 20s. Since hitting 30 I've not done so much regular physical activity, but I'm conscious of it. Sometimes I think just because you're 2-3x more likely to do something (because you have ADHD) doesn't mean it's a life sentence or a certainty. We all have the power of choice, which I feel Dr. Barkley does not always appreciate. Some of his convictions on ADHD are very obstinate (if you have ADHD, you cannot to X, Y, Z, for example, as though you're incapable of it, which I find demeaning). A lot of people with ADHD already feel like defective humans, without you reinforcing that we are incapable of doing certain things. I don't identify with my ADHD diagnosis, and I'm determined to prove that I can function like anyone else in society. Stop treating people with ADHD like they're babies. It doesn't do anyone any good.

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I’ve learned it at 50 years old! My doc told me to read the book named ‘’Some eye glasses for the brain’’ from Dr Annick Vincent and it was all long talking about..me! Even if I graduate from university I’ve learned that I could be With this mental issue. I was laughed and judged by other but mostly by myself and it was terrible. I’m 60 now and it took me a year to accept it and I found many tricks in order to fonction in my real estate job so in my life. First I stop talking drug and alcohol at 33 with the help of AA movement.Physically it helps to work out and I did it so well since more than 30 years that I still have an athlete body and cardio. I meditate for more than 20 years and I took medication before doing clients or big days when I’m on rush. Doing small nap during my day helped a lot to boost my brain energy. I’ve start WHM (Wim Hof Method) 4 years ago and it has increased my immune system drastically. I wish I could have known this as a teenager so My Ego would have been less of a tyrant with me. But it’s NEVER too late to do better 😊.