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I brutally got humiliated in an argument which i could have won easily in 2015 .. i felt nothing day later and completely forgot but from 2023 February.. im constantly mad and angry and the painful memory keep repeating

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9:10 I suspect those different ways were the best friend and the rocking chair tests? Your video was valuable to stop me from insisting on apologizing. The other person is confusing. They've avoided me, then they've sought me out, all the while I've been feeling guilty and wanted to apologize to them. I don't know what they want from me, why they didn't want to see me before, why they want to see me now. They aren't talking to me. I've considered seeing a third party for something unrelated, and relay a quick apology to the affected person by the end in a uninstrusive way. I was not given permission, but the person now makes eye contact with me without speaking. I suspect this is the best way to relieve myself from this feeling, but I don't want to bother them either. I've felt guilty for 9 months over absolutely nothing. All I know is that an "I'm sorry is due", and not being on speaking terms over absolutely nothing is such a waste of time, I can't begin to describe it. I don't know what to do.. So I suspect those two tests were the ways to deal with guilt if permission indeed is not given?

Some of my Family members & colleauges are feeling with anxiety and making others feeling anxious.How to deal with them

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I feel guilty all the time. When I was a little girl, I often bullied my dear baby brother Seth. Since he was a late talker, I bit his little ear, pushed him down the stairs, pushed him off the rocking chair, and hurt him in so many other ways. Now, I'm almost 28 years old and he's 23 years old. We still live in the same home together. Whenever I apologize to him, he says, "That's okay. I love you very much." When I was 12 years old, I called my newborn baby brother Jeremiah evil. He's 15 years old now. Whenever I apologize to him for that, he says, "That's okay. I don't remember any of that. I will always love you." Whenever I remind him that the real evil person was me for saying that about him, he says, "No. You're not evil. If you love and believe in God and Jesus Christ, you're not evil. I love and believe in God and Jesus." I also feel extremely guilty about how I treated my music teacher when I was in elementary school. When I was in the 1st grade, I loved him. When I was in the 2nd grade, I started getting annoyed by him. When I was in the 3rd grade, I started hating him. When I was in the 4th grade, I accused him of doing things that he never did. When I was in the 3rd grade, he was teaching me and my class how to play Down By The Station on the recorder. I threw my recorder at him and yelled, "I HATE YOU!" I always write sincere apology letters to him, but he never writes back. He probably hates me now. Also, when I was 10 to 11 years old, I accused my loving parents, especially my loving father, of child abuse. Whenever I apologize to Daddy, he tells me to forget about it and that he will always love me. Whenever I apologize to Mommy, she tells me that I have already been forgiven a long time ago. Last year, when I was 26 years old, I felt extremely guilty about lying to my elementary school guidance counselor when I was 10 years old. I often told her that Daddy was hurting me, which was a big fat lie. So, at 26 years old, I decided to write her a letter, telling her the truth. When she got the letter, she called the police department. The police department then called my home while I was helping Mommy do laundry. When a handsome young policeman came to my house, he talked to me about the letter I mailed to my elementary school guidance counselor. He told me that she already knew that I lied to her at 10 years old. Every night, I just lie in bed thinking about what a horrible person I am for treating all these wonderful people so horribly. The only thing I want to do right now is go to my elementary school music teacher's house, apologize to him in person, and have him teach me how to play Down By The Station on the recorder. He retired in the mid 2010's. If he is still doing anything with music, that's great. Even if he's just lying in bed while listening to music, that's great, too. My elementary school music teacher was such a kind man. He was also very handsome. I saw recent pictures of him on his Facebook page. He has grandchildren now. He is still as handsome as as when he was my elementary school music teacher. I want this same guy to teach me how to play Down By The Station on the recorder.

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Can these adrenaline dumps last for months for half the day?

I find it stressful because people exist and breathe and make annoying noises. Who cares about anxiety I just can't handle there being people everywhere 24/7. Talking, breathing, whistling. If they were quiet it would be easier. It has nothing to do with anxiety. Why do all psychologist think being annoyed by sounds can only be anxiety. Why is there no help for people with adhd, who are stressed by sounds and people touching and bumping into you outside. I just want personal space not to cuddle with random strangers in public

I want a girlfriend but I just don’t feel like putting in the the effort to to get rejected over and over it’s bad enough females don’t give me eye contact when I walk past them I don’t trust a female that can’t give me eye contact maybe that’s sign cause most women don’t give me eye contact therefore most of them can’t be trusted oh well feminism

My main concern is not knowing where to look when a unknown person faces you while walking. Any recommendations 😢??

I feel guilty 15 hours a week.

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am girl when I entered in new school in 9th standard. Classmates and dthat school was somehow seems like to give attention to beautiful girls and only talk to them may be they are not mature enough. So I was not beautiful I was skinny and I had not have dressing sense and before that I have not realised that I am lacking something in me. So whey whispers in ears that I am not beautiful I am looking or I am walking bad there eyes and all says everything so there was a boy in my class who was not good looking so they add my name to him and even girls who are beautiful they are very much proud of themselves this all give me depression or anxiety and I show that I am happy and I don't feel bad what they say. But inner me was saying that where I am i awant to leave this place right now I was young and also want that attention because emot a single friend there so I always start to find bad company. And I failed in that class. And repeat that class sma ehappened in that class too boys whispers and said I am a boy because ei don't have figure and all and how bad I am looking. And that was my age where we all need male attention. So I start lying by making fake Facebook I'd that I have a good family and they are good looking talking to one or three of my classmates and theys tart talking to me in class for five ten minutes but that was enough for me they also got to know I am good at study but I am repeating the class. After conversation one become my friend and after sometime I fall in love with them and he also but he never considered me beautiful and never praised even I know deep down he loves or support beautiful but somehow he loves my conversation. So he is connected deeply. Because whenever hsi friends and all say bad about my face and body or they spread rumours he present there but never defend me I was feeling more sad. Whom I love I can't even tell truth about those fake I'd and how I am in depression my confidence was low. And there was no empathy in classmates. Whatever beutiful girls said they believe. And after some in my class 12th one person gotbto know that I am using those I'd because I talk a lot to two three people and he got to know and I was using picture of someone beautiful girl s sister or brother who was always feels me down and and that boy said to everyone how can she do it I was talking to her because ei thought that were her sister or brother who are beautiful I never talk to her he said to my bf that leave her she is a liar. After that I also scared I closed every account and that boy and my whole class against me he tell mor ethings he said I have bad intention towards texing them and all he said slut and all things make fun wherever he goes. I stayed away from my bf he was confused and also feeling betrayed I was not able to tell truth because I never want to hurt that he can't even trust girl and I don't want myself to look down in his eyes. And after sometime when he start researching he also got to know. He got some idea that I was lying. But I had promised that I have to tell something before this happens but I was unable to he went to delhi he falls in love with another girl when I watch that photo on Instagram I couldn't hold my tears from 4 years I isolated myself I tried to message him when he asked me I scared and tell more lie about my family so I stop texting and he also got to know ia lways make false story I regret. When I was in college I thought I should make new friends but those eclassmates of mine they tell evryone that she is a liar don't talk to her. Talk to her if you want to enjoy. I am feeling guilty since 4 years I am not doing significant in life even though I had big dreams

It is literally able to ruin a life, I know it has mine for over 30 years, I had a good spell for a while but nope im pretty bad again. Im an average to good looking perfectly normal guy, I know this and I know no one will look at me and think anything different but it just takes hold, then I panic more about managing that feeling and the anxiety than I do what I am actually doing whether it is walking, yep it can actually cause me to walk funny and almost forget how to, driving is some how better depending on where I am driving and why. Getting a bus alone ? No chance, going to a shopping centre/super market alone? No chance. Then I am angry because anybody I let know about this seems to mistake it for me being scared, I am not scared of anybody and am more thna capable of taking care of myself, it is not fear from people physically. For me this issue started way back in college and I have no idea why, I remember it clearly even though it 30 years ago now that for no reason I can see or remember or tell I started to take back roads on my way walking to college instead of the busy main roads but even that became almost impossible and so slowly I stopped going often and then was kicked out. I started to prefer it being dark outside than say mid day as for some reason in the dark I was able to walk with much much less anxiety. Gradually I lost all friends because any invites to places, any thing to do with going out etc etc as friends all do right, I found excuses not to. At one point and even still now even talking on the phone or answering it was a major issue. I probably spent the next 15 years from college quite secluded and "happy" in doors, i say happy but I never was. I am 49 now and sick of it and think I have spent over half my life with this controlling me, lets have half without it but it just is not that easy and it is just not working, nothing seems to. What is frustrating is I know everything I think is wrong, I know everything is not how I think it is and people just are not looking and caring or anything like I convince myself and I know it is all in my head but how can I know that and yet tell myself really that it is all how I think? It is so frustrating. I am convinced people look at me, people judge me, people speak about me all sorts, it actually caused aggression when I were younger which is still inside of me in a big way but I think with age and experience of handling it I am able to do that but when I think somebody is speaking about me or worse somebody I tell anything about this to does not take me seriously or laughs it off. Anyway I could go on and on because living like that certainly caused a lot of other issues with me but I will stop here, maybe saying all of this just lets others who can relate know they are not alone, I hope anyone with anything like this gets rid of it and I will continue to fight this myself as well. I wish you all of the best and anybody who gets rid of it totally makes me the happiest person ever because I understand what it does to you or done to you

This channel is the best , i was having such a hard time motivating change , soo lets start within

Thanks you for making this. It’s so easy to follow and understand. My husband was recently diagnosed

Thank you! This was very helpful!

Sometimes my mom panics too much and it pisses me off because I’m a very calm person 😂

Exposure will not work because socially anxious people have inner critic and toxic shame that is thwarting events and they put the brain into lookout what other people think about us. This CBT exposure ends up as people pleasing and fawning and Mate Crime - because inner critic nor toxic shame is not addressed as major self sabotaging element. Social anxiety is not phobia - it will not go away with exposure to feared object as phobia goes away. - / - I go out and I have a blast. I see people I know, watch show in a club, I talk. And it feels good, invigorated. And..next day I will feel anxious again about doing the same thing! You would think after so many times of positive reinforcement 🟥JamesCamacho - / - This happens because social anxiety is trauma issue. We did not catch social anxiety by walking randomly in the street and catching it like common cold. Social anxiety - comes from ACE and ACoA, exposure to long term criticism and nagging and complaining and punishments. Using our logical brain to handle unconscious brain by suppressing it and dissociating it and convincing ourselves that toxic people are not toxic - is really terrible idea. Because you do not mention toxic people and oppressive situations like lack of finances and mobbing, aka real life situations. CBT is focusing too much on unnecessary unimportant things like shopping and groceries and logic brain that we make ourselves into some kind of machine and zombie, that is conformist and depends on groupthink herd mentality neurotypical patriarchy "values" and ideology - as if holding door to someone will help us not feeling toxic shame. Social anxiety stems from fear of criticism and fear of negative judgements of other people upon us. So obvious solution is to allow other people to have bad thoughts about us. Allow other people to have judgements. Just allow it all - without us twisting ourselves into pretzel to change their opinions and conclusions. Real or imagined. Just allow them to be critical jerks who are judgmental. And then we lean on our Self - who we are and what we like to do in life, what is our job, what is our task at hand - as the primary focus. Not changing ourselves in order to avoid someone's bad thoughts about us. The central focus here is someone's beliefs that we cannot bare or endure to experience. Without us being aware of it at all, this goes unconsiously.

Thank you for giving a keen insight to residing in Canada while still being a US Citizen.

Thank you for this very informative presentation.

Say a little prayer🙏 God bless🙏

All my family members and loved ones have passed away. Naver got over my father passing when I was 19. Lived with my mother and sister for many many years. When my mother passed away I had an extremely hard time dealing with it. Then shortly after that, my sister who was the last family member I had left passed away from cancer. I lost everyone that I was close to. My fathe,r my mother, my sister, my dog, my favorite uncle and my grandmother. Living with my mother and my sister for so many years. All of a sudden, them not to be here was such a shock. On top of that I have tons and tons of regrets for either things that I did or didn't do, some going back years. I went to a grief support group but it didn't help at all. My family was everything to me and being without them is just devastating. The only way to describe it is that it just feels like torture without them. 😭

Best video on Gilt I've ever seen, however that's there's one thing situation that is missing. How to handle guild when a person has passed away, and you can't even have a conversation with them to apologize for something you have said or in any way you have acted.

Thank you for this video and for keeping it relatively short. It's very helpful to me as a partner to someone with untreated bipolar disorder.

Hey, I’m new to your channel. If you are still responding to the comments of this video, I just want to say you are a great explainer of how to deal with these things. I had a really bad panic attack Sunday, and I have generally tried most of the things you mentioned in the video. For the most part, I am feeling mostly calm. But I do feel nervous each morning. Probably the remaining feelings that come from the initial panic attack, but I am feeling more or so better. Hopefully you can respond back. Thanks.

Ive always just asked that they would A) ask if nows a good time for blank, and B) clarify if theyre ranting or wanting advise in some direct or indirect way.

I NEED HELP MANAGING MY FRUSTRATIONS AND ANGER PROBLEMS

Why does 09:42 sound auto-tuned with the words, "GRAND SCHEME OF LIFE?"

Hearing him talk triggered my panic attack. The fast talking really did something. Don't understand why but it did

Have you ever caught yourself feeling sorry for yourself over something not that serious? It is common human nature. People like to feel sorry for themselves. However, it is childish and shows an undisciplined mind. The difference between being a victim and being stronger for having lived through adversity is just a choice. I am shocked that a medical professional would promote theories as fact and purposefully use peoples victimhood to promote their business.

Why do you debate me on these topics yet erase my comments when they prove you wrong?

The concept of intergenerational trauma, also known as transgenerational trauma, first emerged in the context of studying the children of Holocaust survivors in the 1960s. Canadian psychiatrist Vivian M. Rakoff and her colleagues observed high rates of psychological distress among this group, leading them to theorize that the effects of trauma could be transmitted across generations. While there's no single group solely promoting intergenerational trauma, various mental health professionals, community organizations, and social justice advocates have contributed to its growing recognition. Ask yourself why social justice groups would be partnering with mental health professionals to promote theories as fact.

Woke theory! This is a new theory meant to create a victim mindset in people who would otherwise grow stronger through adversity. These ideas came from the same groups who would have us believe a man can beat woman in sports as long as they call themselves women. The idea that an ancestors trauma could be past down generations later makes no sense. It serves no evolutionary purpose. From an evolutionary standpoint, forgetting traumatic events can be beneficial for survival. Here's why: Focus on the present: Dwelling on past dangers can distract from immediate threats and hinder the ability to make sound decisions in the present moment. Emotional well-being: Traumatic memories are often associated with intense negative emotions. Evolutionarily, forgetting these memories can help conserve emotional energy and promote psychological well-being. Resource allocation: The brain requires significant resources to store and process memories. Forgetting trauma may free up resources for other important functions like learning and survival skills.

I feel it's important to mention that guilt can alsi stem from lack of action. I have suspicions my sister might be being assaulted, but i have no proof, and everyone to whom I've brought it up tells me it's just my trust issues. But she looks so horrible and it's eating me alive to not be able to help her.

I fly a lot for work, and I dread having to go through the airport, my anxiety going through the airport is crippling, i often just have to go into the bathroom and just sit there and calm down. Its terrible.

I just had a panic attack my arms were tingling and u was sweating I thought I was dying and deep breathing definitely worked.

they can accept the apology but not the things you did. It will still go back to the feeling of guilt....it's not that easy that is why Spiritual strength comes in and with the people to help you grow spirituality as well. And what if they don't accept your apology?

I grew up in a religion where I was taught that my guilt needed to stay until I told my bishop and talked to God about it. I’m no longer part of that religion, but I had that drilled into me so much that I have no idea how to handle guilt and how to let it go without telling someone. Often telling someone would only cause problems that wouldn’t be necessary. Either that person wasn’t involved or I feel like I’d be bringing up things both of us would rather move on from. It’s confusing.

Communism too

What if the guilt is because of real and huge mistakes. What if the judge says you are extremely guilty, there's no way out of it.

Some of us mental health sufferers feel like this about getting out of bed, or showering or brushing teeth. The struggle is real. So with your analysis with when exercise can be really be bad for our mental health, wouldn't this be true for any simple task that overwhelms us? #HardKnockLifeForUs

I can't shake the guilt I feel about losing a 16 year old dog that walked into the road. I can't find the "goal of my guilt".

I feel guilty because I lost a lot of things from my past life just because of other people advice . When I was going through that phase of life i was in extreme pain for some reason . I hurt myself and other people a lot .I dont have my own opinion over anything .I feel ashamed of it😢..This iss the same reason I lost the love of my life . Now I alone and guilty at same time .