First thing, never ever take advice from someone preaching on the Internet.

What? How can you not be compatible with yourself? Lol. I'm confucious.

So true! All you have to do to find something out from anybody is just let them talk!

Love this! Yes no fairytale. Agree people can be the one when we choose them and they choose us - build & grow together

I got over

Shouldn’t you put compatibility 3rd?

By being afraid of losing the other I’ve lost myself.

I don’t have feelings I only feel anger and love

Submission is not something you ask for. Your energy is what makes others submissive to you, if you dont have that energy. Go sit down somewhere.

"I have been one of those people at some point in my life..." So true

What interview is this from?

If he knows so much is he married?

You do not have to chase what God sends

No, *they* convinced me that they’re evil.

True

This is not how basic humans operate. The lack of self love and self awareness leads people into relationships marriages babies and they are not ready they never become ready because they chose a partner who exclude all forms of teaching but exists on abusive emotional patterns of behaviours. For example a friend was beaten so badly by his boyfriend he did leave after years of emotional abuse and when he does try and date he is choosing so badly every time. Therapy and staying single can help rebuild foundations for establishing healthy choices, in 2024 we need to be clear for who deserves what we have to offer. If we don't know every relationship will kill our soul until nothing is left and look at the children that have suffered because parents chose badly.

Working on being conscience available fully for mysel. When leaning either way holding a more centered space inward focus unwilling to be afriad and allow.

I just don’t like overly affectionate people.. its irritating .. like give me also my space. Not always have to touch my hand or face or hair or kiss or cuddle..I don’t like have my energy bubble always invaded.. y also need to let people breath and give them the chance to also come easily to you, because being overwhelming makes people want to distance from that..

So how often should we be having sex. Because I’m very sexually drive but I get scared to jump his bones. 😂

Cheaters are lying cowards, no exceptions

I can't allow someone to break my boundaries and my standards i got treated disrespectfully I removed myself fast and let that person walk on ice .

this is a great cut. understanding what the different pieces of the explanation could mean is the professional way to be open minded. stay up.💯

Sex with the same person isn’t sustainable for passion….so I think cheating is just an attempt to feel alive again because it’s in our genes to feel novelty AND love and security…we’re set up for failure

First off, love is more than enough. It's our willingness to increase in the capicity to love, is the real issue. Love covers. Love is above/trumps everything. Love is not the problem. It is our willingness to increase in our knowledge of llove. No, love can't pay the light bill, but you have to stay committed to being a provider of the thing, that does pay the light bill. Increasing in your capacity to love, puts you at the threshold of opportunities to grow in love. Each level of love, requires another level of increase. Most ppl walk away, blaming love. It's not love's faut. Love is complete on its own. The issue is in the person's capacity level. The centimeter requirements for birth is 10 centimeters. The woman has to be willing to labor in "love" to meet the requirement. Each centimeter is an opportunity for growth. The mother can not just walk away, and if you really love someone, you won't walk away. You will stay and grow in love.

That's crazy

It’s no need to be scared if u say want a love relationship or just be honest with ur emotions in what you are telling us but the min u want to manipulate it’s over no time for the friends w/ benefits if I don’t even know what his intentions are OMG. They want honestly I do too period 😢😐

I’d disagree, I’ve been single for a min only bc I have not found the right person that is for me without settling. I do believe even the good men play the games too smh and will manipulate just to get what they want and we all know it’s sex. A few certainly not all will take u out to a nice dinner etc and say everything nice u want them to say bc of our vulnerability and nurturing spirits as women. No as a good woman I don’t make excuses for them being hurt bc I’ve been hurt too and take full responsibility for any of my wrongs. I believe men should pursue and get to know the woman, if he knows she could be the one for him and not waste manipulate, lie and waste the other person’s time it’s totally unnecessary and wrong. If he is not willing to be intentional and set the right type of boundaries on day 1 then keep swiping to the ⬅️enough is enough of the games 4 real, if you’ve in ur 40’s & 50’s grow a set. No man is worth chasing after when he should pursue me OMG😂

100%!!! We are being hurt in relationships and we heal in relationships 💖

Attention < intention + initiation 💕

Once you cheat you ruin the other person

Hate that I'm even here.

So, what is the difference between pursuing and chasing?

My boyfriend not affectionate at all I can't be with him at all.

I needed all of this guy's advice in the 90's.

But when we women have broken heart and we would be affraid of relationship, they would call us bitter. But man who broke up women heart 100x and once he has his broken, then he cry like a baby about it.

Omg I love his fluffy beard

Yeah, but then they don't communicate that, and instead, act with aggression and perpetually blame you and their past so they don't have to confront ot conquer their fears, and it's everyone else's job to compensate and make excuses for their cowardice. Makes a woman feel really nice. Nice. : P

Why not leave the life? Try something new and different... Life is short!

I feel like both at different times.

A married co-worker, a man, told me men cheat because they are “bored.” ??????

This thread is hittn home and everyone is sayin due to being a child or parents etc and its sooo tru cux my mama is not affectionate at all and it plays a huge part she jst now telling me she loves me and im 33yrs old 😢😢 i wanna fix myself its sooo hard my mind does what i Cnt physically bring myself to do and it sucks

Why doesn't he advocate for men submitting to women?? the word is TRUST. conflating the two sounds wildly closeted misogynistic.

Watch The Story of Us, Michelle & Bruce. Cheating is maladjustment. The reason behind, 2 people don't match, 2 people match but do not have relational skills. First one, they should be honest, leave, before getting a new one, this is acceptable than half love. Second one, they should be honest, stay, should never get a new one, forgive each other coz no one is perfect, it's about maintenance, consistency, playfulness, humility, freedom.

This actually happened to me , I been with someone for 9 years

This is off topic. But Mathew has to do that hairstyle again 🤩

So true,I married a man I was so in lust with at 29,only to discover that he didn't love me the same way,21 years and 3 teenaged kids later,he chose to be gay and to divorce me

T R au listening

No more kindness for them, just more kindness to myself ❤🙏🏾

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Love you two. From Marseilles

Damn son