When someone called me "sweety" not once or twice I replied "It's actually *told my name*" - "Oh, common! That's normal" - "No, I have bad associations". But there was still "sweety" after that conversation. So I always made pauses at those moment till that person name my name.

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Thank you, very helpful!

This is just the video I needed. I have heard this feedback for the past year. It has been infuriating as you stated but thanks to what you just shared I think I can now see why they see me as more tactical even though my program is the only one that has a mission and strategy all the way down the to goals and metrics. There’s the bigger picture that everyone else is focused on but that is definitely not the reality we are in and we have some extremely difficult decisions to make about infrastructure investments without which there is no real future… at least not the way they are envisioning it. Definitely possible but unlikely

At work we gotta be friendly robots . Shed no tear from every issue piling up and actively trying to work threw it, you will be dismissed so fast.

No one "likes" to be held accountable 😂 But we need more not less. Accountability keeps us functioning. I would go so far and say men need to hold men more accountable for bad behavior and women need to hold women more accountable for bad behavior.

BAHAHAHA "Being emotional at work"...... Being emotional at work is Childish... behavior. Behaviors are controlled by Adults with Full Agency. You are There to Complete Tasks for MONEY. Do as you are told. Comport yourself with Dignity. The Company's Mission is your Mission. You can complain about Melinda's snoty attitude, and cheap clothes...... AFTER WORK.... Complain to your cat's while drinking box wine 🧙🏼‍♀️🧙🏼‍♀️🧙🏼‍♀️

No such thing

Thanks for this content. Very helpful! I can't help but say that your haircut is cute!

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Hello Dr Davey, I have recently discovered your channel and I think your videos are extremely helpful and insightful. I was wondering if you had ever thought about publishing them as a podcast series as they don't really rely on visuals, more your voice. I would definitely listen. I am actually right now going to add your videos to Listenbox so I can listen to them on my commute. Thanks for creating these!

Yeah, I remember when I gave critic, I did it very direct, like: "This make no sense". Then I waited for a reaction. Nothing happened. I added: "In general, this is a representation of what we already have", then I heard with sound of tears in the voice: "But I thought that will be better... Well, ok, what's wrong?" And that was much more easier to deal with.

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Wonderful as usual! So basically this is about distraction from work (we were talked in the school don't be distracted and pay attention) and connecting with other people on some deeper level.

My husband has started interrupting me recently and then tells me to get to the point. I do like to add some important details into stories when I speak before I make the final point to add clarity and tie everything together. I've always been told that I am a good story teller, speaker, etc. No one has ever told me to hurry up and get to the point before. I don’t feel like I speak very long at all usually and I get to the point quickly. Sometimes I even preface what Im about to say with "the point". The last discussion we had, he kept interrupting me to ask a question just before the final sentence. Once I began to start the sentence over again, he interrupts again only to say "so whats your point?" I am incredibly irritated by this behavior and I told him he is being super disrespectful….

Dorothy Parker put it best: if you can't say anything nice, come and sit next to me.

Not all r like piers boss... My boss starts shouting before even start talking. Even a working he makes an annoying face and says amey i dont have time... Or i dont want to talk about it ...even if he is free

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You literally give me words that I can use in my speech. Thanks

I must say that all your videos are like pearls in the ocean. Sharp, professional and on point. Honestly, I never thought that psychology can be actually helpful.

the bad thing about my boss is if my chips are all gine after the week and the project is not done im threathen to not get paid not i have to spend EXTRA EFFORT NON WORK DAY AND ENERGY to get his part done like im the boss of the company ..so he can get paid oay his bills cut his hair theeeen pay me ...maybe cause he will throw me under the boss im a single man in his 20 his in his late 30s with 5 people he supports and gets taxes off them lol he can work HIS butt off for HIS company and HIS family im ....and im a hard workers i get 1 project done a week with no help but he needs 2 to make his ends and if thats met he will try to make me finish 3

Productive conflict is my ideal work environment, but getting burned out as always has to be me who plays the devil's advocate in my team, so we can have a chance at thinking beyond the fake agreeable homogeneity of the white male middle-class echo chamber syndrome.

Hmmm, I understand leaving a back door, but when upper mgmt doesn't have your back or support you when following the guidelines & processes set forth by senior leadership, turning the other cheek isn't right.

Thank you so much for this video. I'm highly sensitive to the emotional buzz around me. It can really take its toll on my spirit. You've given some really helpful advice here on how I can not let it all get to me so much. (I'm also really glad you didn't say "imagine yourself protected in a bubble of white light." That's the advice I often hear. Ugh!)

IMO the core problem in the video is the implied false dichotomy of “good” and “bad” emotions. These so-called “bad emotions” are all around us, and likely have always been with us all throughout our history. We can’t distance, moat, “resilient” ourselves in perpetuity. The way forward, and what IMO is somewhat understated, is to be curious for others. To come alongside others. 11:23 The advice here that we shouldn’t enter into the space of others with ‘Depression’ IMO is precisely the reverse of what can help folks and ourselves. To avoid them, to distant ourselves emotionally, is to ‘Other’ them. Again, how much can we cut off ourselves to seemingly defend against others. The way forward IMO is to show up, to be curious. When we can be empathic, we move from having to curb and defend to being an open ally; to having a position where we feel spacious, where we can bring our humanity, our care, to feel our emotions as we experience them. We must urge ourselves to show up. It will be hard, it will be inconvenient, we will likely get our butts kicked, but we also get to build something better. Something better for ourselves, for the people we love, for the people around us, and the people we may impact totally unbeknownst to us.

Insightful.

I really liked "sick with the landing part" - finishing the meeting wits conclusions, action points and valuable summary is really calming and give a sense closure and usefulness. Thank you Diane!

It’s impossible to talk to someone who chooses to be a mute and ignore everyone else around #nosalutefortoxicity

I resigned because I felt deceived by my teammates. This video is excellent and insightful.

Thank you very much Liane.. very helpful.. you helped me to categorize my team

Totally agree on the method. I had a training called "Crucial conversation" that states the exact steps you just talked about

It's not hard liking people that you already like, but it becomes challenging when you should like a really shitty person

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Women are naturally wicked unless they a guided by a man

Believe in Lord Jesus and repent from y’all sins/ evil deeds… and more and more…

Dealing with an unruly "Queen Bee" in my workplace currently. She's been supervisor for over 10 years at this company and hasn't gone anywhere else because this is the highest position she's ever been able to hold or WILL hold and simply loves to abuse the power that comes with it. Higher ups have made her feel so safe amd comfortable they don't even realize that SHE is the sole reason every female employee is stressed out and eventually ends up terminated because of her wicked ways or just quits. It's so clear as to HOW she got the position and who feeds her ego in order to keep it...... and it's NOT her husband who also works there....

I would add one more advice - breathe!

Some people take advantage and destroy ones that try harder and go thr extra mile. I have been ganged up on and made look bad by other staff where I have not done anything wrong. Approaching them would be a smirk for example.

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How do recover after being let go after 4 months of a toxic work culture? I now not only have a gap in my resume but my confidence is at an all time low.

Another thing... about three or four years ago, a friend of mine, who is a director at the same firm I'm working at, received a cryptic email from HR asking all people managers to make a real effort to listen to their employees' concerns. Apparently, a few months prior, one of the old timers had an issue that his direct manager told him to "walk off." Well, the old timer had "pictures" and wrote a letter to the firm's clients to let them know of a particular audit when the firm negligently failed on its fiduciary duties. And now the SEC is so far up the company's rear end they've basically set up camp two floors above us. Moral of the story: Managers, listen to the employees.

This is so odd, regardless of how you listen to it. You almost have to speak to these people like a slave from Roots. If tone or language is an issue to you, you ought not be in management. We need problem solvers, not easily-hurt people.

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Emotional creatures will act irrationally unless there is a dominant masculine force that they must submit to. Obedience must override emotion for there to be peace.

Women hunt in packs. We learn this at a very early age. You feel it when a catty remark is made and the speaker’s “followers” laugh out loud. The key, for me, is to realize that I am not without a Defender. God will repay. I need not do a thing.

Ownership, leadership, authority, power, accountability, responsibility, acumen, readiness, visibility, transparency, focus, alignment, flow, honesty, integrity, core values/principles, contexts, strategy, scenarios, environment, maturity/immaturity, structure, governance, technology adoption, influence, dysfunctional behaviour, value chains, evolution, transformation, change, culture, mindsets, socio-technological systems, thinking skills, oxymorons, corruption, curse of competence, conflict resolution matrix (narcissists), psychological warfare ... buzzwords vs clarity.

Men obviously don’t value relationships. Therefore women should just value our own platonic relationships & family & live happily ever after by staying away from men.

That's incredible ❤

Insuring the parties in decision making is crucial in the work place