Aneva!

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@Mystic2021 15 сағат бұрын

I have a twin sister that has autism and I myself have a learning disability that idek what it is so I get how this is by a lot

@zakariaturner2870 18 сағат бұрын

What are you doing you're so crazy

@shespeakspanish 23 сағат бұрын

Fruit pouches >

@Aneva 23 сағат бұрын

@@shespeakspanish agreed!!

@s3ren1tyy Күн бұрын

no but the worst part is people DO act like that first one in public because they think autism is qᵤᵢᵣₖy and fun

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@s3ren1tyy I think such a small number of people do it that it makes it seem like a lot of autistic people do. What it seems like is people see one example of it and then they generalize. Almost like they see what they wanted to see to begin with. Confirmation bias.

@s3ren1tyy Күн бұрын

@@Aneva it started with a small number, but now people have put such a bad light on people because of it! but that's sadly what the internet does with just about every community

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@s3ren1tyy I definitely know what you’re talking about. It’s a double edged sword because on one hand, we need people to be themselves, even if it seems “quirky” because many of us are. And we aren’t taken seriously and we really need people to be “desensitized” to it so more of us can just exist as who we are. On the other end, if we tell someone we’re autistic, all they see is what I have in the video. They assume we’re faking it or exaggerating and wanted to be quirky. People have been the way they are looong before TikTok and the pandemic and Instagram. They just weren’t seen on the internet bc we didn’t have it like that. Those people just got mistreated and it wasn’t documented. So I see exactly what you’re saying. It sucks, and in some ways it holds back progress, but I see it as necessary in some ways too

@s3ren1tyy Күн бұрын

@@Aneva it does in a way spread more awareness but in such a demented way but that's how society is today sadly. people don't realize that all the things that exist now have existed long before the internet but being so absorbed in their own little worlds of the media, it gets brushed over and seen as fake and attention seeking, while the real issues are glorified and no one bats an eye. what a world we live in

@liam_wasnt_found8957 Күн бұрын

As a autistic im not so good with conversation 😭... or anything with socializing

@wilburainsley4922 Күн бұрын

autism can also be the first example (minus the rude attitude). while breaking down stereotypes is good, putting down folks that have more visibly autistic traits or "disruptive" stims wont do much for inclusion

@s3ren1tyy Күн бұрын

yeah but it's usually younger people since autistic or not, everyone should be taught not to have disruptive behaviors when it isn't warranted. everyone has to learn no one gets an excuse not even autism. if someone neurotypical enough to go out, by the toys, drive to a store etc, then it's also very simple to bring along something quieter like a support plushy or a squishy or a fidget ring 🤷‍♀️

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@wilburainsley4922 I totally agree. While my goal isn’t to put down a collection of autistic people, I’m making a point. The point is that people assume if we are displaying our traits, we’re doing it for attention or to be intentionally disruptive instead of just being ourselves by whatever means we feel comfortable (which is what you see in the end).

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@s3ren1tyy I agree with some of what you’re saying ! Being rude is never excusable. It can be understood if someone, for example, had a hard life, or is struggling with life still. But it doesn’t excuse the mistreatment of ANYONE, especially someone just trying their best to be happy (or minding their own business). Sadly, older generations of autistic people aren’t afforded being themselves. It’s up to gen z at this point, honestly. The best part about our generation is that we fight hard to break negative cycles and stereotypes. It requires alot of working against mindsets and visual representation. While I personally only feel comfortable bringing small toys with me, it’s absolutely okay to bring more colorful or louder toys. It’s all preference. And some people really are comfortable with that. And it’s due to the positive representation of autism by others. We shouldn’t have to hide our stims, and we will slowly get to a better place- but people assume we are “entitled” and intentionally over-the-top- and it sucks. At some point things will balance out, and I will be happy when that day arrives.

@wilburainsley4922 Күн бұрын

@@Aneva ah, thats absolutely something i can agree with! autism is a really wide spectrum that requires a lot of understanding and a level of cooperation from ALL sides, no matter where someone falls

@wilburainsley4922 Күн бұрын

@@s3ren1tyy agree to disagree there. unmasking is important to autistic people's mental health. while autism isnt an excuse to be rude, it absolutely might be a reason someone stims loudly or is "disruptive". people have different needs that you wont be able to see from an outside glance. i took a class with a guy who loved driving and stimmed by making a "ooo" sound in class. when you asked him to stop ge would, but hed be visibly distraught. you can never know what people need by looking at what they can do

@ItsHarrykins Күн бұрын

wow as soon as you said 'the office', i paused and said, as soon as i watched it i watched it 6 times in a row, and then you literally said 6 times as soon i unpaused, crazy cooky wacky

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@ItsHarrykins ayyyy!!!!! Hahaha I finally got the whole series on CD!

@ItsHarrykins Күн бұрын

@@Aneva nice, i wanna do that too!

@zorskish9812 Күн бұрын

Who knew i always carry large amounts of objects in my hands rather than using a cart because of the autism

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@zorskish9812 I wonder if it is an impatient person thing. I’m just so impatient 🥲 As I’m trying to remember if I’ve seen someone else carrying that much, I’m not seeing many examples in my mind. Either it’s neurodivergence or impatience. Maybe I’ll be more aware of it now!

@zorskish9812 12 сағат бұрын

@@Aneva i suppose it could be inpatience too. Mainly for me I hate carts because they’re loud and you have to control them and stop them bumping into things

@Aneva 11 сағат бұрын

@@zorskish9812 oh yes for certain. It’s like dealing with another entity

@oooooooooommmmmmmmmggggggg3696 Күн бұрын

The Unown fit goes hard💅

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@oooooooooommmmmmmmmggggggg3696 thank you!!

@centurion_ceasar Күн бұрын

mistake

@1mpared Күн бұрын

Most of my school doesnt know I'm autistic because they don't understand how autism works or affects people 💀

@Aneva Күн бұрын

I am at a loss for words. I’ve typed and deleted so much because I don’t know what to say. What if they find out?

@1mpared 23 сағат бұрын

@@Aneva knowing them, if they found out, they'd probably do things that they know will overstimulate me or make jokes that are obviously offensive to autistic people. i hate this modern stereotype of autistic people, because it's just another way to offend and infantalize neurodivergent people.

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

I try to carry too much stuff in the store too! 😂

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@Catlily5 I know it’s not practical from the outside, but in my mind- it is because I have less to think about !

@Catlily5 Күн бұрын

@@Aneva I think that I won't get much but I always end up getting more!

@rahbeeuh Күн бұрын

I don't even try I just think I'll be in and outta the store but I should know better of course I'm gonna need a cart 😂 @@Catlily5

@Galaxy_Life-ql4cr Күн бұрын

This is so true when you think of people with ADHD the stereotype is just bouncing off walls in reality I’m just on my phone with my ear buds in while people criticize me being on my phone.

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@Galaxy_Life-ql4cr that indeed IS the stereotype. You’re 100% right

@turtles_on_toast Күн бұрын

As another person with ADHD, I can confidently say that I am like this with new people, but as soon as I get to know people, then I start bouncing off the walls

@optimus_prime0925 Күн бұрын

bro my little brother has adhd and when my parents arent in the room he turns acts like hes gear 5

@massproducedeva_ Күн бұрын

This hits a spot because I tend to use my AirPods when I go shopping. It helps me focus and be less prone to falling to my impulses

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@massproducedeva_ I never knew how much sound could be blocked out in public with earplugs or headphones. I also didn’t realize how much it was affecting me. I literally walk better and respond better to what’s around me

@hannahgarrow28 2 күн бұрын

That first clip had me cackling. It's all or nothing with stereotypes, huh.

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@hannahgarrow28 yep pretty much!

@Celeste_779 Күн бұрын

i mean I had a class with a guy like that but he wasn't ever rude or entitled like the video

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@Celeste_779 yes! This is just how people interpret people who stim freely.

@bushidomayfield5784 2 күн бұрын

I be spaced out at Walmart with my mom

@Aneva Күн бұрын

@@bushidomayfield5784 I hope that’s a good thing 😭

@bushidomayfield5784 Күн бұрын

@@Aneva well I manage the stress well in crowded spaces that’s why I would rather go to Harris teeter with my mom or do door dash

@barbieg33 2 күн бұрын

Many folks see us as "introverted" and "shy" When the truth is that many of us are selectively social and can read energies.

@user-zr8ns1yz1t 3 күн бұрын

God bless you 🙏

@user-zr8ns1yz1t 3 күн бұрын

Hi my name is Michael your videos are an inspiration to us all I have Asperger's autism I was wondering if you would like to be friends!:)

@ZombieX-z5i 5 күн бұрын

❤

@JelloTwins 6 күн бұрын

You make me feel so seen as someone newly diagnosed, and I know I don't personally know you but I am so proud of you and hope you continue to learn more about yourself and express your soul in a way that feels most authentic to you :)

@stephknee1707 9 күн бұрын

Love your videos

@Aneva 9 күн бұрын

Thank you so much!!!

@addyr43 9 күн бұрын

my brother has autism and was pulled out to homeschool but i was still in school and i hated it so much when ppl would say stuff like “autistic” “your so autistic” as a joke and make fun of ppl like my brother i eventually got pulled out to homeschool aswell and im so grateful that my mom is able to homeschool my brother and i because kids can be so mean even adults and i know i cant protect him forever but at least he can have a childhood with out bullying or hate with all that said thank you for making these videos online your amazing and i hope you keep making these videos in the future💗💗💗

@Aneva 9 күн бұрын

@@addyr43 I’m so happy you guys were spared from that. Fewer people can protect you once you’re grown, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be safe in our early years from what we will experience inevitably as adults. I hope you’re both doing well, and thank you so much for your kind comment!!

@hannahgarrow28 10 күн бұрын

The ways that our neurodivergence shows can be hard but I genuinely believe there is so much beauty in them. Especially when we've learned to hide and our authenticity starts to show. There is beauty in our normal.

@Aneva 10 күн бұрын

@@hannahgarrow28 it makes me so happy to know we are slowly gaining the ability to unmask as a community. It’s still really hard, and we’re still punished. But I hope that over time, neurotypical people start to become more used to seeing us as we naturally are

@bushidomayfield5784 10 күн бұрын

@@AnevaI’m autistic too and I have yet to break my mask and accept how people patronize me through out my life

@Aneva 10 күн бұрын

@@bushidomayfield5784 it’s an extremely painful process, and exactly why I’ll never give someone a hard time for still masking. It’s very dangerous on top of that. I’m so sorry and I hope the best for you!

@bushidomayfield5784 10 күн бұрын

@@Aneva what do you mean by Dangerous…. I don’t think anyone sees me as dangerous except for being awkward

@Aneva 9 күн бұрын

@@bushidomayfield5784 apologies, not that you are dangerous. I was saying that being yourself, in certain settings, can be dangerous for you!

@SodAutistic 10 күн бұрын

I hate being told “you don’t look autistic” 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

@SodAutistic 10 күн бұрын

I remember being bullied for 2 years by my former college. I hope things have gotten better! 😢😢😢

@Aneva 10 күн бұрын

@@SodAutistic I love my job now, I’m extremely lucky and grateful

@Aneva 10 күн бұрын

@@SodAutistic hope you’re doing well too!!

@SodAutistic 9 күн бұрын

@@Aneva thank you!!! 🥹🥹🥹 Things got better once I got out! As a teacher, I’m trying to accommodate for all students on the spectrum 😁😁😁

@ziau.s9283 13 күн бұрын

Omg I love that idea of putting yhe cloth in as a belt and your hairstyle’s so cute 🤩

@lauralove00 13 күн бұрын

I love your computer set up! and i agree with the words you put.. it is kind of sad but i regret nothing as well and im autistic

@carissaa8411 14 күн бұрын

I love your necklace. It’s so pretty. Great video. I can definitely relate.

@TheStockBarbie 15 күн бұрын

Why was this me this afternoon 😅

@squidgame0132hwanginho 17 күн бұрын

Howdy! I have a very serious case! I have a friend who is disabled, severely autistic with a personal assistant who suffers from bullying, for 15 years. Because of 5 brothers who are related to him (an uncle, abusive mother, and 3 aunts). One is 46 years old, the uncle is 45 years old, the second is 44 years old, his abusive mother is 43 years old, and the last one is 37 years old. And a drunken leader who is also always bullying him. They don't have the education that he has. He finished high school, passed his baccalaureate, and is now at college in Year 2 Management. And they still have the guts to bully him? What senseless people! His grandmother loves him very much and he loves her too. But they always have to yell at him. They know that he is different from them, that he is weak and has no way to defend himself. They always call the police to assault him, to laugh at him. It's not right what they're doing to him. They bully him on purpose to make him afraid of them. They always terrorize him, won't leave him alone, while he ignores them and he stays away from them. I am outraged by what is happening to him. He wants to fight back in the sense that he wants to sue the 5 agressive relatives or a friend of him(to sue them) who works with the Ministry of Education at the County School Inspectorate for what they are doing to him. He's going to send them proof of what they're doing to him. Recordings, filming. He no longer wants to be related to them because of the humiliations he endured all these years. He is 21 years old. They also have accomplices who do the same thing to him. He Really Needs Help. And he really believes and LOVES the Creator, God. They are possessed by the Devil. You really should believe me! He has suffered enough, he wants peace and a good life. He ignores them because he is scared of them, he is aware of what they are doing to him. He can't at all! He always hides when they come. I will try to help all disabled people to have a good life. He's going to leave them after college with his grandmother, for a better place. They tell him nonsense to lure him to their dark side. He was beaten by his mother's boyfriends. She didn't raise him. His grandmother raised him. She also torments his little sister who is not autistic. I'm going to help him and his grandmother, and the other families and the female dog, get out of pain and have a good life. His 6 Kindred are doomed and dangerous. Just write to me. They are allowed to mock a severed autistic person with personal assistent? To bully him that he's different, huh? I'd say, NO! They're not allowed. They don't care about him, they're using him for their dark goals. They're manipulating the other people to believe in them. I was crying when i saw his sad real story. He's been suffering enough. They're saying this to him ,,You are too big, to asist you in the shop, to buy, or to walk with you in the park". They're leaving him all alone in the park for the other people to bully him, instead these relatives on taking his side. This second husband of his mother, he humiliated him last year at the mountain in front of godparents of the husband. Instead on helping the kid to clean up, he shouted at him very hard, and he cried. Don't take their side, because he's suffered enough! They're equal to us, we don't have rights to mock them! I'm gonna fight morally for their benefits and good will.

@Vigga_1 17 күн бұрын

Trure and the need to do it😭

@user-qv6me8yq1z 18 күн бұрын

So where do you find women that don't spend 10 years in the store again?

@user-qv6me8yq1z 18 күн бұрын

I love how accurate the whole thing is. Exactly why I like working in those industries. Always funny watching people in these situations

@Aneva 18 күн бұрын

Thank you so much 😂

@Ihatemylife-pl1nt 18 күн бұрын

I be like 🧍🏻‍♀️”I just work here”

@Aneva 18 күн бұрын

I am just an employee

@Catlily5 18 күн бұрын

Sorry you had to put up with those people. I have seen a couple of them myself! Annoying.

@Aneva 18 күн бұрын

I am so much better now because of them! Thank you

@trinalexandra6484 18 күн бұрын

these accents 😭

@Aneva 18 күн бұрын

I try my best, thank you!

@Slynnalynna 18 күн бұрын

I prefer online shopping, it took me a while to realize I hate in store shopping, I get overstimulated.

@Slynnalynna 18 күн бұрын

I created my routines since I was a kid subconsciously, I never realized I had a routine until I got older and now I also create other types of routines for certain things intentionally to feel my best regulated self

@user-zv9mw3ez8l 19 күн бұрын

This is so accurate 😂

@Catlily5 20 күн бұрын

Wow, the Boston library looks like a palace! I am glad you learned important skills!

@hannahgarrow28 21 күн бұрын

"Support autistic people or leave us alone. We will take either/or." I'm not autistic but I am very neurodivergent and I felt that in. my. bones.

@Bea-rq1uf 21 күн бұрын

The sh*t we put up with, honestly 😩

@Aneva 20 күн бұрын

So much 🥲

@mardasman428 21 күн бұрын

I can sometimes exaggerate negative possibilities and be too quick to talk about my overly negative predictions, but if that happens, I will correct myself quickly. However, I also know that a lot of "negative" predictions of mine have been accurate while a lot of other people employed wishful thinking about the same issue. A very good example of this is climate change. I am constantly flabbergasted and surprised how easily so many people can just completely ignore the real results of climate change and the news around it. I am honest about it and most of the things I say about it has been right, not because I am smart and the others are stupid, but because a lot of neurotypicals seem to be capable of ignoring or embellishing reality to support their emotional needs and wishes. They love nice and positive narratives, happy endings, uplifting stories and they seem to think that reality is boring and sad, so they can twist reality to conform to their state of mind. They tend to like stories, narratives that support their prejudices, wishes and beliefs, such as the idea of an ultimate caregiver (god) or that happiness lasts forever. They can have a hard time accepting a negative reality unless it's shrowded in an emotionally-fulfilling storyline that is based on their own desires and states of mind. Honestly, I think that neuronormativity can be delusional sometimes. And then we are accused of being pessimistic as in denying reality, even if we are the ones embracing reality in the face of denialism.