Great tools to help staying sober. Love the personal stories!

Wow your message on People pleasing and control opened up a new door for me. I could relate to your stories. Sarah and Finn are amazing people. I look forward to watching many more episodes.

I like it!

I'm in Marlborough ❤

Excited to learn navigating my feelings

Avoidance guilty

This was great, thank you. It's so important to me to recognize resentments. Now I have some tools to deal with them. I need to watch this video again and again so maybe some of this wisdom will sink in.

Great stuff!

I love taking ownership of the situation. Have I invited THEM to a barbeque lately?!

Thank you two so much for these videos. Finn, hearing you say that something you were really good at was a survival instinct (sports), made me think, can I change my personality type? I am an excellent type A, but I just don’t want to be anymore. I’m exhausted! You two are helping me understand that my type A personality belongs to my representative. A part of me is type A, I had to be to survive. It’s a pretty cool concept to think that we can change! Thanks again you two fantastic humans!

Lol...This is why my husband always interrupts and says "cliff notes" !

Janey🙏🏻🙏🏻

Lolol

Amazing Helps so much 👍

Always such great reminders! I cannot think of a day that goes by that I do not have to talk to myself about my own feelings and where they are coming from.I thought when I hit the 7 in front of my age ( yikes) I would not have to work so hard physically and mentally. NOT so at all! However, I find the difference is the level of angst I have which is much , much less. I suppose I could hope for total peace in my 80"s!

this is great!

Just had t A similar situation. Totally want to isolate after speaking up.

Will definitely try to use these suggestions when I find myself in a difficult situation!

This is SO good! Thank you!

Cna's and personal support specialists- we have the same codep issues

I was never a nurse but was caregiver to my mother for 12 years! Very stressful and completely neglected myself and especially self care!

Thank you, thank you, thank you for this awesome episode. I so related to Kate as I worked as an RN most of my adult life. I too shifted my focus when I came into recovery. I switched from working in a facility where I had up to 20 patients a shift to visiting nursing taking care of one or sometimes 2 patients at a time. I just wish I got there sooner. I loved nursing as a career but found it much more satisfying to go home at the end of the day and not feel like I needed alcohol from the stress.

Being alone is not the same as loneliness. Most of what we'd refer to as loneliness is nothing more than a projection that you could experience by yourself or in an auditorium packed with people. Authenticity is what I find to be the best tool for combating these moments, rather than the performances ( hence "that not feeling ourselves" that Finn alluded to.) that you might be able to pull off seemingly connecting with others, yet leave us still feeling isolated!.

I need to build a bitmo!

Haha!

I think just like this. 😅 People use wayyyyy too many words

Oh how I wish I could have heard this in my twenties...❤ but I likely would not have listened to good advice then. 😢 😅

I loved this episode! I listened to it for the 3rd time this morning. I especially found the information about how estrogen and testosterone effect the brain differently. That would have been so helpful when I was married. Megan was great and I hope to listen to her podcast. Looking for solutions when things aren't working, especially in a family situation, is so much better than arguing, etc. Thanks to the 3 of you for a very insightful episode.

You guys are so fun to watch and so real at the same time. I appreciate you both very much. POWER ON!!! -The Monty'man

Recently I was soooo hijacked! And it lasted for 2 days. A loved one informed me of an upcoming commitment that brought me back to 10 years ago and the trauma I experienced. The feelings were out of the park compared to the current reality. This video was a very timely reminder!

Thank you both for this episode. It is so helpful. I feel like, for myself, I just want to be respectful and appropriate . These videos help me. I hope to navigate this world in a respectful way that includes everyone.

Yes it is!!❤

Yikes! Pushed away my daughter even more so! Thanks for this one especially. Love your channel ❤

HUGE. Thank you

Thanks Folks, I identify... and enjoyed the way you two compliment each other here. For me I have to pause 1st before I can think about all that I have learned. Really enjoyed this. I also love the "Leaving Crazytown" Awesome title! And the music :) ~John Hammers

Very informative! Reminds me to feel my feelings, identify them, pause and then take action if needed!

I cannot imagine living my life without "the story I tell myself" paradigm. And yes, everything I tell myself is a story. But that's so freeing to know. Thank God I don't always have to be held captive by my old, wounded thinking!! Yay for SPACIOUSNESS 😆 My example: Client cancels appointment. Story I tell myself: "they don't want to have their session because they don't like me" I use 'the story I tell myself" language to make CBT more accessible to clients and for the dishonesty section in the turn arounds on the 4th step to really come to life for sponsees.

Take notes on your episodes- LCT rocks

Middle ground with anger - Yes!! Thank you. ❤️

Yes this is the best one!!!

I think this is your best one ever!

This is a video I better watch weekly!

Listening, I had this thought, it is not just going through hard times in recovery, but just plainly hard times. It reminded me that my mother always said "this to shall pass". I consider myself lucky because it does indeed pass ( most of the time:))

I need to get abstinent with food....again. It's been decades. I am off the charts. Suggestion? I find the meetings and the rote shares....confining for the long haul. What can I do?

Loved idea of letting it unfold!

Hi Finn & Sarah, Thank you so much for supporting ODAAT Apparel! This was such a lovely surprise today. Please keep up your wonderful content. I loved when you said "Acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today" - soooooo very true! We're looking forward to seeing your channel blossom. Jeremy Founder / ODAAT Apparel

You hive me so much to think about. Thank you.❤

Loved "The Columbo" tool!

Loved this segment! One of my greatest fears is abandonment! This started in early childhood! Realize now fear of having true feelings and process them!

This is fabulous- would love more content about abandoning ourselves to try to preempt abandonment by others.