In one video u were saying don't marry a girl who's not working. Now u r saying job can happen after marriage. And let me tell you no one tears the books after marriage but not everyone supports too. After marriage most of the in laws treat the girl as a working machine. Forget about support. This is my personal experience. Some support & some don't. So, it's better be self dependent before marriage if u want to.

Marriages have become so practical these days, so many strategies , so many stats to follow, all about money, financial stability.... Nobody is marring for love and compatibility which i feel is the only factor which can help to sustain in a married lyf even in the worst times.... trust me i married for love and hit by the worst of circumstance still never got a feeling of giving up on us.... Love and compatibility is important

80%-90% Parents want their children to marry within caste , difficult to find bride and groom within caste with all qualities is the main reason for delay

People don't want to marry at age 23 to 27 because they don't want to take responsibilities early part of their life.

Aaj ki generation ki ladkiyon ne agar apni maa aur dadi ko khush dekha hota to shadi se itna bhagti nhi.

Late married is better than early divorce...

Not an urgency to get married at 22-23. Girls should have a job/business exposure for 2-3 years before getting married to see where they actually stands. Getting married at early age will make them not to learn value of money as they would be papa ki Pari at 22-23 age and will expect the same from husband and his family. As a girl barely completes her degree at 22-23, they should get married when they have atleast 2-3 years of job/business market exposure.

I know all who got married early ...they have so many regrets from life...early marriage is not the key to happy marriage but the right mindset.. We can not say anything in absolute sense...life don't go that way

I think 22 is too early to get married... I think 27-28 is good for a guy to get married..

Following you from last 2 years when you had very less subscribers. Look at the pace of subscribers increased in last 4 months sir. They have grown like a multibagger stock… and its just a beginning! 💚🙏🏻 People have started realising your wisdom and what a gem you are.

In case of girls who want to do masters from USA or abroad it is not possible to get married at 22-23 as it’s very tough to find such boys who will educate girl abroad spending so much money. By the time they finish studies and start working they are already 25-26. And then it takes another couple of years to find someone and get married.

Sir, I liked your thoughts on videos you shared. However I totally disagree with this. I saw many of my friends (girls) who married early, before 25, and have very bad married life. Jab tak wo larkiya sahas kar ke divorce le pati hai tab tak to 30 ke upar ho jat hai...32, 33 or 36.... and they don't have experience of job, professtion or outside of house, wo duniya dekhi hi nahi hoti hai. Kyuki shadi tak ghar me hi thi ma baap ki under me and shadi ke baad sasural and pati ki protection me aa gayi. So most of them don't have personal opinion, no confidence of decision making even for simple things. And to start life from scratch profationally and personally after 33-34 with imotionlal scars are huge work. Isiliye so many girls gut gut ke jiti hai. Divorce bhi wahi larkiya le pati hai jisne shadi se pehle thori bahut duniya dekhi hai aur family ke bahar bhi duniya sundar hai iski anubhab pehle ki hai.

Before marriage you get ample time to prepare n get into job of your liking. After marriage you have responsibilities (of which you were not used to before marriage), thus reducing the time to prepare for the desired job.

Kismat bhi to hoti hai sir.log height Kam hone se reject Kar dete hain. Sabko tall slim ladki chahiye.

Sir I wish this video was made by you 10 years back. People please take this matter seriously. I focused on my job as I wanted to be financially independent... Which now I'm. My parents always told me they will find a suitable match for me.... I trusted them.. Met few girls but didn't workout.. Main reason is most of them had done their masters or pursing PhD but none of them were working or had any future plan, or if they are currently working then they don't want to work after marriage. Now I'm 36, and my parents are telling me find someone by myself. Made a blunder by taking this very casually. My learning, respect your parents and always share your thoughts with them but you have to make your own decision and older people are not necessarily wise although their mean well for you.

Sir make a video on wife that is earning more money than husband and taking equal responsibility of expenses. What could be the future of there marriage.

Marriage should be a personal choice and not as per age..I am glad woman are giving their education and work important...As far as getting married goes it is better to get married when you are well set in your career and are able to employ a full time nanny rather than expecting family members to run after your kids.. Biological clock is not as limited as it made out to be .. Maybe woman are the east facing plot.....

Early marriage is not solution, getting a right partner for whole life is the key. Don't worry who crossed 30 and finding their soulmate through matrimonial site, it's not that bad....it is just that u have to cross check and meet people properly...trust Hanuman ji....you will attract your better half if u have faith in God.... otherwise marriage kiski kb tak tikke it's all luck 😎 Bdw late marriage is always better than early divorce

Indian parents don't like love marriage, kyuki unki nhi ho payi

One scenario you missed Let's girl married early age and she doesn't have job and marriage life didn't go well she gets divorced. Then girl has to depend on her parents and parents think this will be burden that why all parents think that girl should be financially independent before marriage. As divorce Rate is high now a days parents are scared

I have no child shadi hui h 28 ki age m now I am 30 and ab sasural m bhi pdai hi chl rhi h. Sb bs nokri chahti h .kisi ko hmse mtlb nhi h.

Not disagreeing completely, but Sabki life alag hoti h aur sabke life ke expectation alag hote hai. So ek hi formula sabko suit nahi karega. Main aese logo ko bhi dekha h jinhone early 20s me shaadi ki aur 30 tak pahuchate pahuchate wo mentally drain ho chuke hote hain. Aur main aese logon ko bhi jaanta hu jinhone time leke shaadi kia, aur fir bhi sab changa hai unki life me. Upar se har koi marriage k lie bana bhi nahi hota. Kai husband aur wife aese h jo literally ek torture hote h ek dusare k lie. So koi formula hai nai. Apni jindagi h, apne hisaab se jiyo. But ladka ho ya ladki, make sure ki apne paanv pe jarur khade ho kyonki aapko kesa partner mil jaaye iski koi guarantee nahi. Love marriage me bhi nahi.

Uncle is right but its really necessary to make your own career and then get married. Atleast get a decent career. And marriages are not some deal jisme pros and cons dekh k kar liya. You have to consider a lot of things before choosing a person. Especially for girls, you have to see if your husband and in-law support your career and education or not. Bs uth k shaadi nhi kar sakte. I genuinely believe that the right person comes at right time and the person is predestined by God and comes in our life when we are fully ready for marriage. And matrimonial sites are not bad. You get to date, choose and decide according to your preferences. The only thing is you have to do a Good background check and try to find someone whose hometown is same as yours so that you can easily do thei background check.

Sir, has explained the reality, which is happening in society. But, in today's world marriage is not the ultimate aim of life if it is so then it's ok. Generally at 16-17 yrs boys/girls complete schooling. Then 4 yr graduation/BTech etc. Next, min 3-4 yr jobs. Arnd 25 yrs an average boys/girls start earning about 25-30k. If they r staying in metros then rentals & pers expenses else no fin independence. I personally feel as life span has also been increased. Hence, 28-30yrs is ideally rt marriageable age. Else early marriage early kids then get involved in jindagi ke taane baane mei aur bojh dhone mei. Attain fin independence first no burden on parents apni jindagi k khud Malik.Parents should give freedom to children for selecting their life partners of course with some conditions.

Liked you view . But Marriage is a very personal concept there is no fixed formula .. ppl getting married at 22-25 and 25-35 both are happy and sad equally .. so personally speaking i would not say marrying Early gives u high probability of happiness.. but yes body structure looks n personality are at its best till late 20's if that's the major criteria for you getting married

Sir you are so right . I got married at 25 and had my first child at 27 and we are 37 now and so happy and settled. Now my husband is planning to complete his master's from renounced University.

Hope of light is coming from this man. Everytime he posts video, he shares his experience and knowledge.

28 and unmarried as struggling with parents for love marriage ( 8yr long relationship). Still fighting and will make it through hopefully.

Shadi aur bache ke baad couple itna mature ho jata hai k mil kr apna kaam bhi setup kr skte hain. Field same, maximum time ek dusre ke saath, same goals, same motives, same challenges, true companionship, aur life above excellence ho jati hai. Believe me, I am living example. Sir ki baat mano life poori bdl jayegi jaise hmari bdli. Thoda mushkil tha initially mindset bdlna pr jb himmat kri to sir ke margdarshan se sb awesome ho Gaya. Can't thank you enough sir.... 🙏

This video is the most needed video for me.. What you said about parents of girls are actually true.. Now a days girl's parents are not hurry for marriage of their daughters.. When their daughters turn 28 or 30 then the parents gets hyperactive but then it's too late to find a suitable guy for their daughter.. They are just destroying their daughters life.. And the demand of the girls' side is also very high... High salary, government employee blah blah blah... For this reason the marriage of girls gets delayed... This is happening with me right now.. If this goes for few years I will have definitely no option rather than stay single forever.. I pray to God that no girls means no girl will go through this toxic behaviour of parents... Thank you 🙏

I'm 30 y.o. male. Had a pretty bad breakup at 25. Realised money is not just important but at the topmost priority for securing a good life partner (in 90-95% cases). Never looked back since. I'm unmarried right now, but I'll be damned if I even approach a girl without making my 'aukat' first. Thank you for the wisdom sir. It's good but I won't be able to face that burn again. 🙏

Sir, i think - all these factors like delayed marriages , Divorces, having no cild or one child, not marrying at all ...would lead to big population fall in next 100 years.

Online marriages are good and common in USA for husband and wife. Especially if both well educated and working abroad. But problems occur with in-laws family they are not happy but cordial 😊

Aap bolte ho ki koi kitaab nahi faadta But sasural main ladki ko kai baar itna kaam karate hain North main up main aapko pata nahi Bahu aate hi saas boodhi ho jati hai Ladke maa ke bhakt ho jate hai Kai ladke biwi ko maa baap ki seva ke liye hi chod ke doosre City main job karte hain bahut kharab hai haal up ki nanad kuch kaam nahi karti hain

Late marriages always have a disproportionate negative impact on women compared to men, As a successful 40+ man i have no desire to get married as i have several options open to much younger women, the same cannot be said for women who after 40s have a low threshold of choices.... Unfortunately this is the bitter truth

Dont get married till u are financially independent....orelse life will surely be hell.

Sir, you're very right.. you are showing a mirror to the educated society prejudices and false assumptions.. Kudos to you for bringing every apt reality with astute & practical solutions... thanks 🙏🏼

100% correct sir. I agree with you completely about girls not ready to get married early and waiting to 'become someone' in life. Also the biological clock keeps ticking, even having a child becomes more difficult with age.

Sir iska matlab ye nikalta hai ki 33,34 valo ko shaadi nahi karni chahiye🤔🤣🤫

Complete factual sense in your unique style is required for all generations in India. 👏👏👏

Well..sir ji...mai apne 18 saal ke chote experiences se yeh zarur kehna chahungi ki life mei insaan kabhi bhi "settle" nai honewala 🤣...life always floats...so better to float with the flow , try your own ways to float and even if r about to sink no worries...bahubali baby ban zarur jayenge.. maa roop mei koi saver aa hi jayega 200 percent 😃😃 😍😍🙏enjoying your channel sir ji lage rahiye🙏

Premarital counselling should be made as compulsory as the saat phere 😁

Sir please make a video on how a middle class teenager should have a mindset to become rich.

Sir aap jaise rishtedar sabko milne chahiye, itni samajh sir maa baap ni de pate bacho ko itni sachai sir aise hi samjhaye rhena hume. Thank you so much.

I had a rough patch of 15 years due to which it restricted me from marrying, I feel It is the mindset and the inner tenacity of finding the right partner.

Media, TV serial, movies are the main factor affecting the emotions and expectations of young people and parents of current generation

U r very correct, I also married late,now I understand what is coming

Nice topic as expected.. Indian family together never discuss about all this topic...

Sir this is the reality of today's society👏👏

Very nice topic. Need of the hour. People are keeping unrealistic expectations in the marriage market from both sides. Aur ladki walon ko toh ladka aisa chahiye jiski salary 1 lac ho per mnth car ho apna ghar ho. Mai ek ladke ko janti hu jiski age 29 hai 2 bhk ka flat hai versova mumbai mei parents ka usko ek choti sister hai jo ki married hai.father bank mei kaam karte hai aur mom home maker hai. Village mei bhi inka ghar hai fir bhi is ladke se koi shadi karne taiyar nahi wo isliye ki iski salary 35k per mnth hai. Due to covid uski salary appraisal nahi hui 2 yrs se. Sabko apni ladki ki shadi raja se karwani hai fir baad mei wo ladka ka nature kharab nikle chalega inko

Jai mata di 🙏 you have very practical approach of life. I am 32 now .I was married at the age of 22. I have two kids .I think everybody will like your way of talking

Very interesting and real world examples. You have the gift of explaining convincingly

Very informative video. Bring out the real issues faced by the younger generation and their parents.

Sir apne kha 22 and 23 ki age mai shadi karlo.. Par iss baat ki kya guarantee hai ki shadi ke bad humara life partner such mai apni life maj progress karega ya earning ke baare mai sochega..??? Plsss give me answer

Ye baat ladko k liye sahi he kyoki wo ghar nhi chhodte aur na ki bachho palne k liye time dena padta he

Conclusion Desperate Marriage is worst

Sir most of the indian families donot support studies after marriage but yes one way it is good to have early marriage for medical reasons

100℅ true sir I had planned like this for my daughter Hopefully it works 🙏

I appreciate the subject you have broadly covered. 👍 all the best for this initiative

आपके उठाये गए सभी विषय बहुत जरूरी होते हैं।साथ ही आप problrms का solutions भी देंते हैं,मुझे आपकी vedios से बहुत सही दिशा मिलती है।धन्यवाद ।

Sir your thoughts on arrange marriage are right on some extent... though it also depends on region (in India especially), most of the girls may be a gold diggers {when comes to arrange marriage and especially if girl is pretty (pretty= depends on societies toxic beauty standards)}. But their are also many men who are not only gold digger but also insensitive, though dowry might not be asked directly these days but there are many indirect ways they demand it. You said "2 lakh kamane wala ladka ready hai ,to marry a house wife" (maybe in some society).... but what I have seen in todays society. If guys is earning 2 lakh per month he wants a wife who should be earning at least 1 to 1.5 lakh per month (I'm talking here people in private companies), Similar case with guys earning 30 k per month . And a guy who is in Govt. Job he ask for bride who is also in Govt. job. (Here, one more thing I want to address. In both cases these so called eligible groom wont bother about character or good natured girl... only thing matters for them is how much money they bring at the end of month to pay their EMI's etc.). In this scenario only girls are in loss, 24-30 age ki ladki kahan 2 lakh kama pati hai, ladko to phir 32 ki umar me 24-25 ki ladki mil jati hai. Now, here a 30 or 30 + girl either has to compromise (married off to man who are divorce or not well educated enough, in simple words settles for less) or decides not to marry at all. I understand that in today's time , it has became important for both husband and wife to contribute in house expense But don't you think people sometime become insensitive and selfish in the process. I mean they don't want to take responsibility for wife's expenses and also, want them to contribute equally in house expense. What most women left with is responsibility for both family(house chores, baby making, taking care of in-laws) and making a decent earning to help her husband in expense. What will be your advise to girls and boys here???what should a girl do in such situation? And Do men needs to change their views on expecting for a girl to be equally contributing in terms of money??

Sir u r doing great job. Anxiously waiting for ur next...

Meri 23 yr me shadi krwayi 30k kamane wale 29yr k bande se meri government job chhut gyi is shadi k baad.

Bilkul sahi sir, your videos are actual mirror of current society.watching since last 1 week, and very happy that somebody actually summarizing these things by making such videos.

Well said sir. My junior who is also Dr is dilly dalyying wedding from 5 years for flimsy reasons-wants to settle in Bangalore-Her fiance wants to settle in small town as he has settled hospital there.She gives vague reasons and is postponing wedding.

Sir aap hi bolte ho biwi ko maabaap se alag rkhne ki aukat ni to mat karo shadi fir aap hi bolte ho 22-23 yrs ki ladki ho ladka 26-28 ka ho shadi kardo. early shadi karo. Sirf aapki hi baat mani jae to kon si mane kaun si na mane?? Parents alag khun pi rhe aap alag fnde de rhe ho...?

Apne kha shadi karvado.. Uske baad kya guarantee hai ki uske sasural vale cooperate karenge usse... Padhne ke liye..... Bahu fir kaam vali bai bann jati.. Jo aap kah rhe ho vo bass unn family ke liye thik jisme financial koi problm nhi hai or family cooperate krti ho....

Sir your absolutely correct ,this is scientifically right ,we all need a partner after certain age ,all young ppl have numerous relations just becoz of delayed marriage , romance ,comfort and adjustments requires a young age .

Very nice information. We will definately think over it for our daughters.

However the problem is true Sir. Aapne jo kaha ki larkiyo ki shadi nahi ho rahi hai that is true. The reasons of not having marriages or delayed marriages are true also. However we have to know why delayed marriages. I try to explain from girls side. Maa baap larkiyo ko education and degree to dilwa rahe hai but in actual life decision maker nahi bana rahe hai. Kitni larkiya hai jo education or job ke liye ghar se bahar jati hai aur jati bhi hai to hostel me nahi rehkar khud house rent pe lekar rehti hai? When you rent a house, pay your bill, cook your own food and take your financial decisions, you became not only independent but also wise. True independence make you wise kyuki tab aap realise karte hai ki sab kaam aap khud nahi kar sakte and you start to learn to let go things when necessary. Girls started to feel unfulfilled when get married just after college. And its make them cringe. They start to fantasize the life with without marriages or how single women are happy soul, as grass is always green in other side. So what is the solution? I have same view on the problem as you state. However I have a different solution. Parents should start tell thier daughters as they turn out 19 or 20 that you also have to earn your own money as early as possible, save for your retirement, have your own medical expenses, and if possible try to buy your own house, just like boys. From 20 to 30 age you are not getting married but you have to be financially free or at least not dependent, have to stay alone for some years, pay your rents, cook your foods, pay your bills, handle health issues single handedly if not very serious, travel inside or outside country alone, just make sure that girls take not only their own decisions, but also take responsibility of the outcome of those decisions good or bad. After 30 jab un larkiyo ki shadi hogi tab wo shadi rarely tutegi. Kyuki wo achievements ke liye pati pe nirbhar nahi hoti hai and let go karna sikh chuki hoti hai. Jab log akele sabji khardite hai, akale bartan dhote hai, akele doctor ke paas jate hai aur akele money investment bhi karte hai, wo log jiwan me flexibility ko bhi sikh lete hai and wo flexibility marriage me bahut kaam ati hai.

Nice video! Sangwan sir I would like to know your opinions about men going single, without marriage. It’s becoming more popular in the west, and coming here to India soon as well I think.

Perfect video sirji, totally agree with you, keep rocking

Your comments about desperate marriage through online portals is perfect. I have seen most marriages through this medium based on lies and having disastrous consequences.

बहुत बढ़िया विश्लेषण

Women should marry in early twenties as they have a biological clock. Pregnancy at 35 and above is considered geriatric pregnancy. Also in early twenties you have more choices and you can reject a proposal but as age increases you will have fewer options. I married in my early twenties (arranged marriage) as soon as I finished my masters and happily married for more than 35 years. For women early twenties is the best time to get married. Also women can pursue their goals even after marriage these days. But as age advances for a woman, her options decrease as men prefer younger woman. Fertility for woman decreases with age. During my time all my friends became doctors, engineers and we all married in our early twenties. But now we see these older unmarried women having unreasonable expectations and I feel really sorry and sad for them. Wish their parents had given them better advice.

I got married at 22 now a son of 20 I started my career at the age of 37 n doing great studied at that age n earning good amt. So I tell ppl it's never late to start again ger married AR the right age. Before Mt husband gets retired my son education will be over n might ger settled by the grace of God so its ok to get married early but only after finishing education

Very valid points raised, practical thinking

Sir aapki baat sahi hai lekin dowry jo lakdke Wale mangate hai woh kaha se laayege maa baap A+ ladake ke liye.

It is a very nice topic for society now a days. If we really want to maintain society for a better future then these things needs to be discussed more openly. Very nice sir

Sir ji buhut badiya video Plz make more like these

Your daughter is soo blessed

Thanks a lot sir for this type of clearity about marriage🙏🙏🙏

God damn ,east facing plot, simran stuff. Epic n True.

I am just passing through this thought. My girl child is 22 and she want to complete mbbs. I also agree with her.

I don’t agree. I did my masters and worked for a high paying job for years, until I found my husband at 29 and got married at 31. I didn’t want to settle for a paplu and my husband is the best.

Very good discussion

So true! Each time I come across your valuable videos I'm confused which one should I see. Each one is so worthy of listening. I love your style of saying..' I want to become something ' 😀

Exactly.. urgency nahi hai... Thank you for making this video on this... I can relate to this as I am currently in this phase.

I think in some point you are wrong Firstly you and your career is most important job is necessary After marriage things are complicated

वाह गुरु जी,मजा आ गया।👌

I cannot dare to refuse your realistic views,

Sir, aap bol rahe ho ladkiyo ko shaadi 22-23 mein kar leni chahiye aur aap ye bhi bolte ho ki ladkiyo ko job karna zaruri hai......22-23 mein to maximum girls almost 95 percent kaam nai karti hain.....aapki ye dono baatein ek dusre ko contradict kar rahi hain....please clarify

Thank you very much for explaining me that my marriage is desparate marriage.😅😅😅😅

Sir i am facing the same problem, you are totally right

You have a very practical approach to life.

I have clarity that I want to get married early in age of 24-25. Today I am 24, looking for arranged marriage, settled and earning decent 7 figures. But issue is there is no girl coming up, of my age (let alone smaller then me) who is atleast some professional degree like me. All that comes are BA pass with Home-something diploma, with whom I won't be able to connect at an intellectual level. So yes, this issue is quite real.

Eligible /Sensible parents should feel the ground reality .They shouldn't see the day dream. Sir, you have told the 'Manji -Katha 'The present day Socity should think over it With regards.

I liked the contents. I started listening to your videos last week. Find them practical and informative. Thanks

I m glad someone is speaking out n shaking people into awareness

Very good series 👌👌👌