"Marry where the quality of married life of would-be inlaws is good" Golden words. Back tested and found perfect. Wish I had known before. It would have saved many of my dear ones in falling in toxic situation. Hats off to you, for this wonderful video.

मेरी शादी हुई तब मेरे हस्बैंड ने मुझे आगे पढ़ाने और जॉब करवाने के लिए बोला था लेकिन बाद में वह लोग मुकर गए और मैं एक सिंपल घरेलू महिला बनकर रह गई लेकिन जो मैंने झेला मेरी कोशिश यही रहती है कि मेरी बहू ना जीते अब वह पीएचडी कर रही है अमेरिका से उसे राष्ट्रपति अवार्ड मिला मेरी यही कोशिश रहती है जो कुछ चीज मुझे बुरी लगे मैं दूसरे के साथ ना करो 🙏

My mother in law is illiterate but she is very open minded and loves me a lot and treats me with respect.

Mere pass words nahi hain sir... Kaash itni budhi sabke pass hoti.. Becoming fan of ur thinking process n superb explanation

Few marriages are ruined because of the over involvement of relatives, encouraged by MIL only....

100 % true I was naive and turned blind to this.... 20 saal tk bht kuch dekha... Jo me deserve nhi krti thi.... Muje lga tha i can change situation.....tried hard ..... Ulte me hi mentally ghut gyi.... Please see wd be saas sasur relationship and also their relationship with their neighbors

Married. Widowed. Went back and validated ...Salute Sir 🙏

Sir ,I agree , jo women jyada dominating lagti hai hume ,unke pati chup se lagte hai ,real me un womens ne bahut jhela hota hai , wo unki dabi awaz hoti hai ,jo kitne salo bad gusse me ek kadwahat k sath ek cheekti awaz k sath niklti hai .... Aur ise koi nahi samjhta ... 👏👏Thanku sir 👏.....is baat ko logo tk pahunchane k liye , jo dard koi smjha hi nahi ,kabhi soncha hi nahi gaya ....use ek awaz dene k liye 👏👏

My MIL was a working women and she has suffered a lot during her active age and she used to cry literally initially when she used to see us happy.

101% True. I am married in the family where my in-laws are not at all happy together. My parents were also in an unhappy marriage. And now all this is affecting my married life also.

Nice video... I agree a mother in law who was working has an open mind. I am one such mother in law born in 60s and was working. I love being friends with my daughter in law... We both respect and love each other. We have so much to share and i really do not expect anything from her except that she works on her dreams n achieves them. I motivate her to progress in life.

I think this point of happiness of in-laws is extremely wonderful and never thought of but it is proven in the psychological journals that the married life of children is dependent on the married life of parents. As a child, we subconsciously adopt the patterns of our parents while considering the love life and we replicate the same as a grown-up.

For finding my sisters prospect groom, I have told my parents this criteria -The mother should be a working lady! Never thought, will find an aged man advising the same! 😊

True...girls' and boys' parents should not interfere... Ive seen toxicity in working mothers in law as well. The family samskaras are very deep rooted. Soch badalni padegi.

Really wish you were there earlier sir ... But feeling really happy that at last someone has took initiative to mend ethics of the Indian society Grateful to you Sir

My parents fight without any issues being present inbetween them (i.e, they fight, just to fight). They're too toxic. Since my childhood, I've yearned for a moment of silence in my house and couldn't get much. I decided to leave home the day I graduated, 8 years ago at the age of 23. Today all that they know is that I live somewhere in Europe. I have a wife and 5 kids here in France. I'll never go back to that hell of a house, sir. My sister, who used to follow every of my parents' wishes wasn't so lucky. Pata nhi kya bhara unhone in my sister's mind, that it caused a rift inbetween my sister and my brother-in-law (whom I can vouch to be a great guy). Now she's back at my parental home. 😥

I got married at 29. I agree that when your in - laws, specially female are not self assured, you will have trouble at your hands. I know most of your points during my marriage and can assure this works.

Both marriage parties do not talk on certain topics openly and later these things creats issue in marriage. Only good package and property are major questions. Before entering in any relationship we should be very clear regarding our expectations (like - job, facilities, property, future aspects, etc) and then let the other party decide whether they want the relationship or not.

If family bonding is strong then only bride will be happy

सर..आप एकदम सही कह रहे है।आपकी बात ने घटित जीवन का राज उजागर कर दिया..धन्यवाद 🙏

I'm 24 and watching your videos and love to watch 👌🏻👌🏻

100% correct. ..but malham laga nay jao toh ulta double dose miley toh kya..like somebody doesnt want to help themselve only.

Sir aapke points sab ekdum sahi hai , but sir sab points dekhne lage to shadiya hongi hi nahi, jahan in-laws samajhdaaar hai vahan ladka nahi , jahana ladka theek hai vahan in-laws nahi , jahan dono theek hai vahan aur kuch nahi hai , sab kuch sahi hai to aage koi bhayankar rog ya haadse se pareshan hai , life ka doosra naam hi compromise hai . Aisa lagta hai shadi sach bolke ho hi nahi sakti , 90% cases mein insaan apna karm fal shadi ke baad hi to bhogta hai

Wish I had known all of this 35 yrs earlier… my in laws were the most miserable people. But we got misled by their prestige in society

Amazing amazing video sir. Very different perspective and valid thoughts! Wish people knew about making this kind of assessment in an arranged marriage. Thanks for sharing. And I can resonate with what you said in the video.

Awesome video Sir, its a eye opening video for our socity

Wonderful tips sir. You think like a young person. ☺️👏

Sir loves your videos, very practical!!

Excellent video.Sangwanji,these are must watch videos for everyone

Sir even my mom is toxic and egoistic so i haven't married coz i know it will only bring problems to each of us...

ज्ञानी बाबा आ गए। जय हो

"what to see in a marriage" ..very well discussed.Very rare advise 😀so openly

Very knowledgeable video 👍 thanku so much sir ji

Om Sai ram ji 🙏🙏💐 great sir Ji 🙏 this is absolutely right 👍 these things were noticed in old days my dada ji same vichar as you are saying aabhar Bhai ji 🙏🙏 thank you

YOU ARE GOD’S GIFTED. Thanks 🙏

Absolutely correct and good observation my in-laws had a bitter married life and now it is affecting mine 😞.

Very well said sir.We have to follow as much as possible...in kannada one proverb thayiyante magalu,nulinante sire.means "daughter like mother,saree like yarn".

Very good points n valid points covered sir

Brilliant video 🙏 thankyou.. you are absolutely correct. Hope people understand this funda and get their 'jaan ke tukde' married in a capable family.🤞👏

Sir I found this video useful. Nice piece of knowledge

Superb..!!! Logical and practical

Wat a. Master piece of video.. Sir u really true man Salam from Pakistan

Excellent advice 👍 all of it is true.

Enjoyed watching this video. Very real words , that we should understand

Very educational and practical utility video. Must watch. 😀

Very important topic again sir 🙏 please make a 2nd part of it- kya kya dekhna hai maa papa ka / kaise pata kare !

I wish I could go back 10 years and fix my blunders. 😔

Thank you so much for sharing this secret with us all. Highest form of Kindness undoubtedly

Very nice message 👍🙏🏻🙏🏻

Sir extra marital affairs and live in relationship par video bna do🙏🙏

U r absolutely right ! Mother is the one who has brought up the child ! But these days lot of deception is there so v difficult to know also!

Aapka andaaze bayan, pasand hai humein. Prefer to more of listening you.

Very much true sir... I am so blessed that I have come across your vedios

Sir aap to हमारे एस्ट्रो फ्रेंड हो गये thank you

Uncle, it involves a high level of maturity and intelligence...which mostly ppl don't have

Very nice analysis!

Sir, recently I have started to view your channel n very much impressed with the practicability of your ideas. I want you to make a video on " how to get rid of guilt, which are faced by working women"

101% correct, all your vedios are excellent 👏

Your videos are really good & interesting....

Sir ye sab dekhne ke liye paar ki nazar bhi chaiye, perception bhi chahiye Kuch log bahut smartly fake kar dete hain Yes sir you are correct and given useful life advice.

धनयवाद । एकदम सही है । बहुत साल पहले मेरी सहेली जो सिककिम मे रहती है उनहोने ऐसे ही समझाया था। दरअसल हम लोग लडके को जादा देखते है वो कमा। रहा है या वो अलग रहेगा । पर ऐसा है नही असर पडता है।

So true. With certain threshold of certain of finances and conditions mentioned by sir holds the key... However, It can help you plan better and we only can try to minimise the risk of challenges ahead... Seedha seedha toh kuch nhi hota hai waise bhi 🙏🙏🙏

Meri saas ne bahot Saha tha aur mere sath bhi wahi karne ki koshish ki but I was different!!!! Bolte reh gye sab mujhe but I ignored but careful always!!! Buri ban gyi hu but happy n live with own ways in sasural!!! 😉😉 Sahi kaha aapne.... Sasur ki baat ko saas aur bete kehte hai maximum time ....

Emotional stability and Physical fitness are key parameters indeed

True and different Thank You Sir

I think basically a happy go lucky , open minded positive attitude to life type of family is good choice but very difficult to judge in beginning unless we know their back ground. That’s why in olden days marriages were done through ppl we knew via families

Thanks for information

Thanks for sharing 🙏

50+ years back, it was my father who gave this perspective to my mother. That my grandmother had sufferred a lot during her yesteryears and hence she is prone to exhibit bitterness and keep sulking and hence my mother should just ignore her and not take it to heart!

Brilliant!!!

Namaskar Guruji,Please give your prediction on investment for future seeing current and future reading

You always made eye opener videos..bahut hi bebaki se bolte ho...jyada tar hamare paas shabd nahin hote aapki tarif karne k liye...Thank you sir🙏

Dear Sir: Please make a video on how life goes on for parents who do not have any male child and have only female child. Please sir!!!

Good advice

Very well said sir🙏

Thank you sir . Super likes

Sir i hv just started watching your videos n you won't believe your topics are very realistic.. All are bful videos

very well said.

This guy is a genius!

*EXTREMELY VALID POINT Sir* ✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️✔️

So true

Make a video on intercaste, inter faith, intercommunity marriages

Bravo 👍 keep it up sir. 🌷🙏🌷

Sir , for those who cannot completely follow Hindi,could you please give your videos in English also?Many would be benefited.Thank you.

Sir apne exactly wohi bola jo mere saath hua my MIL had a very bad relationship with her husband and due to which she ruined my marriage I want to share my experiences with you so that you also come to know what all is happening in society

Awesome 👏👏👏👏

Amazing amazing video sir

Good, sir.

My sasu ma was working, very narrow minded, now interfering in my adult children's life

Kafi sahi bate bta rahe hain aap

aapke vichar deep experince par based hain....aapke jeevan anubhav kadve ho sakte hain lekin sacche hain.

The decision of marriage of their daughters by parents is taken so hastily just by seeing social and financial status ignoring the important complicated facts about family to family compatibility issues that crop up immediately after marriage.

How can I contact you, I also have two daughters n now trying to get marry for them

Really suprb technique You are making so many lives better with your thought-process

Kya baat hai sir whatever ur saying bilkul sahi hai sir iska solution bhee bataye how to get rid of this situations

Bahut accha video sir aapne to mere jivan ki reality bata di thank you itne real videos dene ke liye

Namaste apne bhut sahi bola I am 29yrs old and mai bhi pehle se yhi observe krti hun ki ladke ke parents ki marriage kaisi hai agar unki healthy marriage rhi hai mutual respect and nature towards life positive hai toh unka Beta bhi 90% chances h apne parents jaisa hi hoga baki 10% Exception is everywhere but humhari duty hai best select karna apne liye taki baad mai na hum khud ya humhari family ya ladke ki family ya khud Ladka safar kre humhare galat decision ki wajah se...Same for boys select your Best

You are like parent for us. started following you couple of week ago really enjoying. Thanks a lot

Bahut sahi kaha aapne ....

Sir.... too good........i watch ur video regularly