Exactly. I would even worry if I accused him falsely and then felt like I betrayed him. Or I feel sorry for him bc he has no or little emotions. It was a connection via dating but I loved him from my heart. I still do but last weekend I snapped after another rejecting attitude. It felt like a knife through my heart. I cried under the shower, upset again After that my anger came up and I told him that I couldn't take his humiliating attitude anymore, wished him the best and removed him from my phone list. This time he also removed me and that's when I panicked and cried from feeling sad I feel so attached to him even though I once felt a form of agression when I was with him and I told him it was abnormal behavior. He would be silent if I confronted him. Next day he would text asking me how I was doing so he ignored me expressions and I would be glad that he wasn't angry at me and still in my phone and happy to be connected . There was no full peace, it was like a constant stress vs relief and fear he would be gone. It's bizarre how quickly I got attached so strongly. And some may say that's not real but I know for sure from my side it was is love but I'm sending it to a stone wall. I guess it was about power and control. Well he's gone now. I feel alone and when another kind man would get serious me now I feel like looking for safety with him, as if he is my brother that I never had. So weird but this is how I feel. While he didn't treat me with respect at moments and even reacted agressive when I said no. That's crazy I am a free person I have my house work, I sport I call myself independent but I accept boundary crossing behavior and I look for protection from an unpredictable assh. I now miss the messages then my pride comes up telling me he misses me too for sure. Well I focus on the blessing: I can find rest now and no more sudden hurtful words, frustration. I also feel angry in moments bc I feel used or I think about things he said or did. Overall I'm calm. This was not even a full relationship but I felt connected in my heart and lately I kept seeing a vision of a siamese twin attached to my right shoulder. There are many of these people with a nice attitude, gentle and playing thoughtful but sooner or later attacked on your heart, emotions, silent treatments, sarcasm and insults will show up. My door is closed. I don't feel like that tbh. I hope to see his text message still in the morning but I declare that my door is closed. I literally told him that I am going to heal my heart and go my own way. He wished me goodluck. I don't know if I felt sarcasm or if it's my own distrust. Manipulation is married to confusion.

exactly and I didn't even know what emotional abuse was...it was like feeling I lived in a serial life I couldn't explain.

Exactly. 24 years of the insanity and like you I knew something was very wrong but my limited thinking ability kept me from getting out. He had convinced me that it was me. It was him all along!

That's because the abuse they do brainwashing you, so that's why you are in a fog and you know it's not right but you stay.

Married 16 years to a narcissist. When I would start to come out of the fog and sense that this is beyond typical problems, friends, relatives and others would excuse or minimized it which made me doubt myself again. People that have not lived with a narcissist cannot comprehend what it's like.

Amen❤❤

I am in the same boat, nearly five years out of a 39 year marriage that was incredibly damaging, especially during the later years.The therapist that I saw, with the exception of 1, were just as bad as the marriage: one therapist even suggested that I needed to write a letter of apology to my X. It's very tough when the "cure" is worse than the dysfunction itself. I lost my Dad in 2017 as well. Much love to you. I hope that it won't take 20 more years.

Hey Martina. Here some Emoji that make me smile to help you build a ladder for today. ❤️🥨✨🌸🎉🎊💝💐🌹🥀🌷🌺🌸🏵️🌻🌼💮🌈☃️🌅🌇🐰🐭🐼🦄🦑🐙🐳🐧🦉🦔

You've got this! You're strong, determined, and unstoppable. You're now able to build a ladder for your life moving forward and that's the good in all this. You have all the support from us Nasties in your corner. Sending love and lots of healing your way!! 🌈👑🐷🌸🌻🌼

We believe you!

We believe you and support you 💕💓🐷👑

Lots of us believe you, Martina 💖💖💖 I’m so sorry this was your life for so long

That's right a survivor

Hello how are you doing 😊😊😊😊☺️

May God be with you!

How're you doing now days? I'm trying to get the strength to leave a similar situation.

@@kjm1529 praying for right now, ask God to help you, to give you strength. Philippians 4:11-13

Get out. You are good and worthwhile. And you deserve joy and kindness. 💖 keep reminding urself. I believe in you. I've been there, I left after 24 years of abuse. You'll be okay! 🌻

Prayers for you and your family!! With God All things are possible pray for him sweetie 🙏🏾

Same

Pretty much says it all doesn't it?

Same why’s it?

If you stay too long you wont be able to make decisions at all even after you leave. It's from having no power for so long you just let things happen . I couldnt make simple decisions .I'm not sure I can still. All you do is based on fear for so long you lose yourself. Be careful for your heart.

You speak of it in past tense so I can only hope you are free of the abuse…thriving and healing ❤️‍🩹

Ooh God v sad ,hope now you are at peace ✌️🕊️

@@NarcissistsSchmarcissists Yes, I am. Thank you for inquiring. It sounds weird but, what really helped me heal was knowing that there were never really any "good times or good memories" because he was a total fake and deceiving manipulator.

My experience exactly. 21 years of emotional starvation and torture. I am 3 years post divorce and healing gradually.

Same here😭😭😭

Because you can still "feel" it's not too late. It's when you are without feeling anything anymore you're done.

28 years for me too! My stbNex is a covert vulnerable narcissist. I have been no contact for 8 months now. The narcissist doesn't want to divorce you, he wants to destroy you. I had severe cognitive dissonance when I left, but can see it all clearly now. Feeling better everyday.

Trust me, you are NOT alone!!! We will heal!💞💞💞💞We are stronger than we even know! God is carrying me thru each day.

I felt the same before I left after 32 years. I even spent 3 days in a mental facility because I was so depleated. Of course i was also going through the menopause from hell and had been helping to care for my Mother who had dementia. Hang in there. I know for me I had to move to another state. I did not trust myself to beg for him to let me come back because I was so afraid to go out into the world alone. It has been hard. I am not going to lie but I never have regretted leaving him.. Not once.

God bless you hope you are healing 🙏🏼

Exactly True!

🎯

Wow my situtation.

clarice star well said absolutely true lady

Well said 100% true. I left just after 5 months of marriage because I saw no future with his abuse.

Learning as I go I totally relate to this

Wtf this is my life

I have been experiencing this and I always feel dumb.

True..my husband does this and i end up feeling numb and 😥...

Totally relate . His friends (that treat him like crap) are the best things evee

Seems you didn’t get the memo. You never let on to a narcissist that you’re onto them. Best to just leave quietly.

Same happened with my partner, sent him a video of dr ramedi’s narcissistic traits.. I heard an earful for days that I didnt really know what narcissism really was. He was terrible, finally just ended things last night and blocking him today

Me? No, you!

@@chipgore6714 troll.

​@@beesinthegardensthey are 😈

The complete unawareness is such a frightening concept. I’m determined to keep shedding light on this abuse. Hugs and healing 💕

What book?

@@amykyns15 yes! What book?

Can you tell me what book please? Blessings

Mental abuse is just as worse as physical abuse sign Cynthia Smith the toxic person feels bad about themselves this is the reason that they talk mean to you i ask this person to stop using God name in vain he had it bad saying Gd i am a Christian and i felt it in the inside when he said this word did he stop what do you think sign Cynthia Smith

You are stronger than you know

Wow. I’m out after 29 years. No contact is best.

your not weak you can do it

45 years for me-- no contact for last five years. Have Separation papers signed and now waiting for him to sign the Divorce papers, if he ever does. He got his money- thats all he EVER cared about ! Leave him and be free! You will be so much happier and stress free of him.

30 years for me and now I am physically disabled after finally figuring out I was being abused by a narcissist who also happens to be a captain in a sheriffs dept.. I am trapped, no more friends or family...he isolated me over the years, nearly half my life wasted. It's amazing how I can relate to all of you. I had felt so alone. I am hugging all if you.

You're welcome! No, they don't. It adds to the frustration of going through the abuse. Thank you for watching and sharing ~ N

True. No body can understand the damage caused by these crazy people, unless you have experienced it.

Until they experience it. 🙁

Actually if you haven't seen it, lived it. Others will never really see your point. Its no way they can

You can not understand unless you have exoerienced it. Its to difficult to explain, just to dsrn odd. No normal!

I hope you got out✝️❣

In Jesus name it will be done

If you empathize with a psychopath you will lose yourself. warning.

You’re definitely not alone. I hope you can get out soon. Run for the hills!!

You can be happy alone sis Get out while you still canbreath

@@franciscokanga5718 Thank you! I'm getting closer to that goal.

They are 😈

Yes Satan himself..... It shall be well.

Daveda Lane 43 yrs here. exhausted

almost 20 and i am so sad.

I hope you know you have u support and it inspires you to move on.

I was married only 3 years and lived with him 3 years and was so burned out I never remarried - it's been 25 years. He's on Wife #3. I cannot imagine being married to him any longer than that. I was a psychopath. His brother was the narcissist. They suck out/crush your spirit. I really don't want to get married again after that. No thanks. They are pure evil. They know what they are doing.

be glad you are brave enough to end it,,,, the daze is what they cause and want !! it will get better I had 35 in of his abuse, I never been happier they aim to destroy, living well is the best revenge!!! best of luck and real love.

Yep. .that's what they do...they always say...what's wrong with you? ..but absolutely nothing is wrong with us...its a control issue

27 here. With you in thought for sure.

So true I was with my ex for 14 years I kicked him out last week and I've never felt so alive.

I would always say....we need to work on this and he would say.."I'm fine"..and just look at me as if it was all my fault....every.single.time

27 here.

🙏🏼

Therapists and Lawyers cannot handle what you went through and going through. My Divorce lasted 6 years. Demonic forces they are.

❤

The gender is interchangeable. Both men and women can be the nac abuser.

I lost myself completely but slowly I am coming back.

It happens to men too. 24 years here. She is so right. You don't see it while you're in it. I did many of the things she said. Tried to save the marriage for the kids, marriage vows etc. It was only after I left 3 years ago I realized the extent of the abuse. My abuse was thankfully only emotional. She never got physical with me, but the wounds are still there and scars on my heart and soul.

Not just women, it is no respecter of income level, race, sex, whatever.

I agree wholeheartedly with this; very important to get past feeling like a victim. More like "survivor," in a manner of speaking.

Your right you don’t need to be a victim it’s how you see yourself

Agree..

Yes we predators.. its up to us to stop being one

I agree

Thank you! You start to live your best life once you leave a narcissist!!!!

@@NarcissistsSchmarcissists i wish i could leave mine

@@islamzghoul7385 You can. You really can you have to have the strength to leave. It took me almost a year to leave. I had enough. You will, and you can.

I thought the same thing. She’s beautiful!

Good for you! “Family” isn’t always people you are related to. I too, had to figure that out. Thank you so much for sharing!! Hugs and healing 💕

Yup my family friends were his flying monkeys .. they aided and abetted in his torture , all cuz I’m from religious community etc .. and plus he was financially supporting them etc .. the severe amount of backstabbing is shocking !

Thank you

I left after 32 years. I too had to leave everyone behind and moved to a different state. I had surrounded myself with narrcasists. My Sister helped me move to another state and then she moved in with my exhusband. Not romantically I don't think but to get cheap rent as her marriage was falling apart but still what a slap. I did write to her and tell her I would never do that to her no matter what because I know what her husband did to her. I asked her to please move out. She never wrote back. My neighbor that had been my best and really only friend for over 20 years was sitting accross the street texting my husband every item I was taking from the house when I moved out. Those two betrayals hurt almost more than leaving the abuser. I have just started counseling again. I have been very lonely and had suicidal thoughts. I am not super outgoing and stuggle to make friends. I would love to look for love but I have severe anxiety attacks when ever I decide to go on a dating site. I was looking into EHarmony not anything local. The fear is just still there. I too went to my first domestic violence group and said I am not sure if I am suppose to be here or not. I have done a lot of work through groups and believe I won't go back to being abused again but the wounds run so deep. In October it will be 6 years. Of course, he moved on right away. He was dating someone 4 months later. Someone the girlfriend of over 20 year set him up with. So angry that I am still struggling. So angry because I posted to FB some signs to look out for for domestic abuse and my ex husbands cousin pulled my daughter a side and she said I shouldn't be posting that kind of stuff on social media. I am so angry at these women who I thought loved mw have given me no support. Thank you for posting about this as most of my abuse was mental abuse as well. So damaging to our spirits and souls. I too kept thinking if I worked harder, tried more couples counseling, just tried to do everything he asked for. What I didn't realize is that he kept uping the ante and that it was impossible to every make him happy. So glad I got out but just struggling to rebuild.

@@joannepackus5736 Be strong , you can make it...You are very lucky not to be physically ill...Many of us have the emotional scars...Also , physically ill..High levels of cortisol..Release from stress can cause a number of many illnesses..Mine is an autoimmune disease and panic attacks...Praying for your success ...

Hello how are you doing 😊😊☺️😊

How are things for you now?

My parents hated my Christian life. They hated me going to Church, hated Church & hated all my Christian friends. Now, I'm almost 40 & I hate going to Church because the married people in Church see me as a "problem".... Yeah, 40 year-old virgins are judged in Church, but the Tinder-chick with 4 boyfriends who acts Godly only on Sunday can't be "judged" for her pig-roasts. Also, why would I have a relationship with a sweet Christian woman who's going to be hated by my narcissistic parents, because I'm such a piece of garbage to my family that only another piece of garbage could love this piece of garbage..... Not worth the heartbreak.

God is Faithful that's what helps us keep on going

@@mrbillhilly343 I am so sorry for what happened to you in the church, how ever don’t let the church hurt make you run from God, run to Him, He is a loving Father, certainly not judgmental, All He have for you is LOVE! His love is overwhelming, Go to Him please

Thank you for sharing this! 💖

Indeed, very much true! Question, how do you "accept this"? That it ever happened or something..? Take care, much love and healing 🌌💖💫

Yes ❤️

@@bbdn5123 That's a GREAT question. How does one accept abuse? Where's the justice in all that? There were a lot of things I don't remember because he was a chaos creator; always kept the crazy making wheel spinning. However, my body remembers even tho my mind doesn't. Hmmm, interesting question.

"i didn't know it was abuse for 2 decades". because it felt familiar. you were raised with it so it feels 'normal'. that's how deep this core vulnerability runs - and it is why you will remain vulnerable to something similar again if you don't unlock it. i can help if you don't know what i mean or where to start. 🙏

I hope you have a professional to help you navigate through your healing. It’s quite common to have C-PTSD. Having professional guidance will help greatly. Hugs and healing 💕

I'm a child of Narcissistic Parents. I was raised by Baby Boomers & if there's one-thing Millennials have been their entire existence is the human punching bag for the world's problems. I'm also the human punching bag for my family's problems & anything they can insult, ridicule, torment, gaslight, gangstalk & slander me for... THEY DO IT! I've never been in a relationship, I'm nearly 40 & still a virgin, why would I date a woman when she'll either be tormented too, she'll see the torment & think I deserve it if they hate me so much or thinks if I don't get along with my parents then I'm somehow "bad husband material"..... When you're almost 40 & never been married, never been in-love, no kids..... People see you as a freak. I've lost 99% of my friends due to my singleness & my parents just blame me for being "all these bad things"... They tell me to "just go & give it a go". But I shouldn't be learning how to date at 40, I should be learning how to date back when I was 14... Something I wasn't allowed to do... Oh, but my parents were allowed to explore themselves at 14 with lots of other people during the 1970s, because "it was different back then."

@@mrbillhilly343 look forward sir. not backwards. seize this moment. breathe deeply. calm yourself. slowly reclaim your self-confidence and empowerment because the sum total of your abuse has been to engineer your 'learned helplessness'. google that. it's a vital concept to grasp. keep the knowledge to yourself. go 'gray rock'. find strength in a growing understanding that you have been used and abused but you and only you can set you free. 1 step at a time. pace yourself. knowledge. self-empowerment. balance. freedom. perseverance. 🙏

@@inhale.exhale.2527 Roll-up your yoga mat & stick it up your arse.

You do have PTSD. Horrible situation for you.

Hope you're doing well dear

@@floret.mkinksskin495 Me? Yes, I'm much better. God helped me out.

No, you aren't it's been 21 years for me.

@@pjmrees pls get out I sound like a hypocrite because I still live with him but so im unhappy the only reason I haven't left I feel like I dont have ppl to support me and help I know it's hard to leave I'm going to take my chances and go stay with my possible narc mom who is very judgmental of and hasnt even called me.i feel broken and scared.😞

Never alone sis 💞💛

Love Hustle 3.0 good for you!!!! After 22 years of misery, you deserve it. Its the best feeling in the world to finally find THE ONE 🌸

@@NarcissistsSchmarcissists thank u and yes I do and I love it

I'm so glad lovely I wish you every happiness I'm finding the strength to leave after 20 years of marriage he's always treated me like garbage what scares me most is I don't ever want to make that mistake again..that's a real big fear for me and I'm so angry with myself for putting up with it, i feel my life is over now, and that's it I don't even know why I'm bothering with anything anymore I'm 48 my life is finished. No one wants a broken down 48 year old no one, I'm not pretty either, it's just too late now, I've accepted this is my lot in life I'm just not meant to be happy in anyway shape or form it's not on the cards for me...I've got real bad trust issues too..I just cant see myself trusting anyone ever .again let alone allow another person into my heart space..I've decided I'm going to help others in life instead I'm an empath and a humanitarian, this way I will never get hurt again.

How??? How do you trust anyone ever again. I scrub up quite well but I can’t see anyone being interested or me trusting anyone ever again! xx

Please tell me how, I’m going through this now

I understand, for me, the thought of living the rest of my life with the miserable human being was even scarier. Prayers and hugs ~ N

I’m 61 and have been married 36 years and I feel so stuck and too old to do anything. I don’t even keep in touch with friends anymore. I used to be able to express myself really well but feel dried out emotionally and spiritually too. I ask God to let me know if things are my fault because according to the husband everything that goes wrong is my fault. Money has always been a huge issue. Our only child is very successful and fiercely independent and vows she will never get married and says “I want to come and go as I please and spend as much time with my horses and no one will ever make me feel like I am selfish for the things I love to do!” Smart girl! She grew up seeing her father berate me and have his temper tantrums for the pettiest shit.

@@theresahron30 My son and i left my narcassist husband over 4 months ago ....we feel free now from the constant negative controlling brainwashing ...it will take time ..we gave up everything to do it and go back to my hometown many miles away ..he went raging crazy when i told him ...we did have to flee ....but now im glad ....

I'm same age girl go for a walk and get a cab to women's shelter

Go girl and dont look back! ! I did after 40 years..oh its hard BUT SOOOO WORTH freedom from exs twisted slow murdering of our soul and spirit.Jesus will help you as He has me...every step of the way...ask Him.There is Light at the end of the tunnel...its not a train!!

Hell who wants to be with anyone after being set free from these monsters? Not I never again. Happily Single.

@@backwoodsgeorgiagirl5594 yes, one solution is to throw the baby out with the bath water but you haven’t really fixed the real problem. It’s easy to just completely avoid ALL potential mates as it frees us from having to actually do the work to improve our own mindset and become emotionally healthy. In other words, you haven’t fixed the problem you’re just avoiding having to deal with it.

Amen! I am forever grateful to my Lord for rescuing me ❤️😇 That’s All You Need - you & Jesus, keep on keeping on !!!

Me also....32 years...ive never been happier just knowing I'm not responsible for him anymore....none at all...im done thank the lord!!!

32 years in and he discarded me - I now know it was a rescue mission from God to get him out of my life. I know exactly how you feel including the self-blindness and lack of knowledge or understanding from people because they can’t see our bruises. Getting dumped by friends, fellow Christians, etc because you’re no longer convenient and might actually ask for help! No one really wants to help - just move on we’re told. I know we’re not alone but try to find a support group for people like us - NONEXISTENT! Thanks for your video and I wish there was a way to connect and build a group.

@@annVacchiano1209 Amen sister!!

God your so lucky my X taught my kids I was the enemy told them not to listen to me go to school e c t I ended up loosing one over him and second he taught to abuse me I was so traumatised I couldn't let my second go he's now and adult and understands but I'm still in bits he told me for years he sat daily listening to my X teach him to hate me I lost my family over that evil pig and my mother was one who started the abuse I just don't know how I can heal after loosing so much

Reg wow i’m truly sorry about your experience. i hope you heal from the trauma and your relationship with your child improves

I am still with him I need help I have been with him since 94

Truly wonderful! I can relate to your words and this women in the video I am learning thank you too for sharing your testimony

I'm 64...ive three amazing kids, so I don't regret it.. Glad to be free!!!! The peace is amazing!!!!!

No, it's because they are pathetic, self absorbed, cowardly son of a b*tches who have no common sense. People can say they "care about you" all they want, but that doesn't mean anything. If you fucking gave a sh*t about me, why couldn't you have yanked me out of the situation instead of insisting that I should continue connecting with my toxic abuser who is OBVIOUSLY tearing up my mental health? These so called "caring" people wouldn't spit on you if your hair was caught on fire. Fuck em! 😡

Yes..drank so much to cope,divorced and moved on.No more booze.

I understand completely. We’re not the people we should be when we’re with them. They hinder our growth, happiness and peace.

They act like children, vying for attention at all times. It's sad and pathetic.

@@NarcissistsSchmarcissists yes, like begging for mommy and daddy's approval

@@sandyhenry3238 Yep, you hit the nail on the head. Very childish.

The guy I dated never showed emotions except about his mother. I also felt like he treated his family, with all the respect but treated me like I was not important. Then I would feel like the nagging claiming person and I do think he wanted to give me that feeling. Why is a riddle to me. He was abroad for work constantly texting me updates where he was at sharing his experiences etc. Then suddenly nothing. During four days. Eventually I cried and felt drained bc I was holding in my emotions towards him. Then I texted him. He said please I am not available now I al with my parents. I felt a mixture of arrogance,demeaning vibe and accusations that he was the good innocent guy and I was asking his attention. Im still figgering out if he did it on purpose or not. The day that I told him I ws done he rejected me when I said I felt like giving him a hug. His reply: I am not in a good mood now my leg is hurting. He said he was tested positive for Corona. Now I even feel guilty and worried if he's okay. That's the world upside down bc he won't care about my well being. They usually use nice caring words but sending caring words is so easy... Easy 'love'.

@@peaceofmindofpeace1650 That is how my husband is..when his family is around I didn't exist. Then we had kids and same thing unless he wanted to play good dad. I met mine young and honestly with my childhood there was no good male role model to know how a man should treat me. IF YOU ARE JUST DATING HIM...GET OUT NOW!! IT WILL NEVER EVER CHANGE!! They have mental problems..Get out of the relationship. I wish I understood it when I was young..now just waiting for my kids to get out of High School..If you stay you will end up with so much resentment and emotionally lonely.

Linda Kay,You are a precious 🌹🌷🌷 being 💓,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

Alexandria Marchak,You deserve better

@@oscarwilliamson6163 currently still in it. Trying to work on. 🤞🏼

Thank you for sharing. In doing so, you are helping others! Hugs and healing 🤍🤍

I understand I've suffered it for almost 9 years

Debra Friede 27 too left in December

I'm in the process of divorcing my covert narcissistic husband after 33 yrs of marriage. We have 3 grown children and two little grandsons. So hard to think I actually stayed in this relationship as long as I did. But hopefully better days are ahead.

28. Yrs for me... trying to fix everything hadn't a clue about the narcissist/ empath relationship. Naive to the 3rd power. Still reviewing, regretting and imaging I could have fixed it. I know now she never was all in as a wife or mother...

Barry, You can't fix them. Once you get through the pain you will be ok. I finally did after about 2 years. Life is wonderful

Johnnancy Cislak I hope your situation is better now.

I'm in that situation now. I just need to survive 1.5 years before I can get a divorce

Johnnancy Cislak I'm in the exact same shoes as you John

johnnancy cislak I am living like you no family nothing even my dog is blind and I am heartbroken as he is all I have and it torments me don't feel alive like you each day is like a puff of smoke gone suddenly silent treatment ignores me but thanks to videos like this you start to understand the games they play s everyday make that baby step towards your financial independence you can do it. and there are so many ways to make money on the internet get out. find your beautiful self again!! go for it!! god bless

I hope your situation is better now🙏🏼

I tell you that is what I hate the most that I actually started to believe that I'm what he makes me out to be,I don't know if it makes sense what I'm trying to say,in the funny thing is one's he has put me down as far as possible (emotionally) when I start feeling like, don't you ever come close to me again, that's the point where he starts telling me how much I mean to him, and still tells me let's start over, just don't do the things anymore that make me mad,in here I'm giving him another chance,in it's been 23 years

I was married for 34 years. Got married at 21. Had absolutely no clue about personality disorders back then, no one talked about it. Nowadays everyone is talking about it. Living with him was like living under a cloud, a thunder cloud. No joy, ever. I kept hoping and praying that things would get better and that he'd suddenly miraculously gain an appreciation of what he had and then one day, I woke up to the fact that I could never give enough. I had nothing left to give.

@@sueheller They suck the life out of you and you don't even know who you are anymore and they wonder why you aren't the same person you were when they married you....they need to look in the mirror to see the monster they are...of course to them they are perfect and you aren't ever going to be good enough for them.😬 So happy I'm free and away from the crazy man I married years ago...23 years was a lifetime to spend with the wrong person.😨

Kelly murray,You deserve better

Discover who you were meant to be, forgive yourself for tolerating it and make new memories. You will move forward in your healing. It doesn’t go away but it becomes less painful.

I could not have said this better myself! Thank you!

Well put! And true! No contact since October last year and feeling free as a bird!

There is hope! Not only do they have negative effects on our health, they don't take care of us when we are ill. However, the world has to stop spinning if they catch a cold. I'm sorry you're in that situation. I hope you can move quickly and steadily to an exit from the pain. Reach out any time. nmarie350@gmail.com

Same here..20 years..had heart attack 1 year ago..laying in hospital I realized EVERYTHING!.. I was financially stuck too..got a job, enuf $ I'm out!

Omg when I had covid he dint want to take me to the hospital also I have anxiety and get weird feelings in my body he acts like he doesnt care.

Me too! 1) left me for dead in a river after flipping our jet ski. 2) Fell asleep when I told him to call 911 because I was having a heart attack. 3) Left me alone while I was in anaphylaxis so he could go to work. Evil.

@@celesteonthetube wow!!!!

Broke my heart when she said that and her voice cracked 💔

Sue Pickering,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!

Yes.

Sue Pickering,Hope you are not with a narcissist 😈!!

I'm sorry u had to go through so much with demonic troll may the lord be with u

Thank you for sharing and watching! Hugs ~N

Me too and I'm going to get out of my I've been married since March the 3rd 2015 to him and it's been nothing but hell if a man can call you a b**** everyday and think he's better than you I'm moving on I'm not putting up with this anymore he calls me names everything people just wouldn't believe how he talks to me

Very true

Thank you so much for sharing and watching. Sending you hugs and healing ~ N

Hello Shar

Blessings to you @Shar

This is my story family full of Narcs❤

Alaa Baki she is beautiful in and out. She will be happy and he will end up alone

don’t realy on nobody stand tall regards xx

What about what the Bible says that the Lord commands a Wife not to leave her Husband but if she does, she is to remain single or be reconciled. It says Wives are not to depart their Husbands :/ except for sexual immorality and no man can marry a woman who is divorced

@@clairebearie87 what is this nonsense,.? !!! 2021 is the now theses words are not realistic in today’s world. don’t be naive and live a fruitful healthy life. go with these words ..... be kind , be true, treat others the way you want to be treated. Kindly Marcelyne xx

@@marcelyneeyre6839 thank you

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Thank you so much for sharing. So many are going through what you just described. Exposing who they really are helps to break the cycle of abuse. Hugs and healing 🤍

Absolutely 💯

Narcbuster2020,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🥀,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

@@christianpulisic7784 haha thanks. I don't have one now thank goodness. It was a "friend " .

@@Narcbuster-bm6hm You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌺.I am Christian from the States.You?

@@christianpulisic7784 I'm living in Queensland Australia now.

Thats exactly what he gets he will never in a million years find a new you i pray for nothing but positivity for your future

Good post

Girl I know what you are saying , but my two children that are adults knows because he treated them like that when they were younger and when they left home , he started on me . It’s really just heartbreaking, my husband is in a wheelchair and I have to help him with everything and when his health goes down the worse he gets . I thought after his last health crisis he might end up in a home , but it didn’t happen . I have prayed for him for years and he died three times in March of this year and God has given him another chance, but you can’t tell that he has changed at all . For the first few weeks it looked like maybe , but now he’s the same person .

don't stay your smart go for a walk call a cab head to a women's shelter your life is worth living

one thought......he may wear you down and it will be your death. this is what im facing after 52 yrs. of him sucking me dry emotionally and physically.

I am sorry u r going g threw this. I am in the same situation u are In. After 42 years Both sons adults are covert NARCISSISTS .like their Father now,treats me like their Father Keep searching for help Abuse center or crisis center Can help from housing,legal advise Ect.dont give up YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Even if you can't leave physical--- it's still important to acknowledge the truth and find ways of thriving in a difficult situation. Wish you all the best. God bless.

I noticed the past tense in your comment. I hope you are thriving and healing!

Tammy McEwen,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,you don't need a narc 😈 in your life!!

That was beautiful and we'll said !!! God bless you!!! Prayers being sent!!!

sending a hug Trap hope you’re doing better

You are worth more than you can imagine. Love yourself. Love you...

You are a beautiful person blessing to you

Save your money, never tell them about your plans and when you will be ready :Run! Never give him another chance, ales you want to waste next 20 years like me. Hugs

Be courageous . Women can also be narcissists. Thanks for calling our attention to that.

@@noellelove3203 - before she left - ‘you have to be modern about it ‘, with all respect, a true respectable woman should take care of her husband especially if he really cares about her. Women who hate their fathers, cannot have any true relationship with a man. I’m in a relationship with another victim from a narcissistic husband, trying to build lives together from the pieces left behind.

We stay for everyone else and sacrifice our well being. It engrained in us if we have a narcissistic parent. Hugs and healing to you💕

I defended myself too, and i paid big time, should have walked away he stole my soft personality

Hello how are you doing 😊😊☺️☺️

Thank you for sharing and watching. I hope you have someone to talk to. To guide you through the healing process. I promise, it gets better. Hugs and healing💕

I can so relate to this!

Ashley Kettle,Your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!!

Your comment broke my heart. I am also a woman of narcissist abuse in childhood, and in a 10 year marriage. I am praying you are safe and well. I have been divorced for 4 years now, and although the road is tough, I am truly happy and love myself more than ever. God bless you and may you find peace and happiness. You are WORTHY❤

Lone wolf I feel you I love you I pray for your healing as I'm praying for mine.At 73 I've recently stopped a 8th situationship with 77yr old NPD had been on my own for 33yrs. post divorce to a narcissist. I too want to shut out the world but my daughter says be a living example of strength to your grandchildren. That is what shook me awake bc really life is not just about me and my painful memories its leaving a legacy of an empowered woman for my kin.Arohanui from NZ Lone Wolf.

@@raewynurwin4256 I agree. I have to grow beyond the labels and the past and the truth is that it is an illness that affects the entire fam. I send you love and strength. Sis.

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You will become the person you were, before you meet him...

I am!!! I plan to share some updates and new videos soon!!!