Experienced divorce lawyer here. Great video! I wish everyone would get educated on narcissistic personality disorder so they can RUN from these evil people. If you get a whiff of these toxic narcissistic personality behaviors, do NOT marry. Exit the relationship and go no contact. You will thank me later.

The more we educate ourselves about the toxic personality types, the easier it gets to detach from them. The key is to remember 1. They will NOT help you when you are in need 2. They will not support your growth 3. They are not and will never be happy for you 4. You can't fix them with love 5. Even with therapy, Narcissism is not curable

Divorcing him was the hardest and most rewarding fight of my life.

When you've been ghosted by a narcissist ~ CELEBRATE! I'm serious. Move on and create your own life as you see best. ❤

My heart broke into a million pieces but he will never change and so I’m not fixing things now. I’m detoxing on this toxic love which I put up with for 20 years. I’m still in recovery and it hurts. My advice to those who are suffering is do not dwell on the good times because it’s damaging. You will want to go back many times but think of how callous they can be and how lonely you were in the relationship. Keep moving forward let’s stay strong together.

You are literally saving lives with this information

Healing is a long process, I left over a year ago then the hateful things he did lesson in my mind and I start to miss that fantasy he created, the fantasy person I really hoped to live a life with. So, I thought that maybe he changed a bit and grew so I wrote him an email and he called me. He was so sweet for 8 hours and a devil again for 16. Lessons learned, you can’t go back to an imaginary person and they will never become someone they never were. Perhaps I was just lonely and I see I am better off alone than with a narc.

Yes it is because of the trauma bond!! Its not like a normal relationship. The narcopath makes you addicted to them on purpose and know exactly what they're doing to you because they're predators who have victimized plenty before you.

Walking away, leaving everything behind and pursuing my goals, relocation, making new friends, reinventing myself was the best thing I did and heal.

We are programed to never say someone is hopeless, but a narcissist getting better is hopeless. Hanging onto false hope plays a big part in the trauma bond and soul tie.

The way to beat and defeat the narcissists don't engage , don't defend , don't justify , don't explain, and don't personalize !!!!!!! Narcs have ruined billions lives in this universe!!!!!

I needed to hear alot of this. I thank God, He is giving me strength and peace. I would have never thought I would go back and forth...prayers for all those who feel trapped.

1. They'll never see it and they'll never change. 2. Toxification between siblings and parent-child. 3.No contact. And lots of support from healthy friends and relatives. 4.Get over my guilt. Forgive me. Self care/love. 5. Heal the inner child. 6. Amp up my empathy. Ty

My narc sent me a 5k check to try to get me to break no contact. I shredded it and stayed no contact. I believe I did the right thing. Some things are more important than money...like my soul. My narc is a soul crushing person, so I need to permanently stay away. Sad.

HE has forced me to let go. HE made my change permanent.

I was broken and devastated 6 months ago after the discard that I decided would be the final discard. I busted my ass inside and out. I literally tortured myself fighting through the hurt, however I am in such a better, peaceful and much happier place mentally, emotionally and spiritually now. I'm not where I want to be but I am so far from where I used to be and exactly where I need to be.

Dear Danish ~ I am SO sorry that you were so mistreated by your family and others. I am, however, grateful that because of the abuse you suffered you know what those of us who want to recover need. Thank YOU!

I checked most of your video's. So helpful and supportive. Being a young widow for many years. I met a person and wanted to start a new life again. He was so nice and was happy only for 3 months. Saw red flags but blind by love. Suffered one and half years with verbal abuse. I totally forgot who I am wanted to committed suicide. Finally decided to let go be and be free. Final argument became a blessing to me totally went no contact. Its 3 years. Feel happy and occupied myself. He still trying to hoover me. Forgiven and move forward. Bless everyone who have been through in life. Once you let go God bring better friends, opportunities and correct people in life.

I completely cut off contact with my narcissistic husband after he discarded me. It was and is very difficult. I blocked his number, removed myself from any social media except you tube. All of a sudden now I’m receiving emails from him. He’s saying how much he misses me and is pleading to be unblocked so he can hear my voice. I haven’t responded and believe me it’s very hard not to. I just try to focus on his personality and how he made me feel and how inconsistent and unstable our relationship or marriage was. That focus helps me to stay strong ❤

It’s always something else or someone else’s fault! So true!!!

Something that has really helped me is realizing that it is profitless to spend time trying to figure out whether he was treating me like that on purpose, or whether he couldn't hep being awful to me. It doesn't matter. Telling yourself 'they didn't mean to be that way' does not help you stop falling for their nonsense. It doesn't matter if they did the damage naturally or deliberately. They did the damage. It's our responsibility to protect ourselves from the damage. Stop trying to guess motive.

Detach and run 🏃🏾‍♂️

Narcissists are experts at setting up the tension first thing in the morning. If you have made the slightest mistake, they start cursing under their breath at every little annoyance. They will BANG things just loud enough to let you know they’re pissed of at you, that your very existence is insufferable to them. I used to ask what the matter was, but that’s a booby trap too because I should already know what I did to piss them off. The only mistake I have really made was not leaving the house before it got light, before the kraken awakened.

You are so right about how they expect women to be dressed they are so insecure .

Go no contact from the inside Have a mental boundary

I believe everyone has a potential to change if they really want to, and are willing to put forth time and effort to make the change. Problem is these personality types won't even try. Some will lie and say they want to, but it is only said to real you back in. Once you're back with them, it eventually all goes to hell again.

I tried really hard to “ love” the narcissist I was dealing with at one time. Just basic human love It was a business situation. I came to the conclusion that someone like that is pretty much un-lovable.

Its been 2 months since i left my narcissist, still im feeling lost like it happend yesterday, its not that i lost him it actually feels like i lost myself.

It's the cleanup of the Mess that hurts worse. Like how can a person just act like you are not left with a ton of $hit to sort thru. They ghost us like we hurt them

That's all I need anymore how you detach you wait for the perfect timing then you dump them like a robotic bag of rotten flesh you drop them like a hot potato you go narcissistic on them if you don't you'll regret it don't ever feel sorry for them you know exactly what they're doing

The trauma remains as a shadow over the entire family. Not just the Narc and Target.

I must listen again again and again to clear the fog We are humans and love is a need But this should not make us be exploited abused We need to see the bigger picture not the minutae and think may be they are good after all We need to first cure ourselves of dissonance We need to be mentally physically strong Strictly no contact All you said is absolutely correct Need to discipline myself on these lines Thank you

Ty for this. I saw read flags and he told me his character when he was younger. Little did I know it was who he is now. He told me in his younger days He slept with his cousins wife. His teacher assistant in high school, and a friends mothers ..yet I was told I was a cheater and with someone else when I walked away. These people are predators and never change. He always had some spare desperate women on the side waiting, always hiding his phone.. one called him and couldn't even pronounce his name correctly.. he loves them chasing him.. Desperate women always line up for men like this. I ran away.

I love all you videos. I need constant reassurance that me detaching is the right thing to do. I’m a sucker for the occasional good behaviour.

NO CONTACT IS THE BEST! 👍👍

I stopped trying to change them a long time ago. Wishing and hoping is useless, encouraging them to get help is seen as a put down, attack etc. I had a difficult time with how someone who says they love you could treat you in such a abusive way. I wish I could find someone in my area for therapy for me, but they're really difficult to find someone around here that has experience or knowledge of this. Thank you for this it is really helpful in giving a understanding of no contact. It still pains me inside that someone you love and proclaims to love you, could say and do the things they do. For some reason the most recent relationship, which was short because I broke it off because of the abuse. Thankfully i got out before the physical started. He treated to beat me up. I was hurt and shocked by this. He is a big guy 6'2" and 280 lbs. Im a 5'3" 140 lb woman. He could really hurt or kill me if he hit me. I have isolated myself because I don't wanna ever be involved with anyone like this again. It's easier to be alone, and Ive atracted to many of these men. They are so nice in the beginning, taking you out, helping you with things around the house, cooking for you, buying you some of your favorite foods and deserts, sending you flowers, balloons etc. Then suddenly they turn into raging abusive monsters. Then they remind you of the nice things they did for you when you tell them you are breaking it off, leaving etc. My first boyfriend was one of these and I was so young, i stayed with him 6 years, that is the longest Ive been with anyone, because I got out more quickly after him. I'm so done with it. I got tangled with at least 5 different ones, at different times, of course. Too many of these types lurking around looking for someone to put up with it. Got the wrong girl here, no thanks

Of all the narcissistic videos I’ve watched, yours are my favorite. They are short enough to get to the point yet long enough to provide valuable information and examples. I especially like how you emphasize the importance of ignoring the narcissist as much as possible and to focus on self care and healing. Your videos are giving me strength as I go through a split with my husband who I’ve been with 19 years, more than half my life! I’m definitely learning we had a strong trauma bond. So I have some work to do there. Thanks again! I’m a new subscriber.😊

Thank you Danish! After 2 weeks of no contact. I sometimes 😢wonder if I did the right thing but then the memory of pain returns. I go to your videos and realize that I made the right choice! I will continue No contact!!!!! 😊

This is helpful and practical advice. It's important to stop engaging with the narcissist. This means not getting into discussions or arguments with them. It's also vital, however, to stop enmeshing your heart and mind with them. Doing this means taking the further step of not getting into imaginary arguments or discussions with them. It's important not to chase your own tail and get caught up in a cycle of imagining saying all the things you want to say to them. If the imaginary arguments phase goes on too long it becomes rumination and it will drain your energy. Instead, write down what you want to say and archive it. Divorce your mind and emotions from the narcissist so you can focus on what makes you happy in present time.

After wasting DECADES of my life with various versions of these demons, I finally understood that they are here to push you into your true Self. Time may have appeared to have been wasted, but it was yours to give and so the lessons, though hard, were necessary for growth. Every day I wake up in gratitude that I am no longer connected to these demons and can recognize them when I see them. Thank you, Danish, for being here to guide people on the path to healing. Jai Jai !

Thank you. You help me see clearly when I don’t want to believe he’s able to change. Holding onto that hope has sucked me dry and this 4 year relationship, married for 1, has hurt me beyond belief. To my soul. He left and I filed for divorce. Rather be alone than abused and treated so terribly wiry lack of respect and boundaries. Manipulated and Pushed beyond moral compass many times.

Yes, extremely hard after knowing and loving him for 40 years. I had kept in touch with him all these years. He finally divorced her after 25 yrs we got back together. I always thought he was the love of my life. He had totally changed into a monster that I hardly recognized. I thought he would change but after 6 yrs of the lies, criticism, devaluing, lying and then cheating I left him. It took me almost 5 yrs before I educated myself in narcissism and knew I had to stop playng the game and walk away. Hardest thing ever leaving him because of the trauma bond. U become reactive agressive. I am done and at peace.

I would like to hear a video about how the narcissist creates all problems weather fincial, mental or emotionally and then offer the "solutions " to stop the abuse and/or suffering. Creating that bond as not only traumatic but co dependent compliancy to maintain their victims in a hostage situations. How can a victim break free of this entanglement and manage their mental health? After care? Resources? Thank you. Your videos are powerful. Many blessings.

Thank you for validating my experience and feelings. I totally changed for him and tried to get him to see how good of a relationship we could have. The rumination and loneliness were brutal. I had to go through the horrible pain. Now I am working on healing my past trauma. I can only do this in the absence of any toxicity. No contact is the only way. Its getting better and I am getting stronger. Healing is the path. Prayers up to all survivers.

The void they leave when they are gone is so hard because they were all consuming and so intense

I've been self isolating since I was a child. I don't have any close friends.

I feel like I had to go through the grief stages. I had to discover on my own that you cannot change people. Then I had to give up the dream of fixing her. Then I had to learn to deal with my own anger, 30 years of marriage trained me to be angry at her. Now I'm learning not to react. This is the hard part because she's given up on making me angry and now just humiliates me. In the moment it's hard not to internalize it. I'm getting better at it. Thanks for this advice, it's exactly what someone in my place needs to learn.

This is all true! It is such a painful process! My ex promised me a wonderful life, confessed endless devotion and promises….he turned out to be a heartless narcissist that left me, out of no where, broken and confused.

Being or not being alone is individual. My advice here is, don´t be afraid of being alone. It can push you into despair and you may feel the same as when you still were in a narcissistic relationship - trapped, enslaved. I´m autistic. And i was scared of being alone, until i realized, i NEED to be alone. I do not need to be within community to have an ability to function - in fact, just being surrounded by people when in work, exhausts me. After all, being alone does not mean being lonely. And not just if you are autistic or introverted. Being alone is often needed to sort things out within yourself. Not everything can be consulted with someone, especially self-reflection must come from within yourself. And to self-reflect efficiently, you need to listen to yourself.

I feel so happy that I have achieved the ability to have little contact and indifference to my daughter. When I demonstrated to her that I would no longer condone her behaviour, she discarded me. But after a few weeks of extreme grief at not seeing her son my grandson, I am getting back to myself......Praying really helps! I will eventually ask a Court for visitation of the little boy. I do not want to be in contact with anyone in my family but him.

Totally agree was left with sooo much trauma but was sooo lucky to have a great GP who helped me through it and PTSD it was HORRIFIC.

Danish, I'm so thankful to God for you and your videos. I want to shout it from the rooftops! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Thank you, it made sense to understand what is happening to me, this is almost like a addiction

1. Do not try to heal them. 2. Minimize or even cut off contact. 3. Do not feed them with reactions. Reactions are like fuel for them. 4. Stop all forms of contact with them. 5. See the bigger picture and do not get distracted by the minutiae. 6. Take responsibility for your emotional healing and your needs, give yourself time to heal.

I just feel so stupid. I saw a completely different man from what he actually was. He lied and he lied and he lied. It took 30 years for the scales to fall from my eyes. I cannot wait to be free of him.

I left a Narcissit after watching your videos..i was stressed confused!!He cut me off from my family And friends!!He used to tell me Am useless!!he used to tell me without him i wont be able to survive!!And i believed him..i gót courage And left...Am being supported by family And friends,,to recorver from Narcissit!so far Am doing well

No contact was the only way to fix me. She has tried in so many ways to get my attention, she's gotten nothing but tumbleweeds and crickets.

This is vital information that I needed to hear. Thank you

Thanks for your great 👍🙂 understanding of the toxic attachment with an empty person who has nothing to give but demands more and more… and drains you totally empty 😅 thank god I am free now 🙏💃🏼 Thanks a lot for your good advice🌟

I always talk out loud here in my home by myself and I act like I am talking to him without him here it helps me a lot.. :)

Hi Danish... Yes understand this fully now after much pain and suffering... My ex narc was a psychopath and actually enjoyed seeing me suffer with a smirk on his face.. I went through soooo much after going no contact, its a very stressful time Thanks for your insight!

This helped me to realize the loneliness I have been feeling. Your discussion about connection hit home for me. I lost my mother during Aug of 2021 and I believe my vulnerability in coping with grief and processing her passing is a factor in backsliding as far as my recovery. I also see that I am grieving the loss of the person I wanted the narcissist to be at the same time..the humble, caring, man was the mask. I didn’t want to believe that he could be so incredibly heartless but it’s what is beneath his mask. I have been blocking and unblocking while knowing that it is not a good thing to do. I just blocked again. It feels like when I quit smoking years ago..the cold turkey phase. It was a huge struggle with the initial cravings and it’s something I must always acknowledge with myself.

Thank you so much ! I have fallen in love with a narcissist and it's really hard to move on now but your videos are helping me 😇

Danish" You have helped me understand that I had better learn Unconditional Love for myself, so I can heal from emotional trauma, and move forward in self-discovery even at my sweet independent young age of 57" I grew up in a narcist family, and have always identified with low vibes in that aspect, I was dealing with a narcist male friend and tomorrow is his court date for doing the most to me a year ago", This situation has thrown me into a spiritual awakening about 3 years ago", for that I am Thankful" the rest Not so much" God Bless Everyone"

Thank you! You have made a huge difference. I have been trying to figure out what is going on with my life. My husband of 13 years, used triangulation with my boss. I’m a career focus woman. So this huge thing happened and I went searching for answers. It came through spiritually guiding me to more and more research. I realize I’m an empath and went from a marriage from one narcissist to another. On both extremes. Don’t worry the healing starts now. Time to take my power back. Stop wasting my time. Watch out world!!

I was fully convinced that he discarded me. But everything you mention in this video is what he is doing with me. The narcissist is doing grey rock treatment with me.

The content was so good and perfect ! So accurate . Thanks for the guidance .

This is the best video of yours I have watched. I was discarded a month ago, have been going no contact however missing her and almost tempted to make contact as like you said I thought about the good days. She contacted me a few days ago but my response was sarcastic as am now moving on as I know there is no hope for our relationship.

Sometimes, they will either text U or call U from another #. TEXT: Respond “Wrong person/number. Calls: do Not answer ANY unknown # OR Unfamiliar #’s. Maintain No Contact ( Block Social Media & ANY Number U feel they R calling U from. Heal PRAY Rejoice That U got rid of them. Narcissists Only Hold U back from reaching your FULL Potential. Please Please do Not tell yourself that they will change cause they won’t. They have a Mental Illness.

Been watching many videos on narcissists for about 2yrs. You are great and add so much. Thank you for taking the time to share and teach. Making an impact and helping to strengthen my soul.

It makes sense what you explained about the ups and down that it equates to the trauma bond, feeling split and the questioning and feeling confused being the cognitive dissonance. It helps to name the experiences and realise what is happening to break this confusion and trauma bond cycle. You provide a great understanding and solution around emotionally detaching and not re-establishing contact due to loneliness. Been guilty of this but this information is empowering. Still battling whether or not to end relationship. I know the answer but it's difficult. Hard pill to digest the reality and fact of the matter.

You are the best life coach and Thank you! Danish for caring so much to help people heal.

This man is saving lives out there through this channel ❤

20 years if covert abuse. Now healed and so free! Wonderful feeling when I see him I feel nothing. Afterthought is I threw up in my mouth.

I sometimes listen /watch your videos over and over again so that your message will sink into my head. Thanks again

Thank you so much for understanding and putting into words these complex feelings. This is really helpful advice

Many people watching this video who are Narcissistically abused badly, they are even afraid of liking this video...because the self doubt in abuse is so deeply planted that it's very difficult to get out of that trauma

You explain it all so well. Nobody else (that I know of) talks about this part of healing.

Been listening to all your videos. You cover topics most KZfaqrs don’t cover. This toxic narcissistic traits makes so much sense to me and what I’ve been doing trying to protect myself from this toxic entity. Thank you!

Thank you so much! Your suggestions were very useful in putting together a valid plan to start detaching yourself from these ultimate evil kind of people. God bless u!

It has been 5 months since i went no contact. He never had control over my emotions. I always kept my cool.

Thank you so much for sharing all your knowledge. I appreciate all your time and effort. I have a twin sister who is pretty narcissistic and we are not close and never will be as I do not trust her and realized quite some time ago that something is wrong with her. My entire family is pretty much about constant projection and literally very little growth. I have been no contact for quite some time. I only have the utmost empathy for people who have married a narcissistic person or who are tied in some way to them and they cannot walk away. I am so glad that I have seen the light. You have helped me become free of these toxic and unhealthy people.

I have to share this house with my husband, we are separated but live in the same home. It's so hard, I've stressed 100 per cent of the time. We are both 63 and I've lived 31 years of hell. I'm so tired,

Thank you so much Danish. You are helping me a great deal with your gentle voice and clear instructions on how to deal with and heal from the narcissitic abuse from my partner I have recently left.

I have been suffering for a very long time and you’re teaching is going to save my life

Indifference is the key if you can’t go no contact. 100%

Thank you so much. I spoke with psychologists over the years and not once was it suggested in any way just what I was dealing with and I spent years in confusion.

These steps work... and take so much energy and time but TOTALLY worth it in the loooong run. Coz getting stronger takes consistency and time .Being spiritually deeply rooted gives emotional strength.

I have just found your channel and have found it is one of the best I have studied narciss m for over a year now and have discovered that the 2 main people in my life have controlled me for their own reasons lam starting the healing process now with God's help and channel's like yours to those people who have suffered dont give up there is peace and healing for you God' bless xxx

Thanks, it makes me heal and gives comfort. Am getting help from your session.

The bigger picture advice in particular is absolutely excellent. Thank you!

Your words in this video is what I needed to hear. Thank you

Really like the clear points you make. I have bin Dealing with each one of your suggestions and this really helps. The sense of loneliness when leaving a nark is harder than I ever imagined. Thanks for your comments.

thank you so much for these videos. They resonate very deeply.

Thank you for these videos. They are helping me to understand the Narcissist I am currently dealing with and helping me to deal with it in the most constructive way possible.

Sir, I gave, gave and gave., it was all about his priorities and his moods to accept or throw my words. I broke up a month ago, can’t tell you how much I am traumatized. Thats why I have an appointment with the doctor, counselor and a psychiatrist. It began with doctor, she suggested counselor and then I was directed to psychiatric therapy. I was already vulnerable with the loss of my husband and mom in one year of time.

OMG - how much does this video is right on the mark & I NEED TO TAKE THE SUGGESTIONS & JUST DO IT B/4 I die! THANK YOU SO MUCH

Powerful knowledge and wisdom here.... This is really resonating personally and professionally at the moment. Thanks 😊

Thank you Danish! Your videos is a breath of fresh air. Indeed, you have enabled me to feel hopeful! Keep helping and showing people a way out of hopelessness. Thank you again.

I never realized positivity still feeds his narcissistic ego. Thank you, Danish, for changing my life ❤