#1 Reason Women See You as Sexual Candidate and 10 Concrete Tips to Avoid the Friendzone

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I tell you this because I want you to be at least CONSIDERED as a sexual candidate. I DO NOT want you to get rejected outright without even a chance in hell:
Most women, especially when they're young, only know how to have a submissive sexual experience. Therefore she is ONLY able to accept a guy who can provide a passable dominant vibe. It is IMPOSSIBLE for her to fathom having sex with a guy who is not exhibiting enough dominant behaviors cause she wouldn't even know how to do it.
Most young women sadly do not have the sexual confidence to take and get what THEY need from sex. Sadly many women do not even know how to orgasm nor do they feel it is necessary to do so during sex. It is a well accepted fact that many many women FAKE orgasms because they feel the pressure is SO HUGE to please the guy. Women are very rarely comfortable demanding what they deserve, admitting what they like or even KNOWING what they like sexually.
Therefore women are looking for what they know. They have been raised and possibly primed, evolutionarily speaking, to look for a strong, dominant guy.
In fact, they're looking for the strongest, best, most dominant evolutionarily speaking guy they can get. BUT YOU WILL DO. IF and only IF, you exhibit a passable level of dominant behavior.
You do NOT need to be BORN some sort of confident sex god. OFTEN you merely need to be good enough, passably dominant, so that she can even CONSIDER having sex with you when she feels in the mood for a hookup.
Make sure to hit the points in this checklist when going out with a girl:
1. You should initiate all initial messages and further the conversation with questions
2. You should suggest and put forward a specific place, time and date for the date
3. You should ask her questions on the date rather than talking about yourself too much to impress her
4. You should compliment her frequently on the date
5. You should direct the date and ideally take her to a different places on the date
6. You should guide her there by holding her hand and leading her there
7. You should pay to put her in a 1950s state of mind
8. You should physically escalate instead of kissing her at the end with no build up
Always 0-10-20-30-40-50-60-70-80-90-100 rather than 0-100 REAL QUICK
9. You should ask her to come back to your place with a convenient hang out excuse (and be ok with just hanging out if that's what she wants)
10. At your place you should initiate the makeout
11. You should text her saying the date went well and take 100% responsibility for initiating the the next date
Please tell me any thoughts you have in the comments. I love to read the comments. I respond to all unless I miss one. Then just comment again please and let me know I haven't responded yet. I hope this helps you.
(I apologize for syncing being horribly off in this video. I will film with my phone from now on)
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@fungaiedinboro3667 3 жыл бұрын

Me in my teens: How do I get laid. Me in 20's: How do I get a girlfriend. Me in my 30's: Doesn't care anymore. 😒

@Austin-vo2gh Жыл бұрын

When your goal is to get a girlfriend you won’t get one. You need to build a life that women want to be a part of

@warlockpaladin2261 6 ай бұрын

Me in my 40's: Trying to get some practice with women. 😓

@larsweb3 5 ай бұрын

@@warlockpaladin2261 same here. First they have 4 bad relationships and then they want the nice introvert intelligent tall guy

@mikedegrazia 5 ай бұрын

40's how do i get rid of her .. 😅

@DJV94022 5 ай бұрын

@@mikedegraziainsurrance frauds and shit

@cordariusniter5735 3 жыл бұрын

Use fun. People don’t realize how powerful being fun power is. When your having fun the mind is relax and free.

@brentallen876 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@XJacksonvilleX 2 жыл бұрын

but dont be too fun to look like some clown

@HyperbolicMind 2 жыл бұрын

yo facts

@catocall7323 5 ай бұрын

Fun is the ultimate hack and it's fun.

@MayankSharma-vz5of Ай бұрын

Rsd

@MarkL-we8uk Ай бұрын

In my 46 years on this planet, what I have recently discovered to be a very powerful tool is that if a woman you like sees other women flirting with you, hitting on you etc then they suddenly want you..

@cautarepvp2079 Ай бұрын

women want what other women want... peer pressure

@MarkL-we8uk Ай бұрын

@@cautarepvp2079 it's more than that.

@l1vg1rl Ай бұрын

@@cautarepvp2079 think of it as peer review

@snigie1 Ай бұрын

Chuck on a wedding ring, they see it as well someone thinks he's worth their time and they see it as a challenge

@liltunturi1251 Ай бұрын

@@cautarepvp2079 yeah there is definitely some truth to that, that is why social media content is majorly consumed by women, they need to see what is good and what is bad today, like a hivemind. It is kind of freaky. Men dont do it as much, we tend to stick to our own opinions and morals and objectives, we dont get too influenced by "influencers".. imo at least

@petersmithyy4556 6 ай бұрын

When you're on a date and you're asking questions about her, let's be honest it has to also be a two-way street. If the guy is the only one asking questions about her and she's not really asking anything about him, then it means that she's not really showing much interest in getting to know him. It can't be completely one-sided.

@ZacharyMurray-xe8nu 5 ай бұрын

Dealing with this RN and have dealt with this with several GFS Look ladies I get how evo psych works and how y'all work, but having to be the dominant initatior. Every. Single. Time. Gets old and it gets grating. Not saying we need to completely alter our hard wiring by any means, cuz one, that's not even possible lol, but I am saying, at some point, shit has to be at least somewhat reciprocal

@L6FT 5 ай бұрын

@@ZacharyMurray-xe8nu How do women respond when you tell them that? :-)

@KNOXX707 5 ай бұрын

You guys are failing to understand the harsh truth. They aren't that interested in you as a person to begin with. It's all about what you can do for them and how you can make them feel. If you guys are still caught up in finding a woman who likes you. For just you you will be on the losing end for a long time. What can you do for her is what you need to start asking yourself to get what you want. If you're looking for a woman to love you from an emotional standpoint, you haven't grown up yet. Or you've been watching too many movies.

@L6FT 5 ай бұрын

@@KNOXX707 Not so much off the bat, what can I do for her. If you already have a good life, then you've qualified yourself. You then must qualify if you like her or not. If yes, then engage with her, get on the same page, enjoy each others company, remember have fun.

@victornewman508 4 ай бұрын

@@KNOXX707true, they are always thinking, what's in it for me..

@johnhue8933 6 ай бұрын

For some reason I am more inclined to listen to what this woman has to say about relationships than all the so called relationship experts on KZfaq.

@joshuavoight7077 3 ай бұрын

I believe that she is truthful

@Wobbothe3rd Ай бұрын

She's saying the exact same thing any good PUA would say. She's right, but this isn't new.

@Jamse. 16 күн бұрын

be physically attractive.

@CallOfDutySniperzzz 3 жыл бұрын

Damn you just tell what society has been trying to undo over the last 50 years. From all the advice I've seen in my life this is the most straight no bs helpful ever. You seriously deserve more views and subs than all the other channels combined. I wish you all the best and thanks again

@Jade_Heart_ Жыл бұрын

It’s pure facts.

@gareonconley1956 6 ай бұрын

cant believe this comment is already two years old, look how great things have evolved

@FloppaTheBased 5 ай бұрын

just be tall and handsome bro

@LaurenAtTenn 5 ай бұрын

@@FloppaTheBasedheight doesn’t matter unless your abnormal short. It’s about protection and how attractive you are

@FloppaTheBased 5 ай бұрын

@@LaurenAtTenn exactly, and anything less than 6ft is abnormal short to women today

@_thebigsteve 6 ай бұрын

This is honestly so disheartening to hear as man. It sounds like you have to babysit a woman and her emotions constantly and always be hunting down clout and material acquisition so you can never truly think of them for a moment as your equal and in effect treat them like something between a dependent and furniture. I truly aspire for something more equal and complimentary for my life and purpose that I don't think should be very difficult in a healthy world, but if these reflect female expectations it's no wonder the dating market is in crisis. No self control, no regulating of emotions, or priorities on her actions and wants. It's all on Daddy to take care of your every need and want all the time. Truly pathetic if true.

@marguskiis7711 6 ай бұрын

Weird things is, if you take care of a women she gets bored and dumps you to find some heavy drinking/drugging bad boy to run after.

@Brainlag7 5 ай бұрын

Yeah you see both of you make this big mistake - assuming that there is just one formula for all or the majority. Nah that's not how humans work. We are vastly complex compared to each other.

@Coalition4NewerVision 5 ай бұрын

I think you are reading to much into this in a way that perhaps just is confirmation bias that reflects on your previously held beliefs and you are seeing it through those colored glasses. When I heard it I didn’t think any of those thoughts you are saying. Women and men are equals, but DIFFERENT. You can’t blame women for their biology of liking strong men, just as much as you can’t blame men for liking feminine women, or breasts haha. You saying all this about ‘no self control, no regulating of emotions, priorities.. daddy gotta take care of your every need’ has absolutely nothing to do with what she said. Just cause you pay on the first date doesn’t mean you gotta take care of her every need, just cause you ask about her and make the first move and make her feel good about herself and take interest in her etc doesn’t mean what you’re making it out to be. These things honestly come naturally to a lot of men, I’m not trying to insult you but maybe you just aren’t the dominant type of man that women biologically are interested in. Maybe not so, not trying to offend you i’m just saying you taking out all this anger on women and acting like treating them well is a chore or something and insulting them as a whole is kinda off putting and I think you absolutely are not thinking straight about the topic. Well wishes regardless, I hope you find true love because I can tell we both share a desire for a woman to love and care for

@_thebigsteve 5 ай бұрын

@@Coalition4NewerVision I'm more than willing to admit that's possible and more than likely from my experience I'm jaded and recovering. I would contend though that perhaps you're one series of dominoes falling from undergoing a similar crisis if you have the inner strength to be honest with yourself about your relation to the world. Like if you lost your significant other, your children, your family, and your job at once especially for factors you have some degree of control over. You can see where even if you can't fathom it you would likely change greatly. I definitely have areas where I'm not the most masculine, but I have the insite to know the majority of the factors you're getting at in the internal masculine structure of how a lot of men function is based on a very Rocky foundation based on years of tradition and false confidence that has carried the human species for a long time, but is coming to a head in our current time in many different social and economic factors that point towards one reality: human beings in general have been bsing for too long, remained unaccountable to their environmental consequences and inability to evolve internally so if they don't change course are going to pay a heavy price or lose the game of life in general. It's understandable why many people start from a traditional masculine or feminine framework for social functionality and the female perspective is very attune to that for a survival standpoint, but too many men and women alike are coasting off of instinct that only gets us so far, and moreover reaps terrible consequences if unregulated. I think even of people aren't on board with all the worldview I've stipulated, and even if you're right that I'm overthinking the fact that my comment is receiving some attention and support even from this audience gets at a larger problem which deserves answers and some female accountability. An increasingly rare quality in my findings. Bless you as well though and I hope we all find the loving supportive partners we deserve.

@_thebigsteve 5 ай бұрын

@@Brainlag7 I sincerely hope you're right my friend. I can't wait to meet the type of women that deviate heavily from this example 🙏❤

@noname-pz9kb 6 ай бұрын

I think this is true. I am married with children and went out for a drink solo some time ago. One of these days where everything gets too much so you need some alone time. So I am sitting by this bar by myself reading some random magazine. The bartender seems to be done her shift and sits down one seat over from me. I keep reading and eventually she puts her phone down on the counter when I saw her cat as her lock screen. I strike up a conversation which was purely based on interest for her cat - I have been with my wife for 20 hears and plan to keep it that way. Over the course of the conversation she reveals her feminist views which I strongly challenge to her face. I say no a bunch of times and even shake my head at her. After some time when she was done her wine she asks me to come home with her. After I had challenged and rejected everything she said. I said no. She goes over to her friend for a minute, then cones back and asks again. Still said no. Let me tell you, this is not how things went when I was single. I tried to charm and please way too much. It seems that an assertive stance is received much, much better though.

@thewhatorwhy 6 ай бұрын

Being attracted to people who reject you shows that such women are psycho's.

@samuelarminana 5 ай бұрын

Do you let your wife get a drink solo?

@colemanalbright7134 5 ай бұрын

This has been my experience as well… Unfortunately women are more attracted to men they’re intimidated by. Believe it or not, in a weird way it almost makes them feel safer around men when this happens. Such a fucking shame

@ItsAxelFoley 4 ай бұрын

@@samuelarminanashutuppppp 🙄

@JamesRDavenport 4 ай бұрын

That's how it goes. When you're spoken for, other women can sense that you don't need them or their approval. Which makes them seek yours. Weird huh?

@miknes12345 Ай бұрын

This is just too much work. I can only be myself, I don't have a goal to make anyone feel submissive. I will be myself, take it or leave it.

@RapRants 19 күн бұрын

You're saying that like you have tons of options. Most women do and if they can't get what they want from you, there will be another man there to satisfy that need/want. The world won't stop for you

@miknes12345 18 күн бұрын

@@RapRants Such a woman is not worth having.

@doctornov7 16 күн бұрын

Surely you’re open to evolving as a person? If so, this is something to think about as it may lead to future success and positive experiences.

@hehenoelo4858 15 күн бұрын

@@RapRants Amount of men and women is almost even in society (slightly more men), so women don't really have a choice. If they will just sleep with few % of males, then they will be lonely mothers. They have to adjust their expectations to reality. It's pretty funny that there are so many videos like this which tell men what they need to be or what they should do, but there are almost none videos that target women like this. Woman doesnt have to do anything, just be xD And then you have to ask yourself is it even worth it anymore?

@majcorpsie5345 14 күн бұрын

Then they'll leave it. Other men can and will put in the work.

@Charlotte-ro9pf 18 сағат бұрын

Randomly came across this video as a young woman and I just have to say: THIS WOMAN IS 100% CORRECT. Listen to her, gents

@aamirmajeed2040 3 жыл бұрын

When you are a nice guy its game over

@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 3 жыл бұрын

And when you are a socially incompetent asshole it’s game over too. Things aren’t black or white in this endeavor at all. I know it from treatment of my own girl. Things are more complex than often portrayed. The author of this channel is one of the very few women who can address that complexity.

@teliph3U 2 жыл бұрын

@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 Well, I hate to break the news to you, but it's the age of online dating. You can try to be dominant all you want but if you don't have the looks upfront it's pointless. In fact, I would argue that being dominant or self-conscious is strongly correlated with being attractive simply because getting positive feedback early in life for your looks promotes this behavior.

@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 2 жыл бұрын

@@teliph3U and your point is that looks is mostly responsible for getting good treatment from early on ? Come on man, you say this in this channel with such a wise lady as a leader ? Don’t you know where substance comes from ?

@teliph3U 2 жыл бұрын

@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 It's mostly about looks. Obviously, status and resources are important when it comes to long-term relationships. But online dating is only about looks and since almost 50% of relationships are made through that it is a pretty clear case. It is kind of insulting to hear that from someone with your name claiming authority or experience are the best sources of knowledge.

@SherKhan-rd9uw 2 жыл бұрын

@@teliph3U Unforunateely ur wrong LMAO

@dwcromartie9280 3 жыл бұрын

She in touch with both her female and male side.. fascinating.

@nagihangot6133 2 жыл бұрын

She do be, tho.

@amarmrkulic1389 2 жыл бұрын

Sigma grindset

@Aconte313 5 ай бұрын

Bruh this shit confusing I get women want a fearless leader but what does it mean when she still acts like a modern women then wants traditional man ?

@kadricmartinez1081 4 ай бұрын

@@Aconte313life isn’t fair and thats currently where the dating market is at. We cant change it only adapt

@starseed1396 29 күн бұрын

@@Aconte313means she’s a 304

@gametv9on 6 ай бұрын

as a guy who had no success in dating,this is both phenomenal advice and a little soul crushing. At least im getting a better idea what im doing wrong but fuck its almost like everything i believed as a guy on how to talk to women is wrong and the polar opposite of what i should have done.

@nono114499 5 ай бұрын

Bro it's actually not that hard to attract, date and even sleep with women. You have to be confident in yourself, show you really interested in her (if she show sign of interested in you, don't ignore her she will think you not interested and move on) without being needy (she should feel like you have a life on your own without her and you are ok with including her in your life) Be dominant and assertive and even bold time to time (without being mean or too cocky it's a turn off). And most important always be playfull with her. Avoid serious topics like work, politics, family issues even relationship statuts (doesn't matter if you look for something serious or casual don't tell her, same goes for your previous relationship, she dosen't have to know) etc at all cost when talking to a women. As soon as you get too serious with her they will find you boring and you will end up in the friendzone. You don't need to be rich, tall or super muscular to attract women contrary to a lot of beliefs so dont let that get in your mind even tho that's might help in some case but not always (in fact if you are "too" good looking or muscular, women will only see you as a f buddy, they will sleep with you from time to time but rarely want to be serious with you, i have seen that time and time again). I hope i help you with your dating life buddy.

@squarecracker 5 ай бұрын

@@Monkeysfist221 I'm literally a rich, 39 year old retired international model trying dating apps for the first time. I am tall, physique very close to Pitt in fight club, very good facial features, and high intelligence. I literally cannot get a date off of dating apps in my area. I do get a good amount of attention IRL but it's not in places where it would be appropriate to escalate. And even in where it is appropriate to sexually escalate in this legal environment it seems insane. Really feel like I am a genetic miracle that got priced out of the dating market.

@voltinator 4 ай бұрын

This woman's advice is correct but incomplete. Women get into a "submissive mindset" for physical characteristics. They want a man with LOW BODYFAT, a harmonious SKULL with GOOD MANDIBLES (no mouthbreahters), they want the RIGHT RACE (some women are open to dating other races but most secretly aren't), they want a HEAD FULL OF HAIR and they preferably want TALL HEIGHT. Muscles, money and good grades are all optional. Basically if you're watching this vid you're probably skinnyfat to obese and need to run a lot more. Or you have a bone deformity that was untreated (crooked, flat or hooked noses are the most common.) Or you're of a different race going for girls that mostly despise your race (Society and internal biases both play a role.) Those I find are the top three reasons a guy is single. Fat, crooked or indian/black/Asian.

@DavidHernandez-dk1zs 4 ай бұрын

Try dating in real life, that might work for you. I am conventionally attractive and have pulled several hotties, like 8s and 9s, all of them in person though. I have tried dating apps but months can pass and nothing really happens other than a handful of conversations and maybe a date or two that doesn't lead anywhere. In person though it's different, I've met amazing people in person, beautiful women that know how to love.@@squarecracker

@Doctor.Kapow. 4 ай бұрын

They probably think your account is fake with stock photos of a model lol @@squarecracker

@stevearnold8265 5 ай бұрын

I couldn’t get into “the friendzone” if I tried. They either want to have sex with me or don’t want to talk to me all together.

@JJ-vp3bd 5 ай бұрын

how do you navigate in that

@sarunas8638 5 ай бұрын

thats cause your profile shows that you lift, simple as that, woman want just sex from guys like us that have a good body :D

@Aconte313 5 ай бұрын

Fr 😂 it's either I'll leave my bf for you rn after saying their single , Stalking or leave me alone creep !

@lo8020 4 ай бұрын

That usually how it goes for me based on how i carry myself.

@gustavoalonso5157 12 күн бұрын

I think that’s a good thing. You never want to be friendzone.

@1StepForwardToday 2 жыл бұрын

"Women's attraction works like a volume nob. Men's attraction works like a light switch". -Owen Cook 1984

@user-xz1wy4to4o 23 күн бұрын

Bro is really a vet 💀💀💀 1984 is craaaaazy

@MissiFull 18 күн бұрын

@@user-xz1wy4to4o He cooked lol

@marguskiis7711 6 ай бұрын

Weird thing is, if you are masculine and take care of a women, she will dump you sooner or later to run after some addict or criminal.

@KumarBendrake Ай бұрын

Big difference in being her ATM and being dominant. Try being more like the addict or criminal. Make demands on her. Demand that she get a Brazilian wax. Demand, she dresses up in suggestive costumes and poses for your camera. Don't allow yourself to feel attached, and keep at least two girls in the friend zone. And always remember the person who cares about the relationship least is in control. This might make you feel like a selfish prick, so remember you are doing this to fulfill her need to be dominated. So you're actually being selfless by providing this type of stimulation for her. The type of woman you are describing gets bored easily, and she can also smell your fear of abandonment. This makes it doubly important that you don't care if she comes or goes. Above all, never act like she owes you, just because you spent some money. Money you spend on her is for your enjoyment. You are allowing her to tag along in your day to day life, so it's best if the waiter knows your name and likes you. Always be a good tipper. Women hate cheap skates. Hope this helps.

@melhorfutebol451 24 күн бұрын

@@KumarBendrakeyour father did everything here to attract your mother?

@user-xz1wy4to4o 23 күн бұрын

@@melhorfutebol451times have changed

@KumarBendrake 8 күн бұрын

@melhorfutebol451 , I learned this from watching drug addicts and womanizers seduce "good girls". This guy I'm talking to needs a little bit more of a bad boy streak in him, or women will continue walking on him, and leaving for lesser men, simply becase they don't find him challenging. If you must know about my parents, my father married his teenage sweetheart and other than that, he had very little success with women. My parents lasted 20 years before the boring loveless relationship got the best of them. If there was something to learn from my parents, it was my mother's love of soap operas. Probably my first clue that women need constant drama. Think about it. Soap operas never resolve. Compare that to what men watch. Action movies and football, both of which resolve themselves within 2 hours.

@sonnygmony 6 ай бұрын

The value of your content is its honesty.

@Dl3Ztrunks 3 жыл бұрын

You make it so simple, clear, and understandable. Thank goodness for your insights. It's very helpful. I consider my self attractive. My problem is getting past the get to know them stage. I never initiate sexual desire for fear of ridicule or rejection. I think it goes back to my insecurities. Live in my parents basement. My ambition is low or non-existent. I get triggered so easily and I self sabotage every relationship. You seem to have our number pretty dialed in.

@adrienmaivai3105 Жыл бұрын

Hello man, I feel just the same as you

@ludwigthedwarf7678 7 ай бұрын

How is it going?

@user-gs1lz2pw9v 6 ай бұрын

Shrooms what is justice

@mikedoyle7300 5 ай бұрын

Just take her advice.

@FloppaTheBased 5 ай бұрын

#1 Reason Women See You as Sexual Candidate is your looks. That's it. You don't need 10 minutes video to understand it

@mcrinehart8022 2 жыл бұрын

I love the way you arent afraid to TALK about female issues and showing the female part in sex Way to GO

@rg3412 6 ай бұрын

Your advice is so good and pertinent, I wish I had access to it 30 years ago. I look forward to watching more of your videos.

@ProtoIndoEuropean88 4 ай бұрын

I will tell you guys something I've been saying alot If she is into you for real, whatever you do won't change that if she is not into you, no matter what you do, it will be in vain. But remember that women are inconsistent with their feelings, specially in the beggining. Never fully trust her, she will feel alot for you and the next day, that feeling is gone, she won't feel it anymore. For alot of women, all is temporary, and that mindset is a red flag. Watch out for that.

@cesarhernandez-wv8oj 4 ай бұрын

yes, wise words!!!!!

@walmartgiftkardz8656 3 жыл бұрын

Vic. YOUR THE BEST I NEVER IN MY LIFE HAD SOMEONE SPEAK SO CLEARLY ON TOPICS REGARDING WOMEN YOUR HELPING ME SEE CLEARLY AND GUIDING MY LIFE I WISH YOU BLESSINGS AND FORTUNE.

@user-ck9ky1yt8z 5 ай бұрын

You should upload more often. You have a different message to offer than most woman on KZfaq

@jovanethompson6672 3 жыл бұрын

It's always good to hear them again

@zuhairreza 6 ай бұрын

Hey, been watching your videos a lot lately and just wanted to say something I like about you is how you respond to a lot/many/most comments (it seems to me) in an objective, straightforward, concise way. I like it when KZfaqrs - esp. those we can relate to and appreciate - respond to our comments and feedback… so I have been having a great time reading many people’s comments on your videos AND your responses to them. Well done! Keep up the good work! ❤✌️😎

@mynonleatherlife 6 ай бұрын

Thank you zuhairezza! I really appreciate your comment.

@benergy100k2 2 жыл бұрын

*This goes for older women too. It's not only about younger women.*

@srbaruchi Жыл бұрын

Good to know. I'm about to plunge into that pool of the "mature women."

@JW-iz6mv Ай бұрын

@@srbaruchi 20 year old women and 50 year women minds work the same way

@PulseCodeModulate 19 күн бұрын

Great video Victoria. I am aware of these things but, struggle with them since I grew up in an abusive family. I must remind myself daily that powerful, masculine dominance can be done in a healthy way. Jeffrey Z. in SC

@BenjaminTapia1 5 ай бұрын

I don't care what women think.

@lpi3 Ай бұрын

This is mistake. You should understand women because they can harm you when you don't expect

@AtlanteanVrilChad 15 күн бұрын

You’ll learn the hard way

@islcetinkaya874 3 жыл бұрын

This is the sacred knowledge that I'm looking for. Thank you for sharing this. It will definitly improve my dating life imo :)

@ridovercascade4551 2 жыл бұрын

Abi bakma la buna

@adamrocks529 Ай бұрын

Victoria has the best advice I've seen.

@johnparadise3134 3 жыл бұрын

6:47 “You need to pay, because it puts her in a very 1950s state of mind-where-you know, back to a time where she can’t pay, because she’s helpless…

@xXavorx 3 жыл бұрын

crazy shit, I fuck wit it

@jmorefit1 3 жыл бұрын

The shit we need to hear that 99% of women would NEVER admit as candidly as this glorious woman has for us.

@MentalDeviant 3 жыл бұрын

I like her honesty but don't pay for shit. Maybe if she is investing.

@plentyoflife 3 жыл бұрын

yES GO BACK TO THE 1950'S WHEN WOMEN MARRIED VIRGIN

@jonathanblaze1648 3 жыл бұрын

Very good content. I discovered your "raw attractive" video a few days ago, and I'm going through your videos. I have some ideas for topics I may suggest later. This is good. More info on this topic would be great. I've heard other male coaches talk about men who are good with women know how to keep her in a submissive state. And also that woman 'want to submit'. But a lot of men don't understand this. But the thing is, she's not just going to submit. What she really wants is for the man to 'make' her submit. So it's fascinating listening to a woman go in depth on this info. Thanks.

@DTALep 2 жыл бұрын

Appreciate your level of articulation on this subject. As someone who’s dealt with some trauma, I’ve always been big on making women feel safe. But I like how you articulated the physical escalation in a way where you’re safety stepping further into their bubble in a way that they enjoy. Good stuff, and much appreciated!

@xxjohnnyred6247 3 жыл бұрын

This girl is a female prophet of truth!! Amen

@PhonyGameCommunity22 3 жыл бұрын

Fortune favors the bold.

@n0b0d1-rc6dz Ай бұрын

So does death.

@Jkove 8 ай бұрын

Great advice as always Victoria, Thank you for sharing in such an honest and insighful way. As you have covered in the video, I can't help but observe that making a woman feeling safe and comfortable is also one key element to allowing her to feel submissive (to you). Like in the example you shared when we escalate physically (on a date or otherwise) it's not 1 to 100 immediately, but slowly and sensitively. Even when being dominant, a sensual man also knows how to respect and navigate her boundaries. He knows how to take his time, enjoy the moment, taking in and being sensitive to her body, her energy, and her cues, when to be assertive and when to pull back. A sensual man knows how to make his woman feel safe - safe to even allow him to bring out her darkest, wildest fanatasies without judgement. That blend of safety and comfort, but also danger and excitement, mystery and intrigue is a potent mix of sexual magnetism.

@mynonleatherlife 8 ай бұрын

So true

@stryfe0 5 ай бұрын

What the man get in return ?

@VIP_90210 5 ай бұрын

@@stryfe0her, whatever she can provide. Good or bad is all dependent of the women you choose to play the game for.

@stryfe0 5 ай бұрын

@@VIP_90210 so a man has to do/be all these things and what he gets in return is a woman that provides whatever she can come up with?…Doesn’t that reinforces the princess fantasy/prize ego ?

@VIP_90210 5 ай бұрын

@@stryfe0 in a way yes, It reinforces it because of the man decided to play the game for her. To avoid this, you simply have her play the game for you. Meaning you attract her not chase.

@aribailor3766 5 ай бұрын

Being aggressive and dominant will scare away some women. And thata good thing.

@JolPil Ай бұрын

Only if you do it sloppy and without style.

@douglastalkington 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting how important leadership is because it doesn't require looks or money, just direction. It was an interesting video

@anupamjoshi7231 3 жыл бұрын

This girl give so honest answer I really like it I really feel this things great and more logical to me and bring peace to my mind of confusing conflicts

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

I am so happy to hear that Anupam...do you have any other confusing conflicts u are wondering about u could use a feminine perspective on

@anupamjoshi7231 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife thank you Victoria I really like your idea thank you about I have a huge respect for you

@patrickwentzell4638 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife does anyone know why guys call these adult Chatlines? because men love seeing the hot females sitting on the bed or chatting with rich guys. I keep suggesting men do not log into these Chatlines because they are rip off scams not worth it. all guys need to understand is there are better ways of actually meeting female singles. relationships do not have to be about money or fame. couples must forget about soap operas, access Hollywood, talk shows, scheduling, work, there are things which can be frustrating at times like space between one another, cell phone chats with friends, separate hobbies, boundaries, no more involved romance, lack of interest, these things can be resolved helped for couples to be with each other again. remind the person your with about fun times and places you went to. try this tell that person of a nice fun experience at a place then suggest that you both haven't done in a while. then make it an idea for the both of you to do that like travel get out of that daily routine in the house. a person does not have to be a rocket scientist in order to be in a happy relationship. now friends that force tough lay down the law stuff are not good friends. like if they tell a husband or wife he or she either does and behaves how they want or the relationship is all over. no that's not very respectful it shouldn't happen to anyone forceful suggestions are a no no. and friends down sizing is another kind of problem also not alright to do. I've noticed talk shows will often take pleasure in bashing at individuals. there is a talk show called The Real which the hosts enjoy bashing men. one of the hosts even said that nice men are boring. well that is a mean and rude thing to say about nice guys. females get sterio typed and thought of as gold diggers. I will not generalize because few have done these things. all men and women should be respected and treated fairly. because times are difficult for so many now a days. relationships are never to be treated like they are obligations it's not healthy. in addition to that love and romance can become loyalty and boredom it has happened with my mother in life. she hated being ignored and not having attention from others she was lonely this made her sad. it doesn't have to be like that at all things can get better. life is not complicated talk is important letting others know how you feel is a good start to helping yourself. there are celebrity wealthy people that become shallow. teenage sons and daughters that do not appreciate what they have in life. these young celebs have a roof over their head food clothing and not living out in the street. so all youth must enjoy company and things they've got. always remember this every life matters all the time.

@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 3 жыл бұрын

There have been times where I haven’t been dominant with girls too and I have noticed that girls subtly said to me: - if you don’t dare to take the initiative with me, how do you want to handle the responsibility then if we are surprised by a burglar in our Appartement or when jealous ex boy friends threaten to kill me if I don’t love them again ? - if you don’t dare to lead me to bed, how can I see that you are able to give me those lovely winner seeds for viable offsprings ? Also, at the Moment I do have some autistic students and have observed that just being dominant isn’t the whole solution either if we address the whole population of men, sure to most it is over time but not to all. If men talk about sexual things before getting to know the girl, the underlying masculinity becomes almost worthless to her because everything - in the end - boils down to intelligence ; if a man can’t read her cues, then trying lead will come of as a very threatening and awkward wannabe Alpha behavior and she will be gone faster than a 6 year old grabs his first Lolly in primary school. So basically leading her to bed is like dancing on a rope without security cables between niceness land and offense land; if you touch either border to clearly, you fall down. True men are therefore artists and masters of female perspectives; pure hardness is as losing as pure niceness... No Attunement = no trustworthiness = no real attraction

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

exactly. This is exactly the point underneath it all very pressing and prominent in girl's minds.

@WateringDNami 6 ай бұрын

What?

@mateaukalua4426 6 ай бұрын

It's a hard balance to walk. I would rather not.

@stryfe0 5 ай бұрын

What does the man get in return?

@mateaukalua4426 5 ай бұрын

@@stryfe0 Someone whose loose and has 20 ex bfs and 50 one night stands.

@professorpedropontes4402 10 ай бұрын

I’ve been in 3 long term relationships for over the last 10 years, and this talk brings back my old flirtatious self… your words bring me back to my old self, help me get in touch with a more relentless ME. Thank you!

@Handleitnow933 5 ай бұрын

Don’t masturbate at all. That’ll rev up the engine. Go 3-6 months with ejaculate even with a women. Will bring you back to the levels you had before.

@LongblackExtrashot 11 ай бұрын

So we’ll put, thanks for going into detail, great job

@montrose9272 3 жыл бұрын

Astonishing insights. I've never heard anything like this before, but a fair number of things square with and explain other things I've observed. Really unique and amazing stuff here, thanks. And it looks like you've got a large body of work. I hope the rest is pure gold, too.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you!!

@user-mn6sq3is4t 4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤@@mynonleatherlife

@krowbarlungburn9873 5 ай бұрын

Amazing how she explains it.

@DerG2001 5 ай бұрын

You are the most non delusional and honest and reflected woman I ever listened to! No woman usually wants other men to know this, because of her standing socially shining in a bad light, they all want to look innocent from the outside…. Thank you very much, it’s an amazing perspective to hear this actually from an female ❤! Greeting from a German from Germany 🇩🇪 Kaiserslautern in Rhineland Palestine

@updog179 26 күн бұрын

I mean, it's not exactly safe for a woman to tell a roomful of men you want them to be the aggressor. It's easy to imagine how they might misunderstand this, even though the majority of them wouldn't be compatible with that woman. I wouldn't call being taciturn the same as delusional.

@aghdouzzakaria4185 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much ma'am, you're the only one who could explain this subject to me, I finally have a fully formed idea thanks to you. Another thing you did is you encouraged me more to start posting on KZfaq because the quality of your video is bad yet I still liked it very much, put a like and a subscription, I even posted a comment and I'm sure there are people out there who are like me so thank you very much and have a good day❤

@mynonleatherlife Ай бұрын

I’m so happy to hear that yes I don’t post any good quality videos haha and it’s ok

@FulvioGa 6 ай бұрын

Your videos are of incredible value!

@keithbessant 6 ай бұрын

Very interesting, it was good to hear this. I think those of us men who think that a relationship with a woman is going to suddenly make our lives more exciting and solve all our problems, are going to be sadly disappointed. That's just a fantasy in our heads. The reality of what women can offer is more mundane. From the way it sounds, even a doll would not be much different.

@jigneshvyas3105 4 ай бұрын

Excitement and all the fun is in chasing and making a woman sexually open up to you and finally being intimate with her. Excitement ends soon after that. As a man if you have not experienced this your life is not fully lived, although there is much more to relationship than this and fulfilment of life in general.

@keithbessant 4 ай бұрын

@@jigneshvyas3105 That could well be true, but it depends on the individual. I think nowadays we live in a complex society. In the past, men had to be husbands and fathers, be able to grow their own food, do DIY, even had to do military service in war zones. Some people would have had their lives enriched by the experience, and could say they had truly lived. Others would have suffered from it and been happier to pick and choose what they did with their life. For some of us not to reproduce makes us an oddity in the animal kingdom, but then we humans are not like other animals 😂

@mermaidman1985 3 жыл бұрын

More praise for you here Victoria very easy to understand with no bullshit. I presume going to the gym and getting muscles is a subconscious tick for dominance ?. keep up the good work.

@JolPil Ай бұрын

Yes but you gotta be ready to put your mouth where your muscles are!

@eliezra6098 2 жыл бұрын

Some of the best dating and relationship advice on KZfaq

@user-uh7qr9ov1x 4 ай бұрын

wow.....some of the best info i've heard on this topic! ever.!.....i immediately saw scenes from my past programming that confirm exactly what you're saying. thanks for waking me up to this!!

@tubularbill Жыл бұрын

Great stuff. This explains a lot. I mean a lot. Thank you for the post!

@mynonleatherlife Жыл бұрын

awesome! What did you feel it explained that u formerly were confused about and thank u

@kebman 6 ай бұрын

So, it's not a simp compliment bcos she's so wow, but a compliment because she passed one of your tests. Being in a qualifying frame is _key,_ i.e. that you're subtly qualifying her by learning about her. So, you're not pedestalling her, or worse, supplicating. You're coming from a giving frame, where you subtly qualify her.

@B0K1T0 Ай бұрын

I definitely noticed this as well, both in terms of success and failure. When I get into this flow it feels very natural and I thoroughly enjoy acting in this dominant way, but I'm only able to get myself into this flow when I sense that it's mutual, which seems to happen very "magically" for me still. I have no clue how I do this so in such a natural way with some women, while many other times it just feels too awkward and "convulsive" (somewhat struggling to find the right English word here). Therefore I'm looking for ways to develop myself in that area and videos like these help to get a better understanding of those dynamics and how (a lot of) women think and why they act in certain ways (and why my actions did or more often didn't have the desired outcome). So thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts!

@1yanyiel Ай бұрын

I think you’re describing something I’ve thought about. You said that at times you can get into acting in a dominant way with women in a very natural way. Well, I think it’s pretty natural if a woman draws that from you with her femininity. That’s natural chemistry right there and it just “works” and “flows naturally. I’ve had moments with women where they become more feminine/flirty with me and I come off as more masculine/dominant and that is a beautiful chemical chain reaction. So I think it’s not about you bettering yourself, it’s more about clicking with the girl, the energy will follow

@gregoryphillips3969 6 ай бұрын

This was a very good video. You really know what you are talking about.

@Varil92 3 жыл бұрын

To a man hearing these advices sounds like coming from a true genius. I mean, if a man could tell another man the these exact same things you said he would be a genius. I guess for a woman it's just kinda normal. Best advices ever, because they come from a girl and not from a man! Great job.

@fatherburning358 5 ай бұрын

Your content resonates with my personal experiences on occasions where i havent been wrapped up in my own issues, cptsd etc. I recall especially times where my focus has been solely on the woman sitting in front of me, i even received acknowledgement from an ex girlfriend that on different occasions i made her feel like the only woman in the room. I didnt recognise that comment as being so profoundly powerful as it seems it is. And i know exactly why my marriage has failed now too. Being 53yr old now i feel im in that place of emotional maturity where i could actually be successful with dating and getting regular ahem companionship with women. But id need to practice, a lot 😂 good luck my brothers 💪👍

@t.a.anderson2154 3 жыл бұрын

thank you, thank you. I have always believed this to be true. It is so wonderful to hear a woman say this. thank you!

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

what did u believe to be true?

@PIEKART2001 6 ай бұрын

You're actually a legend.

@kingslate1 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos are soo good & different than most male/Female relationship videos on KZfaq

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

why are they different?

@kingslate1 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife You go really in-depth with great detail. Even Explicit.

@graybeardsage 4 ай бұрын

Everything this woman said is 100%. She just explained everything i've done right whenever ive had success on a date! Subscribed.

@marvinschumacher8549 Ай бұрын

I'm an older man now. 60...5'9". My whole life i've been rather poor and never been a supervisor of any type. But i've always had no trouble getting very attractive women partners. I find most women on the internet giving advice to men are dumbells. But not you. Your insights are right on the money. I lift my hat to you. Chapeau !

@shepardsmith3235 4 ай бұрын

What she is saying is primal. Goes back millions of years. Its like you are the head of the pack and show her that she is subservient and should do your bidding and that is exactly what she is saying. Its so ingrained in the species and for that matter in the family tree of primates going back tens of millions of years that its part of the DNA and you have to understand it this way. After you get a little older and experienced you really should go with the flow and your actions will follow and so will she.

@clocky1223 3 жыл бұрын

I have a question, where do you draw the line in terms of dominance, the steps are good but if all doesn't go well she could easily accuse you of sexual assault in the future. I understand body language is different for everybody but could you make a video on some signs that she will give to show that she is uncomfortable and you should stop, that would help out a lot. Wonderful video btw.

@thegametroll6264 5 ай бұрын

Younger women are definitely off the list of dating priorities. I got sick and tired of women closer to my age chasing men old enough to be an elderly relative like example their uncle or their grandfather age group. Im also unlearning the docile nature my mother drilled into me at a young age.

@the-guesser 5 ай бұрын

Like can so can somebody explain to me why the fuck do our mothers treat us like submissive little idiots like what do they want to achieve like that like I'm 17 and talked to my parents about moving out when I'm 18 cuz my family dynamic is that of a circus and she started using her bull shit narcissistic bullying tactics om me to make me understand that it's a cruel world out there and it's better I'd I stay with her and she will take care of me but guess what she doesn't she gives me a bit of attention so that afterwards she can guilt me with it and don't I dare have a gf like bro I'm 17 and haven't even hugged a girl I think I'm more submissive then most girls I know and the funny thing is that I've had lots of girls hitting on me cuz I'm quite good looking but as if it were some curse it always leads up to nowhere so yeah could you explain to me how you're getting rid of your mother's programming

@williamcooper8599 5 ай бұрын

@@the-guesserAre you an incel?

@iecsao 5 ай бұрын

@@williamcooper8599allow it bro he just asked for help

@redshift8302 5 ай бұрын

@@the-guesser Don't fight it, don't let it bother you. Think of it as a mosquito hovering around your head, and that it will eventually leave. Make your own plans meantime, maybe get a job in another part of the country. If you adopt this strategy everything will be fine in a few years.

@rgtunderworldrgt7773 5 ай бұрын

Your dead wrong, and still Don't understand anything about how life works and Why? It works that way 1) Younger women and Older men is as old as time itself. Why? What do girls usually want? Financial stability. Young guys are Building towards that, older guys usually Have that. Experience, maturity, Stability Again..both mental emotional . Life experience and a network of other men who know and can do things Tht ability to advise her and help her in her life. Less likely to cheat,, run around and play gaslighting games Older dudes haveonger time in on the job, probably kids. The time that's left is hers, she can on the stability Younger dudes prioritize hanging out with his friends more than older dudes Just how it works. Younger dudes aren't on the same clock as younger women , that's why they ideally, want a guy that's 5-10 yrs older than her. Some even older. When you get older and experience it, as you gain life experience.. you Will understand. Just keep growing, grinding and learning. It's part of our Process

@Homeinspectorsny Ай бұрын

Agree im older and have learned much of this over time. We are savages at times. But must keep the inner beast from showing.

@mainemceachern1521 2 жыл бұрын

Brilliant. Thank you Victoria.

@ggghhjd 3 жыл бұрын

i think it can also depend on the way you compliment her.....not being creepy and over the top about it, but just throwing something in mid-conversation almost as an after-thought but showing you have noticed something specific about her that you like....and unusual details....I remember Marlon Brando used to look at a woman as if he was studying her and then he would comment on her nails or some mannerism, and i think it worked because by studying her for a while without just saying the line she's heard 100 times, 'you're so beautiful,' in the 1st minute, he picked up on details most men would have missed...i think that taking your time to study 'the object' in front of you before you start complimenting can be a good thing...it creates a degree of tension, because she's aware of it but doesn't know what you are thinking, and it shows you are not afraid to take your time, like the cat who has the bird caught, but likes to play with it and take its time before the kill

@dr-nj4sq 6 ай бұрын

You are truly awesome. I am a man with a different culture that had some issues adapting to the US. Your videos have been of great help, thanks a lot and god bless you.

@mynonleatherlife 6 ай бұрын

Thank u that means so much 🙏let me know if u have any other good questions or topics u can email in the description

@chrispekel5709 6 ай бұрын

GET OUT

@chrispekel5709 6 ай бұрын

The west is screwed up man

@dr-nj4sq 6 ай бұрын

Get out of the country?@@chrispekel5709

@AtlanteanVrilChad 15 күн бұрын

Leave

@TransDimensionalTranscendence 3 жыл бұрын

Good Information to know. Very helpful, thank you!

@Andy455x Ай бұрын

This makes a lot sense I can see where I fumbled the bag with a few girls where I played it way too safe

@vergulli12 Жыл бұрын

I think I‘d rather go for more mature and experienced women. Women who are able to express their interest in a man. I need the feeling of being desired by a woman for me to want her. If a woman is completely passive I get the feeling that I as a person don‘t matter to her. Also I would be in constant fear of doing something wrong and being accused of harassment afterwards.

@andreichetan4694 6 ай бұрын

Read about anxious and avoidant atachment style. See the one that resembles you the most. My money is on anxious

@LearnCompositionOnline 5 ай бұрын

Exactly

@user-go2xi7zq5q 5 ай бұрын

Same

@thetruth981 3 жыл бұрын

I think this is really good advice I agree with everything damn I would have said the same thing except #4 and #11. On point 4, my experience is too many compliments is a bad thing. I typically give a girl one compliment when I first meet her and I do it with a different tone and inflection than most guys would. Calm and relaxed not like I just met some goddess. Then I don't compliment her very much, only when something really stands out to me. And then typically not on her looks because girls hear that shit all the time. On point 11 I think its better to not setup the next date at the end of the current one. If you did your job and the girl is in to you 100% of the time she will reach out to you, or text you or whatever and tell you she had a good time afterwards. It's better to let a girl chase you a little bit. She is going to let you know she had fun, likes you, whatever. If you made a big enough impression trust me she's not going to let you walk out of her life without contacting you. Then its ok to setup the next date. Also that ambiguity sets off emotions in her and you want to occupy space in her mind. If you setup another date immediately there's no doubt. If you don't then she's going to be thinking about you "Does he like me? Did I do something wrong? We had a great time does he want to see me again." I say give her the pleasure of thinking about you, of wondering. But of course.... that's just me.

@ManOf3Percent 2 жыл бұрын

Have you read Corey Wayne's book? What you wrote sounded a lot like things he has said in his book

@matthewdowling3866 Жыл бұрын

@@ManOf3Percent I thought the same thing...

@falconandthemoon Жыл бұрын

For me, if there’s enough natural chemistry between the two of us, things will unfold organically anyway. If, after an otherwise great date, a guy reaches for a manipulative move like the one you suggest, that may be felt, which for me would be a death knell after that nice, natural vibe we had going. You may end up losing a woman who susses out your manipulation and is not a fan of BS.

@thetruth981 Жыл бұрын

@@falconandthemoon That's the key. For me its not manipulation, just the way I roll. I don't care if she contacts me or not, I'm not playing games, I'm just not going to chase girls. To each his own.

@falconandthemoon Жыл бұрын

@@thetruth981 If it’s a good thing the two of you have got going on, it’s up to both sides. Otherwise, what’s the point?

@yogainflight 5 ай бұрын

Appreciate your input, thank you.

@jimmyvonesh3188 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for posting this.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

Ur very welcome jimmy

@sirsmart3698 3 жыл бұрын

This woman gets more attractive the more I watch her

@Laking1234 2 жыл бұрын

True idk why

@dmoneydmoney6050 6 ай бұрын

@@Laking1234same, it amazing how attractive a true feminine mindset is

@jessebradford7130 6 ай бұрын

I'm a mix of masuulinty and love. Muscular and dominant but also sweet and caring. Women really drink that in about me because they enjoy the softness because of the masulinty and enjoy the masculinity because of the softness. I

@bruceprigge5212 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks! Really good talk!

@amribrahim7850 2 жыл бұрын

I come to this channel because of your honesty, which I like.

@pierrecamus 3 жыл бұрын

@MyNonLeatherLife I love the attention to detail, Brilliant. Informative smart & practical. Please make a similar video expounding on how to provide for women a positive & nourishing sexual experience. Thanks.

@krisgen29 6 ай бұрын

Thanks Victoria. The most helpful stuff about dating from a guy's point of view, I've ever read. That's saying something coz I'm 59yo. Well done and keep up the great work 👍😊

@Klaheto88 7 ай бұрын

This was extremely informative

@petermartin9494 Жыл бұрын

Standing applause, bravo, the best dating advice I ever heard. Thank you.

@markm.3297 3 жыл бұрын

Thankyou Victoria! Great to hear from a woman how she needs to feel to have sex. Was told I wasn't good with women and at 60 years of age realized I have been doing it wrong. Not putting her in that submissive mindset wasn't on my radar. Too bad women fell the need to fake orgasms. Makes me wonder how many I've heard were real or genuine.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome Dan now that it’s on your radar what do u think of the idea

@johannesswillery7855 3 жыл бұрын

So you aren't dead........

@Alvan81 2 жыл бұрын

My guess is, we all have experienced a lot of faking lol Most books say that it takes women average of 20-40 mins including mental stimulation for full arousal. It takes men 3-12 of mostly physical stimulation average. And that is the heart of the problem. In sxual and non sxual ways.

@LaurenAtTenn 5 ай бұрын

@@Alvan81that’s bs I’m sorry

@Alvan81 5 ай бұрын

@LaurenAtTenn You're joking, right? This info is widely available. --- Healthy male website: Answer During sx intercrse, most men ejaculate between 5-10 minutes and research has shown the average time to ejaculate after penetration is 5 1/2 minutes. -- UCSF urology dept: There is a wide range of what is normal; however, existing population studies have suggested that the average latency time (i.e. time between penetration to ejac.) is about 5 minutes & most men have latency times that are within 2-3 minutes of that. Hence, some men may think that they have rapid ejaculation when in fact they are well within the range of what is normal.

@AMTECHMECH Ай бұрын

Good advise...thanks

@publicrelations695 Жыл бұрын

You are the best dating coach ever 👍

@bobmathews9072 3 жыл бұрын

7:11 ‘Kino Escalation’ , Vicky’s confirming what the top PUA’s have always maintained , but from the female POV , this is top stuff

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

who is kino

@bobmathews9072 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife Hi Vicky , “Kino Escalation” is a term meaning physical touch (from the word kinetic , meaning movement) . It’s basically introducing physical contact with the woman as soon as possible , for instance if you went on a date to a restaurant you’d guide them to the table by putting your hand on the small of their back

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

@@bobmathews9072 very interesting Bob, thanks

@bobmathews9072 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife My pleasure Vicks - ps where abouts in the U.S are you from , I love your accent ? Don’t worry about me stalking you I’m from England lol

@blizzard5287 3 жыл бұрын

So with your logic, if this woman had zero interest in a heroin addict/crackhead with bad hygeine/breath and smells like shit, touching her is going to raise her interest?? Are we serious?? lmao smdh!

@jp929rr1 3 жыл бұрын

These things are to an extent epigenetic or something in consciousness, I have been looking into courtship and it gets very very weird. Of course, everyone - should - know that women need to be subbed to an extent (generally) but it gets more complicated than that.

@georgeelder8415 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing!

@allinspiriation6140 5 ай бұрын

You have helped me so much. Thank you

@philosophyjunkies6693 3 жыл бұрын

This had 2nd favorite thumbnail photo.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

thank u

@lonewolf.8635 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah.... It's true..... But it is kinda annoying to be the one who initiates everything..... I believe that the simplest way to phrase your message is that being dominant brings about polarity and this in sexual relationships is necessary

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

The word polarity is so vague and de-sexualized imo. I think it is more confusing to people cuz what does bringing about polarity even mean, whereas dominance is a widely studied and practiced thing especially in the kink community and actually sexual which is what this is all about. But polarity is another name for d/s that people like to use instead of sexually charged words that scare people off imo. Easier to couch it in spiritual light and love than dark primal anti-feminist kind of desires- that is just my take. And I agree it must be totally annoying to be the one to initiate everything! It would be much better if women learned to take a more active role and with more maturity I think they sometimes get there.

@lonewolf.8635 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife I really do see your point.... Polarity = d/s(more relatable)... It's really annoying to initiate all things and the worst is that sometimes it begins to seem like I'm being manipulated.... When I feel that way in a relationship, I take a break and examine myself and see if I'm being disrespected by the lady.... If I am, I bring it to her notice and if she keeps disrespecting me... I move on.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

@@lonewolf.8635 totally...that's important. What kinds of things might u say when u bring it to her notice?

@lonewolf.8635 3 жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife These are my exact words"This thing that you have just done.... I do not like it"... There was one day when I got back really tired from work... Messaged her that I wouldn't be able to chat tonight that I was really tired . She started asking ridiculous questions like "who's on you whatsapp dp? "(obviously me) then stuff like"Why did you use that picture?"why do you like the picture?".... Rundown.... Her: who's on ur dp Me: Why are you asking me this? I'm very tired. Her: answer my question Me: I'm really tired let's not do this tonight Her: Answer the question Me: Okay it's me Her: "why did you use that picture?" Me: "I like it" Her: "Why do you like it? " Me: "come on" Me: "If you have something to say... Please go straight to the point... I'm exhausted"(getting angry) Her: "okay" Me: "what is okay" Her: (10 mins later) it means it's okay Me: (trying to calm myself and listen to her) "what's on ur mind" Her:(after 11mins or so) nothing Me: "What you have done now I do not like It and I'm upset"(eyes almost red with sleepiness) Her: explain Me: (foolishly explains) Her: Okay. I then decided to let her be for a while.... It was after four days that she called back and apologized for what she did.... Confessed that she was intentionally going offline and editing a video while sleepy me was fighting the sleep to explain to her that I wasn't being sarcastic by Saying I was sleepy and that she should go straight to the point. This I feel is the danger of giving a woman especially young and not so mature so much attention. She honestly didn't feel like she did anything wrong and I get that.... It was really my duty to make her see that.... This is why I believe that though a man should love his woman or gf(in this case) he should never place her above his purpose.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

@@lonewolf.8635 very good that u asked her to go straight to the point and be direct with you.

@pvlbiz7694 2 жыл бұрын

You're Awesome! Keep up the great work 👍

@Atlantico56 3 жыл бұрын

Excellent. Excellent feedback

@decipherdaunseen 2 жыл бұрын

Dominance = Turn On Turned On = Passive Submissive State Of Mind Is this the right equation.

@EdwinBetancourtJr 3 жыл бұрын

This video is for guys who have trouble with Women. For guys who are successful with Women, keep doing what you’re doing. At least that’s the vibe I got from the vid.

@mynonleatherlife 3 жыл бұрын

that's true. if it aint broke don't fix it, and i'm sure the successful out there have many techniques I'd be amazed to hear up their sleeves. This is just some basics for people who need some basics

@theemperor2017 Жыл бұрын

@@mynonleatherlife '1950s state of mind. Think that concept transcend many intellect. Lol However, I'm very curious to sum vvomen want this experience or imagine such things? 1950s where the men paid for everything, called da shots, had more gangs etc.

@colinesquire2480 3 жыл бұрын

Love your mind. You're blessed

@user-nh6mx7xs3i 3 жыл бұрын

I am the leader. I chose what resturant we will go to, I chose what day, etc. It is not that I am arrogant, and just me will chose where to go.. No. The point is that it is my RESPONSIBILITY as a man to take care on what needed. Leading. Another important thing, for being in a higher status, is to evaluate the girl,and not the other way around. Is she good for me? This is a much better mindset than trying to impress the girl.

@TheABCD3912 3 жыл бұрын

you know, this is why so many men retreat to video games. because at least they make sense. on one hand women say: "of COURSE i don't want you to dominate me and treat me like this" "i want to be empowered and be strong" and completely reject the notion that they want to be dominated. and i mean completely. on the other hand , they hate you for not being dominant after insisting that you don't be dominant. and honestly , at this point its a subconscious belief for me that they don't want that. even though you directly said that women do want this , it doesn't register in my mind anymore. so i feel frustrated about this.. its like its too late for an explanation. and this belief that they dont want this became a part of who i am.

@bucksmanuk 2 жыл бұрын

When a woman (or anyone) keeps denying a falsehood, then its highly likely to be true. Shakespeare had this down to a tee… “The lady doth protest too much… methinks”