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In this video I'm going to talk about how to help a man experience more freedom and feel more freedom while he's with you in a committed relationship then he could possibly being single, running around dating and playing the field.
If you like this video, as you're listening to it stick around to the very end because I've got something that is another free video that you may find particularly fascinating and useful if you're in a relationship.
Now this idea of freedom. How to help a man feel more free in a relationship. Why is that important?
Well there's a lot of literature out there that states that men - the masculine - want to experience freedom and life and that freedom is a very deep value of men. And there's also a lot of popular thought that in order to get a man to commit somehow he's got to give up or sacrifice this freedom to be in the relationship. There's terms like “Commitment phobe.”
He's a commitment-phobe, or men even referring to women as the “old ball and chain” or that when a guy gets married he's got to give up his player card. Which all paint this picture that the man is giving up the sense of freedom that is so deep to him being a man. And that there's a compromise that he's got to be, that he's got to participate in in order to be in a relationship.
Well if you are a woman and you believe this, then it sets up a pretty not a good dynamic because you feel like you're taking something away from him and that he's compromising and that you've somehow twisted his arm to get the relationship.
But what if there was a way that you could help him experience more freedom in the relationship with you?
Well there is.
And in order to illustrate this I'm gonna give you a little background of how this idea came to light. I was on a coaching call with a client recently and it was a woman who had been in a relationship with a guy for several months and the guy just recently broke up with her and when we got to the core of what was actually happening the relationship we uncovered that she was using a strategy from childhood to try to manage the relationship. She was being a people pleaser.
She's being very agreeable.
She was trying to create harmony.
She was avoiding confrontation.
She was trying to give him what he wanted and they finally broke up.
And one of the complaints that he expressed to her he said, “You know I feel like I've got to consistently walk around on eggshells with you and that I can't be myself.
Men learn from a very young age to actually disowned a part of themselves, a part of their emotional experience in order to be in line with this idea of being a man. And so they go through life with these blinders that are created. Now that's not every man -- some men go out and read literature or do some work on themselves and learn to recapture this emotional experience.
Now this video's already about 8 minutes long, so I'm not going to go into exactly how to do that but if you would like to know step by step what that communication would look like, how you can bring your emotional experience and your honest communication to him to create a deeper connection and more permission for him to be honest with you so the two of you can actually work through struggles rather than sweep them under the rug, click on the link: claytonolsoncoa...
Enter email address and I've got another video that I made that breaks down that process step-by-step.
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