Agreed. I think most of these could definitely go both ways! Besides maybe the insta model one 😂

Even worse: smoking and drinking. Drinkers are liars as well, and often smoke as well. Daily drinkers definitely have an alcohol problem.

@@CourtneyRyan Actually, having a girl who follows a bunch of dudes on Instagram for their looks would be a bit of a turn-off.

I dont mind a women who smokes

I havent go on a date on few females didnt even ask and females sent nake photos and videos lol so ehh

Good points. Though, some point there unfortunately points that she is not interested or wants to take advantage of you.

"too friendly to everyone" too

yeah, i think the best dating advice would be: girls think they are queens and essentially they are... so just get used to being belittled and bullshitted by women...

Here is a under raided turn off that has saved me headaches over the years. How does she pay her bill/tab? •Cash, you are most likely in good hands. •debt card, if used as a last resort but still acceptable. •credit card, unless they bring up the topic of trying to build up credit or anything along those lines. Boom red flag because 9 times out of 10 they're faking their social status. If so what else are they faking?

You missed the mother of ALL turn off from Women.... COMPLAINING/WHINING/BITCHING!

The one time I called to yell at a business(I hardly do it) but my patience was so out of it for a few months of working to try and get things corrected, I told the rep: "I want to yell, is this recorded?" he replied: "Yes sir, it is" I told him: "My anger is not directed at you, you're here trying to keep people happy while your bosses just sit there, I am not angry with you, this is out of your control" he thanked me and I proceeded to yell, at the end I apologized and reaffirmed it was at his bosses, not him.

I love that line, it's from my all time favorite Al Bundy

10 years damn... how you feel? Waste 10 years of your dude all that money and effort spent , did you even get kids ?

@@rodneyh1947 It sucks. But, we didn't have children. Only cats. Well... That's life. If we don't learn, we get screwed and have to learn anyway ;D

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Bahahahahahahahahaha

😂😂that’s freaking hilarious!

Set a date, we have a winner! XD

@John /me pressing F

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1 & 3. What if your hobby is following instagram models?

@@CourtneyRyan honestly the unclear intentions one is tough to be called a turnoff because we as men feel that some girls aren’t transparent with what they want.

@@SolitarySoldier that’s very true, especially with dating now. I think it’s important to call people out when they’re being unhealthy though. It’s all about balance. If you play dumb games you get dumb prizes 😅

@@CourtneyRyan completely agree with you

Then maybe get healthy and date once you are.

It can but women dont need to bother deciphering the difference if you have either its zero consiquence for them to reject you without a moments thoughts, you and me and all men who arent fammour or rich are pretty much worthless !

@andrerxn too bad it doesnt work like that

@andrerxn8203 You're not wrong at all. And the key to breaking out IS (counter-intuitively) to start doing the shit you're dreading/avoiding doing. But with that said, on the whole "depression looks like laziness", I just wanna say inertia is a hell of a thing, that's all. Never takes me more than *maybe* a couple weeks to break it, but it can be hard to get a still train chugging along, ya know what I'm saying? 🤣✌🏻

I understand that depression is not like a headache and it doesn't simply go away, but if you're in a really depressive state, you should not be dating.

Insecure women too.

Most flags are from women who don't like you and never did. Women who like a man do not behave horribly.

There seems to be a lot of them. It's getting to the point of fuck em, leave em, or don't date them.

sounds like YOU are making those choices... you may need to level up as a man to start attracting higher value

On point:exemplary respected comment.

Amen brother thats just pathetic.

Only simps pay for that

again*

It means you have a brain :)

@@Culencio.Mierdandez Lol

Smoking is normally a turn off if it's habit based smoking. The question is, are you smoking because you have to, or because you are relaxing and want to? To add on to that, how often do you smoke? Daily is likely a problem, but a cigar on thanksgiving isn't.

TRUTH

Then for me there is a barrier before that. No integrity no interest.

Yes. To be more precise: "Not being tall." Most of a man's physical attractiveness is determined by his height.

@@gdargdar91 lol no You can be an effing 'Chad' but you'll never 'get her' for more than hours/sex if you don t have money

@@gdargdar91 YES. The heightpill is often the least talked about, but it is the most real. For alot of women (especially young women), it quite literally doesn't matter what other 'attractive' traits you have. If you fall below a certain height benchmark, you are simply not a potential dating prospect to them. Simply being tall (bonus points if you're muscular) allows a man to have alot of scope for flaws or shortcomings but still be deemed overall attractive / appealing. For instance, a number of social studies done have shown that short men have to earn virtually double what a tall man earns to be perceived as an equally desirable dating prospect. And in that vein, the women aren't really dating you because they genuinely desire and are attracted to *you* as a man, they're dating you because of the things you've achieved, the resources you've gained, or the other non-physical things you bring to the table. The reality is, even the women like Courtney, for instance, who say that "height isn't everything" and that "they'd be happy to date a shorter guy" overlook the fact that being happy to do something, or being open to the possibility of something, isn't the same as actively wanting to do something, or following through with it. In all of these cases, dating the 'shorter guy' is seen as a sort of compromise, an afterthought and a 'maybe' (providing he compensates in other ways). That's like a man saying "well, I wouldn't rule out dating a fat woman, if I got to know her and developed feelings for her", but at the same time, he considers fat women an overall inferior option, would always choose the slimmer or more shapely girl if he had the opportunity to, and would never actively seek out a fat girl. In the same way, all of these women that say things like "I don't mind shorter men" would ultimately prefer to date a taller version of whatever short man is in question. You also need to see that the proof is in the pudding. How many of these girls who say that 'height doesn't matter', are actually *with* shorter guys? Next to none, lol. And if they've dated short guys, it's always an ex (and now they're with their husband or forever guy, who is...surprise surprise...tall!) Isn't that all just a magical coincidence! Look at Courtney, as an example of this. Claims that height isn't everything. yet her boyfriend is a big strapping lad who's a whole head and shoulders bigger than she is lmao. A lot of women end up dating the 5,7" guy, is because this guy has the personality, lifestyle and behavioural traits that they wish the 6,3" fuckboi they previously dated would have had. Like, nobody denies that Tom Cruise is attractive, but he is attractive in spite of his height, not because of it; his height doesn't do anything to add to his appeal, and if he were taller, he would be significantly more attractive overall. I mean, just look at the sort of things girls were saying about Kit Harrington (who plays Jon Snow in Game of Thrones) when they found out he was short. Tonnes of girls coming out expressing their disappointment at finding out his height, and that they can't see him the same way now! Indeed, this is *with* all his other attractive qualities...being good-looking, having great hair, being in-shape, being a damn world-famous millionaire actor...all nullified in the eyes of these women because he wasn't tall, lol. As I said, if you fall below a the minimum benchmark of height that a woman wants, it can be quite literally impossible for her to view you as attractive or a potential dating option, regardless of whatever else you bring to the table. Now, Kit Harrington obviously still had millions of women swooning for him despite his height (and he's not even that small tbh, he's like 5,7 or 5,8), but notwithstanding his stature, he is representative of the 0.1% man lol. We do not have fame, wealth, or oftentimes even that level of good-looks to fall back on. For the average man who is small, it is truly incredibly tough out there. It always irks me a bit when women on KZfaq or wherever try to dismiss it as being a pivotal issue and the crux of your success in dating as a man. I know they mean well, but they ignore the observable realities of how important height is in dating for men. Seriously, I have 2 male friends who are complete bums in terms of their lifestyle, barely held down a job, dress like teenagers don't have a good physique, and have average-looking faces, but they've all had various dating and sexual partners compared to me and my close friend who is also short, despite us having all those other supposed 'attractive' qualities. Difference is, those 2 friends are 6,2 and 6,3 respectively. Now, you will get girls saying "well you must be doing something wrong", or "you need to work on your personality", as a means to justify our failures with women, but that is simply ignoring the elephant in the room. Repeated experiences result in identified trends, and it is an observably reality that other men, who are tall / large, who have crappy personalities, are not interesting people, and are not successful financially, generally do fine with women. So, if the issue was the 'personality', 'social skills' or 'hygiene' of short men, why would this not also apply to tall men? Gee, I wonder. And then, as the icing on the cake, come the women who say "the right woman won't care about your height!. Because, I mean, what does this imply, exactly? It implies there's *someone* out there, but just not her. In her mind, this 'right woman' is always someone else, because objectively you're not undesirable (as you're successful, smart, funny, well-dressed, in-shape, and all the rest of it), but you're not attractive to *her* because you're 5,6". Well, when pretty much every single woman has this mentality, you're left with...no dating options! Or needles in a haystack at best. This is a damn essay but just wanted to outline my thoughts. It's brutal out there for short men in the 2020s.

So is doing something too early they see a guy\girl they think is Hot they will rip their own cloths off. It's mostly for the Guys\Girls who have to work the hardest to get notice.

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Well, you are not super attractive, so maybe you should pay attention.

@@randyg22152 yeah no Im already red pilled xD

@@dimabu3265 he said that you are not super attractive, which is implying that he only thinks you are kinda cute.

Theres loads of stuff that works on every woman like being the dominant abusive alpha male, money and power, being a top p#ick up artist, being unpleasent and arrogant, being in jai, disrespect, if you have that combination you will get ANY woman, look at Donald Trump EVERY woman likes him !

#2! Hell yeah! All excellent point

this comment just makes you look weak bro. man up take it in the balls and move on. can't win all the time.

@@yamafanboy obviously you are not a golfer

@@willsabol8391 no judgement on your life choices sir but my orientation is such that I have no fascination or desire whatsoever to spend any of my time holding a rod in my hands and swinging the tip of said rod into a series of balls. Again, no disrespect to you and your preferences.

@@yamafanboy obviously you don't get that reference

Oh boy 😅😅 he needs my channel! Haha

Teasing or making fun of your crush a bit is probably fine but anything that is borderline bullying or going agro with the roasts is too much. Lol a little bit of teasing or jokes can work well.

Not true. Attractive women sleep with good looking arrogant men all the time. They also tend to get confidence and cockiness mixed up. I agree that being arrogant isn't a good trait, but if you're good looking it isn't a deal breaker at first.

@@Dude-oh8vq More like if you have money. Then you could be a mass murderer and most women would jump into bed with you if you had enough. I'm 6'3 was about an 8 to 9 out of 10 in my late 20's was olympic level fit and had a reasonable job that paid more than I needed to live. Could I get a GF could I hell. Now I'm fat and disabled (due to an injury) and look like I overdosed on ugly pills, while falling out of the ugly tree and hitting every branch on the way down., but I am now in a very financially secure situation they are round me like flies round shite,

Make a fool pray to God and he'll split his forehead open :)

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I can relate to you so much. I do also have a older sister who actually annoys me rather than being helpful.

I want her to be my "stepsister" lol

@@SmoKyBruceLee I do not think you had bad intentions behind this joke but it might offend her.

Same my sister is a waste of space lol

😂😂 if you’ve got the confidence you can rock anything in the world. Untouchable 👏🏼

you need to put them in sport mode too

This is the look when I step out of my DB11 at starbucks

He's married to the LOOOORD'S mistress, and he's wearing crocs...WIT SOCKS!!!

What a crock! 😁

Unfortunately, it's good you ended the relationship. You did what you could. Now, no one can complain that you abandoned her. You deserve to live happily. If she's depressed, let her be. You can't save everyone. Don't try. It's amazing to me on how she was so pretty back then, and then her life became a very sad one. It goes on to show that being beautiful, tall, rich, driving a great car, being muscular, graduating with a great degree, etc does not guarantee happiness.

@@joebeta1837 yeah, I agree. Money helps but it’s not everything in life. I’ve known Kathy since 7th grade but oddly enough we didn’t have a single class together. We ran with different crowds, so when she msged me first I was happily surprised, I didn’t think she knew I existed. My graduating HS class was about 250. From the day we reconnected in October 2021, we opened right up. We learned we shared so much in common. I told her things I have never shared and she did the same. We texted or talked every day in those 8 months, and when she told me she went down the path she did, completely shocked. She was a straight A student with lots going for her. If I could post a picture here I would, a total knockout and out of my league. She told me I made her want to better herself, but saw no change in the time we dated. She felt safe with me, even breaking down crying in my car during a heart to heart talk. I didn’t see her as a sex machine but a beautiful human. You’re right I can’t save everyone. We’re still Facebook friends but haven’t talked since I broke it off.

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@InThisTogether no!

@@Eletricmayhem what about now

32, fixing my life, and yea.

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@@lordbola2162 you will have to wait for the Hallmark special to find out !

Kissing a smoker is like licking an ashtray... Oh *yum*! :-p

Exactly.

Facts

yes, but when they exhale in the face it's touching.

I disliked your comment, because I want my woman smoking.... smoking Hott!! Lol

Ztz

This 100%! My boyfriend became lazy after I was together with him for a few years. By the seventh year, I got sick of it and I didnt feel in love with him anymore as I felt there was no emotional connection and no romance. We ultimately broke up.

You hit the "head on the nail" so to speak.

@@HaleyMary Did you ever consider that you played a part in the failure of the relationship? Most relationships fail because their partners fail to live up to the agreements they originally made. Almost 60% or more marriages fail because one or the other side failed to live up to the agreement to be a faithful mate. One expects more from the other. The other believes his or her mate has not followed through with their promises. So one or the other decides to give up. Unfortunately, that's the state of marital relationships these days. The saddest part of either partner is living up to their promise to love and obey each other. This includes children who may complicate the situation. If either partner is not ready to provide 50% of their private time to the marriage, then the other party will feel abused and unappreciated. This is why so many marriages fail. Neither party takes their vows of marriage as a "sacrament" under God, as they did when they gave their marital vows. Remember when you got married you promised to love and obey each other until death do you part? Unless, your marriage was invalid because their was no promise to God that the marriage would be a life long promise to love and obey each other in accord with the teachings of the Church, your marriage is invalid under God and only valid under state law. Wow, a state law marriage, what effect does that have when a $500 fee for the Court can start a complaint for a divorce? If you got married outside of the church and had a simple marriage with a justice of the peace then you had a civil marriage without the grace of God. It's still a valid marriage under state law, but so what good is that? Good luck to you. I pray that all marriages made under an oath taken under God continues to be blessed forever. If not, just go to Las Vegas and take your chances. You can get married in one day and get divorced about a month later. It's your choice. If your husband is useless, then examine yourself and decide if you are a part of it. If you conclude that you did everything you can, you can always get a civil divorce. But if you got a civil divorce, keep in mind that in God's eye you might still be married to him forever and getting remarried just might be an act of adultery. If you don't believe in the God of Abraham and/or a Catholic or a protestant God, then so be it. But if you do, you have to think twice. I recommend you speak with a Catholic Priest, or if a Protestent, a member of your Church's leadership before you take any further action. IMHO of course.

@@daffidavit I was never married. It was a relationship that ended before my ex boyfriend and I married. We were together for five years. I'm abstinent/chaste, but I think my ex resented that. I don't think he had the same values as me and that's probably why it ended.

@@ulisses2022 that's not the point

This

This mentality is fucked, and people with it never end up where they want to be, because you make excuses. Don't make excuses, do the damn work, and do it for you, not for anyone else. Then you'll be where you wanna be.Ambition doesn't mean money. Ambition means you want to better yourself. When I was in the military I was a highly ambitious person. I wanted to max pt, to master all my tasks. my uniform was spot on everytime. I was 5 minutes early for being early. I did this because I wanted schools, and a lot of times those go to the first guy that pops in the RNCO or CO's head when a slot opens. I wanted that to be me, so I could go to school, and get promoted faster. The difference between where I was and where I could go is poverty to lower middle class. Not chasing money, chasing the best version of myself. Quit making excuses and start putting in the work. Trust me you'll get where you wanna be if you just take the time to develop a skill, find something you're passionate about and pursue it, something you love waking up for, something that strive to be great at. It can be your job, it can be a hobby it can be anything but find a passion and chase it, this will give you confidence, purpose, and it will allow you to develop discipline. Take care of yourself, bathe, groom ,work out (don't have to be a gym rat but be healthy, go for a run, do calisthenics in the morning, yoga, life cycle whatever(great places to meet people btw, not girls, gyms aren't for pick ups, but people who have value.) and focus on what you can control and ignore what you can't. Those things with some work and time will put you in a head space, and create an aura around you that will draw in the right people. Now it won't fix target fixation, where you put some girl on a pedestal and you can't have her so the world is fucked and if you were rich, attractive, blabla. That you have to clean out on your own, the second it hits. Kill it like a cancer. High value attracts high value, victims attract wolves and other victims.

@@michag4337 there are a lot of people coping in these comments putting forth the idea that none of this applies to them because they aren’t a 10/10 in the looks department and it’s honestly sad.

And it makes them stink something vile. I mean who wants to kiss an ashtray, cus thats what you're doing.

A woman who drinks too much is worse than smoking. Even before I started smoking I didn’t find it a turnoff I the slightest. Looze The Booze

Above all it's extremely unhealthy

depends on what you're smoking. Many of these "Instagram models", even the VS models like Candice and Elsa smoke cigarettes because tobacco suppresses your appetite, a reason many are as skinny as they are. I smoke cigars and as most women know, that's a sign you have disposable income. My go to cigar is $40 and once a day at minimum adds up. Cigars are amazing, FYI.

@@SirRobbins Sorry Bro, women don't dig cigars, I also hate them especially when some douchebag fires one up at the craps table in Vegas and I'm downwind, I take my chips and cash out. It's like a Boomer thing, no one thinks it looks cool or makes you cool smoking cigars except the person smoking them just like Harley Davidsons.

Glad to hear it ☺️ thanks for watching!

@@CourtneyRyan and also the insta models is just social media and some girls do it to. Also have you heard that if guy isnt in relationship by 29 they most likely gay. I think its prejudice pov from girls tbf

You are getting her best side. You think she is like this when the camera is not rolling? Hahaha. She's a woman.

@@Old-Dog00 Mate as if you're a saint at all times lol. As if I talk to my boss the same way as I talk to my mates

@@thrasherdave1428 Courtney is not my boss or yours. Women usually have two personalities. The one they use when they are around people they try to make an impression. Then their true self. Quit be so whipped.

Only exception for me personally, is if you're already in a steady relationship and both of you are separated for an extended period of time and decide to exchange pics

I just get them sent to me I don't have to ask.

That's objectifying the person and not part of dating, how dare she calls it normal

I'm single because I am looking for a woman with something close to my level of integrity.

@@gordonlawrence1448 You won't find it my friend....but I'm sure you already know that. Take care brother.

YEP THAT SHOULD TURN THEM OFF LOL !!

Or scratching your crutch or backside in public/Farting in a lift.

Be a nitpicker, not a nose picker.

Pissing in the sink...

What about a Dutch oven?

Thank you so much! Happy to hear it 😊

@@CourtneyRyan tru, coming from another prodigy

Very well stated sir!

Yah, VERY good point! 🤔 I know why, I swear most of them on the dating scene do it ALL, and way more than guys! The smoking turnoff at the end was just personal to Courtney. Many women smoke something and she don't care. These rules don't apply the higher your SMV # is 😎

@@Wize817 Your comment: "...these rules don't apply the higher your SMV is." Excellent point! Brother, I agree 100%.

Nothing worse than a drunkard ass bish that is loud and gross

👏🏼❤️ thank you!!

Aw, thank you so much! I appreciate it 🥰

Definitely 👏🏼

@Courtney Ryan same! Although from my experience, a lot of women get really suspicious. Like, you don't have social media? I'm then either fake or "playing them." Saying that it's because of work, or wanting to avoid drama negativity doesn't seem to help either, legit as it may be. Any second opions?

@@danielkirk1837 Those are some of my thoughts as well. Kind of damned if you do damned if you don’t. If you have an account they’ll scour it to find dirt on you and if you don’t have one, well then, you must be a serial killer lol

They'll find you mysterious because they can't snoop at your stuff and stalk you.

Actually a really interesting question, and good reply from Courtney as well. Perhaps have a LinkedIn profile for “business reasons and connections” so you have a social media presence, but sack off Facebook and Instagram as “you wanted more time to yourself to meditate and not seeing other people’s drama”...

@John maybe Teddys finally poppin the question to her tonight 😏 💍

This comment deserves more "likes."

LOL! Smokers don't tend to puff smoke onto others, let alone onto kids. You uncle was just an a-hole and it had nothing to do with him smoking. I smoke and never did so in non-smoking areas - and even before the bans on inside public places and everyone was smoking inside, I would go outside to smoke to not bother anyone. I agree with marginalising smoking - even for me as a smoker it was unacceptable to see people smoking in offices and all the building smelling smoke, I much rather prefer the outside smoking area which gives me the chance to make a break and recollect my thoughts. However on the rest, I disagree. While I don't disagree with what you say about how important is for people to be decent human beings, I wholeheartedly disagree about your idea that men striving to be decent human beings will help them in their romantic life. You are a victimised man who believes still int he 21st century that women want they things they say the want. LOL! No man, no! Stop being a victim! Even scientists (the last to acknowledge but hey, they eventually did it!) proved it nowadays that women are precisely drawn sexually from men presenting dark triads. What are these? Narcissism, Machiavellian, Sociopathy/Psychopathy. I am sorry to shutter your world but there is a reason why pick up artists underlined the motto "Don't look what they say, look what they do and above all the men they select". If women were drawn to decent human beings pick-up artists would strive to pretend being decent human beings - and fact of the matter is that they had tested that strategy too but it did not work. What worked best in most of the situations was emulating narcissists and sociopaths. Let that sink in...

A big generational change, indeed. An anecdote about this from the generation where this changed: A scientist friend of mine, female, was single into her 40s, as most of her male colleagues were terminally socially awkward. At a college reunion, she happened to start talking to a male classmate she hadn't known well. They turned out to have a great deal in common, mostly NOT in science (music was a big connection). She mused to me why she didn't remember him from when we were in school and realized it was because he was a smoker. It just automatically dismissed him from serious consideration. He'd quit some years before and hasn't smoked since. They've now been happily married for almost 30 years. Never would have come about if he'd still smoked.

or complains about the food on purpose to try to get it for free.

Only a few?

Never take advice from a broad

Of course!! 👏🏼 I want my info to be as accurate as possible

And here I thought she only painted a picture of her and her friends instead of giving an accurate representation of women as a whole.

What about you? This channel is for you to be reflective. It goes both ways of course but what else? Any original thought beyond that?

Ahhh I love that. You’re so welcome ☺️ thanks for watching!

Make-up or fake personalities?

Wait for corona or like personality wise 🤣

Coach Greg Adams suggests that finding out what is behind it takes 2 years.

i try to avoid talking to ANYone who wears a stupid mask, whether they are women or men

U mean make up?

😂 watch until the end!!

@@CourtneyRyan 😂 will do!!

I was about to say "thats not true lol" and then remembered a lot of girls really are like that :/