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@sharondotson70274 жыл бұрын
I ask a guy sitting at a bar if he was married and he said no, I asked him if he wanted to be and he said "can we go out first" and I said, "if you must". We were married 8 months later. You just don't know what will turn a guy on.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
"If you must" 😂😂 Love it!!
@gracehall91994 жыл бұрын
Usually that scares men away. They don't want to think of marriage when you first meet. You just got lucky.
@louisemc36804 жыл бұрын
@@gracehall9199 clearly, he was into her, it wasn't luck.
@nofybn77943 жыл бұрын
@@louisemc3680 both.
@sharondotson70273 жыл бұрын
@@gracehall9199 Yes, I did.
@Destiny_Jewel3 жыл бұрын
On the third date, I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I was in a relationship, and he took the initiative to actually respect that and court me.
@lucymb004 жыл бұрын
The anticipation of sex by delaying sex is so so important! Cannot stress enough.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
So powerful with the right people! 🤗
@peggywells93984 жыл бұрын
Still anticipating, after 5 months. Pandemic and living situations....
@SkyePhoenix4 жыл бұрын
Yep
@lindazwerling99083 жыл бұрын
yes i agree
@alizabethkat522 жыл бұрын
Yesssss!!!
@MandyJRoss4 жыл бұрын
It's all about the good vibes. If you're a happy person you will naturally attract a happy mate. Guys compliment me on my positive energy -- "it's refreshing" and my smile is "infectious," as per them. Also allowing them to be in their masculine while I remain in and celebrate my feminine energy. And being fully present and making a man feel they have my attention and making them feel uplifted and special whenever they're in my presence.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Love it!! 🤗
@chelsearyan59554 жыл бұрын
Mandy I just subscribed to your page because of your comment here. ☺️
@veronicav17793 жыл бұрын
Yeah stay skin deep see how long that lasts
@MandyJRoss3 жыл бұрын
@@datingcoachryanpatrick ☺✌🏼
@MandyJRoss3 жыл бұрын
@@chelsearyan5955 aw thanks girl! ☺
@pamelamichelle49854 жыл бұрын
Ryan, I knew I captured a guys attention. When we had been texting for a little bit and I asked him to call me on the phone. He was avoiding it for a while and I told him that it couldn’t go any further with us if he wasn’t willing to at least call me. So he asked me if I wanted him to call me. I told him I was going to give him a typical girl answer. I said I want you to want to call me, I don’t want you to call me because you think I’m forcing you. He laughed and then my phone was ringing 30 seconds later. After an hour of conversation. I said to him hey I really appreciate you calling me I know you’re not a A phone guy so I’m just going to say thank you so much I enjoyed the conversation and let you hang up and relax for the rest of the evening. He pause for a moment and said no we can talk a little bit longer. That’s when I knew I had them. Or at least I think I did.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
This type of live feedback to those you like is PRICELESS 🙏🏽 Thanks for sharing, Pamela!
@maxonout4 жыл бұрын
I have zero interest in going out with a man until we have been texting, chatting and videoing for a couple months. If we are sure there is chemistry, then look out when we meet! He wont have a chance.
@lanamccracken17013 жыл бұрын
kknh
@dianamilliard47224 жыл бұрын
I told him that we should form a friendship first
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Like laying down that boundary from the get-go! Nice! ✊
@amandabowers90384 жыл бұрын
I did the same thing and he asked me to marry him
@LynseyTate4 жыл бұрын
@@datingcoachryanpatrick 0
@arias20263 жыл бұрын
@Diana milliard, supermega respect for you !
@wowso43 жыл бұрын
Amanda Bowers wow congratulations are you guys married now?
@princess1024774 жыл бұрын
The sarcasm is both a gift and curse
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
A curse only with the *wrong* guys, honestly 😉
@SkyePhoenix4 жыл бұрын
I hate sarcasm sometimes. It's a total turn off to me.
@googleuser28743 жыл бұрын
I think this is Ryan's thing not every guy's thing. lol
@mariacisneros24034 жыл бұрын
I prioritize myself, my needs, my schedule, my self care. Pretty much everything!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Powerful list!! 🙏
@RealityxFairytale3 жыл бұрын
But I also think it's quite selfish to prioritize ourself (as we should tho) and not respect that man has its own priorities as well, so we kind of have in our brain "ok he can't meet me, when I have time, what a jerk." Just thinking that we're the only one thing in his life. What I mean is that I think value ourselves but also respect his life.
@JD-dz9lx3 жыл бұрын
Yep. 💓
@danihaiden8903 жыл бұрын
I'm an eye contact master when a flirty stare at my eyes I stare back with no emotions , until he looks embarrassed, it's like a challenge.
@amari62293 жыл бұрын
wish i could relate. cant hold eye contact at all 😭
@Zoe509363 жыл бұрын
I thought I was the only that does this even with strangers
@michelledekenipp23823 жыл бұрын
My husband pursued me. I made him wait for the goods because I didn't want him to leave, had to make sure. 14 1/5 years later. 10 years married 💞
@donnadoram3573 жыл бұрын
I have been totally happy with myself, my career as an art director in an art museum. I loved being free, still do. I had 7 marriage proposals in one year with no sex. I ended up sailing with a friend to the Bahamas. Met the love of my life there where he put me in my own house on the ocean.
@melssf7852 Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you you're living the dream i hope my situation is similar to yours. I feel pressure to have sex a bit lol
@MsWoman74 жыл бұрын
I met a guy at an outdoor Christmas market I was working at last year. Whenever people walked by my booth, I'd smile and say hello. I caught his attention as he walked by, we made small talk, and exchanged names & phone numbers. My boss (gay man) tried to pressure me into texting him right after he left. I stood my ground. I DO NOT chase men. Besides, he said he would call. It was a test to see if he'd follow through. Sure enough, he did call me... 2 days later! Due to his profession (commercial airline pilot), we set up a date a week later. We've been going strong ever since! Know your worth, ladies! Don't put up with crap! The men will smell it, and behave accordingly. See my next comment on how to weed out men with the wrong intentions!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful! 👏🏼
@wowso43 жыл бұрын
So true I’m the same way and some of my ppl call me picky I don’t care I’m not chasing no man.
@texasstardust60103 жыл бұрын
Indeed..... Applause for you !!
@perfectlyimperfectmae61373 жыл бұрын
so happy for you. 🧡
@karinaward9713 жыл бұрын
"Slow your roll" has got to be the best advice ever! I recently met a guy I really like, who is also really into me. This has happened to me before in life, but I'm romantic and passionate and have a tendancy to rush things and overshare. This time I've followed your advice of leaning back - not seeing him more than once a week for the first six weeks and no sex for 30 days. Things are unfolding as I've always wanted. He's initiating dates, he's escalating contact and we're slowly building an intense, organic intimacy. Thanks for the insight, this could be a game-changer.
@makachauruka79673 жыл бұрын
"hey look at me, look at me, am over here" That had me rolling in tears😂😂Also love the faces he made
@MariaMaria-oo3kj3 жыл бұрын
What has happened to men that they seem to have lost their active role? It's all about women hunting men, l don't believe a woman can be really happy with a man she had to hunt.
@belgicarivera40023 жыл бұрын
I agree Maria. I believe in giving him signs that you're open to getting to know him, but after he does the chasing.
@rubybegonia70523 жыл бұрын
My ex found me. But then he lost me. He could have still had me had he played his cards right. But he didn’t think he had to. Crazy 8’s and Solitaire is not for me. C’est la vie.
@aliikram6733 жыл бұрын
Actually, in most cases, I think its the man having to hunt the women (ask her out, propose to her, etc). Men feel the same way too.
@ellengrace46093 жыл бұрын
I would call it witty instead of sarcastic. It takes talent to do it well as some people think they’re being sarcastic when it just comes across as rude.
@kimfrederick77104 жыл бұрын
I've been dating since the quarantine in video calls and in texting and he's coming to meet me in 2 weeks. He's all in already. He's hooked already
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Beautiful! Have fun with this one, Kim! 👌🏽
@angela-op1bt3 жыл бұрын
And then after 3-4 months now it’s a relationship, the guy knows that he had her, there’s no excitement for the guy. Bc he pursued her and he had her. End of the adventure. But never make the guy think that he has you. Even when you marry him. Never.
@wdychennyc3 жыл бұрын
I have no "wait to be intimate" rule but surprisingly all the longer relationships I've had were the ones that intimacy was delayed.
@joannedocker17884 жыл бұрын
Hi Ryan . I’m just coming out of a marriage. I’ve had the same man for 30yrs. Your advice has certainly helped me to notice stuff about myself that I had ignored for so long I’m still getting to know who I am again and what I want from life , but when I do start to get bored of being single and I’m ready to really mingle , I’ll definitely feel more clued up than I did in my 20’s 🙏🏼🙋🏻♀️
@cynthiaziegler65584 жыл бұрын
I too am back in the dating scene at almost 50. I have dated a few. This last week my player AKA friend wanted to see me and i told him i was busy. I was not, but boy the texts moved from not as sexual to more of an actual conversation. The texts are longer and more meaningful and he called. Now, am I falling for this, absolutely not. It is what it is.
@suzanne59714 жыл бұрын
I am back in dating after 34 years.
@cynthiaziegler65584 жыл бұрын
@@suzanne5971 I know this sounds corny, but its kind of comforting to know there are others my age starting over. Sometimes I feel so out of place.❤
@joannedocker17884 жыл бұрын
Cynthia Ziegler I was actually terrified of putting myself out there again , but having watched several of Ryan’s videos , I felt a little more at ease if meeting someone . I’m not a swipe left , swipe right person . I don’t have time to do endless chat about my likes and dislikes on the swipe sites . So these short videos have made me feel more at ease with what I could do
@b.johnny3694 жыл бұрын
Ooooh, I feel you sister friend! ❤️
@AmandaRaye4 жыл бұрын
I went over to his house the second time we met, brought dessert and we chatted. I was being very matter of fact about my knowledge of some of his habits and asking him questions. At one point he commented that I had HIM giggling like a girl! It was so cute. For the first time with a new guy, I felt powerful and confident in myself and it showed. He texted me after and told me he had a surprisingly good time (lol) and that he wasn’t scared that he felt he clicked with me pretty early. He also said he’d like to have me over again, cook dinner and talk shit while laughing, soon. Winning!!
@Bellag774 жыл бұрын
I always thought my sarcasm was a turn off! 🤣😂
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
NOPE! It's the perfect way to screen out guys who don't get sarcasm is all 👌🏽
@KayNovember263 жыл бұрын
Tease him. Create lil scenarios. Get him all worked up... That shows you're comfortable in your own skin as well as a lil adventurous. Most guys love this!
@victoriaaydelott61873 жыл бұрын
Finally, a guy who actually has some valid points!
@datingcoachryanpatrick3 жыл бұрын
Thanks Victoria! 🙂
@p.e.43864 жыл бұрын
Ignored him, chased me everywhere😂😂
@pragatisingh28843 жыл бұрын
They love chasing
@ManifestingPoetess4 жыл бұрын
I used your advice! I asked him what he was wearing, he told me and then asked why. I said, "Because I was wondering what I would have to take off of you if I were there." He literally said, "Ok. You've got my attention!" Lol I couldn't believe it! Thank you for that! 😊
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Great job! That'll do it! 😅
@tans30153 жыл бұрын
I literally never expect a guy to be interested in me. One time my dad told me someone was interested in me because I was clueless! That describes me! I am clueless.
@sandyhammond4 жыл бұрын
I'm not actively looking for a guy but I can't stop watching your videos to see your eyes and facial expressions when you talk, Ryan. Especially when the vid and sound slows down - those are the best faces ... oh my god, it's so good!
@classyconversationswithrho3443 жыл бұрын
Years back when I always went out with my boyfriend at breakfast I would allso put the cream and sugar in his coffee. Twenty years later he told me, "he always loved that and no other woman ever did that" Thank you for your great videos. I signed up to be on your new show.
@lisabuckner2434 жыл бұрын
I JUST LOVE THE FACES YOU MAKE 😂😂
@sassyshekshek3 жыл бұрын
You aint lying..I do all that. I grew up hanging around guys and I took wat I learned and I used it to my advantage. I like your content and personality because you know your stuff. Much love💯😉
@ThePrettyRabbit3 жыл бұрын
HOW TO MAKE HIM TURN OFF IN A SECOND : - Tell him you want babies - Tell him you want to get married with him as soon as possible
@elainebenis22303 жыл бұрын
lol
@Stevinpj3 жыл бұрын
That's true 😅🤣
@ThePrettyRabbit3 жыл бұрын
@@Stevinpj 🤣🤣🤣
@BlushGush3 жыл бұрын
Not true, it makes them see that you know what you want and take you seriously. From my experience.
@ners.nurona3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@larisamiller53204 жыл бұрын
I told him to stfu when he got too bossy with me. He was used to quiet submissive women bc he's Mexican and they are the bossy macho and I let him know that ain't flying with me! He fell on love with me and respects me more...
@Crazeywolflover4 жыл бұрын
Mine is about when I met a friend of mine for coffee last week. Keep in mind we both know there is something between the two of us but it is unspoken of and unofficial. Anyway once we got our coffee and sat down he handed me a stuffed wolf and said "I saw this and thought of you." I thanked him and told him it was cute then asked what I should name it. His reply was that it was up to me. I told him then the plush's name is the same as yours. My friend laughed and blushed. 💙
@dssnow253 жыл бұрын
I'm oblivious. If the guy won't tell me, I won't know 😂😂
@melindab55853 жыл бұрын
We took a photo together and the next day I printed and brought him a copy- he was hooked!
@mismatchedeyeliner3 жыл бұрын
Ticked off all the boxes with this one guy without even knowing it myself 😂😂😂 and now I'm like what the hell??
@svasianfilipiname66033 жыл бұрын
Damn, dating is so much harder now than when my parents were dating! One bad move (it wasn't even my fault), and I was outta there lol so but thank you Ryan for this great help! It's help me bring my self-worth back up!
@annawei43013 жыл бұрын
When I have a carefree & confident attitude.
@FireCracker32404 жыл бұрын
I wanted to say how awesome it is of you to use all types of women in this video! Representing everyone! That's fantastic, Ryan (but not unexpected). You're amazing. 😊🤗
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Aww thanks! I try to keep representation balanced when I have the footage to do so 🙂🙌
@Silneth4 жыл бұрын
Such great advice again Ryan, thank you! I'm personally SUPER guilty of operating by the "scarcity paradigm" you mention, so I need to work on that. One time where I know I captured a guy's attention and turned him on was when he was making a semi-long speech to a group of us about a semi-obscure area of expertise of his (Revolutionary War history type stuff) and I flipped a comment he'd just made into a relevant joke, sort of showing that I was knowledgeable about it as well but didn't take it super seriously. Guy wouldn't stop staring at me for the rest of the night and pursued me for weeks afterward!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Triggering that mental attraction indeed! Nice work, Lauren! 👌🏽
@sandyg78074 жыл бұрын
Went on a great date but then he was a little ghost, a day or two just to respond to a text. I am over 40 and don't hold my tongue back much more. I basically told him, hey this is the first and last long text I am going to send you. In a nutshell, I told him I know my self-worth and have no time to waste with games. I told him I like him and respect him and expect the same in return. Then I said NOT to reply if he doesn't see a future with me. This way I can move on. Fast forward we have a great relationship, he knows I won't tolerate any games and I feel better putting my feelings out there with no expectations.
@Love0515.4 жыл бұрын
Letting him know I wasn't looking for sex. He texted often and got to know my personality
@queensparkles2842 жыл бұрын
Who else in the intro heard him say "heey everyone im dating your relationship coach" I almost spit my tea!
@adinatoader85954 жыл бұрын
Hi, I started to follow you some days ago, I just wanted to tell you that you are a godsend! I really appreciate your videos and you're helping me understand and learn every day more about the "man universe", the psychology it's another thing that I like! Thank you so much! ❤
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you!! Glad to have you here, Adina! 😀
@paigenoel55133 жыл бұрын
I told my guy friend who had a crush on me that he makes me happy (I texted that because he had to go have a “chat” with his abusive dad and I wanted to make him smile or feel better) and he sent a lot of blush’s emojis and said that if I were with him he would have kissed me.
@TheHilikus893 жыл бұрын
I really appreciate the sunglasses tip I’ve struggled with eye contact all my life but I’ve met someone who I can comfortably do it with.
@cassandralynngillson59684 жыл бұрын
I love to make anyone go from a frown to a smile by showing them my smile and recognition that I see them. I have seen too many people afraid to smile because the smile might be seen by some as only flirting. In this time and age, I see a smile show positively implement that is needed in everyones daily life.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Love it, Cassandra! Never fear the almighty SMILE 😁
@casy62034 жыл бұрын
Watching my guy ryan while doing minute wall sits...learning and blocking the pain😂
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Is he doing the wall sits or are you, Casy? 😂😂
@margaritam.91184 жыл бұрын
Good job, Casy! :D
@FireCracker32404 жыл бұрын
I was once interested in a man from the UK. I wasn't the greatest cook, but I learned how to cook his favorite foods from home (many ingredients not readily found in the States), and he was really impressed. That relationship didn't last, but my newfound love for cooking did. I'm now a pretty skilled home chef. I try to find something learned & gained from each and every failed relationship, so nothing has ever been a waste of time.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! Yes, I making cooking a priority too 🙂Food is a GREAT way for us to form bonds with one another
@JD-dz9lx3 жыл бұрын
Eh. If he’s made it very clear in the first few weeks that he genuinely likes me and wants me to text him, I’ll text first sometimes but let him do MOST of the text initiation, ALL of the phone or FaceTime initiation, ALL of the in person date invitations. I’ve had soooo many complaints about never texting first. And most of the text I send are “light and breezy” and short. Send them and then put my phone away and go back to my life. 😂
@christineprimeau32464 жыл бұрын
Love these tips - I’m definitely going to try the sunglasses “eye contact” tip!
@kaydykes99164 жыл бұрын
Love your smile Ryan! Thank you for all the advice, it’s helped me try things differently. Here’s hoping!
@oscarolley84653 жыл бұрын
Watching this as a guy, this is pretty true.
@KVandendriessche3 жыл бұрын
I’m a bicycle mechanic and I ride really cool bikes. He did a double take over my bike and said “what a pretty bike!” Then he looked up at my smile and said “wow and you’re pretty” which I don’t think he meant to say outloud lol
@juliesmith40864 жыл бұрын
I said that things are hard for you right now, you have been through a lot, you are missed but I support you in your accomplishments, I'll be so proud of you when you've completed these things as I'm so proud of you now!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Ahhhh nothing beats some good ol' acknowledgement of his mission, passion or purpose. Good call! 😎
@juliesmith40864 жыл бұрын
Thank you, yes, in fact he is calling me more, even wanting to connect with me on his 10 minute break at work just to say Hi. We've not seen each other for 18 months, but we connect as best friends, also neither of us are seeing anyone else! He lives the other side of Canada but will be back sometime!
@katedauphinee75364 жыл бұрын
Looking forward to your course, Ryan, so I can surround myself with men to practice this on! 😉
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Aww yay! It contains my *very best* stuff for sure! Can't wait for you to see what's inside 👀
@leslieisepic4 жыл бұрын
I open up and am honest about where my intentions are at the beginning. If he’s interested and senses a spark, then I leave the ball in his court to make a move. It has worked so far with this guy I have been talking and seeing since May. He has had a lot on his plate but still managed to set up time for us to spend getting to know each other. Also foreplay in text and in person has worked in my favor so far.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
YES!! Foreplay in texts builds that anticipation to see one another *perfectly.* Thanks for sharing, Leslie! 😀
@whossiermami3 жыл бұрын
New to your page and I am OBSESSED❤️
@michelesabini46394 жыл бұрын
The compliments that are specific and well thought out are a ringer for sure! Loved this video, Ryan! As always, you are SPOT ON! Thank you!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, Michele! 😎
@chandasoriano41884 жыл бұрын
Hello, does it applies to all status of women like widow ????
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
@@chandasoriano4188 Most certainly 🙂
@chloezapata41524 жыл бұрын
What a great idea to wear sunglasses and make eye contact with everyone you see. For a person who's too shy to make eye contact with someone they are interested in, that would really make it eventually more comfortable in real life 😎
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Yup! I love this little trick! Works like a charm 😋
@melissamcqueen5824 жыл бұрын
thought i was going to learn something new in this video, but it turns out i'm already knocking it out of the park, thanks to your help Ryan! (btw ur hair looks really good lol 😘)
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it, Melissa! And thanks for the compliment on my hair too 😄
@starshake89983 жыл бұрын
When you're advising women to delay sex, keep in mind that we like it, too. Navigating that boundary isn't just about fending off a guy's advances and manipulative tactics or our "ideas" about what we think will make him happy. It's also about controlling our own impulses. Some of us "new age, liberated feminists" run into a values conflict here: How can I delay sex and make this relationship special without repressing my own desires and just shutting down in the process." For me, personally, if I can resist a guy for 30 days, I can resist him forever. 🤷♀️
@elizlikethequeen3 жыл бұрын
Yes. Exactly this. I'm not just fighting him off, I'm trying desperately to keep my knees together.
@lynnes18643 жыл бұрын
I think the pandemic makes it easier. You want to know him well enough that you know he isn't going to crowded parties every weekend. Plus you can do video dates first and build things up slow.
@saltycat6623 жыл бұрын
That's a ho problem.
@Katiemadonna32 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@zennafergusson74203 жыл бұрын
#9 Seeing him once a week when you first start dating? I saw my boyfriend about 5 days throughout the first week then moved in after that week and we never fight or get sick of eachother, we are best friends, we just clicked. #10 waiting a month for sex? I made him wait till the 4th day of hanging out and i think that was enough of a tease for both of us. We've been together a year now and we couldn't be happier. This isnt for everyone
@fapollock75234 жыл бұрын
Put sunglasses on to learn how to make eye contact...you're awesome!
@cmcfaddin3 жыл бұрын
That's helpful, because I have autism
@melissawoods232 жыл бұрын
I have a silly personality. I had some candy in my hand that my guy didn’t see. I looked at him and seductively asked, “Do you want some? I really want some.” And smiled. He looked around and said,”Now?” Me….”Yes! Come on …come get some.” He stopped walking towards me. I giggled and slowly put out my hand and said, “it’s so good!” He saw the candy and started laughing! Super funny how quickly he “came to get it!” Lol!
@amelianabors61303 жыл бұрын
Excellent Tips as always it’s Paramount to keep a man interested ! You are so wise to educate all of us ladies , I been single for so many years because I am very selective and found myself picking up a lot of hints ( Advice ) from a very wise Dating Coach 😍😍😍
@katherinegordon76153 жыл бұрын
I was happy because I was shopping at good will for the holloween custom I was building from scratch...something I LOVE to do each year. I drew him in by asking him his opinion. I really wasnt looking for "trouble"...and it did turn into him asking me for my number...I really wasnt looking or wanting a boyfriend...but he did turn into the Best Boyfrined
@rosemarycalogero70174 жыл бұрын
I told him that he deserved to be happy
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
How to he respond to that? The reason I ask is that's typically something that is said to be nice when you're breaking up with someone 😅
@lucymb004 жыл бұрын
Abundance paradigm is very well put!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Thanks Lucy! I appreciate that! 😀
@justinbullock60423 жыл бұрын
Guys were tossing these grapes into the air and catching them, so I locked eyes with the guy I liked, threw my grape and caught it in my teeth, all while maintaining eye contact. It was the unabashed flirty eyes that really took it over the edge.
@starshake89983 жыл бұрын
Comment 500: When I watch videos like this -- long lists of all the subtle, precise, magical ways we're supposed to be and act -- I feel very discouraged. I know lists get clicks, and I realize the hyper specific instructions are meant to make these suggestions concrete and actionable. I can also easily see how all of these traits and behaviors would be very appealing. I just don't see myself in any of it, and that makes me sad. Just hearing phrases like "be outspoken but in a subtle way" baffles me, and I can feel my stomach tighten and my soul start to wrap itself into a pretzel as I imagine myself trying to evoke any one of these styles (let alone all 10!). I know that none of these women are me, and I know I could never pull off a single one of these attitudes for more than an hour or two regardless of how much I might want to. I had a good cry after watching this video. I think the sheer magnitude of it is what really did me in. It might as well be called "All the Many Things You Lack That Keep You From Being Loved'. If this is what it takes to be cherished forever by a man, that explains why I've never been proposed to, and at 48 (almost 49) , still find myself alone. I guess I'm going to have to start buying chocolate in bulk, get a dog, and call it a good life as it is.
@DrJenTattoo4 жыл бұрын
Hey Ryan. Great video. Me being sarcastic is a part of my charm. I have a guy at work who always seeks me out and no matter how bad I get sarcastic with him he keeps coming back to me.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
It can be an addictive drug! Sarcasm conveys so many wonderful things 😌
@DrJenTattoo4 жыл бұрын
@@datingcoachryanpatrick The best part Ryan is he gives it right back to me and follows me around like a lost puppy
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
@@DrJenTattoo Ahhh LOVE when the other person can dish it right back to ya 😋
@danaje76494 жыл бұрын
I started hiding my sarcasm at one point because I just grew tired of explaining what I meant. But you are right, it should be a sign we are just not on the same page. Btw, love your videos!ty!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Totally! Use it as a screener! 👌🏽And thank you! 🙂
@MK-ex2vt3 жыл бұрын
Love this ♥️ A new point of view compared to other video's about relationships 🙂
@amandaantico784 жыл бұрын
I’m a very optimistic person and that is so much better than someone who always focuses on the negatives.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
This will get you very far in a variety of situations for sure 👌🏽
@lizzieh4314 жыл бұрын
I'm sarcastic sometimes, but he will only figure out after knowing me better, but it still depends on guys. I actually feel since different guy has different personality, the dynamic with him would be different. The pace in a relationship is also depending on individuals, but I think no matter what, just act after we get ready and comfortable. I honestly would like follow my thoughts at the early stage to reduce the anxiety or something unsettled.
@miaguerrero68343 жыл бұрын
I was dating this guy but had him wondering I was like we aren’t dating or messing with him but then saying oh don’t say that to my boyfriend or to him
@lifeonmars91573 жыл бұрын
one time I was outside of school and I started singing the Russian song Katyusha that I had learned the night before to show my friends and he then came to me and told me I had a very good Russian pronunciation and that he was Russian. we went out after that and now we've been together for 9 months loool
@abbieamavi4 жыл бұрын
*I do all these things, basically on accident. I'm a people person and an extrovert, but now I noticed why guys ask me out after a day of knowing me. I'm hella busy, compliment guys on random things a lot, encourage them ...I think I need to be more rude shoot. But I encourage everyone!*.
@ahbmgnpc4 жыл бұрын
Once there was a guy in my team that made a rookie mistake at work. So I took him aside, and told him, in the most calm sweet way, that it was ok this time, but next time I would fire him. Two years later, he left the company, and the first thing he did was asking me out (I was his boss so a relationship could not be possible while working together). He told me that he has been hooked with me since that moment I almost fired him! That combination of sweetness and power was irresistible for him, apparently... 🤔
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Oooo I'm glad the story ended like that because I was about to say "No co-workers, Natalia! 😱" LOL
@kaylinworthington3 жыл бұрын
I didn’t realize how big eye contact was but I realize it’s the same with women. And after watching a number of videos, and even random interviews, guys say eye contact! That’s hard when I’m not trying to come off too desperate when I like a guy!
@sandracarli11104 жыл бұрын
You have more subscribers now and that means that more and more girls and women are learning these tricks so the competition is growing :-D
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
It's true! 🙏🏽
@SuzieWongSingapore4 жыл бұрын
Several times when I listened intently to a guy speak about something with a slight gaze upwards earned me a kiss as he leans forward and said “ Gosh that’s so sexy “
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Niiiiiice 😎
@cheshirexx26234 жыл бұрын
congratulations you got a new subscriber ! your channel is really interesting and im stjll trying to learn all these just in case there's someone im interested in !
@SamElle4 жыл бұрын
AHHH i don't let guys pursue me... I know I am definitely the person who initiates and don't give guys the chance to. I definitely value my time and make sure to let guys know that I have a busy schedule and they can't just schedule something with me last minute.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
That makes sense to me! It's your own unique way of creating a buffer zone and sorting system with men. As long as you're happy with the caliber of guy coming into your experience, definitely use what works for you 🙌🏽
@Loungelover1014 жыл бұрын
I told him to ‘make me’. His face looked like he wanted to attack me hehe
@AsianSweetie953 жыл бұрын
I told him I just want us to enjoy the moment together.
@FireCracker32404 жыл бұрын
I've had some interest from men when I feel like I did nothing at all - but be myself, and just listen to him. Really hear him, be attentive, be very engaged and true to myself. When I was younger, I had self esteem issues that got in the way of anyone being interested in me. Once I tackled that, everything just fell into place.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
It's really quite amazing when we feels actually *hears* us. Asking follow-up questions is a terrific way of showing someone that you're engaged with them 🙂
@giselleteller39444 жыл бұрын
I knew I had a guy hooked when we met for coffee and he could no stop staring. But I didnt "do" anything.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Just "being" is powerful enough with the right people 😉
@LisaGemini4 жыл бұрын
I always make a man wait for sex. With my ex, he had to wait eight months. Yup, if they are truly interested, they'll wait for several months.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Hi Lisa! How've you been? Long time! 8 months?? That's amazing!! 😄
@LisaGemini4 жыл бұрын
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Hi, Ryan! I've been good. Well, if a man loves you, he will wait. I had been divorced already and wanted to be sure before I slept with the new guy, who I ended up being married to for almost 15 years.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
@@LisaGemini Indeed he will! 👍🏼
@twinflamegirl9901 Жыл бұрын
I’m quite a sarcastic person (in a funny way) so i’m glad to see this featured
@relentlesssloth6464 жыл бұрын
My laugh and smile. It’s unintentionally attracted men without me trying. 🤷♀️
@minhphuongnguyen5764 жыл бұрын
That THAT is a flex
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Yes, those things certainly bring in a wider crowd. Then you get to start chipping away with those micro sorting mechanisms 🤗
@relentlesssloth6464 жыл бұрын
Ryan Patrick now THATS what I struggle with. Lol.
@relentlesssloth6464 жыл бұрын
Minh Phuong Nguyen I oddly feel like I should apologize in some way now 😳
@minhphuongnguyen5764 жыл бұрын
Krista Nic Nono 😂😂😭 absolutely not. It's just I wish I could flex like that haha hahahah
@nicolalblushi98304 жыл бұрын
Hello Ryan....its been along time since I joined you oline... But thanks for video...its been great watching it... Great job....🖒🖒👌👌
@Bellag774 жыл бұрын
This explains so much! I give a guy a unique nickname and tease a little and bam! 😂😂😂 i never knew!
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, guys really eat that stuff up LOL 😁
@ClarkSarita2003 жыл бұрын
Once I was talking to this guy on a dating app and he started slacking on conversation. He would texting me every day saying hi and leaving a smiley face 😊. Then he’d leave me on read after I’d respond. So I told him after 3 days of this that I wasn’t gonna continue talking to him like this and that we didn’t have to talk everyday if he didn’t want to and then left a smiley face. After that he came up with an excuse for why he was slacking and asked me for my number. I guess that worked and we talked constantly for about 3 weeks but then he ghosted me again 😪. Came back a couple weeks later to tell me he got a girlfriend so he stopped talking to me but he said his reasoning for not talking to me had nothing to do with me. I’m not mad about it and I know my worth but I do miss talking to him 🥺😔 oh well 🤷🏽♀️🤣
@flowerlullaby4 жыл бұрын
I went on a date recently and captured his attention (he asked me out for a 2nd date) but he had such trouble maintaining eye contact I wondered if I made him nervous. Maybe my eye contact is intense but no one has told me.
@datingcoachryanpatrick4 жыл бұрын
He's probably just nervous. This happens to the best of us 🙂
@mimiyi35383 жыл бұрын
Ryan l did EVERYTHING in the video and everytime l visit him in cedar hill Dallas area but he lives a hr away from my auntie everytime l say near let's chill his excuse is always I'm at work. And he never makes time for me. He keeps saying he's gunna visit but never does he says he wants me to live with him how to make me live with him l told him he knows just come to San Antonio Texas and see my parents and ask to marry me.
@juliansanford33674 жыл бұрын
one time I was about to box one of my friends, like a full out match. A dude started flirting with me and helping me get my gloves on. 10/10 recommend boxing to get a guy to notice you.