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I ask a guy sitting at a bar if he was married and he said no, I asked him if he wanted to be and he said "can we go out first" and I said, "if you must". We were married 8 months later. You just don't know what will turn a guy on.

On the third date, I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I was in a relationship, and he took the initiative to actually respect that and court me.

The anticipation of sex by delaying sex is so so important! Cannot stress enough.

It's all about the good vibes. If you're a happy person you will naturally attract a happy mate. Guys compliment me on my positive energy -- "it's refreshing" and my smile is "infectious," as per them. Also allowing them to be in their masculine while I remain in and celebrate my feminine energy. And being fully present and making a man feel they have my attention and making them feel uplifted and special whenever they're in my presence.

Ryan, I knew I captured a guys attention. When we had been texting for a little bit and I asked him to call me on the phone. He was avoiding it for a while and I told him that it couldn’t go any further with us if he wasn’t willing to at least call me. So he asked me if I wanted him to call me. I told him I was going to give him a typical girl answer. I said I want you to want to call me, I don’t want you to call me because you think I’m forcing you. He laughed and then my phone was ringing 30 seconds later. After an hour of conversation. I said to him hey I really appreciate you calling me I know you’re not a A phone guy so I’m just going to say thank you so much I enjoyed the conversation and let you hang up and relax for the rest of the evening. He pause for a moment and said no we can talk a little bit longer. That’s when I knew I had them. Or at least I think I did.

I told him that we should form a friendship first

The sarcasm is both a gift and curse

I prioritize myself, my needs, my schedule, my self care. Pretty much everything!

I'm an eye contact master when a flirty stare at my eyes I stare back with no emotions , until he looks embarrassed, it's like a challenge.

My husband pursued me. I made him wait for the goods because I didn't want him to leave, had to make sure. 14 1/5 years later. 10 years married 💞

I have been totally happy with myself, my career as an art director in an art museum. I loved being free, still do. I had 7 marriage proposals in one year with no sex. I ended up sailing with a friend to the Bahamas. Met the love of my life there where he put me in my own house on the ocean.

I met a guy at an outdoor Christmas market I was working at last year. Whenever people walked by my booth, I'd smile and say hello. I caught his attention as he walked by, we made small talk, and exchanged names & phone numbers. My boss (gay man) tried to pressure me into texting him right after he left. I stood my ground. I DO NOT chase men. Besides, he said he would call. It was a test to see if he'd follow through. Sure enough, he did call me... 2 days later! Due to his profession (commercial airline pilot), we set up a date a week later. We've been going strong ever since! Know your worth, ladies! Don't put up with crap! The men will smell it, and behave accordingly. See my next comment on how to weed out men with the wrong intentions!

"Slow your roll" has got to be the best advice ever! I recently met a guy I really like, who is also really into me. This has happened to me before in life, but I'm romantic and passionate and have a tendancy to rush things and overshare. This time I've followed your advice of leaning back - not seeing him more than once a week for the first six weeks and no sex for 30 days. Things are unfolding as I've always wanted. He's initiating dates, he's escalating contact and we're slowly building an intense, organic intimacy. Thanks for the insight, this could be a game-changer.

"hey look at me, look at me, am over here" That had me rolling in tears😂😂Also love the faces he made

What has happened to men that they seem to have lost their active role? It's all about women hunting men, l don't believe a woman can be really happy with a man she had to hunt.

I would call it witty instead of sarcastic. It takes talent to do it well as some people think they’re being sarcastic when it just comes across as rude.

I've been dating since the quarantine in video calls and in texting and he's coming to meet me in 2 weeks. He's all in already. He's hooked already

And then after 3-4 months now it’s a relationship, the guy knows that he had her, there’s no excitement for the guy. Bc he pursued her and he had her. End of the adventure. But never make the guy think that he has you. Even when you marry him. Never.

I have no "wait to be intimate" rule but surprisingly all the longer relationships I've had were the ones that intimacy was delayed.

Hi Ryan . I’m just coming out of a marriage. I’ve had the same man for 30yrs. Your advice has certainly helped me to notice stuff about myself that I had ignored for so long I’m still getting to know who I am again and what I want from life , but when I do start to get bored of being single and I’m ready to really mingle , I’ll definitely feel more clued up than I did in my 20’s 🙏🏼🙋🏻‍♀️

I went over to his house the second time we met, brought dessert and we chatted. I was being very matter of fact about my knowledge of some of his habits and asking him questions. At one point he commented that I had HIM giggling like a girl! It was so cute. For the first time with a new guy, I felt powerful and confident in myself and it showed. He texted me after and told me he had a surprisingly good time (lol) and that he wasn’t scared that he felt he clicked with me pretty early. He also said he’d like to have me over again, cook dinner and talk shit while laughing, soon. Winning!!

I always thought my sarcasm was a turn off! 🤣😂

Tease him. Create lil scenarios. Get him all worked up... That shows you're comfortable in your own skin as well as a lil adventurous. Most guys love this!

Finally, a guy who actually has some valid points!

Ignored him, chased me everywhere😂😂

I used your advice! I asked him what he was wearing, he told me and then asked why. I said, "Because I was wondering what I would have to take off of you if I were there." He literally said, "Ok. You've got my attention!" Lol I couldn't believe it! Thank you for that! 😊

I literally never expect a guy to be interested in me. One time my dad told me someone was interested in me because I was clueless! That describes me! I am clueless.

I'm not actively looking for a guy but I can't stop watching your videos to see your eyes and facial expressions when you talk, Ryan. Especially when the vid and sound slows down - those are the best faces ... oh my god, it's so good!

Years back when I always went out with my boyfriend at breakfast I would allso put the cream and sugar in his coffee. Twenty years later he told me, "he always loved that and no other woman ever did that" Thank you for your great videos. I signed up to be on your new show.

I JUST LOVE THE FACES YOU MAKE 😂😂

You aint lying..I do all that. I grew up hanging around guys and I took wat I learned and I used it to my advantage. I like your content and personality because you know your stuff. Much love💯😉

HOW TO MAKE HIM TURN OFF IN A SECOND : - Tell him you want babies - Tell him you want to get married with him as soon as possible

I told him to stfu when he got too bossy with me. He was used to quiet submissive women bc he's Mexican and they are the bossy macho and I let him know that ain't flying with me! He fell on love with me and respects me more...

Mine is about when I met a friend of mine for coffee last week. Keep in mind we both know there is something between the two of us but it is unspoken of and unofficial. Anyway once we got our coffee and sat down he handed me a stuffed wolf and said "I saw this and thought of you." I thanked him and told him it was cute then asked what I should name it. His reply was that it was up to me. I told him then the plush's name is the same as yours. My friend laughed and blushed. 💙

I'm oblivious. If the guy won't tell me, I won't know 😂😂

We took a photo together and the next day I printed and brought him a copy- he was hooked!

Ticked off all the boxes with this one guy without even knowing it myself 😂😂😂 and now I'm like what the hell??

Damn, dating is so much harder now than when my parents were dating! One bad move (it wasn't even my fault), and I was outta there lol so but thank you Ryan for this great help! It's help me bring my self-worth back up!

When I have a carefree & confident attitude.

I wanted to say how awesome it is of you to use all types of women in this video! Representing everyone! That's fantastic, Ryan (but not unexpected). You're amazing. 😊🤗

Such great advice again Ryan, thank you! I'm personally SUPER guilty of operating by the "scarcity paradigm" you mention, so I need to work on that. One time where I know I captured a guy's attention and turned him on was when he was making a semi-long speech to a group of us about a semi-obscure area of expertise of his (Revolutionary War history type stuff) and I flipped a comment he'd just made into a relevant joke, sort of showing that I was knowledgeable about it as well but didn't take it super seriously. Guy wouldn't stop staring at me for the rest of the night and pursued me for weeks afterward!

Went on a great date but then he was a little ghost, a day or two just to respond to a text. I am over 40 and don't hold my tongue back much more. I basically told him, hey this is the first and last long text I am going to send you. In a nutshell, I told him I know my self-worth and have no time to waste with games. I told him I like him and respect him and expect the same in return. Then I said NOT to reply if he doesn't see a future with me. This way I can move on. Fast forward we have a great relationship, he knows I won't tolerate any games and I feel better putting my feelings out there with no expectations.

Letting him know I wasn't looking for sex. He texted often and got to know my personality

Who else in the intro heard him say "heey everyone im dating your relationship coach" I almost spit my tea!

Hi, I started to follow you some days ago, I just wanted to tell you that you are a godsend! I really appreciate your videos and you're helping me understand and learn every day more about the "man universe", the psychology it's another thing that I like! Thank you so much! ❤

I told my guy friend who had a crush on me that he makes me happy (I texted that because he had to go have a “chat” with his abusive dad and I wanted to make him smile or feel better) and he sent a lot of blush’s emojis and said that if I were with him he would have kissed me.

I really appreciate the sunglasses tip I’ve struggled with eye contact all my life but I’ve met someone who I can comfortably do it with.

I love to make anyone go from a frown to a smile by showing them my smile and recognition that I see them. I have seen too many people afraid to smile because the smile might be seen by some as only flirting. In this time and age, I see a smile show positively implement that is needed in everyones daily life.

Watching my guy ryan while doing minute wall sits...learning and blocking the pain😂

I was once interested in a man from the UK. I wasn't the greatest cook, but I learned how to cook his favorite foods from home (many ingredients not readily found in the States), and he was really impressed. That relationship didn't last, but my newfound love for cooking did. I'm now a pretty skilled home chef. I try to find something learned & gained from each and every failed relationship, so nothing has ever been a waste of time.

Eh. If he’s made it very clear in the first few weeks that he genuinely likes me and wants me to text him, I’ll text first sometimes but let him do MOST of the text initiation, ALL of the phone or FaceTime initiation, ALL of the in person date invitations. I’ve had soooo many complaints about never texting first. And most of the text I send are “light and breezy” and short. Send them and then put my phone away and go back to my life. 😂

Love these tips - I’m definitely going to try the sunglasses “eye contact” tip!

Love your smile Ryan! Thank you for all the advice, it’s helped me try things differently. Here’s hoping!

Watching this as a guy, this is pretty true.

I’m a bicycle mechanic and I ride really cool bikes. He did a double take over my bike and said “what a pretty bike!” Then he looked up at my smile and said “wow and you’re pretty” which I don’t think he meant to say outloud lol

I said that things are hard for you right now, you have been through a lot, you are missed but I support you in your accomplishments, I'll be so proud of you when you've completed these things as I'm so proud of you now!

Looking forward to your course, Ryan, so I can surround myself with men to practice this on! 😉

I open up and am honest about where my intentions are at the beginning. If he’s interested and senses a spark, then I leave the ball in his court to make a move. It has worked so far with this guy I have been talking and seeing since May. He has had a lot on his plate but still managed to set up time for us to spend getting to know each other. Also foreplay in text and in person has worked in my favor so far.

New to your page and I am OBSESSED❤️

The compliments that are specific and well thought out are a ringer for sure! Loved this video, Ryan! As always, you are SPOT ON! Thank you!

What a great idea to wear sunglasses and make eye contact with everyone you see. For a person who's too shy to make eye contact with someone they are interested in, that would really make it eventually more comfortable in real life 😎

thought i was going to learn something new in this video, but it turns out i'm already knocking it out of the park, thanks to your help Ryan! (btw ur hair looks really good lol 😘)

When you're advising women to delay sex, keep in mind that we like it, too. Navigating that boundary isn't just about fending off a guy's advances and manipulative tactics or our "ideas" about what we think will make him happy. It's also about controlling our own impulses. Some of us "new age, liberated feminists" run into a values conflict here: How can I delay sex and make this relationship special without repressing my own desires and just shutting down in the process." For me, personally, if I can resist a guy for 30 days, I can resist him forever. 🤷‍♀️

#9 Seeing him once a week when you first start dating? I saw my boyfriend about 5 days throughout the first week then moved in after that week and we never fight or get sick of eachother, we are best friends, we just clicked. #10 waiting a month for sex? I made him wait till the 4th day of hanging out and i think that was enough of a tease for both of us. We've been together a year now and we couldn't be happier. This isnt for everyone

Put sunglasses on to learn how to make eye contact...you're awesome!

I have a silly personality. I had some candy in my hand that my guy didn’t see. I looked at him and seductively asked, “Do you want some? I really want some.” And smiled. He looked around and said,”Now?” Me….”Yes! Come on …come get some.” He stopped walking towards me. I giggled and slowly put out my hand and said, “it’s so good!” He saw the candy and started laughing! Super funny how quickly he “came to get it!” Lol!

Excellent Tips as always it’s Paramount to keep a man interested ! You are so wise to educate all of us ladies , I been single for so many years because I am very selective and found myself picking up a lot of hints ( Advice ) from a very wise Dating Coach 😍😍😍

I was happy because I was shopping at good will for the holloween custom I was building from scratch...something I LOVE to do each year. I drew him in by asking him his opinion. I really wasnt looking for "trouble"...and it did turn into him asking me for my number...I really wasnt looking or wanting a boyfriend...but he did turn into the Best Boyfrined

I told him that he deserved to be happy

Abundance paradigm is very well put!

Guys were tossing these grapes into the air and catching them, so I locked eyes with the guy I liked, threw my grape and caught it in my teeth, all while maintaining eye contact. It was the unabashed flirty eyes that really took it over the edge.

Comment 500: When I watch videos like this -- long lists of all the subtle, precise, magical ways we're supposed to be and act -- I feel very discouraged. I know lists get clicks, and I realize the hyper specific instructions are meant to make these suggestions concrete and actionable. I can also easily see how all of these traits and behaviors would be very appealing. I just don't see myself in any of it, and that makes me sad. Just hearing phrases like "be outspoken but in a subtle way" baffles me, and I can feel my stomach tighten and my soul start to wrap itself into a pretzel as I imagine myself trying to evoke any one of these styles (let alone all 10!). I know that none of these women are me, and I know I could never pull off a single one of these attitudes for more than an hour or two regardless of how much I might want to. I had a good cry after watching this video. I think the sheer magnitude of it is what really did me in. It might as well be called "All the Many Things You Lack That Keep You From Being Loved'. If this is what it takes to be cherished forever by a man, that explains why I've never been proposed to, and at 48 (almost 49) , still find myself alone. I guess I'm going to have to start buying chocolate in bulk, get a dog, and call it a good life as it is.

Hey Ryan. Great video. Me being sarcastic is a part of my charm. I have a guy at work who always seeks me out and no matter how bad I get sarcastic with him he keeps coming back to me.

I started hiding my sarcasm at one point because I just grew tired of explaining what I meant. But you are right, it should be a sign we are just not on the same page. Btw, love your videos!ty!

Love this ♥️ A new point of view compared to other video's about relationships 🙂

I’m a very optimistic person and that is so much better than someone who always focuses on the negatives.

I'm sarcastic sometimes, but he will only figure out after knowing me better, but it still depends on guys. I actually feel since different guy has different personality, the dynamic with him would be different. The pace in a relationship is also depending on individuals, but I think no matter what, just act after we get ready and comfortable. I honestly would like follow my thoughts at the early stage to reduce the anxiety or something unsettled.

I was dating this guy but had him wondering I was like we aren’t dating or messing with him but then saying oh don’t say that to my boyfriend or to him

one time I was outside of school and I started singing the Russian song Katyusha that I had learned the night before to show my friends and he then came to me and told me I had a very good Russian pronunciation and that he was Russian. we went out after that and now we've been together for 9 months loool

*I do all these things, basically on accident. I'm a people person and an extrovert, but now I noticed why guys ask me out after a day of knowing me. I'm hella busy, compliment guys on random things a lot, encourage them ...I think I need to be more rude shoot. But I encourage everyone!*.

Once there was a guy in my team that made a rookie mistake at work. So I took him aside, and told him, in the most calm sweet way, that it was ok this time, but next time I would fire him. Two years later, he left the company, and the first thing he did was asking me out (I was his boss so a relationship could not be possible while working together). He told me that he has been hooked with me since that moment I almost fired him! That combination of sweetness and power was irresistible for him, apparently... 🤔

I didn’t realize how big eye contact was but I realize it’s the same with women. And after watching a number of videos, and even random interviews, guys say eye contact! That’s hard when I’m not trying to come off too desperate when I like a guy!

You have more subscribers now and that means that more and more girls and women are learning these tricks so the competition is growing :-D

Several times when I listened intently to a guy speak about something with a slight gaze upwards earned me a kiss as he leans forward and said “ Gosh that’s so sexy “

congratulations you got a new subscriber ! your channel is really interesting and im stjll trying to learn all these just in case there's someone im interested in !

AHHH i don't let guys pursue me... I know I am definitely the person who initiates and don't give guys the chance to. I definitely value my time and make sure to let guys know that I have a busy schedule and they can't just schedule something with me last minute.

I told him to ‘make me’. His face looked like he wanted to attack me hehe

I told him I just want us to enjoy the moment together.

I've had some interest from men when I feel like I did nothing at all - but be myself, and just listen to him. Really hear him, be attentive, be very engaged and true to myself. When I was younger, I had self esteem issues that got in the way of anyone being interested in me. Once I tackled that, everything just fell into place.

I knew I had a guy hooked when we met for coffee and he could no stop staring. But I didnt "do" anything.

I always make a man wait for sex. With my ex, he had to wait eight months. Yup, if they are truly interested, they'll wait for several months.

I’m quite a sarcastic person (in a funny way) so i’m glad to see this featured

My laugh and smile. It’s unintentionally attracted men without me trying. 🤷‍♀️

Hello Ryan....its been along time since I joined you oline... But thanks for video...its been great watching it... Great job....🖒🖒👌👌

This explains so much! I give a guy a unique nickname and tease a little and bam! 😂😂😂 i never knew!

Once I was talking to this guy on a dating app and he started slacking on conversation. He would texting me every day saying hi and leaving a smiley face 😊. Then he’d leave me on read after I’d respond. So I told him after 3 days of this that I wasn’t gonna continue talking to him like this and that we didn’t have to talk everyday if he didn’t want to and then left a smiley face. After that he came up with an excuse for why he was slacking and asked me for my number. I guess that worked and we talked constantly for about 3 weeks but then he ghosted me again 😪. Came back a couple weeks later to tell me he got a girlfriend so he stopped talking to me but he said his reasoning for not talking to me had nothing to do with me. I’m not mad about it and I know my worth but I do miss talking to him 🥺😔 oh well 🤷🏽‍♀️🤣

I went on a date recently and captured his attention (he asked me out for a 2nd date) but he had such trouble maintaining eye contact I wondered if I made him nervous. Maybe my eye contact is intense but no one has told me.

Ryan l did EVERYTHING in the video and everytime l visit him in cedar hill Dallas area but he lives a hr away from my auntie everytime l say near let's chill his excuse is always I'm at work. And he never makes time for me. He keeps saying he's gunna visit but never does he says he wants me to live with him how to make me live with him l told him he knows just come to San Antonio Texas and see my parents and ask to marry me.

one time I was about to box one of my friends, like a full out match. A dude started flirting with me and helping me get my gloves on. 10/10 recommend boxing to get a guy to notice you.