I will be there to answer all your questions. Can't wait to meet you there!

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Can I be a narcissist if I suffer from anxiety and insomnia. I was told not to take melatonin. I took a medicine that made me permanently anxious. My Dad told me that I needed to go to a doctor. He called me abnormal. You are right. The doctor told me how great he was. I did not trust him though. He ruined me with trilofon. Can people be so vain that they will think that they are extremely superior to me no matter what and that they need to make decisions for me like who I date, what career to get in and to check myself into loony tunes hospital. Doctors are not always good people. There was a nurse who was caught as a serial killer. The medicine made me bad off. My family downsized me by the behavior that the behavior the medicine gave me which is caused akesthesia. I blocked my siblings. I don’t like how my Mom criticizes me for blocking them. I wish that she understood. You are right. I can’t waste my time reasoning with a narcissist. They will always believe that they are angels and mermaids while they believe that I am the crazy messed up one. I think that I am coming up to the point that I don’t care about them. But my Mom follows me. I was told to get a restraining order. Should I? She refused to go to family therapy. Mom acts like she has no problems. Then sometimes she asks me if I think if I can do better than her? I can see my family as feeling entitled. I get yelled at a lot.

@@laurieberry4814 meditation will help you still your mind. It is not you. Start with 10 seconds & increase gradually. Best of luck. You can claim your happiness.

I like to join your free sessions.

They are mentally ill. Avoid them. Get them out of your life. They need lifelong mental health counseling and therapy.

Oh my God… My boyfriend of three years acts disgusted. I laugh too loud, or it’s not funny…

I have a cousin who's like this. It makes sense that although we share grandparents in common, he comes from a completely different bloodline. The everyday thing with him is getting people to do for him what he is capable of himself. Or, trying to help himself to my things. He is so d e p e n d a n t & powerless over himself its miserable to watch. Notice that in all of these examples never once does he say "Please" or "May I." Its never a respectful request. Its always a DEMAND, which gives away their "You owe me" attitude. Ha! How can you possibly OWE someone anything in a relationship where they do all the taking! For sure, I never owed Ricky a thing. Ever "Come outside & help me with this" "Where's your (blank)?" Phone, car, tools, etc "Im in a bind. I need your help" "(Blank) for me." That's usually find things on the internet for him, write his resumé, or take him to work "I need gas money" "Let me borrow $50. I swear, I'll pay you back." He's never paid me back. Not even ONCE There was a time when I was young & generous with my money & my time. I did grow up with him, afterall. My only sibling was my sister, so he was my big brother, not just a cousin. But he didnt start manipulating me until I was 18 I'm 51 now. And for the last 15 years my everyday sentence to him is "Do it your d*** self !" and "I'm your f a m i l y , not your butler. So start t r e a t i n g me like family, not like your servant !"

@@shilohbreigh3591 ✨💎 Exactly: your emotional pain is their pleasure; your pleasure is their pain. It really is that simple Easier said than done of course, but get as far away from him as fast as you can. You may need close continual support of a mentor or a private psychologist. But thats a small price to pay to avoid the years of needless suffering this creature will cause you. And when you do break free, MOVE. Make sure to live somewhere that his friends, family, church, or town will never see you. The best thing ANYONE can do for themselves is make sure these weirdos dont know where you live, & keep it that way

My sister lives with me. She does everything to try to upset me. I went to see The Stadium Tour and Nikki Sixx gave me a guitar pick as I was directly in front of him!! Brought it home, showed her how cool it was and the time I had. Next day she found it and threw it away!!!!!!!!!

I never thought of it that way but it makes a lot of sense. My Narc husband has been gone for many years. He died a broken man. Unfortunately I still hear some of the awful things he said to me. Now I’ll think of those words in a different way. Thank you.

They especialy hate "no" or "i will not". It triggers shit out of them and goes to rage or act like little child and go silent and offended ...

@@LukiGames0 Entertainment at it's best ☺️🥳🥸

@@marciastewart1527 He lived a broken life aswell. You had what he needed and he didn't have anything you needed that's why he prayed on you. Now you are free 🤗❤️

Why? They hate the whole world.

By law you will leave them

The best way to win is to not play their game

What if they're your parents?

Yes!

Honey, He is leaving me. Many years of being put down, lied to, picked on, stolen from, being talked about like a dog, from happy always smiling, young and pretty to being a totally negative depressed flop. Well, I am not feeding him my happiness, my mental health, he is the reason I have heart failure, but heck, I do pretty good with it, and I still have my looks. Never want another relationship, I will roll just fine. I guess I am one of the lucky ones!

14 years not one apology ever.

32 years & I just got it from my older sister.

@@Mentalhealthmattersthemost I'm learning about the narcissism and don't really get it or why, its kind-off that song from forieghner called head games =so if I ever get my girl We'd be happy watching ants build their deffencesive castle and get excited when they got a crumb for desert = then after that id take her to dairy queen just to look at a nice view at where she wanted to look at with no words or some bs talk. Now ill probably get labeled.

They will talk over you when they are wrong so that they don’t here the truth.. and won’t admit to even if they are wrong.

Or when they do it is not genuine. They just start all over with all their crap.

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I heart this remark. I love it. I have a ex bf narcissistic ex bf. His name is Greg Myers. I got thrown. It's not funny for violence. At least my ex will have a loong sentence for my safety.

Lmao

@@abcabc-cb1vj at least I have a restraining order and I keep it and my baby. I'll keep my baby away from my ex boyfriend's parents. I don't need narcissist people raising my baby. Like hell they will go near me and my baby.

@@123arrrggggg May God bless them

Thks for listing them

Great List Thank You

i already use all those magic words to my narc ex bf, and iam letting him go now so i can be free, my heart and my soul :)

2. And 6. Caused Narcissist to explode and retaliate.

This comes off as wisdom of the world trying to navigate wrg behavior & attitudes. Hope ppl remember if a woman divorces her husband & marries another while the former is still alive is committing adultery. (1corinth7:39)

Kudos to you! It must have been tough, but oh so fulfilling! We are responsible for allowing it to happen, but don't forget to forgive ourselves in order to be truly free of them!

I am about to be in the same situation, I've tried to leave a few times in the last few months, he just knows me so intimately I have shared everything about myself and he is better at the game and makes me feel guilty for wanting to leave. Ugh, I just doubt things sometimes I don't have proof so I'm crazy. But I know things are off now I just lost my job because of all the chaos with him In a mess most days, this i know is what he wants i make more than him he has been trying to get me to quit for 2 years. Sigh, thanks for listening I know I would be happier in my car, I have so much shit I need to start getting rid of stuff.

@@user-yi2xh5qk1n Do you have any friends or family that would help you get out? My problem was that she made sure I had no friends and everyone in my family passed away. I wish you the best.

Narcassists HATE 2c you HAPPY,ESPECIALLY IF THE NARCASSIST IS A FORMER PARTNER OR FRIEND!! That burns their A$$ 2 no end!!! But they will be forever believing their assumptions was CORRECT despite evidence 2 the contrary!

This sounds like my case. Putting up with a Narcissist for over 20years was sickening 😪. I almost passed on but for God's grace that liberated me. The day I walked out the door with few of my clothes stocked in the trunk of my car , I was free both spiritual and physical. It wasn't easy but it was worth it today. They're the worst thing that can happen to any normal person.

Imagine if you actually said that to THEM???

I have 2 signs in my back car window. Maybe today Satan. And get behind me satan.

Me too

Gorgeous

Yup! Misery loves company, and the narcs do everything they can to sabotage your happiness.

yes, yes, and yes

When people complain about how terrible other people in this world can be it’s usually the same types of complaints that we hear, and they’re usually the traits of a person with some type of cluster B personality disorder (narcissists, borderlines, and antisocials in particular) and yet these are probably the least understood and least considered by the average person. Schools really should incorporate lessons on these as part of the regular curriculum in order to prepare young people for what they’re gonna run into in romantic relationships, jobs, and maybe even to help them to be able to cope better with their own family members

Maby I would have realized I was being abused before I was an adult

Y. E. S. They have health class...why not mental health class? Might even take some pressure off the less than adequate psychologist available to young people.

Yes! So many people would be able to begin to recognize a real problem before it is out of hand. If I had more info available to me, I would have been able to get my three boys and myself out much earlier.

Lol! Best clapback I have ever heard! I'm taking notes! 👏🏼🤣 📝

Exactly!!!!

Omg really it's my madam word

I say, omg! I hope not

@@tarrantcountykid LMFAO! Love your comment! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Worked for me

Didn't he grab you and hit you ??😮

A dog in sheep's clothing is a face full at the end of departing.

Walk away like a big baby😂

@@agnesrossini9490 Gaslighting. What do you want?

Hallelujah 💕✨

LoL that's a funny one 😂

SO HAPPY FOR U. U DO NOT KNOW HOW I FEEL ABOUT U GETTING OUT OF THAT TOXIC RELATIONSHIP. 😇😇😇

U GO KIM. PRAISE JESUS.

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grey rocking has this affect as well. Once you accept the truth & protect yourSelf, then there's no need to wallow in depression. Then you just become mindful of interaction & pay attention to how they're trying to trigger a reaction or response from you... basically become boring to them, by not feeding them your emotions. When they can't manipulate your emotional state, then it's draining for them to be around... not the same type of drain that an empathic person goes through with a narc, but moreso, because they need your emotions & life force, to support their process.. if they can't get it like they once did, then they'll look for someone else to get it from.

'they' ...will treat you etc. Not gender specific with narcissism

@@oftin_wong Yes of course, 100percent concur with you :-Sorry i were just quoting *Susan Williams* Obviously, she's just sharing her own individual experiences which obviously, from her quotes, happened with a male:-However, i've ammended now to "they" My sincere apologies :-Hope lifes treating you extremely kindly ✨☘️🙏

@@evelina787 wow a bit overboard on the apology I wasn't making a personal criticism at all. Thanks anyway but it's fine ...relax

Oh my God, literally my ex tried to ship me off to my family because he no longer wanted to be in the relationship with me I was so deep in a depression spiral. Literally said those words to me. He broke up with my right before Christmas and kept flip flopping. Accused me of cheating(even though he broke up with me?) And claimed that I didn't cherish, love or respect him. Took 7 break ups but better late than never!

it is strongly advised to never use the word NO to someone with an acute mental illness, it usually results in abuse threats property damage serious harm to self and others,

Oh snap I can relate

I've seen that before too. For the example I'm thinking of, I wonder if it's because at some point in their life they 'learned' that someone's worth was based on their productivity.

I do that and Tell them to check their blood pressure otherwise I'm calling EMS.

Do. Exactly what I do.

This angers them too

Absolutely correct.👍🏻

No, that doesn't work. They will just find a new angle and carry on.

Whatever can also be used by the narcissist. It depends on how it is used. Whatever is not always okay to say to people. Your dad tells you to cut the grass and you say whatever, then that isn't right either.

I agree. It drives them, not you , up the wall.

I agree with Jason depends on person and if they are in presence of flying monkeys. My narc had a flying monkey with them and after I said whatever and walked away I was called rude even though they were accusing me of things and smearing my name.

@@Respect2theFallen I win!!!!

My ex boyfriend uses" whatever " on me. He is the narc and uses that when Im trying to talk about his addictions or somethingshameful. He watches videos as everyone else is the narc and plays the victim. I'm trying to understand this disorder. He definitely doesn't like it when I tell him I'm not playing his games. I win!

Get a recording, and go to the cops.

I have found it the most satisfying!

True

He hates when I tell him that ha ha ha lmao

S. A. " I dont care " is the best thing to say to them..... It drives them crazy.....!!!

Too bloody right

Definitely the most healthy thing to do my dude 😎👌

Just make sure you watch your back. They will attack you from behind like a coward.

Thank you. Because they might try to kill you. Trust me.

Is easy to say , have many times to walk away but he use many reason to bring me back and manipulation deciving , God let me come out from this narsistic marriage

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They prey on a mentally strong person. Truly a stupid person.

Yes I completely agree. I'd feel sick after eating his food, scratches and dents in my car, laundry go missing off the clothesline and recently important letters missing, can't prove any of it was him

​@debe-ol6cg The creep in my life right now has been doing exactly the same thing...drawers with woolen sweaters that were so full the drawer wouldn't close easily...now half empty Jewelry in the nightstand drawers gone...just empty jewelry boxes...tools gone, etc😢

YES. My daughter is doing this to my husband and myself right now as we are trying to move away. Unbelievable things. Everything missing including things needed for our bad health. On top of verbally, emotionally, psychologically abusing us and threatening. This is very true and tragically sad.

I agree. Have to be very careful. My ex has lots of narcissistic characteristics & his dad was definitely NPD or possibly a sociopath. My exes mum told him to never tell his dad that he’s wrong because he will stab you while your in your bed 😳 so yes, you have to know who you’re dealing & if you’re not sure, it’s better play it safe. while my ex would flip with outbursts etc (we all know the signs) he was subdue & pretty quiet around his dad. Even he knew he could push his dad. Re: the ex…I’ve read before that some people can have learned narc traits from a parent, without being fully NPD themselves. Or he was just a more covert & had me more fooled & confused as to what he was 😆

I agree. Some of this would work possibly, and some would cause him to get even

Nice ! Such a difficult accomplishment but ot feels so good and things will look up from now on! Just don't fall for any Hoovers

You DEFINITELY are! ❤

Absolutely. She couldn't take the word NO. It drove her insane. Her son was even worse. I don't miss that brat. Thank God I'm away from that insanity.

That part!😂

That was me!

I did not know nothing about it and wasted 7 years and my heart was destroyed, but I fought my way back. A lot of pain and tears of how I was done.

Fuk em if they hate it. 😂

Ye but how do u know someone is a narcissist on the first look?

norway: they comes with many form(satan-devil-evil-with flying monkeys with tiny......!)

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Stopped reacting to the catalyst remarks. When the narc is on the warpath, I withdraw into my own little area. This keeps the situation under control and is a mental saviour.

So true

@DaD-zo6cj sounds like the one job I had. We were forced to do that, then the nasty owner twisted everything and forced everyone out of the company after false disciplinaries, which were set up, and hired new staff. The professionals were forced to take voluntary retrenchment. The one professional who caused all the trouble left and now lives overseas. I lost everything. Talk about evil, and that whole place was rampant with narcissists. Karma awaits them all for sure, there's a special place in hell waiting for those ****.

So right it's scary

In truth ignoring them really does work, but it does limit the potential somewhat for revenge. I prefer to counter their outrageous behavior with my own brand of eccentric peculiarities. It puzzles them and never fails to put them on kilter while providing me with so much fun. You can never however take them seriously, or you'll lend credence to their own internal sense of turmoil. Pissing them off is a lifetime pursuit of mine.

​ hey so I can understand that. Mine's very controlling, manipulative, runs me down behind my back. His only nice to get his foot in the door. I've been sick many times from eating his food, things go missing off my clothesline, scratches n dents in my car, recently important letters went missing from mailbox but I can't prove any of it was him. He's so needy but I know he only wants a free ride from everyone, he's so fake it's ridiculous. Wish I never fell in love with him that's for sure.

@@IAintNobody1445 I agree wholeheartedly! I hope you have made it or will soon make it out of the relationship you refer to. I was with my abusive narcissist for a long time and through experience learned not to say the things that this video recommends. So I wouldn’t recommend that to you or anyone else. I’d go so far as to recommend not deliberately provoking anyone with mental health issues. You don’t know how bad their reaction will be. So for me the value of the video is in learning what not to say, and helping to understand the effect of (my or others’) words on the narcissist.

Yes, they are so tiring to deal with. It’s exhausting. I finally learned that it’s best to ignore them. I’ve gone no contact with my brother. It’s been years now. I’m living in peace now.

That is probably the worst divorce from a narcissistic family member, partner, friend, co-worker or anyone in which you engaged.

But👈🏽nothing can stand a chance against the forces of God.

@@Iarrived Yes, but when it comes to narcissists, only God can help or change them. We're best off staying far away from them. They're possessed by demons. Only God can deal with that. I learned that the hard way.

@@raven4090 Well put sister.👏🏽Preaching to the choir. Nothing could be more truer.🙏🏽✝️❤️

So true. My daughter hung up on me on Christmas day in a rage because I told her that she was turning a blind eye to the truth because the truth didn't suit her (we were having "words" about a "certain medical thing"). My birthday was a couple of weeks later and she couldn't even be bothered to text me a b'day greeting. Well I guess she showed ME huh? We haven't spoken since. I wasn't sure what to do about it at first, but then I decided that it would be best to just stay away for now. Hmmmmmm.... sheesh, I never thought that she would be such a jerk to me--we used to be so close. Sigh. A lot of people seem to be experiencing this nowadays. The world is becoming full of narcissists (just look at social media). Hugs to all whose lives have been upturned by this unpleasant behavior.

Yes, they’re flying monkeys. 🙊 The ones who believe them, and tend to be like them.

So true…

Of course. Weak people love those that have a competitive spirit. But apparently that's bad.

That just sounds rude

You sound like the narcissist. Lol.

YES two can play the game. YOU nor I have to tolerate the Narcs behavior and Over riding Often wins the day.. I AM BOSS in my World not the narc....

Awesome story!

@@jamest2861 Actually, I was targeted by a covert "Mean Girl" style Narc at work. She had a little group of "flying monkeys" who joined her in bullying b/c it gave them a sense of belonging & Power. It was inevitably other gals she went after, never guys. No Sisterhood of mutual support exists in some women's minds, which is just sad. We'll only work our way towards equality *together.* I wasn't able to confirm what set her off, as far as her behavior towards me. I'm a hard worker & try to get along w/ *Everyone.* However, her tendency to reveal her *deep insecurities* by calling other gals "peacocks" if they received kudos of *any* kind leads me to think she felt threatened. I suspect I was targeted b/c I was selected as a newbie to hand out awards at a conference, while she ran slides instead. From then on, she made it clear that she *hated* me, while hiding her true nature from most others (esp anyone male & *above* our level). She went out of her way to make my office life *Hell* for 2.5 years, till I *finally* went to HR. I would have Loved it if 1 of our bosses had been a *real* leader & addressed her behavior *Much Sooner.* What pushed me to it was when a 3rd person quit b/c of her bullying. A black gal she targeted, in the midst of our DEI campaign. What *horrid* optics there, on top of the *shocking unfairness* of it all. Over the years, I *did* seek *candid guidance/advice* from a few of our departmental leaders (just the group I supported directly). I simply provided a few quick examples, then would ask "How best should I handle it?". The most *honest* response I got was "No one wants to tell her boss (our EVP), b/c he really likes her". Worst advice received was "Oh, you 2 girls need to just learn to get along" from a male superior. She's in her 40s, I'm in my 50's. I personally haven't identified as a "girl" in about 3 decades, but whatever. 🙄 I never fought back, didn't argue w/ her. I just *refused* to become 1 of her minions (she had a couple of those already). *Nor* would I join her in bullying others, which seemed to be her goal. I *helped* her other targets, instead, when I could (they were mostly new hires she was *supposed to* process-train but wouldn't). Otherwise, I simply became more introverted & went *"gray rock"* w/ her for my own sanity & job security. *Nothing* was done about it until I finally clued HR in to the fact that she'd driven 3 other employees to Quit (narcs *rarely* have just 1 target). She'd once stated to me in conversation that she "knew HR's job better than they did" and took it upon herself to "chase away anyone who doesn't fit in". So, I made sure that HR knew she was undermining their efforts, as well as wasting chunks of their hiring budget. When we add up the costs of advertising, interviewing & doing background checks/screenings, that comes to a fairly *significant* total cost per person. Esp when the company's struggling to cut costs to pay for ongoing IT projects. Now, that company's stock is *in the toilet* for the 2nd year in a row. The HQ office (our location) just *laid off* 50% of its staff. For the "survivors", there's a big "Win Trust" initiative to *improve morale & reduce turnover* throughout the company, nationwide. Just 1 narc employee in a high enough position can *wreak havoc.* It all starts at the Top, where co. culture is concerned, and spreads from there. Any firm that *allows* bullying will have an *uphill battle* when it comes to *repairing broken trust.* So, that's why I *Love* this poster's comment. *Real leaders* Don't allow that BS. Sadly, there are *too few* of those folks around, much of the time. People w/ the *gumption & Integrity* to stand up to unreasonable A-holes are my *heroes.* They recognize the dangers to the company, and *care enough* about their workforce to "take out the trash" before it *stinks up* the joint. It's a bigger challenge for those of us who grew up in chaotic homes w/ a narc parent. Bullying becomes *normalized,* to the point that we willingly take further abuse from others. (I only spoken up when I saw the impact on *other* Good people). Even w/ 4 years of therapy & a cross-country move, I *still* didn't escape the effects of early abuse. I belatedly realized that's *why* I'd put up w/ such treatment in this situation for as long as I did. *Never, ever again* will I stick around for *that* nonsense. I have a *strong allergy* to it now. Unfortunately, the widespread existence of *generational trauma* has us living in a world full of *broken people.* That makes the *heroes* who nip that 💩 in the bud *all the More valuable.* *HOORAY FOR THEM!!* 😃

I may be afraid of his reaction though

Mine is they just talk over you and not let you say the truth

I'm using that one tomorrow can't wait- 7years with a narcissist and just starting to learn what he is now I new something was wrong but finally have a term for it getting ready to leave-

@@candiceadams7477 yuup

@@Gracejmh1 so glad you are leaving and will eventually e able to live a normal life...whatever that is😉JK bit be aware because he will try wveeything to get you back! They are not the winner when you leave them!

Mine, recently, is "when you come in here to work, it's ALL ABOUT MEEEEE! and not at all about YOU I'm in charge...not YOU...I WRITE THE CHECKS!!!!😊

Same

It surely is!!

Do fun stuff without the narc. Play Fu Manchu (loud, headphones if you are in appartment) when you get the silent treatment. Plan a date with the narc and when they decide at the last minute to not go, trying to control the situation, go yourself. If they do take you up in the date, walk out at the first sign of behaviour that is getting on your nerves. Dont say anything, and stick them with the bill. Let them find their own way home. Yeah, I've done these things. Yeah, it might make me a bit of a d*ck. But its better than sucking up. They will do you a huge favor by dumping you. You cant buy that kind of good fortune, run with it.

Lol I get it gonna through the same thing

In their twisted minds, they think they are punishing us when they give us the silent treatment. In reality, the silence gives way to clarity as we are able to ponder how much less stressful our lives are without them invading our existences. That's what led me to do a list of pros and cons regarding my narcissistic former friend. Once I subtly went no contact with her, my stress level went way down. Naturally, she didn't notice till months later that I had cut her off completely. I'll spare you the soap opera that was her trying to recruit flying monkeys to spy on me to see if I was talking about her. I wasn't, but she was dead convinced she was so interesting I couldn't let her go. It was pathetic, really. For clarity, this was not a former love interest or even a girlfriend. She was just an older lady I was friends with and our relationship was purely transactional on her part. She flipped out and threw a tantrum that would have embarrassed her only grandchild. Just giving you an idea of how old she was when she realized she had lost me forever. Crazy woman.

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Yeah. That can penetrate Some !

I dealt with this tonight. Are you sorry, yeah why are you sorry, actually no I'm not at all sorry for saying the truth

@@RiverRatSurfers Are you safe in your current circumstances? Do you have people who can help you?

SAME HERE! My Ex was ALWAYS demanding I owed him an apology for something he did & that it was MY fault he did it... UM.. NO!

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I can totally relate

That is what they do. Just know the universe heard you ❤

Being punished for doing good.

Because it makes them feel small because they Never apologize. So instead they try to make you feel small!!

Because it makes them feel small because they Never apologize. So instead they try to make you feel small!!

My daughter is about to file for divorce . This is such good advice . Watch all her videos if u can .Hang in there , you can get through this and finally have a peaceful happy life . Good bless

Me to!

@@pamaladarsow2763 my daughter also, prayers for yours and mine.

How're doing Nina? I hope you're holding up OK, getting divorced is difficult regardless of the situation add a narcissist in the mix and let the emotional blackmail begin. Nina cut ties completely if you can, be gental with yourself and lean on others because they really do care about you. Believe what sincere people tell you, those that can you in the eyes without blinking for 3 seconds. Take care.

Hang in there...its not easy but you have a community supporting you

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I agree and even if they are confronted with the truth THEY REFUSE TO ADMIT THEIR ERROR!! AND FORGET ABOUT AN APOLOGY!!!

I agree. They believe their own crap, then argue and deny. It's exhausting. Just go away...

Agreed my dog was stabbed

It’s TRUE…my sister escaped - initially - she left him (her husband) then went into a battered women’s shelter with her doggie 🐶. He didn’t like that AT ALL. She was getting her life back together, then about a year later, this POS tracked her down: hE FOUND HER - a *bloody narcissist* shot my sister in the head, then dismembered her and burned the place down. 💔😖😫😩 Luckily for my family, the COWARD also did himself in before setting the fire…10 January of this year was the 30th “anniversorry” of one of the worst days of my entire life…💔💔 I never learned what happened to her ‘Bandit’ (short-legged, cutie-pie, happy little mutt😉 with a ring around his one eye like “Peetie” (“Peety?”🤔) from the “Little Rascals”)…🥺 No doubt he was there, too…😖😥

Some folks CARRY & NOT AFRAID to Defend! Narcissists KNOW , WHO NOT to THREATEN

I was terrified my last husband would kill me. Thankful.. I'm breathing and free from his control.🙏🌈

@@samreynolds3789 agreed

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Oh, I LOVE "are you finished" after a rage fit or a tirade😅

Nice 😂

My wife knowing full well how much I hated looking for things would hide stuff on me. Like my wallet and other things. When she asked about the things that were missing I would just casually say yeah it’s missing and I don’t care because I know it will show up eventually. And it would.

You are a winner and I salute you for that :)

I 🏆 IWIN!!!!!!.......

Ahh! Winner! Winner! Chicken dinner😊!...ENJOY! Shalom❤️💜❤️

Yes it is better to be alone than to be around a Narcissist.

One of my sisters told me the same thing when I avoided her. It is confusing and hard to do, while listening to your conscience.

Nice one !

The one thing I never liked was “oh well” ... it was a huge response to everything back in the mid 80’s.

Thats a good one!!!

Woooo hoooo good one.

I'd tell them, " Don't start." Diffuses the situation before it starts.

Thank you. I have a headache...

Yes, completely contradictory. No wonder I used to think it was some kind of bipolarity

He knows he can't control me and is always afraid that if I start fussing with him he can't win I out fuss him every time I told him the other day to go eat a shit sandwich he kept quiet for the rest of the week lol

@Gemma Dann I don't know how old your daughter was at the time, but I wonder what his response would have been if she had had a 'wee' accident.... Been there. My father screamed at me for hours on end, at least once a week, for at least three hours. Best response is to escape, by whatever means possible.

@Gemma Dann with people like that, 'no contact' is the only effective response. That means no intermediaries who can play flying monkey games.

@Gemma Dann Thwarted marcissists get very determined. I emigrated.

I agree totally. Mine always says NO NOT WHATEVER. It's my go to saying 👍

Yes ma'am he is

My ex would say “whatever” and I hated it, he must have known I hated it if he hated it too.

They hate hearing it just as much as they love saying it.

Anita..I totally agree. Saying WHATEVER is like a fork in their eye. They see stars. Their twisted warped minds have no way to respond to that because it throws them into a state of confusion. They can not figure it out when you say it. Its perfect because all they want to hear is the word YES!

They hate your NO but expect you to respect their NO

More than that. They are rotten.. 😭😭

@@Wau12345 yes 🤮🤮🤮

@@jcbanbury . . .and usually drunk (my tormenter sister)

@@juliemiller9760 there is often substance abuse with narcs, usually alcohol and or weed. They do it for escapism because they have extremely low emotional intelligence.

Evil is more like it!

Dennis. Check out the posts on here from Neville Goddard. He is inspiring and his books are experiencing a boom. Good Luck. :)

God Bless you! I'm enjoying 20 years of freedom from the prior marriage of nearly 20 years that truly drove me to drinking. Rock on, Dennis!

@@petegdula4749 Thank you. All the best to you and your recovery embrace every day take care of your health 👍

🎉🎉🎉 that's great

You should have called the police

And STAY FREE!!!!!!!!

Yes they like to get physical , then tell lies to authority , she called police ,, pokicee asked me shall we take her away ! Lol

One of my daughters says "cool" every-time mum threatens or takes something away from her. She has to pay a fine when she says it though.

Michelle Reed,You look stunning,I hope you are not with a narcissist......

As well as .. ghosting them.. absolutely zero response. That gets them the WORST.

Yup! You’ve acknowledged their opinion but not given in!

Yes absolutely. The controller in my life absolutely refuses to "agree to disagree". Stated that it was only for little things like favorite flavor of ice cream, not for meaningful stuff. Also absolutely hates when I say "I'm sorry you feel that way". Acts like it's the worst insult rather than the empathetic statement intended.

I once made the mistake of suggesting of agreeing to disagree…whew!!!! That was when I experienced narc rage. He got up in my face like he was going to hit me

Narcissist didnt get the memo.

Amen.

Mine tried to kill me repeatedly.

@Gemma Dann mine was a covert malignant, demon possessed parent. Went no contact 8 years ago and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done! Prayers for all of us!!!

@Gemma Dann oh they’ll never just go away I’m afraid. The only way you’ll get away from them is if you make the decision that no matter what happens you’re leaving and not looking back. RUN don’t walk away and SLAM the door in their Face!! You can’t help them as they’re perfect in their own minds. They’re incapable of love as that actually requires giving and they’re demon possessed and evil and only care about sucking their environment dry of all energy. True parasites. They’ll fight tooth and claw to keep their hooks in you. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain better getting as far away from them as possible and they’ve got everything to lose if you’re successful in learning to leave them behind and start your healing process. It’s not easy. Prayers and love for us all!!!

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I think their funny

That's the ingredients to the secret sauce right there!

ABSOLUTELY!

@Esoterique I think the Cluster B personality disorder overlap. Narcissistic, Borderline, Sociopathic, Hysteronic - all shallow selfish bullies with no empathy

Yep all of those are my partner

Dear Sally , I always asked my hubby , why did you marry me ? I am not a push over !

I left my ex when I noticed I too was exhibiting learned bad behavior. It was not me anymore. Got.. ME back and love myself to the moon and back🙏

Married a man who read the Bible eight times and had preacher's license when he took me home after a honeymoon he really couldn't afford pressured me for the piddly thousand dollars I had in my savings account that I had long before I ever met him I was told I was selfish self-centered a b**** I was devastated crushed and then I took an incredible violence and was told that it didn't happen or it did happen but it was my fault I'm 130 lb this guy is 260 lbs I'm the one who started it I tried to hit him it was devastating to the core but it was interesting to be taken home from a honeymoon and told you have health insurance now you can see a psychiatrist I was very confused I thought we were going to be Christians that believed in the word of God and that God didn't give me a spirit of fear but love power and a soundclear thinking mind. BeRated me constantly about if anyone cheats it'll be me and it kept it up and kept it up and I come to find out this guy had a hidden lust when is showed it's ugly head, wow had I just been tricked I had just been tricked out 12 years of my life by religious hypocrites it was most mortifying. And I was robbed for as much as possible done to a defenseless woman. I found the law the wrong ignorant Church heads provoked and incited this person to do even more damage to me and the children involved. Nothing but a hoax I swear on my life nothing but a hoax.

Same here. Then I finally realized saying anything to them is a waste.

Me too

❤❤❤

Same. Even charged in court for elbowing me in the face: that not true. Never happened. Headbutted me in the face in front of 3 friends? They are liars and it never happened. Must have been dreaming...... just insane.

I've noticed all narcissist say they never lie. Saying that is a lie

I know what you're saying. I had that too. Well God my ex's dirty mail. At least I have what God gave me. Joy. I'll laugh at the enemy's face because people that don't live for God do things contrary to scripture. My ex boyfriend. I laughed when he thought otherwise..

Yes, HUGE split personality! It is so disgusting and gets so old.

I have video too and he said it’s not him. I’m in the video with him 🤦🏻‍♀️ Ty for sharing. It’s that insanity that think we never figure out. It does take a while to figure it and then out but when we do and finally do something about it, it turns on them and they Freak out! And it scrambles their psychotic crap! Man, when I turned it on him, my narc ex, it reminded me of that scene in Austin Powers with the chick bots blowing up 😂🤣😂😆😆👍👍👍

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Me 2

It's great you knew that it was wrong enough to get away from that person even though there wasn't a term coined for that mental issue at that time.

Me to! It took 15 years after leaving the narc to finally get him out of my life

Ditto! 24 yrs ago he’d been arrested for the 3rd time and managed to manipulate the system n secured a divorce attorney to assist him. It was a 23 yr marriage nearly destroying me. That was 24 yrs ago, we lost our USMC youngest son who ran away from him/us to the marines because of the narcissistic turmoil was relentless, my WASband continues to try to mess with me by messing around with/AT our deceased son’s grave. I can write a book, however, back then it seems the system was ignorant to NARCISSISM…thank God for affective therapy ….

My experience with courts, divorce, children was that the so called professional people just accepted his threatening, bulling manipulative behavior and gave him what he wanted for fear he would make further complains about them. It was an horrendous time. If professionals can't stand up to a narc with no prior involvement with them and further the unsubstantiated smear and vendetta against the victims then these useless professional people should be held to account and struck off!!

GOOD GIRL.

Yes, another good one to annoy them is “o tru” lol

Very good. Now I've got to start doing the same.

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Be careful they take this as a challenge to make you more unhappy and more abused. I hope your away from them physically doing this.

My DiL was labeled as borderline personality disorder . Nope full blown narcissist!

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Congratulations! It’s not easy for sure but so worth it.

But you have to fight them not with „loving“ …this doesn’t work! Fight them with ignoring them, telling and showing them that their opinion doesn’t matter. That will do the job.

Bc they don't know how to love.

It’s the narcissists that foster the chaos and disruption. People trapped in these relationships might need to hear they can “win” because the narcissist does everything they can to make their victims feel like losers. It’s a step toward escape - because it’s absolutely okay to leave an abusive relationship instead of constantly being a punching bag peacemaker.

And yet my narc is always saying he hates drama.

@@bellamajnoonshaytan603 Wow, Hayes drama?? that's funny.

If I try to say whatever as I look at my phone with no emotion in response to my narc and my body reacts in some way to the situation he says are you stressed and I say no why? He says because you are doing this and ehennyou do this you're stressed and I've known you for 11 years. You see I can't win.

True, when they give you the silent treatment and don't want to see you, it is bliss. Peace comes over the section of the house they are not in.

BEING A TYPE A PERSONALITY, IF MY FAMILY TREATED ME THAT WAY, I WOULD FORGIVE THEM AND THEY WOULD NEVER HEAR FROM ME AGAIN. MY DAD FOUND THAT OUT THE HARD WAY.......🤔

I’m sorry it’s not funny at all but I’m dead😂 I’ve had something similar happen

Please tell me you're joking 🤦 smh

In the first few weeks of my getting to know a woman -- who I painfully came to understand over the next six years -- as an extremely abusive _covert_ AND over time also an _overtly_ (& sickeningly) _overt_ narcissist, I was ordered to place mirrors in several places in my living room so that she could _watch herself_ dancing. I was uncomfortable already with her that evening & was not even close to being in any mood for dancing at all. She did not ever care whatsoever about _anyone_ except herself. Ever.* *In the years after being ordered to put up mirrors for her literally narcissistic self-adoration, I learned that she had had 8 abortions some 40 years before we met... & she had driven 2 men to suicide. A real-life monster with an unbelievably manipulative & devious personality. When I hear people talking about merely "narcissistic" people, it often sounds to my recovering soul like something of an understatement. People with bonafide _narcissistic personality disorder_ are leagues beyond just "selfish people" acting in their own best interest ! But I have come to learn that the only people who can really understand the NPD mindset are those who have had direct experience with such monsters. Even therapists, "Doctors" even, are not actually trained to help _victims_ of long-term, insidious & truly sickening narcissistic abuse. It feels good to be able to vent _just a tiny bit_ of this here with you who have shared the pain.

😂😂😂😂

My ex wore out my passenger side car sun visor to the point it hung by a thread because it had a mirror on the back of it

I'm doing the same. Don't want their behaviour rubbing off on me.

Thanks

Thanks

Exactly 👍. I used this type of method. After they said insults to me via text. I said, It does nit bother me bc I know what you say is NOT TRUE, and now without you around, I am doing great & unbothered. That sent them off with tail between their legs.

Amen lol

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My husband would just use it on me at some point like he waiting to use it