I think singles do not get proper instruction from godly people on how to respect each other. As a woman, I feel like I am seeing so many women who do not respect men, and men who look at women as merchandise. You can't get to know someone at their core if you can't first recognize and respect them as human beings. Great message today.
@TommieLeeWalker2 ай бұрын
True statement that’s why you need GOD, counseling/mentoring.
@serenawilcox41062 ай бұрын
@@TommieLeeWalker indeed!
@wildonez30762 ай бұрын
doesn't this maturity come from the Holy Ghost?? That's what the Holy Spirit does, if we are willing to listen .
@meganp87662 ай бұрын
Amen! May God forgive me for not respecting men as human beings. Praying that I experience transformation in this area. I need it. Thanking God for His mercy and grace! ❤
@denno3124Ай бұрын
@wildonez3076 not quite. Jesus promised the disciples that He would send His Spirit to them after He left. They still continued in fellowship with each other, growing together and being accountable for each other. The Holy Spirit is given to us for us together in unity not in lieu of us together.
@caringindustries93662 ай бұрын
Work on yourself while waiting on God
@allthingsjesus0Ай бұрын
This was really good! I agree with everything stated. My Sis and I were praying for over 2 years twice a week for godly marriages and the Lord revealed to us 2 major issues: the idolatry of manhood and womanhood AND fear. Fear was a major spirit God has us praying against. There are a lot of singles who aren’t married because they are fearful of making the wrong choice, fear of being stretched aka sanctified, and not trusting their ability to hear the voice of God (partly because of running from the voice of God due to fear He will speak something they don’t want). Anywho this was much needed!
@Weneed2talktvАй бұрын
Men are definitely afraid of making the wrong choice! I would definitely add that to this list
@anotchhigherliving2 ай бұрын
These were really helpful. The part about having healthy platonic friendships with the opposite sex is truly a rarity in the church. Without it having to be “the one” I will pray and see how to begin to have this normalized ❤
@FollowingTheCall2 ай бұрын
Proximity is very important even in your singleness. If you hang with people who still live in the world doing the things you’re trying to fast from or end all together you’ll be the next one. 😮
@msray74052 ай бұрын
My relationship with God is growing daily, reminding me that its not about self but FULLY committed to pleasing God. It makes it easier to forgive and move on ❤ Lord how can I please you! Good teaching!
@keelhe893Ай бұрын
#11 The idolization of marriage makes single people desperate to get into marriage and will accept anything to reach this goal. I feel like in church we idolize marriage to our own detriment. We isolate and belittle single people as if they have no purpose outside of matrimony. So you can’t properly do the work you need to serve God while waiting on your spouse because you feel so broken and unfulfilled that you will rush #12 broken families make marriage seem useless or unattainable. Single people are so lonely nowadays because of dysfunctional families and friend systems. You can built a marriage when you have so much brokenness from your dysfunctional family patterns
@BluDrop5Ай бұрын
Facts, yet most of the prominent apostles - and Jesus - were single...
@blessings282 ай бұрын
Where can we meet godly spouses especially if there is none in our local church? As a woman, what’s the balance between waiting on God and doing my part? Enjoyed this!
@NazarofGod2 ай бұрын
As a fellow woman, here's what I reflected on based on your question: 1. God's children are everywhere, not just in the local church on Sunday. They're passing you on the sidewalk, on the train, at the airport, on the flight, in your market/mall, in business establishments, in the restaurant, etc. They're everywhere doing normal human activities. 2. On balance between waiting on God and doing your part, there is a deeper level of submission and intimacy with God that relieves you of this question. Because as you submit and connect with Him daily, you move obediently to His instructions. And as you obey and trust Him completely, He sets your feet on the path He wants you to take. Rebecca's obedience in her daily life led her to the well where Abraham's servant was waiting for the right wife. Ruth's obedience led her into Boaz's line of sight. We serve a very strategic God. In the context of a close Father-daughter relationship with Abba, we will know His voice and hear His instructions on what to do, where to wait/how to wait, etc. In the meantime, we continue seeking Jesus Christ, for it is through Him (and the people He puts in our lives to guide/mentor/teach/help us) that we learn the value of gifts such as love, forgiveness, patience, and how to exercise these graces in marriage.
@debbienyarko2 ай бұрын
Hey! This is a great question. I personally think the church is great place to meet a spouse. However, God can do wonders and you can meet your spouse anywhere! I too am waiting on God, but I don’t think there’s anything that we need to do except pray. In the area of marriage, God will make the connection happen. Sometimes the person can even be near but it’s not yet the time to meet! I pray you get the desires of your heart! 💕
@potatoslayer70402 ай бұрын
(Edit: This response is for your second question about balance.) I’ve experienced wondering about this balance too, but in my experience I’ve learned to go to God about these things too. He wants you to bring these questions to Him to and He will answer you and show you what you can do in a way that is unique to your life and situation. Take time to pray bold prayers and communicate openly with God about what is on your heart. In my experience God had me focus on pursing Him and He pruned my heart and my life of things that were not serving me. Then - at God’s timing - I ran into the man I am with now. All in all, trust God. Ask Him all your questions. Take time to listen for His reply. Be patient and focus on Him knowing that He loves you and has the best in store for you. It won’t be easy, but the testimony you’ll have on the other side (when He does it) will give you even more strength to make it through difficult days. 😊 Be blessed. Stay encouraged. He never fails.
@naturallycandacemarie2 ай бұрын
@@debbienyarkoamen 🙏🏾💍❤️
@crespeakslifeАй бұрын
I'm a purpose and relationship coach and I teach Christian single women dating confidence. The church is great, but not all of them are there. Some that are in the church may also not be ready for relationships or marriage. I agree with spending time with God and allowing him to work outside your comfort zone a bit. Now, because our God is limitless you shouldn't have to do much, he will provide the opportunities. But ask Him to give you guidance. I also give practical advice on what to do in my dating sessions.
@debbienyarko2 ай бұрын
I loveddd this so much! So many things you touched on that were relatable! God wants us to have successful marriage, we just have to surrender to him! I’m glad to see this generation having these conversations! I have a feeling that more Kingdom marriages are in the works but we must first heal and work on ourselves! Thank you brother💕
@dcyprien862 ай бұрын
This was so good! Thank you for your obedience in putting this out and sharing it. This blessed me. We have to let it be God’s Will, not ours. Lord, I want Your Perfect Will and not Your permissive will for my life. Give me what You want for me and what You know I need. Not my will, but Your Will be done, Father., in Jesus’ name. Amen! 🙏🏾
@Listentomusicist2 ай бұрын
Powerful! You addressed all critical points in a developing or potential committed relationship. Getting therapy and God’s approval is most important.
@Tubbsmuzik2 ай бұрын
This was rich!!! 6-10 we’re definitely the most captivating with 6 being my top reason. People aren’t self aware.
@nicholeavery9066Ай бұрын
Amen! Agreed with everything you said especially the need for platonic relationships. Marriage isn't eternal. So proud of you for this. Ppl need truth.😊❤
@TanieshaHorton-xn2rt2 ай бұрын
This was excellent! Thank you for this! I agree with all 10! 👏
@Debbi.O2 ай бұрын
Watched the whole thing. Good points and very important to reflect upon. Thanks
@tammycovington32882 ай бұрын
This was Awesome and much needed. I agree with all of these 10 questions why Christians are not getting married. I actually prayed this question to The Lord… there are so many single women and single brothers in the church… What is hindering them from dating each other within the congregation instead of looking outside of the church??🤔. You answered the question for me with this podcast topic… Thanks for sharing 👏👏👏💯🙌😊👊
@thisisjudithАй бұрын
Number 6. Sheesh, I felt that. You need to assess your own life, be discipled, and be whole.
@SharonRuth2 ай бұрын
I love love this message!! The grace of God can and will always be sufficient to those who are submitted.'
@MartyMar-yk1ik2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much! This was amazing 🎉
@esthernichols44512 ай бұрын
Ezekiel you are preaching my brother. This was sooo Blessed and informative. And the fact that its coming from a Godly man is the cherry on top. Keep letting God use you to educate us. Its needed!!!!
@tammys16962 ай бұрын
This was sooo good! Ezekiel, you were on point with this!
@crespeakslifeАй бұрын
One reason my husband and I coach single Christians in dating with purpose and marriage prep. We also have a podcast to encourage them as well, its on my channel. 😊
@esthernichols4451Ай бұрын
Bless you and your husband. Keep doing this. It's needed!!
@christineasaba4730Ай бұрын
Thank you for the teaching, I really needed to hear this❤❤❤
@Angeloflight72 ай бұрын
I've given up. It probably wont happen for me so just gonna live this life the best way with God as i can 🤷♀️
@arinicjohnson44692 ай бұрын
That's so true my brother, wow, brothermay God blessed
@Jess_quezАй бұрын
If only all men thought like him! Marriage could be amazing!!🙏🏼
@mika4eva314Ай бұрын
I don’t want to waste time with what’s not Gods - Thank you Vessel ❤️
@pinkrose79402 ай бұрын
This was awesome❤❤❤
@user-pp9rh1io7k2 ай бұрын
It would be great if you guys could cover why there's more women than men in churches at some point as well. Thanks for all these discussions
@godleeluv2 ай бұрын
Do you mean more women than men?
@lobi51042 ай бұрын
What church do you go to where there are more men than women? The reverse is the case in most churches.
@1235727992 ай бұрын
Fr. It may be the churches I’ve attended, but I see faaaar more women than men in churches.
@wildonez30762 ай бұрын
Woman are just more social. It's a social club. But definitely are just as carnal and worldly as the men.
@LoveCompassionPurity2 ай бұрын
Which church do you go to? Cause women out number men by far in almost if not all churches I went to.
@talentsofftheshelf76422 ай бұрын
#10 really hit home for me. Thank you for helping us 👏🏾
@CoreyFarrowOfficial2 ай бұрын
This is good!
@Raliat862 ай бұрын
#2 is FACTS!!!!
@opinionbytrizАй бұрын
I realized that preferences are good if they are aligned with God's preferences for you. Do not go against your preference though. As someone who is not my husband's physical preference, please do not compromise. It has been an unnecessary pain for me. I would have never wanted to be someone to settle for. And being able to see what an actual healthy marriage looks like is so needed. Cause I have no idea what it looks like in different areas. Who do you talk to about this stuff? All the things? As far as relationship with the opposite sex, yeah I am not for that. Probably because I have been betrayed. Specifically, being told I'm unattractive by SO while he affirms other women.
@Weneed2talktvАй бұрын
Ma’am I’m sorry to tell that’s an integrity problem. He hasn’t chosen you. You’re just married. Unfortunately it doesn’t matter how beautiful a woman is, in certain seasons, on certain days, other women can stand out more. But him not choosing you, affirming you, and seeing the beauty in you is a choice. Imagine if you’re sick, or sitting in pregnant weight, that would make you insecure because in those moments, YOU’RE NOT HIS PREFERENCE. He has to choose you and be grounded. It’s less of apreference thing and more of a character thing. Preferences are good but they alone won’t promise his eyes or heart.
@summerrain61252 ай бұрын
#5!
@cerejackson77922 ай бұрын
Yes!
@karabodikobe2 ай бұрын
I have been listening to so many podcast about this, but I feel like you guys neglect people who do not have a community. Who are alone in the physical sense. It's harder.
@Weneed2talktv2 ай бұрын
Oh no explain. Do you mean you’re not in church? Or your church isn’t a good community? Or no Godly friends? This is what we mean by community.
@karabodikobe2 ай бұрын
@@Weneed2talktv So yes, I recently gave my life to Christ, the church I grew up in doesn't preach bible and the culture of the church is very problematic and normalised, elders have mistresses that are children, it's scary actually. I do not have any friends, as the last year was very difficult and there was a major shift in my life, so a lot of the friends I had fell off, but that also majorly isolated me from my family because I was grieving and 'everybody is too busy with their own lives'. My dad also abandoned me and he was an anchor in my faith, in the house I live in I am the only one who is saved. So I hope that's more context when I say it's me and God, and the Holy Spirit and Jesus only basically.
@summerrain61252 ай бұрын
@karabodikobe not to be disrespectful but you're putting alot of expectations on KZfaq content creators. No KZfaq video is gonna fill the wound & emptiness you have. Sure you would benefit from prayer requests, ask for tips during a time of isolation but it really sounds like you need to work on your personal relationships. Don't allow yourself to wallow in that isolation. Get a hobby. Seek good company and positive activities (meetup or eventbrite are good places to start looking). Repair your relationships with good people & really consider getting therapy (but you must be willing & ready to make changes I think). God bless & good luck.
@karabodikobe2 ай бұрын
@@summerrain6125 I think you misunderstood, I was just saying some videos need to take into consideration that some people do not have a community yet.
@summerrain6125Ай бұрын
@@karabodikobe ahh ok. I still think it can be valuable to seek community. Have you been seeking?
@NehemiahHughes2 ай бұрын
This video was well done. I will say though, Apostle Paul was MGTOW and could be considered slightly Red Pill in the sense that he was more focused on purpose than women/marriage. I’m not red pill but some aspects of it should be acknowledged because of the society we live in today.
@keelhe893Ай бұрын
I would not describe apostle Paul as MGTOW nor Red Pill. Apostle Paul was not a misogynist and did not tell men to manipulate and intimidate women in order to dominate them. Apostle Paul encouraged men to follow Christ and if marriage presents itself and you have a desire to do it to then go ahead. He never preached anything that would damage women or destroy the respect they are granted in Christ. I think the way some MGTOW and Red Pill men are trying to present scripture is flawed and not in accordance with the Spirit of the Law
@lcako1616Ай бұрын
@@keelhe893Misogyny can be but is not actually a part of MGTOW or RedPill. All they really say is marriage laws are unfair to men so avoid marriage. I disagree with their stance on sleeping around though.