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True statement that’s why you need GOD, counseling/mentoring.

@@TommieLeeWalker indeed!

doesn't this maturity come from the Holy Ghost?? That's what the Holy Spirit does, if we are willing to listen .

Amen! May God forgive me for not respecting men as human beings. Praying that I experience transformation in this area. I need it. Thanking God for His mercy and grace! ❤

​@wildonez3076 not quite. Jesus promised the disciples that He would send His Spirit to them after He left. They still continued in fellowship with each other, growing together and being accountable for each other. The Holy Spirit is given to us for us together in unity not in lieu of us together.

Men are definitely afraid of making the wrong choice! I would definitely add that to this list

Facts, yet most of the prominent apostles - and Jesus - were single...

As a fellow woman, here's what I reflected on based on your question: 1. God's children are everywhere, not just in the local church on Sunday. They're passing you on the sidewalk, on the train, at the airport, on the flight, in your market/mall, in business establishments, in the restaurant, etc. They're everywhere doing normal human activities. 2. On balance between waiting on God and doing your part, there is a deeper level of submission and intimacy with God that relieves you of this question. Because as you submit and connect with Him daily, you move obediently to His instructions. And as you obey and trust Him completely, He sets your feet on the path He wants you to take. Rebecca's obedience in her daily life led her to the well where Abraham's servant was waiting for the right wife. Ruth's obedience led her into Boaz's line of sight. We serve a very strategic God. In the context of a close Father-daughter relationship with Abba, we will know His voice and hear His instructions on what to do, where to wait/how to wait, etc. In the meantime, we continue seeking Jesus Christ, for it is through Him (and the people He puts in our lives to guide/mentor/teach/help us) that we learn the value of gifts such as love, forgiveness, patience, and how to exercise these graces in marriage.

Hey! This is a great question. I personally think the church is great place to meet a spouse. However, God can do wonders and you can meet your spouse anywhere! I too am waiting on God, but I don’t think there’s anything that we need to do except pray. In the area of marriage, God will make the connection happen. Sometimes the person can even be near but it’s not yet the time to meet! I pray you get the desires of your heart! 💕

(Edit: This response is for your second question about balance.) I’ve experienced wondering about this balance too, but in my experience I’ve learned to go to God about these things too. He wants you to bring these questions to Him to and He will answer you and show you what you can do in a way that is unique to your life and situation. Take time to pray bold prayers and communicate openly with God about what is on your heart. In my experience God had me focus on pursing Him and He pruned my heart and my life of things that were not serving me. Then - at God’s timing - I ran into the man I am with now. All in all, trust God. Ask Him all your questions. Take time to listen for His reply. Be patient and focus on Him knowing that He loves you and has the best in store for you. It won’t be easy, but the testimony you’ll have on the other side (when He does it) will give you even more strength to make it through difficult days. 😊 Be blessed. Stay encouraged. He never fails.

@@debbienyarkoamen 🙏🏾💍❤️

I'm a purpose and relationship coach and I teach Christian single women dating confidence. The church is great, but not all of them are there. Some that are in the church may also not be ready for relationships or marriage. I agree with spending time with God and allowing him to work outside your comfort zone a bit. Now, because our God is limitless you shouldn't have to do much, he will provide the opportunities. But ask Him to give you guidance. I also give practical advice on what to do in my dating sessions.

Bless you and your husband. Keep doing this. It's needed!!

Do you mean more women than men?

What church do you go to where there are more men than women? The reverse is the case in most churches.

Fr. It may be the churches I’ve attended, but I see faaaar more women than men in churches.

Woman are just more social. It's a social club. But definitely are just as carnal and worldly as the men.

Which church do you go to? Cause women out number men by far in almost if not all churches I went to.

Ma’am I’m sorry to tell that’s an integrity problem. He hasn’t chosen you. You’re just married. Unfortunately it doesn’t matter how beautiful a woman is, in certain seasons, on certain days, other women can stand out more. But him not choosing you, affirming you, and seeing the beauty in you is a choice. Imagine if you’re sick, or sitting in pregnant weight, that would make you insecure because in those moments, YOU’RE NOT HIS PREFERENCE. He has to choose you and be grounded. It’s less of apreference thing and more of a character thing. Preferences are good but they alone won’t promise his eyes or heart.

Oh no explain. Do you mean you’re not in church? Or your church isn’t a good community? Or no Godly friends? This is what we mean by community.

@@Weneed2talktv So yes, I recently gave my life to Christ, the church I grew up in doesn't preach bible and the culture of the church is very problematic and normalised, elders have mistresses that are children, it's scary actually. I do not have any friends, as the last year was very difficult and there was a major shift in my life, so a lot of the friends I had fell off, but that also majorly isolated me from my family because I was grieving and 'everybody is too busy with their own lives'. My dad also abandoned me and he was an anchor in my faith, in the house I live in I am the only one who is saved. So I hope that's more context when I say it's me and God, and the Holy Spirit and Jesus only basically.

​@karabodikobe not to be disrespectful but you're putting alot of expectations on KZfaq content creators. No KZfaq video is gonna fill the wound & emptiness you have. Sure you would benefit from prayer requests, ask for tips during a time of isolation but it really sounds like you need to work on your personal relationships. Don't allow yourself to wallow in that isolation. Get a hobby. Seek good company and positive activities (meetup or eventbrite are good places to start looking). Repair your relationships with good people & really consider getting therapy (but you must be willing & ready to make changes I think). God bless & good luck.

@@summerrain6125 I think you misunderstood, I was just saying some videos need to take into consideration that some people do not have a community yet.

@@karabodikobe ahh ok. I still think it can be valuable to seek community. Have you been seeking?

I would not describe apostle Paul as MGTOW nor Red Pill. Apostle Paul was not a misogynist and did not tell men to manipulate and intimidate women in order to dominate them. Apostle Paul encouraged men to follow Christ and if marriage presents itself and you have a desire to do it to then go ahead. He never preached anything that would damage women or destroy the respect they are granted in Christ. I think the way some MGTOW and Red Pill men are trying to present scripture is flawed and not in accordance with the Spirit of the Law

​@@keelhe893Misogyny can be but is not actually a part of MGTOW or RedPill. All they really say is marriage laws are unfair to men so avoid marriage. I disagree with their stance on sleeping around though.